PracticalPickup: You Signed Up For Awkwardness - must read for 90% of the people that pass through here!

sammaverick · 2011-09-14T21:08:37+00:00

I'm planning on going out this weekend and opening sets for the first time, this is a good read to prepare for that.

unsexyMF · 2011-09-15T00:50:17+00:00

I'm glad more people are linking to Practical Pickup articles - they are usually gold.

Yotsubato · 2011-09-15T05:21:04+00:00

This is one of the few decent articles I've ever read on this topic. Until recently, I was getting laid occassionally and always opening with some BS "where did you get your earrings?" or whatever. I think the girls basically saw through it, they tend to be very intuitive. Obviously, some random dude doesn't give 1/2 a shit about your earrings. He wants to meet you and bang you.

So now I just say "Hi, I'm Peterclemenza, what's your name?" with a big smile and an extended hand. Essentially no chick turns it down. I don't care how hot, how young or old, whatever. And then we just converse. "Where are you from?" "Are you in school?" etc. until we get on to some more interesting stuff we may have in common or whatever. But that's the opener.

The massive advantage? Sincerity. And even more so, no standing around thinking "what should I say to her?" You say the exact same thing to every chick. So you can get started instantly. What you're tacitly saying is "I'm interested in you" and she can go with it or shoot you down, whatever. I cannot imagine how many times I missed out on getting laid because I was standing around too long thinking "what do I say to this one, or that one?"

It takes some confidence to do this, and to not think you need a "line," but it comes with time. And I swear to Christ, maybe 1% of girls give a rude, negative reaction to "Hi, what's your name". It's as inoffensive and friendly as it gets. And it works. I'm getting laid all the time lately doing it, no lie.

tl;dr: just say "hi, my name is X" and then get laid

synapticimpact · 2011-09-14T21:48:07+00:00

Saved for linking to half the new queue.

WolfInTheField · 2011-09-15T00:58:24+00:00

I like that it was very no-bullshit and practical, and the revelation that by going through the awkwardness phase, you're on the right path (pain period). However, this article denied one really fundamental thing. Whatever you do in this pickup game, it's going to improve you as long as you ACT. And guess what? It's going to be a fuckton of fun, too! If sarging weren't so much fun I wouldn't be doing it anymore, man.

2011-09-15T01:28:04+00:00

This is definitely true.

For a long time I did clever tricks and routines. It worked then and it works now. But it always felt fake.

What I've realized is that all the openers and tricks are really a crutch. Don't get me wrong, crutches are useful. I wouldn't be where I am today without them. And in fact I still use them sometimes. But the real meat and potatoes of pickup is just getting out there and talking to thousands of girls. The crutches are just there to give you the confidence you need to do that.

urfaselol · 2011-09-14T21:02:13+00:00

As my sister says: It's only awkward if you think its awkward.

SpiderFan · 2011-09-15T02:47:46+00:00

One of the best phrases in the community " you signed up for awkwardness"

Binxstar · 2011-09-15T14:40:45+00:00

Mark Manson is absolutely the man. If you are into "seduction" or "pickup" or just trying to get better with girls and you are not reading his blog www.practicalpickup.com you are missing out. His work and writing is always quality and no bullshit. Sometimes the things he says might make you uncomfortable but it's what you need to hear. I was pretty pumped today when I logged into /r/seduction and saw this on top. I hope he ends up seeing he made the top of the page today.

huyvanbin · 2011-09-15T02:11:13+00:00

I think this is a good article and the only thing that really needs to be said.

Lojak · 2011-09-15T18:22:11+00:00

“But look, you didn’t sign up for that. You may think you signed up for that. You may think that’s what you were getting into. But it’s not. You signed up for awkwardness. Lots and lots of awkwardness and uncomfortable social situations. That’s what this stuff really is.

Love this. It's so true.

choc_is_back · 2011-09-15T11:48:11+00:00

Aaaaaah that first time you went up to a girl, completely blew it and walked away, and realize you didn't really care and will forget about it real soon.

Guys that never experience this in their lives are a bit 'dying a virgin' if you ask me.

LivelyRoyale · 2011-09-15T21:52:05+00:00

Da' Vinci once said simplicity is the key to elegance and it pertains to this.

This article discusses what I consider to be the holy grail of meeting people.

Nike also has a famous saying that applies to this. Just fucking do it.

Title	PracticalPickup: You Signed Up For Awkwardness - must read for 90% of the people that pass through here!
Author	MoussakaMan
Upvotes	194
Comments	44
Date	September 14, 2011 8:04 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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