She already knows what the problem is, but instead of fixing it she wants internet validation.

Dunkman83 · 2021-12-20T20:44:22+00:00

lol u cant make this stuff up man

Mundane_Worldliness7 · 2021-12-20T21:23:23+00:00

So, she’s attractive, but not as attractive as what she thinks. She’s trying to lockdown bros who : 1. Simply don’t want relationships or 2. See her only as a fling. Being that she’s in a competitive engineering program, she has access to masses of similarly aged, single and childless guys. We already know she won’t give any of them a chance.

tiernach · 2021-12-20T21:48:09+00:00

Classic example of seeking validation in the form of advice. She didn't want anyone to tell her to stop dating assholes. She wanted someone to tell her it wasn't her, but men that are the problem.

BakerAdventurous · 2021-12-20T20:54:29+00:00

Why are all the terrible people I date terrible to me?? :(

How can so much stupid be in one person.

franska5 · 2021-12-20T22:42:46+00:00

Makes me remember a classmate (26F) who was always complaining about how stupid, childish and irresponsible the guys she date were (she dated workout brains who only cared about party and appearance with no future prospects). So after a lot of time she met a guy who was responsible and mature, and who filled her beauty standards, after two months she shows in a reunion to make a group protect, angry and crying that she broke up with her boyfriend because he was "too boring and controlling" because the dude didn't wanted to lost his internship with a future job, to go to a concert with her

otter6461a · 2021-12-20T22:59:10+00:00

“You attract everyone, then choose assholes.”

Why do men do this to her?!

YouthfulCommerce · 2021-12-21T01:47:15+00:00

You ever notice when women talk themselves up in dating, they ALWAYS mention things like career, education, income, etc.? Those are the qualities women find attractive in men (rich, successful provider). So they project those qualities onto themselves to try and catch a Chad.

Their idiotic logic is:

I'm attracted to rich successful men, therefore, if I have a good career and a masters degree myself, those men will also be attracted to me!

As if men give two shits about a woman's career, how much she makes, etc. Clearly not, men want women who are young, feminine, not obese, friendly, and not been with 40 other guys. It's so simple yet they struggle so hard with this.

Oh and also, she's in the engineering field and can't find a single guy good enough for her? lmfao

Impressive-Cricket-8 · 2021-12-20T21:30:48+00:00

Oh, damn consequences for my choices!

reignoferror00 · 2021-12-20T21:53:56+00:00

But I could definitely be a bit more discerning with the men I date lol

a bit? try much harder.

what is with the "lol" in these women's statements all the time? nothing funny about it, sounds juvenile, and it looks like you are trying to downplay your deficiencies. You just forget about what you said, and move on; continue on you being the same you and not working on changing things - just add a laugh, that will make it all better.

coloradocaniac · 2021-12-20T23:19:39+00:00

If you call yourself "very attractive" you're not.

Humility and grace go a long way.

SoulKeen · 2021-12-20T22:45:19+00:00

Women that think themselves as a "good person" are usually fucking bitches.

mustangfrank · 2021-12-20T23:14:00+00:00

She: Why do my relationships fail?

Me: You date assholes

She: Yeh, so what.

Me: End of story

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2021-12-20T23:40:04+00:00

Goes after men with options. Is upset when she gets treated like an option 🤡

Flashy_Glove6208 · 2021-12-21T04:00:54+00:00

I'm 28F

Her reputation precedes her.

Men know she's just a hookup material and pass her around.

No HVM is going to look her way knowing her dating history and sexual past.

100% alpha widow traits, went for Chad's out if her league and damaged herself, for life probably.

RunawayGrain · 2021-12-20T21:36:24+00:00

"I'm very attractive" = "I'm so fat my gravity well pulls in small asteroids."

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2021-12-20T23:53:31+00:00

"Alpha F*cks, Beta Bucks".

You see this all the time. She's going to enjoy getting it for 10 years with the chads/tyron's, and by the time she's in her mid-30s will settle down for a beta male to provide for her financially. At that point, she can leave him anytime and will receive child support, alimony, and government benefits.

Buchwild · 2021-12-20T21:26:49+00:00

Welcome to reddit

Kindly-Town · 2021-12-21T05:04:16+00:00

Who tf has told women that money and degree make you attractive for men. Women already date up so why would that man care about their money when he already has enough money? Women should stop asking dating advise from other women because when they say "be a career woman", it's a projection. It's what women like in men.

Have a career for your own good but don't treat it as an attractive trait for men.

Hy3w_mong0u5 · 2021-12-21T07:04:35+00:00

She's attractive enough to be bedded by Chad, but not attractive enough for Chad to want a relationship with her.

She'll end up another one on the pile of average/slightly above average looking women on POF/Tinder in her mid-40s cruelly telling men in her own league to fuck off while she holds out for a 25 year-old hardbody.

Enough-Staff-2976 · 2021-12-20T23:16:09+00:00

This is the reason that why men are out.

