For those who don't know me I've been in a field for a year now, and I live in one of the biggest pick up cities. I go out a lot, just went out yesterday, although I don't write FR's anymore unless it's something exciting like make out, venue change, a date, or a lay.

There is a bar I go to that has about 5-15 puas in a given night. Sometimes I talk to them for a minute, but then I end up ditching them, for the reasons below, most of them are there for mental masturbation and ego validation seeking, and get absolutely no results, except for maybe 1 or 2 out of 15.

So here are the tips

  1. When you're out at night, do not talk about pick up. You should be opening girls instead.
  2. Stay away from people who talk about pick up when they're out at night, these are the people who do not get the girls.
  3. Don't bullshit yourself, there is way too much fucking theory out there, just take action (open sets, build connections, and escalate)
  4. Don't think what you could have done, or couldn't, to get that one set. Just keep opening more and more sets. When you get home then you could think about what you could have done to improve. Usually it's not something specific to a set, but a symptom of a bigger problem: lack of sexual confidence, not being assertive, conversation, etc..
  5. You can not win every girl, rejection is part of the game, rejection is a TOOL used for screening which girls are DTF or dateable, or which aren't. If you're not getting rejected, you're not pushing yourself or being assertive enough.
  6. Do not stand around doing nothing, understand that you're avoiding your fears
  7. Don't bullshit yourself with "I'm just here to have fun", no you came out to pickup, if you're not talking to girls, you're bullshitting yourself. Also don't bullshit yourself with theory and talking to other people about it (like in point 3.)
  8. Don't eject, anyone who tells you that they are "building social proof" or "planting seeds" is bullshitting himself and is not getting any results. Open the set, and stick in there regardless how uncomfortable it feels, you need to work through your comfort zone and that's the best way to desensitize it. The goal should be to open a set, build a connection, find out how DTF they are, get logistics, escalate, and then try to bounce them. If they are not DTF/bad logistics, get her phone number and find a new girl. This can take anywhere from 10 minutes to 30 minutes. Most beginners have problems with ejecting though, rather than being in the set for too long, so at least try to stick in for 5-10 minutes.
  9. Only way to get better is to desensitize your fears, this means you need to go out everyday, and do 3-5 approaches, at least 20-30 approaches a week. When you're out at night, try to do 3-4 approaches per hour. Once you overcome one fear, you will find another fear, you need to keep on pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, that's the only way to improve, no theory can do that for you.
  10. Last but not least, stop all the bullshit theory and mental masturbation. Just take action, and when you get stuck at a sticking point or fear you can read a little bit of theory on how to find a solution and take action again. First priority is action. Only the bold and those who take risks are rewarded.

I hope to see more field reports on seddit. Cheers!