Lately I went hard-mode on NoFap (no peeking/edging) + increased my meditation sessions from 10 minutes to 20-30 minute sessions.

The effect so far, has been profound.

Ever since I have made this change I feel almost zero social anxiety - not even that subtle anxious feeling in my chest. Previously, I wouldn't fap but I'd still peek at videos every day and edge quite a bit, and my meditation sessions were only short, but the effects were not enough for any serious change: I still had approach anxiety and dwelled on irrational shit, ever since this change I feel no approach anxiety whatsoever and have more of an IDGAF attitude. Girls approach me more now.

I don't know why this has happened, maybe it's a placebo but I seriously doubt it. I think there's something going on here, because the confidence I am getting now isn't just ''Do the things you fear'' - it's almost as if I fear nothing (well, atleast things that scared me before, e.g. approaching a girl in the club and escalating).

Case in point, yesterday some girls rejected me harshly at the club, but I truly didn't give a fuck and just carried on throughout the night.

Maybe it might work for your or it won't, but I'd advise looking into mindfulness and going on NoFap (no peeking/edging, sex is okay though).

Meditation tips

• No music. Sit with back upright/straight on the floor

• Whenever you catch yourself in a thought, realize it and say ''My mind was just lost in a thought'' and continue focusing on stillness

• The aim of meditation is to focus on nothing, to have an empty 'still' mind. To achieve this feeling, ask yourself ''What is my next thought?'' and there'll be a several second moment where there is nothing in your mind, this is stillness, and it grounds you in the present moment. Once you get that gap, breathe in and out through your nose deeply and slowly. Eventually that stillness will become longer the more you meditate

• Recognize your negative thoughts, but act as an observer to them. This is good for realizing how irrational they are, journalling them is also good

• Use mantra's. I often repeat to myself things like ''I love myself. I have improved myself and will continue to do so'' and it begins to embed itself in my thoughts