Women’s Seduction Subreddit?

Captain_w00t · 2024-11-28T10:32:30+00:00

This sub is open to every genre. The fact that girls/women get some lame advice is because there are more guys that gals here, so you need to filter for quality.

From a (personal) mod point of view, creating a sub for women won’t stop guys to participate, you can stop scammers/spammers, but you can’t distinguish genres from behind a screen.

Necessary-Jaguar4775 · 2024-11-26T16:11:55+00:00

I think maybe there should be a different subreddit. This sub is already overwhelmingly male centric and to be honest, the dating startegy for men and women are totally different.

I personally think the advice given to women before was much more in line with what women have to do to be succsesful (Be pretty, have, have grace, be demure, be feminine and pleasant but also knowledagble and worldy with interesting pursuits). But I am not an expert here, so would be good to have another sub to focs on succesful seduction for women, which is so different. I don't think most male dating coaches would be successful at teaching women how to get what they want, you need your own space probably with successful women chipping in.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-11-26T16:28:51+00:00

I wanna be lost in the weeds, too.

But seriously, I agree with you. Once in a while there’s a woman posting here, tho. And the responses are pretty good.

On surface level yes women choose, men just peacock. Women “don’t have to do anything, just show cleavages and men will drool over you.” Yet if you look deeper there’s a huge problem and even disconnect between men and women.

Just because there are men who are full of shit or pricks, doesn’t mean that women are perfect or don’t have to be held accountable. They also need to work on themselves, how to be a “better me”, to compromise, to understand men.

My biggest pet peeve on women when they believe only men have red flags. This is why many of them really love to boast that famous saying “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.” No girl, you’re just crazy.

boydsmith111 · 2024-11-26T17:17:20+00:00

It surprises me that above average women don't find dates

Maybe LTR understandable that it is difficult to find a guy u want

But, dates?

You might be missing something small OP

Have u tried online dating? One of my lady friends is average looking and she got a lot of matches

yazzooClay · 2024-11-26T19:06:29+00:00

women can seduce like fish can swim, I don't think they need a subreddit lol

Physicist_Dinosaur · 2024-11-27T17:16:46+00:00

Women are the guardians of sex. Men are the guardians of relationships.

That's what women seduction is mostly oriented to. How to keep a guy, after testing and filtering THEM correctly.

If they just want sex, they just have to ask for it, and somebody will accept. If they want to keep that guy or make him commit, she must resist and make him wait. But a true man won't wait for long, so she must calibrate that too.

They don't have it as easy as most of us men think.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2024-11-26T17:04:10+00:00

lol you’ve seen how many messages and likes average and below average women get on dating apps, right?

They’ll be ok.

Basquests · 2024-11-26T15:30:27+00:00

If you work on yourself - health, fitness, knowledge and most importantly, how you communicate / soft skills, that's pretty much 80-90% of the job.

There's plenty of those subs.

I have this one cause I haven't binned it, and occasionally there is some wisdom / reminder of how poorly the average fella is doing and to let your qualities and principles shine through.

ratfooshi · 2024-11-27T19:07:12+00:00

We shouldn't have to create a new sub.

The men on here should just understand that seduction isn't limited to men.

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2024-11-26T18:14:49+00:00

It would be interesting to help with the process, but we’d have to be on the same page of information on how seduction succeeds, the psychology and characters of both men and women, where the basis of information is being filtered through, and how dating in general is evolving. Because the language barrier between men and women is growing as far as the rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer.

Depending on if some people are serious about this, I’d put a couple hours a week to help out with giving advice on what works and what doesn’t from a man’s side of view.

Non-Intelligent_Tea · 2024-11-27T05:15:16+00:00

I don't really know that male attraction is really all that different than female. I will say that men have had the same problem with talking about seduction with women that you're saying. i.e. they give bad advice.

I'd say just ignore the haters.

semi-Wonder_Woman · 2024-11-27T05:33:18+00:00

Absolutely! For a few reasons:

1) I can only speak for myself but it would be great if we could build each other up and help one another identify possible red flags or when we are being the toxic ones

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2) I have personally never been with another female although I'm interested in I've always been attracted I just get really shy and pretty stupid I guess when it comes down to actually sealing the deal and it's frustrating so I could definitely use some Pro tips

jaykaizen · 2024-11-27T11:12:21+00:00

you make yourself seem like quite the catch, while also claiming to have low standards. there is only a couple options imo:

a) you aren't as attractive as you think you are.

b) you are very attractive and you intimidate men.

c) you arent putting youself out there enough.

you say you aren't getting good results but are you using dating apps? this is typically where women have the advantage over men in the dating game.

