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[–]bandsupjay 59 points60 points61 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup. Build confidence or just be confident. Either getting use to being around girls or get their numbers for lays. Lose your ego if you have one
[–]YamiYugi23 40 points41 points42 points 3 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
Yes
The first 20 cold approaches I was scared and would run away after getting their Snapchat and never ask for their name or make small talk
Recently I’ve made up small talk of 10 mins in my last 5 approach and even had dinner with one of the girls I cold approached I haven’t got laid yet but I made so much progress
First couldn’t even speak to a women I don’t know
Secondly couldn’t even make small talk after I did homie how to approach
Thirdly I didn’t know how to set up dates/dinners till now
Next will hopefully be bringing a girl home
The first time I asked a girl I failed on it didn’t even give her any day and she was like I’ll let you know when I’m free and never did the next girl I asked for availability etc each time I’ve been getting further and further progress
Last time I even Had a girl walk me home but so some reason I never invited her in and I regret till this day but I won’t make that mistake next time
It’s a learning game
[–]upintheair1972 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
Playing the odds is a good start, but stop spending on food and movies. Use your brain, think of 5 things you can do outside of 4 hours of dinner and movie. She will make up her mind in the first hour minutes if she will get to naked. Lunch, coffee, one drink, then have a 20 minute activity that provides opportunities to touch her like a short walk or shopping , then you have and opportunity to hold her hand or try a kiss. Script 5 questions and 5 answers, leave some mystery, keep things light and short. With the first touch or kiss, she will want more or move on. Good luck, keep you money in your pocket.
[–]Competitive-Link-912 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Way too complicated. Dating costs money. The simple things like dinner and cocktails work.
[–]lildudefromXdastreet 14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
This. If you don't have enough cash to shepp out 25-30 bucks, you probably shouldn't be focused on dating anyways
[–]sippycupjoe -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
That’s kind of shallow. I don’t know many people I’d just go spend 30 dollars on.
[–]lildudefromXdastreet 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Because you don't have it. 30$ isn't a lot of money, and if it is to you, then you should be more focused on getting that sorted out than dating
[–]sippycupjoe 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Oh damn I should cancel my premium subscription
[–]Competitive-Link-912 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Haha I can’t believe what I have read. What age are you?
Drinks in a nice bar where I live for 2 coats 100-150 euro per night when including taxis and tips and dinner at a nice restaurant and drinks after easy 200-300 euro for the same.
If 30 dollars is all you’ll spend on a date I’ll say a prayer. I’m for sure in your working life you won’t be able to get away with this with any high quality woman.
I guess it’s different in college or school too your credit.
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[–]Competitive-Link-912 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I do no know I’m talking about.
You won’t get high quality women with options if your broke and can’t bring women out. This is the reality of life. You’ll end up marrying a 6 or 7 if you think this isn’t true.
[–]upintheair1972 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agreed, don’t waste money you don’t have. Have a spend in mind, if she wants lobster on your taco budget, move on. If you’re an earner, then you can spend on her later. Took my girl to the RC Kapalua last week, but she treats me like a king after a couple of years together. At first, we split everything because we are at the same level, and smashed on the second date
Also guys, unless she really insists, splitting the bill in a date for a man is lame and looks stingy to high quality woman… of course you can get away with it sometimes but this is a competition and the best men come out top. Stingy is a terribly unattractive trait. You don’t have to be rich, but women hate a stingy man. Just take the bill, it’ll increase your chances of scoring later.
If you cant currently afford this, I advise you get to a position where you can.
[–]IHave20 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude is just a cheap ass lol
[–]Archyblackcat 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Seems like he’s making progress so as long as he progresses he should just keep doing what he’s doing.. let’s let him figure out on his own how to spend less money on dates but that comes later… the most important thing now is that he’s making progress and finally talking to girls
[–]IHave20 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You sound like you’re cheap
[–]upintheair1972 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I am in Seattle a good dinner and a movie will put you out $400. Hit a food truck and a view, you can have a date for $50. Just saying be creative.
[–]southseasblue 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Duck me. Yeah don’t spend that much lol.
Coffee lunch in Melbourne is like $50 AUD, casual dinner is like $60.
Don’t do movies
[–]desal 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
400? must be the restaurant cause movies only like 20 bucks a ticket maybe
[–]MachoCyberBullyUSA 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Don’t regret not asking that girl to come in too much. It happens to so many guys. Forgive yourself but don’t forget so you can learn from it
[–]YamiYugi23 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I regret it a lot man that was my favourite girl I’ve meet so far her personality was amazing and she was so funny and she’s wasn’t even my type but she was still so cute.
