There’s this girl from a social circle I have been trying to date, we have a lot of things in common, she held my hand at an event once, but every time I try to hint a date she stops replying my dms. Sometimes she won’t respond to my messages about her stories, so I don’t try to really hit on her.

Maybe I get nervous when I’m around her and come off as weird and she loses interest, or she’s too avoidant.

I’m thinking about next time I see her at an event to just ask her out for dinner since we both like vegan food and say something like “I can’t believe we have never gone out to try some vegan food, there’s this really good restaurant I have been meaning to try”.

If she rejects my invite, then that’s the last time I’ll ever think about asking her out again. Any tips? Maybe I should gradually gain more trust? I have never seen her date anyone, which makes me think she’s an avoidant dater.