Are there any PUAs that are fat/obese

MvrioCsr · 2025-05-29T04:21:30+00:00

Just get in shape bro, It’s much more simple and easy than it looks like. Lift weights 3x a week and eat real food at a caloric deficit (400~600 deficit) until you are happy with your weight. If you need to take a diet break, eat at your maintenance calories (you will not lose or gain weight, but maintain). Trust me, it is worth it and it is a fun hobby. Look up KINOBODY and his approuch to fitness, it is a game changer

asilenth · 2025-05-29T03:33:31+00:00

Why not just get in shape?

KumaFGC · 2025-05-29T04:03:07+00:00

Mfs will do anything but lose the weight. Why would you make a hard battle even harder? You want all the odds in your favor.

skunkmere · 2025-05-29T02:30:58+00:00

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I saw a large man walk in a bar and leave with a woman in 15 min.

Conscious-Smell-8844 · 2025-05-29T02:23:12+00:00

Of course there is. Those are the ones where you hear women whine on TikTok about them approaching them in parking lots.

They keep doing it - some I assume they have some success

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-05-29T04:19:13+00:00

Tons do that are out of shape. Luke from RSD is pretty fat. I mean you should work on it tho there’s a lot of other reason to not be fat

Dwerg1 · 2025-05-29T03:59:29+00:00

You can ALWAYS find something to be insecure about and insecurity is probably the most unattractive trait out there. It's worse than whatever the insecurity is about. Despite this, guys focus on what they're insecure about as the main problem.

There definitely are fat guys who succeed with women, insecurity exists nowhere within these guys.

There are also great looking dudes who can't attract women even if their life depended on it, at least not when they start talking. Why? Because those guys are still insecure about something and that insecurity will absolutely fuck up everything.

That said, having multiple attractive traits is definitely an advantage.

traveldelights · 2025-05-30T10:10:23+00:00

Look up Caleb Jones on YouTube (Alpha Male 2.0). He's chubby but is crushing it

HandsomeBadness · 2025-05-29T02:37:48+00:00

I’m 5’8” and 240lb chubby, drive a cool car, no flirting skills, and all the women in my office are after me. I’m just an interesting guy, passionate about my (cool) hobbies, have strong self esteem, very strong posture. If I went out and moved on women it’d go bad cause I’m average looking and can’t flirt. Just focus on yourself, pursue things other than women, be confident, and women you spend time around will see your value and chase you.

Throwaway_47595926 · 2025-05-29T05:29:04+00:00

Just lose the weight. There’s a phenomenon that occurs when a fat guy loses a bunch of weight and they have a “glow up” and everyone starts complimenting them. They turn into the most insufferable people ever. They think they’re hot shit because they were undesired before and now people are treating them differently. That alone will give you the confidence to meet girls. But you’ll just suck to be around.

Altruistic_Side_4428 · 2025-05-29T04:19:47+00:00

Yup I have seen one person. He is fat, but confident, kinda over confident. Owns a business & spends good money on women.
The other side of the story- he is in debt & the over confidence back fires. So he can’t keep a woman but yeah, he gets them to date for a while.

jackthehat6 · 2025-05-29T13:43:59+00:00

Only one I can think of was Luke RSD, but he didn't seem to have any 'game' (he had some woeful infields that were almost memes back in the days when RSD had a forum - he'd talk to girls, completley tun out of things to say and turned red and the whole thing was so awkard)

He seemed to find his 'niche' (if you believe thess guys) from basically running 'status game' in Vegas. Having the best tables and stuff and inviting girls to the table and promising them things etc.

It's no surprise. Physical attraction is literally a pre-requsiste. Game/charisma/whatever is almost never ever gonna cut the mustard if she isn't physically attracted to you. Nothing should be more obvious at this point

game is about getting you over the line. Amplifying attraction. You can't create what wasn't there. If you really think being funny, saying some negs and cold reads, using pushpull lines etc is actually gonna force attraction in a girl then you are insane and are literally drunk on koolaid lol

topher_atx · 2025-05-29T14:39:36+00:00

I know a guy who's obese and goes out all the time. Pretty sure he has zero success. I say this as someone who used to be overweight, but now is in good shape. Interest from women vanished when I was overweight.

