Ability To Cold Approach = Superpower

iron_ee · 2021-01-23T06:52:05+00:00

It.... certainly would be nice to strike up a conversation with a stranger without feeling like you’re practically breaking the law.

Ierax29 · 2021-01-23T08:59:26+00:00

Discipline is a superpower. Doing anything that requires overcoming fear or laziness is a superpower.

ImJustSo · 2021-01-23T14:24:05+00:00

Not only is it an active superpower, it's a passive one. Being able to actively speak to anyone, and in an entertaining or enjoyable way, creates a picture of you in everyone's head that's charismatic. When your friends or social group think of you, the things they say are kind and reverent. It flavors all of your actions in everyone's mind, so they see your mundane as spectacular. So since you're "good at being social", then people automatically have a bias towards your actions. They're more forgiving, they're more accepting, they even make excuses for you.

So the active superpower has a lot of passive benefits.

mehregan_zare7731 · 2021-01-23T08:33:31+00:00

Could you teach us?

IllegalAlcoholic · 2021-01-23T09:09:55+00:00

I have become a different person this year. I’m not scared anymore to approach cute girls like I used to

ArSpams · 2021-01-23T11:14:09+00:00

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JustAnotherBAMF · 2021-01-23T13:28:30+00:00

It is definitely a superpower. But unfortunately, with dating apps and women having a never ending barrage of social media likes and general attention - this superpower doesn’t seem to get men too far these days.

10 years ago if you approached, you were one of very few men that would confidently pop up on her radar. These days? You’re just another cog in the machine, nothing too impressive amongst an array of options.

madmax2072 · 2021-01-23T20:23:15+00:00

I remember my first beer 🍺

adolfotex · 2021-01-23T06:55:23+00:00

thanks, feeling grateful

relentless_pma · 2021-01-23T08:58:07+00:00

Thank you for this post and last sentence. I dont have this skillset yet. It was one of my goals for last year. Hopefully i can get it this year

mr_Tobbor · 2021-01-23T09:23:29+00:00

If you cold approach women congruts. Most can't. And they never would!

M-DA-HAWK · 2021-01-23T12:51:42+00:00

I recently started doing cold approach and stuff. Any tips or guidance?

AntiTippingMovement · 2021-02-04T01:05:02+00:00

The REAL superpower is having a good looking face. Everything else is secondary. I’ve maximized my “game” and my autistic friend with perfect cheekbones and a chiseled jaw gets girls that I’ve never been able to get.

alexplex86 · 2021-01-23T14:42:10+00:00

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sfbay21 · 2021-01-23T10:10:38+00:00

It's a basic skill of life, no super power.

Westward_Nothing · 2021-01-23T10:57:02+00:00

So... I’m a generally attractive female, and this method has only proved disappointing for me. Most men are just made uncomfortable by it.

Dunc0ne · 2021-01-23T13:17:05+00:00

What cold-approaching looks like for me now is completely different to what is looked like two years ago.

There is an awareness of sub-text that means a lot can be said with a lot less pain.

Cold approaching often felt like drawing teeth and every experience that didn't work out how I wanted or hoped affirmed my intuition when dealing with people I am meeting for the first time.

I was chatting with a girl yesterday. She knew me in passing and I remembered her face but had never talked to her before. Her friend commented on my sunburn and I was showing off/comparing my sunburn with hers.

Her I wanted to ask the girl for her number but felt very awkward as, intuitively, I felt like if she wanted to stay in touch she'd ask for my details. And she did.

In the moment it felt like if I didn't ask I would be shooting myself in the foot but the reality was different. There was subtext. :)

ballzhang · 2021-01-24T03:08:53+00:00

How do u gain this superpower? I’m comfortable trying to chat up a worker sometimes but the rule of thumb people always say don’t cuz it puts them in an awkward situation where they have to be nice to you. I never see many opportunities to cold approach a civilian. Most women I might be attracted to look like they are going about their business/in a rush and don’t wanna be bothered, with their man. I’ve never gotten any inviting signals (eye contact, smile) from a civilian to approach. How do I get this super power???

timmerdetimmieb · 2021-01-23T09:41:17+00:00

Well this is actually not really that hard to do, when you start working as a salesman who goes from door to door you have to do this al the time. It is not really a skill you just have to do it

caveatemptor18 · 2021-01-23T17:22:52+00:00

Try being a Peace Corps Volunteer in a Colombian terrorist area and seeking help in gringo Spanish. If you survive—-congratulations!

