Disclaimer, I know this place doesn't have many young 18-22yo guys but maybe it can reach those few ones. Ideally this piece of andecotes and advice is for them, but anyone can learn from it. Enjoy.

About me: 19, black male, slim/toned build, 188cm. I went to a boys only school my whole life and didn't really interact much with women due to my religion for a really long time. My social skills were pretty poor(no eye contact with women, slight stutter, couldnt raise voice up when talking). Around last year decided to apply to university the following year and move out of my strict parents household. I spent a lot of time working out(5x a week 2 hrs) and made it my goal to approach people and hold convos/eye contact. Naturally, I went back to my old ways and basically stayed indoors waiting for university for the entire year however, few months before starting I made it my goal to really change my life around socially, sexually and academically.

First few days moving into dorms: Unpacked my things, found my roommate(male) and had a chat with him. Got some beers and hanged out. We wen't down to the common room(place where dorm people hang out) and forced myself to sit with a group of completely random people. It was beyond my comfort zone. I also made it a habit to touch people a lot, whether its handshakes, hugs, pat on back(mostly to other guys) anything to make me get used to touching people and break the barrier. We drank a lot of alcohol had an amazing time. Took each others socials and went our way. This was also the first time I had alcohol so I was really new to it. Now that i was cool with a few people I made a groupchat and added them and they added more people from the dorms. So we began to have regular meetups and started clubbing almost everyday for weeks to follow.

First week second half: I was still awkward with women, but one thing I was great at was faking being confident. My posture improved a lot since lifting and I remained calm, spoke slowly and talked to people. I went around my way in common room talking to a bunch of different people and getting their social medias. One of my main goals was to make a bunch of female friends because of preselection. Introduced myself to a lot of girls, got their snapchat and had convos. Ended up going clubbing with big groups from the dorm and majority were women. So we're all dancing together and when I was drunk I felt a lot of inhibtion drop. I went up to every girl in club, start dancing with them, if theyre into it I continue and slowly escalate contact taking her hand spinning, dancing more, hands on my shoulders and mine around their waist then go in for kiss. TONS of rejections, smirks, disgusted looks but I persisted. I was doing very well in my own book, from being awkward and rarely speaking to girls to being centre of attention in club dancing my ass off and getting kisses was great. But i wanted more naturally.

Second week: I continued going out a lot, got a lot of numbers and snapchats but failed to reconnect afterwards due to them being drunk and not remembering or disinterested. One day we were predrinking in an apartment and im sitting talking to some people and a girl asks what I'm studying, I told her and she says her brother is doing it. I told her to come over(she asked from across the room), shook her hand and held eye contact and we talked quite a bit. I could tell she was interested already which seemed weird since she was very forward. Continued to common room where we drank more and i didnt see her there. Made it to the club and we danced, saw her again and she started dancing with me and lead to some grinding. She left then we bumped into each other again but this time our group wasnt there so I just went in for the kiss and she reciprocated. Went to the back of club and made out for another long ass time. Both went back to our group who were sitting down somewhere, kissed a lot more and she said lets head back. First lay while being at uni around 1-2 weeks in. Was bursting with overconfidence and decided to carry on clubbing.

Second week second half: its a friday, i was deciding whether to go or not so i say fuck it and we leave. It was an incredibly boring night, got rejected every single time, went to bar to get water and decided imma go home. Saw a girl alone to my right and decided it fuck it ill go up to her. Went to talk, got touchy immiedately and she loved it. She got me some drinks and i took her off to dance. Took her to my friends first(I always do this with girls I dance with, if they see my group of female friends it makes me less of a threat and not creepy), we all dance together and i take her to the front for more dancing. Made out a lot. Went back to bar for drinks/water, I asked wanna go back to mine? She said 'i dont know' so i took her hand and we went to the exit, went back to hers and second lay done.

Third week: I'm high as fuck off confidence and feeling like a legitimate god right now, twice in a week already? Ofc I wanted more, I went out more and more. But call it bad luck or whatever, i went about 10 days of nothing. My ego was pretty shattered, I thought well thats it, i capped out on 2 and im done now. Went out to the club I usually go to and as standard I go dance with any group of girls or duos/singles I see. Was pretty rough for an hour, went back to dance with friends, saw two girls and pulled their hands to middle of our circle. danced with both and took one i liked hand a bit away and solo danced. Just went in for the kiss and she hesitated, persisted for a bit and eventually started making out, her friend was incredibly chill and let us hang out a bit alone. She wanted to just give me her snapchat initially but i just kept applying pressure and kept kissing and dancing. She went to her friend and came back got green light to take uber back to mine.

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4th week(last sat/sun): Lessons started a bit ago and everyones been really focused on that so not much time spent going out together. Organised a quick clubbing night with few friends and we went. Really enjoyed it. Get a text msg from a girl I been cool with/in my mutual group. She said she was heading back at 2am and wanted to hang out. Told my friends if we could leave early or id uber back alone. We all left. Went to mine and let her in. Was slightly sober but still drunk. I kind had an awkward moment wher she wanted to kiss but I kinda froze since I wasnt as drunk as I normally was, but just went for it and she reciprocated and 4th. She asked to come over again the next day, but I wasn't really feeling it at all. So been dodging her lately but she might be potential fwb.

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So what I learnt was to be very forward and touchy. Learn to do it sober before you start clubbing random back pat talking to a guy when greeting or hugging a girl you see for second time. Built it up till youre familiar. Eye contact is also key, and a good IOI along with smiling. This IMO was probs my best thing I did. I reckon my smile is pretty good so im 24/7 smiling in the club making women feel like im not a threat and look good. Keep persisting. The best players at my campus go for every single girl and dont care if theyre rejected they have slight low standards but whatever you gotta do for pussy.

If you didn't read anything I said above, please atleast read these two things:

-Alcohol and drugs is bread and butter of casual sex. I have no shame in admitting a big chunk of my success was because I was under the influence(they were mostly sobering up by the time we go there, i was mostly very drunk). Youre almost never going to have a ONS where youre both sober, which is reality. So loosen up, don't make excuses like 'oh its shit lifestyle bla bla' because if you want to get laid you have to do these things. I come from a nonwestern religious culture and it was HARD adapting to this white western culture, nevertheless I did it and don't regret it.

HOWEVER, do not rely on just drugs and alcohol all the time. Its incredibly easy to get sucked into it and you feel like you NEED it or you cannot get laid. Use it as stepping stones, try being less drunk than you were the night before until you can be confident and lower inhibtion without much or alcohol at all.

-Go to every single event, gathering, club people are going to on campus. I spent few weeks before university starting joining groupchats from facebook and interacting with them, hence how I met my flatmate and a few others before hand. I went to every clubbing night, even when I was ill I still went out to socialise and meet people. With more practice it becomes easy. I can socialise A LOT better now and its translated into my academic side now. Make the most of your youth and freedom you have. I highly recommend you move out your parents house to dorms/accomodation.

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If you have any questions let me know, I can answer to the best of my ability.