Is it ok to call a girl out on her bs?

zapadz · 2022-09-25T17:12:07+00:00

No. Be unreactive.

TH3BUDDHA · 2022-09-25T19:11:33+00:00

and have more or less been texting each other non stop this past week.

Why? Set up the next date and stop texting. If she doesn't want to meet up, move on. This shit is so simple and people complicate it so much.

dobbs1997 · 2022-09-25T18:00:29+00:00

Bro why do you hate yourself ? You’re allowing yourself to get played by this chick, the moment she shows any signs of disinterest you should just move on to another chick and forget her, you don’t need to call her out on anything, why?? It’s waste of time, you just met her so why call her out on anything ? she doesn’t even deserve to be checked like that, just forget it and move on. Simple. Cause realistically if a girl is really interested in you she WILL be extremely cooperative and willing to meet up with you ASAP. lol so just keep it moving mane. don’t waste time on one chick who’s not cooperative, there’s too many girls out there.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-09-25T15:51:14+00:00

It's hilarious how some of you ruin your progress by becoming desperate and needy. It looks to me like you didn't pass her testing. She weeded you out. Next time, be more assertive and stop texting/ calling her like one of her girlfriends. Text and calls are only to set dates. Woman are like cats, they come and go as they please. All you can do is hit the ball over to their court and keep busy till you hear back from them. Stay busy.

bcool_returns · 2022-09-25T16:01:58+00:00

Your attention is your power. You "call out" women in these situations by choosing where you deploy your attention not by overtly calling her out, holding her "accountable," or getting butthurt. That said "so are we going to see each other today" is a passive and tepid text and one that makes it seem like she'd be doing you a favor to hang out with you. Bad. Set an actual plan and be confident about it. If she's receptive, great. If not, that's that. But texting her "non-stop" all week and then hitting her with this is not the move.

DontCallMeTopher · 2022-09-25T17:16:42+00:00

If a girl was texting me stupid ass shit like that I’d drop her like a bad habit. She sounds lame

denimclad_secret · 2022-09-25T15:27:40+00:00

Try it and see. If she responds well, you know how to treat her when you two get together.

If not, shes gifted you to some other chick that won't play hot and cold games and leave you on read

Either way is a win Good Luck

Snoo-50214 · 2022-09-25T18:01:36+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with calling a woman out as long as it’s not from a place of anger or hostility, and it’s usually better to pull back attention so you don’t reinforce negative behavior.

That said it sounds like she wanted to see you she just fell asleep, wtf?

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-09-25T16:03:22+00:00

Absolutely. She’s shit testing you

maxpossimpible · 2022-09-25T20:30:21+00:00

The moment you invest more into a girl than she is investing into you... You're done.

So ask yourself: Who has been initiating most of the messaging? Who has validated the otherone more? Who has taken the most initiative to meet up?

If the answer is You every time, you're done. Ignore her and try to reset it. Keep it at 35-40% you and 60-65% her.

yerga227 · 2022-09-25T21:11:19+00:00

just be honest about how she makes you feel. in my experience if you confront people honestly with what they are doing, they usually lose composure or interest or both. and then they give you all you need to move on easily. :)

just tell her that her "hot and cold"-behavior is hurtful to you and that you want to know what she wants.

Sandvicheater · 2022-09-25T20:29:13+00:00

OP has a case of oneitis

GLight3 · 2022-09-25T18:14:53+00:00

She's playing around with you to raise her self esteem. You usually should call women out, but in this scenario you need to ghost her. Make plans and stand her up and block her.

AndyTateIsRight · 2022-09-25T18:50:37+00:00

Stop texting her, and when she texts don't text back for 3-4 days. you'll get your answer

Think_History_5682 · 2022-09-25T20:34:46+00:00

Sounds like she's teasing you bc she likes you?

Jasonhardon · 2022-09-25T20:48:35+00:00

Don’t fall into their frame. Just game as usual & move on if she’s not interested

motherseffinjones · 2022-09-25T21:07:59+00:00

Don’t waste your energy, I had a girl do this exact same thing with me. We went on a date hit it off flirted kissed. Messaged every day but when it came to meeting up she always flaked or something came up. After 2 weeks I removed her from everything and stopped wasting my time. I’m pretty sure she just wanted attention but honestly who knows

gandalfdoughnut · 2022-09-25T22:04:38+00:00

Move on. She in your head rent free

Summ1tv1ew · 2022-09-25T23:12:28+00:00

If she doesn't get back to you just stop texting her

gangweedsavedme · 2022-09-25T23:15:24+00:00

She’s playing you lol

_yeeeeerr · 2022-09-25T23:21:08+00:00

Treat her the same way she treats you

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-09-26T00:24:08+00:00

She's playing games. Don't play, forget about her and move on to the next

46yearoldpimp · 2022-09-25T18:39:58+00:00

No, don't call her out. If you call her out you will look like an emotional man and there is nothing sexy woman find about that. I would pull back a little and see what happens.