Mario1504 · 2021-01-23T16:24:22+00:00

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datboisamson · 2021-01-23T16:36:16+00:00

Make honest conversation. People respond well to being asked for personalized help. ‘U seem like u know what to order here.’ Is always better than ‘is that a mirror in ur pocket?’

Ninjameister321 · 2021-01-23T18:55:08+00:00

.....I didn't know it was rare. I thought I was just annoying and weird

kila5454 · 2021-01-23T20:04:17+00:00

I'm recently single, and the first girl I approached out was in my bed last night. Shout outs to RSD Jeffy and the fucking game. I'm still a noob but it feels great to have this skill even to some extent.

Artistic_Tradition50 · 2021-01-23T20:13:54+00:00

Are there threads on how you guys became confident with cold approaching? I’m new to this page and need to improve my skills.

Method_Rude · 2021-01-23T20:20:31+00:00

This is what’s weird though. I do this on a regular basis. I’m always talking about random things with mostly employees when I go shopping. It’s never gotten me a friend or a GF though

bmunger718 · 2021-01-23T23:38:26+00:00

Cold approach is an amazing skill to have. The art of putting your ego aside and just opening a conversation with a male or female. Most of the times in my head I tend to think so negative of people and I have to stop that. I just have an ego problem and I’m starting to control it and say fuck it I have nothing to loose.

quirkypinkllama · 2021-01-23T23:56:12+00:00

I can do this, I just don't always know what to say sometimes. lol. not being tied to outcomes helps

iReignFirei · 2021-01-24T01:27:53+00:00

Let me ask you all this...

Those of you who do cold opens and are comfortable and get positive responses.

Do you use lines?
As in after experimenting with various cold opens you find that people, amd perhaps specifically women, are more responsive or willing to engage in conversation when being approached with ice breakers you practiced before on other people prior

VellaPunk · 2021-01-24T01:32:54+00:00

What is cold approaching????

burncushlikewood · 2021-01-24T05:30:48+00:00

Yea and being able to make it a meaningful conversation as well, like improv acting making it up as you go. Some people I find are easier to talk to than others especially if you have similar personalities and speech skills

kittypat2 · 2021-01-24T05:41:40+00:00

I am absolutely that person who will start talking to anyone. And yes, I'm weird. I guess. You get all kinds of responses...and looks. Lol. Replies, conversations, ignored, the "what's WRONG with you look" etc. I just grin to myself and keep on being me. It's a great feeling. Very freeing. 🙃

stuff_of_legend · 2021-01-24T06:57:03+00:00

More like 2% of the population

Neil1398 · 2021-01-24T09:19:48+00:00

Yeah man it is pretty cool. Had a pretty nice instadate today. Cold approach has changed my mindset on a lot of things tbh.

However this is not an easy journey by any means. There’s so many rejections you gotta pile up. But hey it’s fun and I like it.

Groundedcompassion61 · 2021-01-24T10:51:07+00:00

A 1 in 100 superpower is to become an empathetic listener. That's a challenging to learn "soft" skill that can set you apart. I am sure that "Mr Google" has plenty of "how to listen" programs and those that become masters of it, will become incredibly attractive.

AppearanceAccording6 · 2021-02-06T19:39:19+00:00

Honestly I hear a lot of things like “Approaching random women will get you arrested” and I’m like “REALLY?!?” like it’s not like you’re harrassing anyone or groping anyone, you’re just genuinely trying to meet people. It’s like driving. Yes, you COULD intentionally crash your car and injure yourself, but if you are just trying to learn how to drive, then you wouldn’t do something like that. It’s not like people are saying “If you learn how to drive you’ll hurt yourself”.

Lollipop527 · 2021-02-08T13:45:21+00:00

Wow I feel like wonder woman.

Title	Ability To Cold Approach = Superpower
Author	bendeguze
Upvotes	658
Comments	132
Date	January 23, 2021 6:31 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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