Out of every girl I’ve meet in my life she put so much effort in me and for the first time it felt like it was one sided in the opposite direction I never really felt like I was chasing her, everything felt so easy the connection was instant. All the other girls I had to put so much effort and it was always one sided on my part. She actually won me over.
It’s a shame now after that day she walked me home (was the first time we hanged out) she gave me a big hug and thanked me for the day and setting everything up and she said she had tons of fun. She told me to send her the photos and I did. After that no communication from both of us for 2 weeks I see her one time in the library and she runs away from me. Than I tried to set up a a second hangout with her where at the end I was going to tell her next time I want to take you on a proper date ( wanted to break the ice as we had no communication for 2 weeks I couldn’t ask for a date of the bat). She agrees to hangout I set everything up last second she sends a text saying the vibe I’m giving is more than friends and she’s not interested in that and to cancel the hangout. I told her yeh it’s the truth the vibe is more than friends and I was going to ask you on a date afterwords and than and sent her a nice message saying no hard feelings and she was a great person and than she blocked me and we never talked since
It’s so weird cuz this whole time I felt more friend vibe from her but at the end when I actually got won over by her and wanted more than friends she switched up
[–]desal 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
no communication for 2 weeks
why? if you liked her so much why didn't you text her or call her during this time?
she probably felt like you weren't interested
[–]YamiYugi23 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeh it’s my fault I blame myself for all of it
I don’t know man I feel like I started to crumble because I’ve never made so much progress with a girl before and I self sabotaged as the pressure got to real for me.
Also I know this stupid but I have so many insecurities and I don’t feel like any girl will like probably due to the fact in my early years I quite lame and never got any female attention, it’s only recently that I’ve really up my level and have put in the effort to talk to women what I’m trying to say is part of me wanted to see her message first so I knew she cared, which was stupid and playing games cost me big time especially considering the effort she already put in. Before that we talked everyday for 3 weeks on Snapchat long paragraphs to each the convo never ended once it always carried into next day so the sudden cut off in communication was strange.
[–]PrettyLittlePenguin 134 points135 points136 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No, you should approach guys. Enjoy.
[–]bandsupjay 21 points22 points23 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup. Sounds about ga-right.
[–]geardluffy 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I couldn’t not give you an award for this.
[–]King_WeeWee 11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yea because you build your social skills and get comfortable with rejection. If you don't your ego will be as fragile as Mr. Glass's bones.
[–]whiplash81 11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No girl is going to show up at your home and start talking to you.
So if your goal is to meet women, you're going to have to approach them.
[–]Lucazzz14[🍰] 15 points16 points17 points 3 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Do you want to date?
[–]Perfect_War5446 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
No I’m just tryna smash
[–]Lucazzz14[🍰] 46 points47 points48 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Then you're going to have to talk to girls.
[–]Kundalini-Electric 14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah Women aren't just going to straddle his face randomly
[–]upintheair1972 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Talk to the 5s first, then work your way up as you gain success. Date your level. And stop offering dinner and a movie. Get a coffee, go shopping, have a conversation, then ask her over. Use your brain to partner with your dick.
Take some lessons https://youtube.com/c/Charismaoncommand
lol your comments are hilarious
[–]passengerpigeon20 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
How attractive are you and what country do you live in? Depending on your stats and location you might find it more cost-effective to hire an escort rather than go out to bars every weekend for several weeks, months or years in a row getting nothing.
[–]privacylmao -5 points-4 points-3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Tinder is actually easy bro, if you're tryna smash get matches, make sure to text them so you can climb the tinder's ranking system and end up at the top in your area. Tinder will do the rest: you'll end up having more exposure to the hottest ones on the app. All you have to do is make up a unique pickup line, think of an activity before inviting her to your crib. Your place must be clean and your chat game must be atleast average. Good luck out there
[–]Guigzi 21 points22 points23 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
if he was attractive enough for tinder he probably wouln't ask this
[–]Basic85 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women are the gate keepers of sex
[–]RokuroMonsuta 14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No, you should never approach a girl unless she has a penis.
[–]bandsupjay 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just gotta run some xrays and see if shes a transgender and youre good to go am i right?
[–]dobbs1997 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol just don’t do it man…we all know you don’t wanna holla at these chicks.
