Something I’ve been thinking about when it comes to approaching women.

When a guy approaches a woman or starts flirting with her, both people usually understand on some level what’s going on. The guy is attracted and sex is part of the motivation. The woman also knows that the guy is interested in her in that way. At the same time, women often look for qualities like strength, confidence, status, or resources in a man, things that historically tie into the whole protect and provide idea.

So if both sides have their own evolutionary drives or preferences, why is it that men are often shamed for theirs? A guy shows sexual interest and he quickly gets labeled as someone who “just wants to get in her pants” or a fuckboy. But when women openly prefer men who are successful, dominant, physically attractive, wealthy, or high status, that’s generally treated as normal.

I’m not saying women don’t want sex too. Obviously they do. What I’m wondering is why male sexual intent tends to be framed negatively while female preferences for high status or resourceful men are socially accepted.

Curious how people here think about this dynamic.