Someone needs to say it

jackbrux · 2014-09-27T18:59:41+00:00

To add, I think it's a terrible idea to acknowledge it, e.g. "This is kinda creepy but we should go out for lunch". Similar thing when inviting a girl over: "Come round! I'm not a crazy rapist murderer!". Don't do it.

If you feel the need I suppose you could say "random" instead of creepy, but I think you should just act like asking someone out is a normal thing that you do all the time.

lonestandingone · 2014-09-27T19:03:28+00:00

I'm from Brazil, maybe things are different here. When a girl is interested and I give the slightest indication that I find them hot, and I don't act, usually they think I'm creepy. Much less creepy is being rejected.

Radicalmattitude1 · 2014-09-27T21:07:03+00:00

If you want to get good at seduction , you're going to come off as "creepy" from time to time.

Don't be ashamed of this. Just get over it .

Ask a girl to describe a "creepy" guy to you. It's actually hard to put a finger on, they just know a creepy guy when they see him.

The ironic thing is that many times you are walking a thin line between, edgy/confident and weird/creepy. The trick is to calibrate on the right side of the fence.

chrismakestv · 2014-09-27T19:52:54+00:00

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chainlinks · 2014-09-27T21:37:35+00:00

When I was heavy into the night game scene my friends would always call me creepy.

While they were wall hugging and I was smiling and laughing talking to scantly clad young women.

borntoperform · 2014-09-28T03:45:06+00:00

This is my mindset: you have to risk being creepy, or rude, or disrespectful if you want to be good with interacting with people.

My day job is sales, so I talk to people all day. My conversations with customers can't all be one huge release of dopamine, where I make the customer feel good about the product. I have to create tension as well by challenging the person, showing risk, consequences, etc. Drawing a parallel of this with pick up and seduction, you take jabs at her, challenge her, break rapport for the purpose of seeing if she's a good fit for you, just like when I see if a prospect is a good fit for me and what I sell. I risk prospects swearing at me, demanding to complain to my boss, and all that. But I'm also a great salesman, because enough customer have told me I've done the best presentations they've ever seen.

Don't worry about the outcome, for you are the prize regardless of the what the girl thinks of you or not.

I love push-pull routines, because I do them for work: "You know I don't think you're a good fit for our product." is the same as telling a girl, "You're a Lakers fan? Ugh, I don't think we can get along." I'm pushing them away, and they either come back on their own or I can reel them back in myself with a pull like "What other teams do you root for then? Oh the A's? Ok, you've redeemed yourself a little bit right there."

For some people and some girls, I am rude. I am loud. I am annoying. That's cool, I don't care what you think. We wouldn't get along anyway. ^{^{^{^See}}} ^{^{^{^what}}} ^{^{^{^I}}} ^{^{^{^did}}} ^{^{^{^there?}}}

BrowDawg · 2014-09-27T18:44:00+00:00

I needed to hear this.

pacg · 2014-09-27T23:46:04+00:00

I dunno. I've given plenty of complements to women I've never met and they seem to take it really well. The key as I reckon it is never expect anything in return, not even a thank you (because it's not about them), don't linger like you're waiting for something to happen, and always be sincere.

Amapola_ · 2014-09-28T03:10:24+00:00

Pointing this out isn't going inject confidence or self esteem in anyone, which is the root problem here.

I read this as "Hey you know how you're being creepy, you should just stop. I mean, I believe in myself. I understand that being worried about being creepy is detrimental, and you might too but just stop it okay? tks."

0coo1 · 2014-09-28T04:54:13+00:00

Seduction, turning creeps into casanovas.

Not_Brannigan · 2014-09-28T14:20:42+00:00

Trying to avoid being seen as creepy really interferes with your game, and is the epitome of a lack of confidence.

delphinauge · 2014-09-28T09:40:38+00:00

If the fear of being creepy holds you back, you're a pussy! Why? You care way too much about what girls will think of you!

Use common sense, do not act completely psycho and if a girl still thinks you're creepy she has an identity issue regarding her sexuality, next.

Fuck all the concerns, do what you what and stop caring so much about what girls will think of you, you pussies!

Qwerty10110 · 2014-09-27T22:47:23+00:00

Creepy is misunderstanding social expectations. Fitting in is important. Not being socially inappropriate is important.

Sugababy22 · 2014-09-28T19:44:30+00:00

If you're in the game of pick up, then you will come off as creepy at more than one point to certain women. It's just something you have to realize and accept.

alex0919 · 2014-09-28T23:35:04+00:00

It really does, sometimes things I say here get called creepy, and I'm just laughing to myself. I check back here sometimes, but I'm un-subbed because of the paranoid teenagers with super ego protection.

Look, if a girl likes you (BELIEVE IT OR NOT GIRLS LIKE YOU IF YOU'RE ATTRACTIVE TO THEM), you can get away with saying things you guys think are "creepy". Creepy is what some guys do, maybe even you guys who think my comments are creepy:

Keep talking to girls, about random shit, and never ever taking any risks to make sexual jokes, touch them, or move things forward. That's creepy, you keep talking, and she asks herself, "Is this kid ever going to fuck me?". Believe it or not, girls won't bend over for you, you need to escalate to intimacy. Because god forbid your whole fucking fantasy world comes crashing down if this one girl you're infatuated with happens to not be interested in you. Then, here's the kicker, you need to go find a new girl that likes you!

Thanks, best post on here in a minute, I look down on a lot of posts here as confused people who are just beginners. Re-subbed.

Let's give a super easy example to some of you:

If a hot ass model with a great sense of self and ambitious personality said, "Do you enjoy talking to me? Do you want to keep spending time with me? Then let's go somewhere quieter than here ;)" you'd eat it up, if I said it to you, and you're not gay, you'd think it's creepy. Now imagine James Bond or Leo DiCaprio saying that to a girl, she'd eat it up, why? BECAUSE THEY ARE ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN!

Crazy epiphanies today, gentlemen.

P.S. This isn't really directed at this sub as a whole, some contributors are genuinely thankful for my advice/comments, and the mods here for the most part know all their shit.

lulalars · 2014-09-28T23:38:35+00:00

Who the fuck cares! It is better to do something and look like a creep than to do nothing. And there's millions of girls out there. You will find another girl.

GalwayUW · 2014-09-29T04:25:35+00:00

I think sometimes people mean to say something like "not classy". Meeting someone by randomly grinding up behind her can be said to be "creepy", but really it's 100% not classy. Be better men.

rmbarnes · 2014-09-29T12:50:03+00:00

Creepy guys get laid.

daza19 · 2014-09-28T03:18:58+00:00

lookiamapollo · 2014-09-27T22:47:39+00:00

It is a probability distribution of girls that like you vs those that don't. Some girls will like you no matter what you do. Some won't no matter what you do.

It is just about moving your median of your distribution to a higher percentile.

Title	Someone needs to say it
Author	statclasssucks
Upvotes	280
Comments	46
Date	September 27, 2014 4:27 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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