Avoid Any “Awkward Silence” With This 1 Bizarre Trick

mrbrinks · 2012-11-17T21:33:36+00:00

This title reads like a bad sidebar ad.

caulking · 2012-11-17T22:18:44+00:00

Was this one bizarre trick discovered by a mom?

Mailman7 · 2012-11-18T00:49:02+00:00

I've never been to a place where there was a rocker, nerdy guy, and a man in a suit.

Pillowtalk · 2012-11-17T23:01:49+00:00

This really sounds terrible to me. Surely there is something better.

netwiz101 · 2012-11-17T22:03:45+00:00

tl;dr: Play "Fuck, Marry, Kill" from the howard stern show. Listen to her answer.

Hoek · 2012-11-18T03:27:05+00:00

This is contraproductive to what this sub is for, and here's why:

This is Fuck, Mary, Kill - a canned "game" from Neil Strauss' "The Game".
The seduction community has evolved way beyond the stuff in that old book.

Guys. If you want to get better results with girls, you need to understand the concept of building tension. You need to master building, holding and releasing any kind of tension, be it sexual or not. Besides that, reframe the idea that a social interaction when both of you are enjoying the silence has to be filled with some stuff you do or say.

Learn to kino, hard. Reframe any negativity. Be the assertive guy, assume attraction, and never try to fill any silence, because, as Tyler would say, "the self is always coming through", as in: By even needing to fill any silence, you're showing insecurity and that you're not used to having girls around you.

Instead, genuinely enjoy the non-verbal plateau. Kino, smile, look in her eyes, play with her hands, her hair, etc. Make HER the one feeling insecure and having the urge to fill the silence, but then, at the same time, have her in such a state of comfort that she'll know she can enjoy this moment of silence, because the vibe of the situation doesn't need to be verbalized.

Is this too meta to understand what I mean?

findlifealgorithm · 2012-11-18T01:32:39+00:00

Me: "So what do you do?" Her: "I'm a nurse." Me: "Oh that's cool, my mom's actually a nurse, too!" Her: "Oh really." Me: "Yeah I come from a long-line of medical professionals. What made you want to become a nurse?" Her: "Hmm... (pause to think)." Me: "(lower head, direct eye contact) fuck, marry, kill that guy in the corner."

Rowka · 2012-11-18T00:53:43+00:00

Anyone else think cursing right off the bat may turn her off a bit?

dablac · 2012-11-17T21:20:16+00:00

Well I suppose that could help but you could just as easily be escalating instead.

hobodick · 2012-11-17T23:40:31+00:00

I thought you played FMK differently....we always picked 3 people not just one, and you have to fuck one, marry one, and kill one. Having to choose a fate for each of the 3 options is what made the game fun, and able to be played over and over as you got more creative with the participants. Choosing guys around the bar? LAME. This guide has bad advice unless you're trying to pick up some redneck miller girl in the deep south.

Jumpin_Jack_Flash · 2012-11-18T01:27:01+00:00

Call me a spoil sport, but I can't righteously see joking about killing someone as a turn-on...

For me or her.

2012-11-18T00:05:43+00:00

with an "internal server error?" I guess that'll break the ice for a second..

2012-11-18T01:27:05+00:00

this would only work with certain guys asking that question. i don't recommend asking this unless you know for certain she'd enjoy this weird game

nolotusnotes · 2012-11-18T04:22:06+00:00

Perhaps the only single thing I've gained in my years of living is recognizing Internet bullshit.

This is Internet bullshit. Internet advertising. Internet fail.

torabayashi · 2012-11-17T22:37:32+00:00

What if there are no other guys around?!?!?! Doomed.

This_Fuckin_Guy_ · 2012-11-17T23:37:35+00:00

This game is older than dirt.

Caticorn · 2012-11-17T22:14:46+00:00

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Harry_Tuttle · 2012-11-18T01:41:49+00:00

Yup. Anyone who posts a "with this one (adj) trick" ad can DIAF.

adire · 2012-11-17T21:17:57+00:00

I've actually read about this game before but I believe it was called different then.. The name was "Bin, marry, shag".

irishjohnny · 2012-11-17T23:19:40+00:00

Site's down; mirrored anywhere?

ihahp · 2012-11-17T23:54:13+00:00

tl;dr: Play the "would you fuck, marry, or kill that person" game.

2012-11-18T02:08:51+00:00

WAIT! Don't fuck anyone until you learn this one weird trick to last longer! Click here!!!

tookmyname · 2012-11-18T02:48:53+00:00

This is fucking dumb.

readsyouruserhistory · 2012-11-18T03:00:56+00:00

Honestly the best way I have ever dealt with awkward silences is to recognize them and accept them. Usually I will say something along the lines of, "Alright, I've run out of things to say. I'm just gonna stand here awkwardly for a while until you think of something to talk about." Works well regardless of who you are talking to.

2012-11-18T04:09:51+00:00

I usually just comment on it. I have a bunch of jokes about awkward silence. I sometimes say something along the lines of... You know you are getting on when you can comfortable share a moment of silence.

6PoolPwnage · 2012-11-18T05:38:44+00:00

This is fucking gold, exactly what we need!

itsjaay · 2012-11-18T06:36:32+00:00

This "trick" has it's ups and downs, obviously don't use it every time and there would be niche situations if the silence is killing you that bad... But don't use this.

Ghost_man23 · 2012-11-18T06:51:47+00:00

I'm stunned at all the negative comments. I used this the other night on a Day 2 with a girl clearly into me but I was having trouble escalating. Worked great.

It's just written so cheesy in the post - like a used-car salesman. Ignore that and just play the game.

THEMACGOD · 2012-11-18T13:41:12+00:00

Worked great until my wife killed me and fucked my corpse.

2012-11-18T04:02:01+00:00

I suppose it's a great way to quickly know if you're dating a sociopath. Why would anyone want to kill a random stranger?

koolaidman123 · 2012-11-17T21:13:05+00:00

has potential. Besides, I always like to remain fun and playing games with girls. I might try this out on my next date.

usaf9211 · 2012-11-18T04:30:06+00:00

This sounds like a recipe for failure to me.

PrimaxAUS · 2012-11-18T05:57:58+00:00

Does this really have to be phrased as a infomercial?

TofuTofu · 2012-11-18T14:42:20+00:00

lol @ Fuck, Marry, Kill

Are there people who hadn't heard of it before?

greatgatsbysmom · 2012-11-17T22:41:01+00:00

I think this is a great idea. I'm in a relationship but my boyfriend and i have down moments in conversations and this would be a fun way to clear the awkward.

Bowjingles · 2012-11-18T03:30:59+00:00

This is genius. I'm definitely using it next time.

Title	Avoid Any “Awkward Silence” With This 1 Bizarre Trick
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Upvotes	177
Comments	97
Date	November 17, 2012 8:48 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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