It’s been a long time since my last relationship and I’ve been single for a while now.
In the past, I’ve done cold approach a couple of times (back in college). One time I got an indirect rejection, and another time the girl directly said she was in a committed relationship. I don’t see those as failures anymore, the volume was extremely low, just 1–2 attempts, so rejection there is totally expected.
Lately I’ve been thinking more seriously about cold approach, and I keep hearing people compare it to sales. I actually relate to that analogy because I run a business and do cold outreach.
For example:
If I send 100 cold emails or DMs to prospects, realistically 95–99 will ignore me, and maybe 1–2 will reply positively. That’s roughly a 1% conversion rate, sometimes more, sometimes less.
So applying that same materialistic / technical thinking to dating:
If I do 100 cold approaches, assuming even a 1% positive response, I should get at least one genuine “yes”, meaning one woman who is interested in continuing things.
I know a girlfriend isn’t created instantly. It’s not just one yes and done, it’s weeks of mutual yeses. I get that. But even to reach that stage, there has to be an initial yes, and statistically that comes from exposure and volume.
For context:
I’m in my early 20s. I’d rate myself slightly above average facially (maybe a 6.5/10). I go to the gym regularly and have a good physique (wide shoulders, abs, decent muscle mass). I’ve gotten clear signs of interest from women in the past (eye contact, attention, etc.), so I don’t think I’m unattractive, but I’m also not claiming to be some 10/10 model.
Because of this, I’m planning to run a 100 cold approach experiment, likely over a week, doing around 14–15 approaches per day, mostly in malls.
I know cold approach is ideally about connection, conversation, curiosity, etc. But for the sake of discussion, I want to keep this strictly technical and probability based.
So my question is:
Is it fair to think that I’m roughly 100 approaches away from one solid initial yes, assuming a conservative 1% conversion rate?
And if not, where does this sales style logic break down?
Would like honest takes, especially from people who’ve actually done volume approaches.
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