[–]koseabjitt 40 points41 points42 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
no it's not . just get blackpilled & leave these stuff to people like me.
leave the planet as well , please.
[–]Admirable-Crab5594 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nothing to loose mate; if you are lucky, you might score something. But it's always good to talk to random girls to keep your skill game up. Don't expect anything; approach them wherever you are.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Only if you want to get laid someday.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No run away 🫣 same results every time.
Only you can decide if it is, if you enjoy yourself I don’t see why not, especially if the opportunity presents itself :-) I like to let things happen
[–]CocoBabeNYC 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well the answer is depends on what your goal is.
[–]Think_History_5682 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You have to be at peace with rejection. Women have a ridiculous amount of anxiety about men. So a stranger coming up to them sets off me too alarm bells so I would say approaching them. For romantic reasons no. But talk them up about whatever your doing together is OK.... It's a skill and you need to be sneaky about it gain their trust by being friendly. Then before you part invite them to something or ask if you can send them. An invite..
[–]logicallyillogical 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“I want to have sex and/or maybe find a meaningful relationship. Is it worth talking to girls or do they just magically appear?”
Wtf kind of question is this. OP go take a timeout.
[–]Particular-Bad-5470 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
no it's not worth it. build yourself and get rich then then you'll get the girls
[–]Crisia_1234 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Dont you think that getting rich early on in your life is way harder than getting girls? Even later on it's still very hard. In addition it's also no guarantee for getting girls
[–]Particular-Bad-5470 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can still get girls without being rich but you will have to do a little bit of chasing which is not my thing
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's better than nothing, proly not optimal
[–]below298 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's your life, but as a 30 year old man not having luck with women, I don't.
All I want is a wife one day, and I'm sure that's much more achievable with women outside the USA who are serious about settling down.
[–]whiplash81 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Culture has nothing to do with it.
[–]below298 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm sorry to disagree but culture has everything to do with it..
The modern world can dictate how people act socially, but old cultures (part of Europe, Asia, South America and definitely Middle East) affect how men and women view the world and relationships as a whole.
The average woman in depending on each country can most definitely be better or worse for long term relationships due to their cultures and ideals in relationships, marriage and sex.
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
this is wrong
from an evelotionary body agenda point of view if you only go for the obvious (that you notice) you are not gonna be fathering many kiddos (which from a body agenda pov is the point)
no you take your shot at every girl YOU are interested in this IOIs are for sure things. if she doenst dig it she will tell you and you move on to somthing else
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
there is no just
approach all the ladies you dig and shoot your shot..... I dont see how this is complicated?
I mean if she is 100% clearly not into talking to you are anyone of course dont but I mean she doesnt need to be unbutton her shirt for you to go in.
[–]Fossi1 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not with that attitude
[–]lostmymuse 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes. I love myself every time it goes well. You NEVER KNOW what could happen.
[–]DeJuanBallard 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No
[–]SpoozeysmOkes 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]quiet_subliminal 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Definitely, it builds you up, gives you more confidence in yourself, it makes you feel more comfortable around them. Plus even if you get rejected it teaches you more how to handle it and be more understanding.
[–]No_Fan6078 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
depending on your goals, but if you want to have more confidence or be more successful in dating or seduction, you know what someone said once " the practice make the master", so of course is worthy is you want to find someone who love you and care about you.
[–]JohnnyMnec 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let's break your question down.
[–]Robingabe0917 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s worth it, but is definitely a challenge. Dating apps don’t work. I been trying to do this but all the girls I talk to are married or in a relationship.. so it’s not working for me yet
[–]kensei_ocelot 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
yes
I don't know. I would rather do a fun hobby or side hustle compared to getting rejected by girls every single time
[–]kensei_ocelot 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You shouldn't be getting rejected every time though. Cold approach is when you just go up to any woman regardless of anything. Warm approach is when you approach a woman after she has given some signs that she wants you to approach her. Try a warm approach next time a woman is staring you down or randomly smiles at you
[–]KiiMaezyr 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No, leave mo fa me
[–]konsm1 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have lost all hope too
[–]daring_innovator 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, because you evolve into a more experienced and sociable person which I see that for guys who never approach girls do not currently possess and do not know they’re falling behind. The more experiences you have with women- the better. You can learn what works with them and what doesn’t.
Also, by approaching often you harden your personality from the rejections and you quickly mature your game so that it becomes spectacular with the next woman.
[–]fortheweirdshit2 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Only if your goal is to meet women.
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