Dont chase women

Facelotion · 2020-02-18T13:56:20+00:00

Unless I’m misunderstanding this whole concept of be the best version of yourself work hard... women never come to me or even acknowledge it. I’ve always had to come to them

K0oligan · 2020-02-18T14:00:06+00:00

But that's not true isn't it, because what I understood from being a lurker, either you approach women or you get nothing

_alegend_ · 2020-02-18T13:10:48+00:00

Yeah and to become the best possible version of yourself, you need to work hard. This leads to a person that women like. GG! I am on this path myself. Trying though.

Vivek_1064 · 2020-02-18T14:07:02+00:00

It's bullshit.. I have got what I wanted worked so hard and landed in a good job. Finally seeing all my friends with theirs gf enjoying every moment. And I am here.

ImJustSo · 2020-02-18T16:34:13+00:00

Look, there's a caveat to this. You don't have to chase women and you should be the best version of yourself.

The caveat is that once you're a good version of yourself you still have to put yourself out there. A rooster struts his shit. He doesn't just walk off and stay out of eye shot of all the hens. When the hen shows interest, he also climbs on and does his business, he doesn't just wait for her to try and slide underneath him.

You strut your shit. You display how great you are and then you let a woman make her choice. If she isn't interested, then you fuck off and find a new woman to display yourself.

If you invite a woman to a private place and she agrees to spend alone time with you, it's time to act like you've been accepted as a mate. You touch. You kiss.

It's that simple. You did all that work to become the best version of yourself that you could and it's paid off. Now you have to act right to get what you were after: acceptance.

Once you're accepted, acknowledge it with a touch.

lovethrob · 2020-02-18T18:26:19+00:00

This is how young people think. Listen kids, a closed mouth doesn't get fed. Preception, verbal language and body language is key. Learning yourself through practice and developing a philosophy that works for your uniqueness creates confidence. Don't let anyone tell you different. Once you develop mentally who you are, you won't give a shit what another person thinks of your approach. You won't give a shit about the out come of an approach.

There's plenty of rich & beautiful people that seem to have it made. They have all their wealth, friends, and attraction bases covered with zero problems... right? You'll find that outside of social media, they are usually boring people with inadequate communication skills. They too are awkward as hell because they don't fully know who they are or what their purpose is. All that fancy shit is pointless, if you're a garbage individual with no depth to your soul.

A shinny piece of shit is still a piece of shit.

Alex_O7 · 2020-02-18T15:27:36+00:00

That's just a lie.

I would rather say: "don't be needy" that's translate to "don't 'over-chase' women".

But if you never chase in any way a women you will obtain mostly low quality women, or if you are extremely lucky in that way you could come out of the friendzone with some of your girl friends (and that is not guaranted anyway).

Imperator_Pyra · 2020-02-18T13:23:58+00:00

/s ?

throwawaymusur · 2020-02-18T18:19:21+00:00

Hey it works! I got my shit together and girls wanna suck my dick on the street!

dgapproacher · 2020-02-18T19:47:36+00:00

This is true but I think it only applies if you have a social life and go out and do things on a regular basis. If you’re “working on yourself” but are a loner or spend most of the time by yourself girls won’t even know you exist.

If you go to concerts, events with your friends, and mainly aim to have fun (not just “get girls”) it has been my experience that yes, girls will come to you. Of course you have to make sure you are the best version of yourself. Nice haircut, well groomed/well dressed, solid social skills/high self esteem/stable mental health, in good shape. The basics.

Case in point, I got introduced to a beautiful woman through a mutual friend. All the guys in my circle were chasing her and hanging out with her as much as possible. They looked desperate/needy and when we would go to events (with our circle of friends and her) they would focus all of their energy on her instead of having fun.

The whole time the thought of chasing her didn’t even cross my mind. I just aimed to have as much fun as possible, I talked to her confidently and chatted with her like I would anyone else. Turns out that she had a huge crush on me the entire time. She ended up asking for my number and we’ve slept together and have already gone out on a number of dates. The funny thing is, I was the only guy in the group to not ask for her number or chase her. Yet I’m the guy she wants and likes.

Sometimes the way to win the game is to not play at all.