Even if you're in fantastic shape, your success rate will probably be low with women you don't know. If you're in poor shape, your success rate will be zero.

Men desire women more than women desire men. So we really only care if a woman looks good. Women can afford to be pickier. So they want you to look good AND have all these other qualities they're looking for.

Remember, you're in competition with the other men. You either have to be better than them or as good as the other guys. You maybe don't have to be the very best, but you need to be in the same league as the other guys.

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-05-29T18:42:24+00:00

Back in the mid 2000s Hypnotica gained like 100 lbs and got laid like crazy just to show guys it could be done.

Those were the days when dudes really committed to the skill set. Now all the pickup 'influencer' types have zero skill.

The other guy who used to be an RSD coach was fat too but I have skepticism about him actually having any skill. He never had infield and used a loooooottt of marketing.

Far-End470 · 2025-05-31T04:01:48+00:00

Yeah, David X comes to mind. Dude had a weird physique, kinda like the penguin. But damn did he hold frame and chicks loved it.

Key-Aioli-3703 · 2025-05-29T02:56:56+00:00

What is the meaning of PUA?

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-05-29T03:37:51+00:00

I've known plenty of fat guys who do well with women. If you are chubby, obviousjy try your best to shed weight for health and self esteem. But you can still get a good woman.

becomesharp · 2025-05-29T03:56:02+00:00

There were a bunch back in the day. Lovedrop, RSD Luke, RSD Tyler (circa 2010 i think?), Captain Jack (i think? Never met him), and a few advanced guys in the LA scene who never became coaches or well known. It's the same as being short (minus the ability to change it) -- it's just a disadvantage that you have to overcome.

Keep in mind that this was in the days before online dating so this was cold approach only. Online dating punishes fat/short MUCH harsher than cold approach.

unagiryu · 2025-05-29T04:41:57+00:00

I am not active these days but the time I was at my PR weight (285lbs at 6") was the time I attracted many women most easily. I was dating 5 girls at the same time.
I agree to HandsomeBadness. If you are decently interesting guy with strong esteem, strong posture and passion, many women will be attracted to you regardless of your look. (ofcs as long as you keep basic manner like hygiene, fashion, etc). A big bonus point would be if you are very sweet guy. Girls love a big and sweet guy.

Cold approach is a bit different story since it predominantly requires good first impression. But in my experience if you manage to have conversations with them casually, the fact of you being obese will be less obstacle. I usually come to know girls I date through my female friends' . My friends like me a lot so I can bypass the approaching part easily.

In short, know yourself, choose your tactic and show your edge.

unagiryu · 2025-05-29T04:44:04+00:00

I am not active these days but the time I was at my PR weight (285lbs at 6") was the time I attracted many women most easily. I was dating 5 girls at the same time.
I agree to HandsomeBadness. If you are decently interesting guy with strong esteem, strong posture and passion, many women will be attracted to you regardless of your look. (ofcs as long as you keep basic manner like hygiene, fashion, etc). A big bonus point would be if you are very sweet guy. Girls love a big and sweet guy.

Cold approach is a bit different story since it predominantly requires good first impression. But in my experience if you manage to have conversations with them casually, the fact of you being obese will be less obstacle. I usually come to know girls I date through my female friends' circles. My friends like me a lot so I can bypass the approaching part easily.

In short, know yourself, choose your tactic and show your edge.

UC18 · 2025-05-29T12:27:29+00:00

Just lose weight and talk to people while doing it.

Fatty.

Visualize_ · 2025-05-29T03:46:23+00:00

RSD Luke back in the day

SithLordJediMaster · 2025-05-29T04:35:31+00:00

"All animals look for a mate who has good genes, a good partner and a good parent." - Mate: What women want by Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller PhD

KazukiSendo · 2025-05-29T06:25:00+00:00

He wasn't obese,but Grigori Rasputin was ugly and stank, and he managed to sleep with many women in Tsar Nicholas the 2nd's court with pretty much just charisma.

Title	Are there any PUAs that are fat/obese
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Date	May 29, 2025 2:16 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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