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lana_del_reymysterio · 2021-11-21T03:50:57+00:00

Been reading your post and comments and it's fascinating how similar and different our experiences have been.

Like you, I'm also 24 and am a similar height and weight (180/75kg) and am also very lean.

had this idea in mind that I would never have a single match based on the horror stories I've been told online. Reality played out differently.

I felt the exact same as you, especially since I never get all that much attention in real life (which became worse when I got in shape).

I felt like I was unattractive until I got tinder which exploded and I've had lots of matches, dates, sex with quite attractive women. I never even see average and below women even pop up in my swipes, let alone matches.

However, what's been different for me is that I have found quite a lot of women have now become intimidated by me based on my physique and in some ways this has actually hurt me with women.

I rarely meet women my age comfortable with me, they do weird things ranging from going into this weird deer in headlights vibes when I try to talk to them, making lots of negative assumptions about me (fuckboy, player).

I've also had lots of women I was sleeping with cover up their bodies and be generally insecure comparing their bodies to mine during sex.

This is especially an issue given I look around and frequently see attractive women with some real headscratchers looks wise, it's a real mindfuck. Also hurts me being able to date the kinds of women I like personality wise.

Happy to talk more about this with you if you would like

alexaxl · 2021-11-21T05:00:25+00:00

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wolfbee16 · 2021-11-21T03:07:19+00:00

Working out is a sure fire way to gain natural confidence. I tell that to all guys who aren’t good/don’t workout, because that’s how I started before I learned game

letmereaddamnit · 2021-11-21T05:17:36+00:00

Dude I know! I got into super good shape for about a year and was getting mad female attention! Then I got a gf and then gained 40lbs. Now I'm fat and single and have to start from 0 again.

Narcan9 · 2021-11-21T06:59:21+00:00

Brad Pitt in his prime, ala Fight Club and Snatch, have women sitting in a puddle while watching a movie.

chillbill1220 · 2021-11-21T03:05:19+00:00

Has this all been from online? And you don’t have any shirtless pics? Just a lean face?

__euphoria____ · 2021-11-21T03:20:01+00:00

What is your height, weight and diet like?

DaydreamingMister · 2021-11-21T03:07:39+00:00

Speaking of gym habits - my gym includes a complimentary instructor guy who circulates and gives tips/guidance to those interested… I like that but also feel curious about working with a personal trainer. How did you start out… solo? With a personal trainer? With a friend?

the-original-chad · 2021-11-21T07:05:27+00:00

I would agree fully. Guys don’t realize how much of a difference it does have on a girls psyche. It turns a man from cute to hot. It also makes hooking up immensely easier. Women will further the interaction for you and won’t resist when you try and make a move. It’s a HUGE asset because everyone is such a mediocre fat ass these days. A guy with a good body puts him in the top 10% of men.

charlesdickinsideme · 2021-11-21T05:24:35+00:00

No way you’re 8.5% and your brother in law is 5%. This post just feels like a fantasy lol

Monty_Booourns · 2021-11-21T03:53:19+00:00

Send pics

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TheRealMe54321 · 2021-11-21T04:14:37+00:00

Entire post could have been replaced with “looks are everything.”

LandscapeClear1630 · 2021-11-21T03:40:37+00:00

That fucking diet is what kills me man, holy shit.

kurapikachu020 · 2021-11-21T07:45:22+00:00

This is just my personal preference but I find shredded bodies disgusting 😂 just something about the muscles and veins that aren't attractive in my eyes at all. Plus bodies like that are not comfortable for cuddles. Not all women like shredded bodies.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-11-21T07:46:19+00:00

https://imgur.com/Rdobyht

Au contraire I look like this and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve had girls obviously hit on me.

I’ve had a few girls actually tell me that I make them feel self conscious and I had to try and convince them that I found them sexy

I won’t deny that it helps, but it’s only a piece of the puzzle

Equivalent_Ad7389 · 2021-11-21T11:59:56+00:00

What you need to understand is attracting women on the internet versus real life is VERY different. On a dating app the women have like 100 likes per day so naturally they're going to pick the guy with the best photo, cutest, body, career etc.

In real life all that matters is your confidence. I'd say get off the dating apps man. You ain't gonna find something real. You need to approach real women to build your confidence and self esteem. You need to immediately make them feel safe and secure in your presence, and this is done with your body language and genuine intentions for her beauty. All this extra shit like physique, money, status just screams nice guy, trying to impress her to get laid.

YvesSaintPige · 2021-11-21T04:46:26+00:00

Excellent post man. You seem like a good dude.

new__vision · 2021-11-21T03:48:56+00:00

Too bad I’m too skinny with a high metabolism to even gain muscle

bojackhhorseman · 2021-11-21T04:37:24+00:00

I’m 18, 5’11”, and 140 lbs. Your post gives me hope.

sexyhusband714 · 2021-11-21T04:38:37+00:00

Amazed enough to do some situps?

putcoolusernamehere · 2021-11-21T04:47:15+00:00

If you have that good a bod, why did you think you wouldn't get matches?

Narcan9 · 2021-11-21T07:07:38+00:00

You don't even have to be shredded. Go to the gym and lift a few times a week. Women usually won't say anything outright, but it will come out in conversation. Things like, "when we have sex I notice your shoulders, and butt". Or they will remark noticing a difference from before to after you started lifting.

Shoulders, butts, and abs are things they focus on.

Automatic_Beautiful9 · 2021-11-21T07:55:54+00:00

Nah, there will always be some people.

Plenty of fit computer science major girls. Just ask out more people, there will be some girls who's into you

SuaveFuck · 2021-11-21T09:00:01+00:00

OK, Mr Bateman.

sarcastikpanda · 2021-11-21T09:19:03+00:00

Can you give some tips how you managed a good skin and hair please

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