Sean_Marren · 2020-02-18T21:22:36+00:00

100% not true.... hate when people say this. Garbage advice

2020-02-18T16:33:57+00:00

That’s all I do and women don’t magically appear in my life. I don’t get why Reddit loves to repeat this because it’s fake.

Nothing happens when you don’t try for girls.

catondolo · 2020-02-18T13:21:32+00:00

Can someone relate to this? I mean isn't the whole pickup scene about going out trying to pock up girls?

The-Real-Ivivik · 2020-02-18T14:44:49+00:00

I feel like it’s not only being your best self, but you also have to be super confident, witty, smooth, and reliable to your companion.

gurnflurnigan · 2020-02-18T17:27:20+00:00

Glance and look away.

Novatonavila · 2020-02-18T21:56:32+00:00

This sounds ridiculous. You HAVE to chase women so they know you are interested in them. How do you think you will meet women if you never chase them? If you pretend like you don't care you will have double the work and with less result.

ZingiFTW · 2020-02-18T13:24:11+00:00

Depends on what you are after.. relationships or one night stands. If you want alot of one night stands, then you do some chading.. if you just a few... focus on yourself a d be abit open.. if you want a relationship then just walk aong with your mirror 😂

jpjohnny · 2020-02-18T18:57:14+00:00

bullshit

a-l69 · 2020-02-18T19:19:37+00:00

Can't preach this enough! You can't jump into a relationship when you're not physically or emotionally ready.

2020-02-18T19:22:50+00:00

You shouldn't have to chase a women if there's a mutual attraction. I just want to clarify that chasing makes you seem desperate. I believe in pursuing. Chasing is different from pursuing. The former is rejecting all other options, in lieu of a single lady. The latter is keeping your options open and going after the ones who reciprocates your effort, in hopes of finding the one.

I disagree with OP on women magically appearing on your footsteps. If you're not rich, fucking good looking, or famous, you're 99.9% of the time going after women in some way or form. 'Be yourself' holds true for most aspects for dating. Don't be afraid to show your rough edges.

2020-02-18T19:38:06+00:00

Let me fix your post:

Dont chase MEN

📷Fundamentals

Be the best version of yourself

focus on yourself

and they will magically appear on your door step.

SomeObliviousGuy · 2020-02-18T19:39:55+00:00

Instructions unclear, dick stuck in toaster

Naz_3000 · 2020-02-18T20:18:38+00:00

Bro your post is the biggest bull shit statement. You should never talk in public again.

2020-02-18T20:47:54+00:00

This is the worst advice without context... Women wouldn't notice you unless you're flashy or you make the approach...

ioncehadsexinapool · 2020-02-18T23:49:04+00:00

Tru tbh. Look at it this way, wanting women is just backwards, you’ve confused yourself. What you actually want is to be an excellent individual. “Perks” are merely physical manifestations that have a force as mysterious and sexy as gravity.(Such as wealth, health, and.....women too)

Anyway, the only way you can ever function as a human is by realizing you are the only person that will ever be there for yourself, and that’s okay. You can be the love that you need. If you are having trouble with that, maybe let yourself get just a little crazy for a little bit....

It only takes 1 manure to revitalize a dead soil field.

ubersaxy · 2020-02-19T02:31:41+00:00

Eh, it’s fun chasing them haha, just don’t be needy about it and have fun😎🤷🏼‍♂️

Radical899 · 2020-02-19T03:01:56+00:00

Yes, and in my experience most of the time they are a sociopath

plganon · 2020-02-19T09:15:00+00:00

> and they will magically appear on your door step.

dont think this is how real life works tho...

scarrax · 2020-02-20T13:40:07+00:00

Umm women don’t just magically appear on your doorstep that’s not how it works. You have to put yourself out there. Approaching is not chasing.

Humpzelot · 2020-02-20T19:38:31+00:00

This is facts. Literally went to a party with no intention to get laid, was dancing like no one was watching, and before i knew it a girl tapped me on the shoulder and we started making out. I was also getting a ride from a Designated Driver, and there were 6 people in the car. I told him to come get me the next round because i didnt want to ride in a crowded car and they asked me to ride with them

FireandIcejkjk · 2022-02-11T16:14:16+00:00

Remember bruh, girls are temporary but only bros and Doom are eternal.

Title	Dont chase women
Author	gandowks
Upvotes	240
Comments	77
Date	February 18, 2020 11:54 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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Dont chase MEN