Hey guys,

I had a tinder date yesterday and came across this little „trick“ to perfectly set the frame for the kiss. So we met at a bar, had some drinks, everything went well. After quiet some time my date comes across with a game she‘d like to play.

I don‘t have a name for it, you might already know it. Basically, you try to cold read each other and make a statement about the other person. If your statement is correct, the other person drinks, if it‘s wrong you drink. You play it back and forth. I started off with basic things like „You had a family dog“ and steered the questions towards more personal and sexual ones towards the end.

How I went for the kiss: So after we‘ve been playing for some rounds and the mood was good (which it will be with this game, trust me it’s so fun) it was my turn again. While maintaining strong eye contact, my statement was: „you find me attractive“. She drank and said „well you are nice to look at“. Her turn. Me: „You want to kiss me right now!“. She drank. Then I went for it.

This „technique“ is great on so many levels:

  • Of course it still takes balls to ask these questions in the first place, but a rejection would always be soft. You didn‘t commit much.
  • It is easy to create sexual tension (generally with this game)
  • You don‘t have to wait for the right moment, like her positioning etc.
  • You can wait as long as you want to ask these questions (although I would advise to ask these two or the likes in consecution).
  • It enables you to test the waters, let HER make a commitment by taking a sip, and still be seen as direct and confident, because you don‘t phrase it as a question, but a statement

I hope this can be of use, I will definitely incorporate it in my repertoire of „dating tools“. This has honestly been kinda eye-opening to me now!

Have fun guys, cheers!

edit: Afterwards we went to her place, she cooked something and had sex. I slept two hours. This has also only been my second girl (first was 2 months ago)