Summary Due to too many buffers, men do not take any action, they stand in a corner and wonder why people don't seem to like them.

There are a lot of men around that do not get what they want from women and wonder why women don't like them and why they are bad at social situations, otherwise fora such as TRP and the PUA community would not have existed. TRP preaches that this is due to low SMV. While SMV is obviously an important concept, it is equally important to regard its limitations: (1) there is always gonna be that guy with higher SMV, more money and bigger muscles. (2) 'SMV' like money is not directly observeable and (3) poor and ugly guys also get laid. Since behaviour is a proxy for SMV I find this behaviour aspect to be underrated in TRP/game literature.

It has been my observation that men take too little action, they are too apathetic. Interest is reciprocal; if you show interest in other persons, they are interested in you. However men struggling with women and in social situations should take a hard look at themselves how often they took the initiative to show an interest in another person. Most 'betas' when they walk in a room they act as if other people just aren't there and thus they look very arrogant and unlikeable, whereas if they would take the initiative and introduce themselves, and show an interest in other people, they will get liked a lot more and I think they will have more success. The "confessions of a reformed incel" article on the sidebar shows this in part; in there the OP does not alter his SMV, but he decides to take action and actually make an effort and it works.

I think the issue is caused due to many buffers, leading to no incentive to take action. I want to refer to Rollo's article on Buffers for further reading.

Conclusion Men act too apathetic and ignore other people too much, when they should show an interest in other people, in order to be more liked and seem of higher SMV, instead of standing at the corner of the bar doing nothing and wondering why nobody seems to like them. This is caused by buffers; the alternatives are too easily accessible.

EDIT: based on comments the word I was looking for was 'apathetic', not aloof. Editted the OP, but cannot edit the title.