Hero_Of_Memez · 2021-12-20T23:52:41+00:00

Well well well, looks like she’s been paid a visit from that most horrible, most foul enemy of broads like her the world over.

Unavoidable consequences.

CarpAndTunnel · 2021-12-21T00:58:31+00:00

No sweetie, you arent 'part' of the problem. You are THE problem

gentle_lemon · 2021-12-21T01:59:08+00:00

Garbage in, garbage out.

OppositeWrongdoer312 · 2021-12-21T05:26:09+00:00

Self proclaimed attractive woman who happens to date attractive assholes asking for validation in the form of advice that she isn't responsible for her own actions but the men she dates are

Joaquino7997 · 2021-12-20T23:26:59+00:00

I agree with the OP.

And what's with women wanting to list all their (allegedly 'good') attributes about themselves on posts? No one cares - clearly not the men whom get chosen by her for dates.

vegasbadboy702 · 2021-12-21T03:55:07+00:00

She by her own friends admission goes for “attractive assholes” and then wonders why Chad only wants to hookup. She even notes that the attention falls off after starting to hookup. Also she like many modern women have to lead off in her description that she has a rewarding career. I bet she talks non stop about her career with men.

YesIamAJerkButRight · 2021-12-21T04:48:13+00:00

You lay down with dogs and come up with fleas. How are you surprised by that result???

Mister_McDerp · 2021-12-21T10:32:27+00:00

"I've gone for attractive assholes in the past"

I like how this is always the "lol xD" part of the conversation.

No, dumbass, thats the "!!!!" part of the conversation. Either that or you're just not long term material for the men to consider.

polishknightusa · 2021-12-21T19:24:44+00:00

I'm surprised nobody in the comments mentioned the fraternity system. The fraternity system is dangerous (it can suck men down in the party lifestyle) but it's also empowering when it comes to getting these men support to increase their notch count. They have a home (unlike guys in apartments) and other men around to back them up if she starts disrespecting him. He doesn't have a "wingman" but rather a whole squadron. The campus is also full of jocks, or guys in business majors with spare time, the list goes on.

College/university is like a different universe and back in the 1980's, I knew women who set their expectations by the level of attention and access to parties they received and then when they went out in the real world, and got a normal job, it was like being dumped into a desert.

Nonetheless, she's in a prime position to get a beta buck backup when she's ready, assuming she's ever ready for it.

Aldabruzzo · 2021-12-21T15:49:29+00:00

This is either

1) Dating assholes who pump and dump her.

or

2) Dating genuinely good men who start out interested in her, but who she loses attraction to and dumps.

Or

3) Most likely, dating genuinely good men who start out interested in her. Those men's attitudes shift because she clearly demonstrates she's more interested in her job or because she wants immediate commitment.

Harambiz · 2021-12-21T19:13:47+00:00

I knew a girl like this. She was attractive, smart and came from a very wealthy family. She would only date the “hottest” guys, who were all coincidentally douchebags. She’s never had relationship last more than a few months, and at 27 has been single for the last 2 years. She used to constantly complain and cry about these problems, it was such an easy fix, but she just couldn’t see it.

Ok-Adeptness4906 · 2021-12-22T14:28:39+00:00

She's in an engineering program. Engineering students are about 90% male, intelligent, hard-working males who will soon be earning good money. If she can't find a man there, she's doing something wrong.

HedgeRunner · 2021-12-22T18:27:55+00:00

I've gone for "attractive assholes" in the past. :laughing emoji

She says this in a tone that is nonchalant and casual, as if this is all a joke to her, ending the the sentence with "lol".

This is a classic sign of a Chad-chaser. In the OP she projects a serious tone of self-inspection when in reality she can't get enough CC and can never see herself with a dude that has a stable career - aka "boring" non-Chad.

finger_milk · 2021-12-21T10:21:33+00:00

Proof that under no circumstances, would a woman who thinks she is a big deal would ever date a man she isn't sexually attracted to. Every other quality is second to this.

maruadventurer · 2021-12-22T21:43:23+00:00

Ever dated a 'career woman'? Its like trying to make small talk with a casio calculator. Even when they are bright, good looking and have their s@## together its a constant work, work, work mindset. The poster sounds like one of these.

I took a young lass out for a casual date. Beach towel, bottle of wine, ocean view of the setting sun. Outstanding. The whole time all she wanted to moan about was s#$% at work. After that I never called her back.

Nightowloldschool · 2021-12-21T15:10:41+00:00

She's going for the hot guy/bad boy, criminal and not getting her wish........ Not surprised one bit

BioStu · 2021-12-26T05:44:36+00:00

If a man struggles with depression, he’s undateable until he gets therapy, or figures out how to fake it. Yet women with depression still feel entitled to men and relationships.

Title	She already knows what the problem is, but instead of fixing it she wants internet validation.
Author	MelkorHimself
Upvotes	640
Comments	133
Date	December 20, 2021 8:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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