I went for it

BuyerOfCoins · 2014-10-02T15:32:17+00:00

Hey good job man. Even though you were rejected you took a hige first step. A step that 80% of the people here don't take. Nice!!

Chrimunn · 2014-10-02T19:56:15+00:00

Nothing but positivity and reinforcement in this thread. Thanks so much all, it means a lot.

seeyoulaterinnovator · 2014-10-02T19:33:43+00:00

The thing that I recently noticed is that it's not the girl that makes us afraid, it's the idea of opening yourself to failure. The girl is replaceable, the courage is essential.
You have the courage. You'll go far kid.

throwingorgy · 2014-10-02T16:00:02+00:00

Don't let the result of this one dictate the confidence level on the next approach. Confidence is the #1 here ;-)

igrowimpatient · 2014-10-02T19:18:47+00:00

You never lose. You either Win or learn.

wirelezz · 2014-10-02T16:16:49+00:00

This is awesome. It's not that you got rejected. In fact, rejection is just part of this. It's the fact that

1) You decided to make a difference and went for it

2) You value the fact that even though you got rejected, you gave it a try.

You are so over your introverted years. Good for you OP!

Dr_Bishop · 2014-10-02T23:35:58+00:00

Unfortunately I got rejected, but I'm happy enough with myself for being able to do so.

The biggest "players" I know are also the guys who get rejected the most. You're handling it like a champ. Well done.

youlovethisish · 2014-10-02T20:01:52+00:00

If even one person is helped by the principles taught here...

http://myreactiongifs.com/gifs/happyguydance.gif

Spawndaemon · 2014-10-02T15:53:20+00:00

Great job man. Step 1. I love seeing failure stories on here so much more than success stories. Gotta just move on, she didn't like you but maybe the next one will. Improve your game and be successful.

KMuffin · 2014-10-02T16:12:21+00:00

FUCK YEAH!!! KEEP GOING!

richd506 · 2014-10-02T16:44:44+00:00

It feels good to be able to do it regardless of the circumstances. Most girls I've asked out were very kind about it which takes the pressure off.

jeffthehat · 2014-10-02T16:06:56+00:00

Congratulations, man. Keep going.

matt152005 · 2014-10-02T16:13:07+00:00

You're doing good man. Keep it up. Don't be discouraged. Plenty of fish in the ocean. Failure is a prerequisite for success.

Mechanickingpin · 2014-10-02T17:28:32+00:00

Good job man. Never give up.It sucks getting rejected but you move on and in the end someone will say yes.

Ftramza · 2014-10-02T17:37:59+00:00

There is NO such thing as rejection, well in my mind. There are just funny stories. Everytime a girl says they have a boyfriend, they aren't interested, or just give me a fake number all I think is... well it's her loss. I'm happy for you, I come from the same places as you. 40 pounds heavier and deep into world of warcraft.. -_-

seducedbycookies · 2014-10-02T17:41:32+00:00

I'm in the same position like you before overcoming yourself. You'll be my motivation to do it tonight right after work! Thank you and congratulations. You gotta ride the waves of this!

w0rld1 · 2014-10-02T20:03:12+00:00

Fuck. I need to take this step.. I've lurked, studied, but yet I can't get past the AA. Time for a change. Good for you, man!

bhaaat · 2014-10-02T20:08:03+00:00

Props to you for rolling past it. High school is a good time to develop social skills with women.

LarryLove · 2014-10-02T23:17:32+00:00

Good job, now do it again!

lioninawhat · 2014-10-02T23:19:18+00:00

Bro, you've got at least 14 more reps left in your pick-up set.

Corazon-DeLeon · 2014-10-03T08:23:51+00:00

I gotta ask, didn't you laugh after it was all over? I find myself laughing after almost every rejection. Realizing not only how easy it was, but how all the obstacles were really in your head.

Glad to see someone else stepping out of their comfort zone!

matthewfelgate · 2014-10-03T12:36:51+00:00

And so it begins :-)

2014-10-02T21:10:57+00:00

Now go and find ten more girls that you do not care about and ask them out as well. Ask them out with the intentions of not even following up on it. By the 6th, 7th, and 10th time it'll start to feel more natural, and you'll start to come across as more confident.

nobody2000 · 2014-10-03T02:07:53+00:00

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

~Wayne Scott

SamGill · 2014-10-02T22:42:07+00:00

no you didn't get rejected, it was success like you said. the outcome is irrelevant in fact. ask enough girls and you will get "success" but the real success like u said is doing something and not doing nothing.

SpaceToaster · 2014-10-02T23:03:38+00:00

Wasn't as bad as you thought it would be, was it?

kasoman · 2014-10-03T00:10:36+00:00

You got balls, bro!

RabbitEater · 2014-10-03T01:24:25+00:00

When you take these steps, you just reveal what is already there. If she wasn't into you then you'd be wasting your time. If she is, then she'll go along.

CentralValleyAsian · 2014-10-03T01:24:29+00:00

Awesome man!! Keep it up!!

ithearrow · 2014-10-03T02:25:23+00:00

Good job man! I hope you keep this attitude with you for your entire life, don't give up and give in to your fears :)

BurntScooby · 2014-10-03T05:13:49+00:00

One of my favorite kind of posts to read. Good job /u/Chrimunn !

addola · 2014-10-03T07:09:35+00:00

Great man! I remember one guy once said that to overcome this issue, go out with a friend, and try to get rejected as many times as possible... make it a contest!. I think it might have been David DeAngelo (an introverted nerd "INTP" like me).

When a woman reject you, tell her: "Well, don't say I never gave you a chance!". Specially if you have been playful with her. Always keep your head high!

DarkwaterV2 · 2014-10-03T07:11:29+00:00

Good on you, man. I remember the feeling. It's great! But just fyi: shyness and introversion are two very different things. You're talking about the former.

Carls36 · 2014-10-03T09:20:57+00:00

that leap was the hardest part from then on youre gonna be fine

dirtyuseaccount · 2014-10-03T13:52:02+00:00

Congratulations! You got done with that one.

selfsufficientnigga · 2014-10-03T16:29:43+00:00

Conquering that fear is more important than any single girl you could ever approach.

Congratulations.

bkane0712 · 2014-10-03T16:59:00+00:00

I'm curious. What happened? Like what was the situation and what did you ask/what did she say?

bjlmag · 2014-10-09T15:34:09+00:00

Remember reactions don't have everything to do with you. Don't take rejection personally, see it as the possibility that she was in a bad mood or had a long day etc.

cowokganteng · 2014-10-03T04:32:28+00:00

Bravo

Title	I went for it
Author	Chrimunn
Upvotes	622
Comments	60
Date	October 2, 2014 3:14 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2i3hfs/i_went_for_it/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/i-went-for-it.1377426 https://theredarchive.com/post/1377426

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