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-09-25T20:08:30+00:00

there's something that all these posts taught me, girls will always play with guys emotions cuz they have infinite options, how about we band together, everyone of us men, keep our pride and no one goes after girls anymore, maybe they'll stop their bullshit, probably not but its worth a try🤔

Nirvana_Ultra · 2022-09-25T17:46:00+00:00

No, you'll be banned from all social media platforms including reddit and ostracised from society for telling a women the truth and holding her accountable.

Ori_553 · 2022-09-25T19:35:49+00:00

She is likely bullshitting, but in this context showing empathy is more important, because she barely knows you and is predictably confused, and it's an innocuous lie that she came up to recollect her ideas. Don't challenge or subtly confront her when she's not replying, because in this case, letting her feel that she can have her personal space is more important and creates more attraction for the longer term. If she can trust you to let her have her own space, she will not feel the need to lie in the future.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-09-27T13:38:10+00:00

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This girl has been teasing me about meeting up saying stuff like “you could be with me, but…” Yesterday I sent her a text saying so are we going to see each other today, she ignored it all night, and this morning sends a message really early saying “tell me why i just woke up.”

She sounds like an immature child.

2

I don’t understand this type of behavior, we couldn’t get off each other last time we met, we kissed, albeit a bit late into the date, and have more or less been texting each other non stop this past week.

There's nothing to understand. She's a hot mess immature child.

She's making everything complicated. Kind of like how you're making everything complicated by trying to change who she is with game. Which is a losing proposition.

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What do? Can I just call her out on it? Or should I just ignore her completely

The kind of problems that you're describing here are things that she need therapy to get through, to be honest.

Game is not therapy in the slightest. You're not going to change who she is or solve her problems for her. She's got to do it.

What you can do is either accept her bullshit and unreliability (and sacrifice your self-respect in the process) or move on.

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-09-25T17:30:15+00:00

So... you're mad that she didn't accept your invitation? I'm sure you understand that she has the right to decline, so what is it you're really mad about? Is this your overall frustration speaking? I'm sure you can see how blaming her for that isn't going to lead anywhere good.

me__satan · 2022-09-25T19:31:37+00:00

Be unreactive, i think it's far too early to call her out, this doesn't look like any BS. She is testing you in that text she sent, pass it, have a normal convo and then setup the date.

We all get needy from time to time, just dont project it

Hello-There-Im-Zach · 2022-09-25T19:53:22+00:00

You’re better off trying to drink a river.

Costafarian · 2022-09-25T23:56:45+00:00

Honestly, I have a rule.

When a girl starts to pull away and do things like not text over certain periods of time. I match it. If I sent a text and she gets back to me 8 hours later, I'll wait 8 hours before I respond. Unless she texts multiple times of course. In which case you don't have a problem anyway lol she likes you.

With this, it's a game of keeping your attention. And if she's just getting it from a bunch of other guys via social media and texts you should go out of your way to do the opposite. I'm old fashioned, I tend to call. Keep texting to a minimum. I've really only ever had conversations with women over text if I really have something serious going on with them.

Social media has ruined romance in a lot of ways IMO, she probably thinks she has you hooked. And if you haven't banged you should give her the minimum attention possible. Without boring her of course. Ghost her for a bit, focus on you, if she reaches out give her the minimum and move to see when you guys can hang.

If she pulls the same aloof bs, just call her out and swing for the fences. Because at that rate she probably is just using you as her "Time Hoe" and you don't want that at all. You can meet women who will give you the time of day without this much effort.

staggerlee718nyc · 2022-09-25T17:37:15+00:00

You should never call a woman out on her bs. You should be nice and respectful even when she shits on you.

C0333 · 2022-09-25T17:29:45+00:00

Laugh it off as a joke

sazze34 · 2022-09-25T19:23:21+00:00

Yes do it

sparklingwinepapi92 · 2022-09-25T19:39:48+00:00

I'd just ghost her

ProFriendZoner · 2022-09-25T19:58:46+00:00

Night_Hawk1 · 2022-09-25T21:00:09+00:00

You've given her her fill of you, why would she need to see you on a date

GeezRick · 2022-09-25T22:58:40+00:00

Tell her what time and where to meet you in one text and then just stop until she texts back I’m on my way

breakboyzz · 2022-09-25T21:01:26+00:00

She slept over at another guys house and is texting you in the morning when she was leaving. She was busy all night. You gotta read between the lines

justaboywithquestion · 2022-09-25T21:05:30+00:00

Do not call her out because it will only turn her off more.

Just be unconcerned and unbothered. If you can’t, then ACT unconcerned and unbothered. Trust me.

greenseagull · 2022-09-25T22:16:15+00:00

Just my opinion. To some degree it seems like she’s making you work for it. To specify I don’t think that HAS to be a bad thing. For her it just may be important that she feels like someone really wants to be with her.

Own_Let_2374 · 2022-09-25T23:18:32+00:00

She could either be Bipolar or have Borderline Personality Disorder. Most people these days have some kind of psychological problem, that's why I never committed to a relationship just yet.

Title	Is it ok to call a girl out on her bs?
Author	AdditionalHyena5109
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Date	September 25, 2022 3:21 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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