Chomprz · 2024-11-27T14:18:27+00:00

I’d be down, OP. Sounds fun and would like to hear more tips and stories from others.

johnmaguire1994 · 2024-11-26T15:36:41+00:00

theres no point because girls dont need dating advice at all. all they have to do is show up and look good, anyone can do that. the man has to take initiative, planning, be charismatic, etc....

kurtcobain911 · 2024-11-27T01:34:07+00:00

I've helped women with dating in the past. It's a matter of understanding the complex differences in psychology and dating strategies that I've noticed help women improve the most. Feel free to DM if you want specific advice

Ok_Homework6432 · 2024-11-27T12:48:45+00:00

I am no guru. Just an incredibly average 29YO M. At least when it comes to dating. My personal experience says that most people just suck at conversing and being interesting. Myself included. I think it could be any number of things but here are my hunches.

1) Aging, different things become important to different people. 2) past experience, tags along with the first. Most people have had a shitty relationship or two at this point and are hesitant to put themselves out there or trust. (At least for me that rings true) 3) Covid shut downs and more of our interactions happening online and not IRL are crippling most of the population socially.

Just some thoughts. It may have nothing to do with you or maybe you’re not interesting to who you’re trying to attract.

hereforthedoggos · 2024-11-27T21:35:09+00:00

I was just about to post the same thing OP. I feel like I’m experiencing this exact same thing at the moment.

For ref I finally got a date after a couple years. Went well. Started to make plans for the second date. He has to travel for work now, and the communication is now me driving it while he’s traveling for work. Now just saw he left my last message on read. Fun times.

red_romeo · 2024-11-28T07:25:48+00:00

I'm going to circumvent your question and gently drop advice:

I'd suggest reading How To Not Die Alone by Logan Ury. It gives great advice on modern dating in general, as well as finding your blind spots.

I recently went out with a woman who was looking for a romantic (emphasis on romantic) partner. In my experience, she was unshakable in her values and gave me very little wiggle room in regards to long-term goals. In the end I knew we were incompatible because it felt like I wouldn't be able to express myself without judgment. I also believed that what she was looking for wasn't me per se but the idea of being in a romantic relationship, which put A LOT of pressure on me.

Now I don't know you, but you do give off some of the vibes I felt with her. Your OLD bio has a lot of limiting/negative words like "No penpal" and "who can keep up?" and not really conducive to openness (the book goes into more detail on this), and the way you've been interacting with the other members here has been in a limiting viewpoint as well. Not saying you are this person in real life, but what we have here in the post/comments is the only image we have of you.

Good luck out there. No matter how hot/attractive/intelligent you are, the dating world is hard for everyone. I just hope you're looking at the person in front of you out of curiosity to know them and without the expectation of getting into a relationship.

Matilozano96 · 2024-11-28T12:26:48+00:00

Yeah, it sucks that that’s your experience here. This sub can be a bit echo-chambery sometimes.

HOWEVER, it would be pretty helpful if you could describe your interactions with detail.

Things said, jokes made, ackward silences, what you dressed like, how your friends acted around the situation. Anything can make an interaction fizzle out. The more details you produce, the easier for a dude to understand the situation from their perspective and give an answer.

I’d be interested in pitching in for something like this, tbh. I’m no expert but I’m quite familiar with the dude mindset haha.

Good luck.

Edit: oh, yeah, I’ve seen your posts. Yours really seems like a weird case haha

Puzzleheaded-Pin-558 · 2024-11-30T14:09:23+00:00

If you are not getting dates youre either 1. Ugly or fat: lose weight and use makeup 2. Pretty but insufferable: change your attitude

There are no other reasons or weird causes of why youre not getting dates.

Ive met quite a lot of very attractive women and the ones that didnt have a bf would fall into either one of those categories.

Theres also something else at play which is that many girls Ive been with were pretty amazed with me because I actually treated them with respect and gave them a lot of love. I do this consciously because I like making girls feel good but thats not most men.

And the times I hurt women is because I genuinely dont care (theyre either ugly or annoying).

Where im going with this is that you dont get to chose what type of man goes after you, if you have the lowest barrier of entry then any schmuck will make you lose your time and actual good candidates like me will go for "harder" women.

Id recommend that you raise your standards, make it more difficult for the men you see (but not impossible) and if you want an honest opinion about your appearance send me your ig in a dm.

mredge73 · 2024-11-26T18:22:41+00:00

Remember that suduction is about sex. In my opinion, it isn't that much different. Men are just simpler and appreciate direct messaging. The rest is pretty much the same. Increase attraction by flirting and touching, make him feel emotionally safe, and then commit.

Many women need help with approaching or being approachable. This would be a good subreddit to browse through if you find it. You need to put out the vibe that you are a sexual creature and are available for pursuit. Keep your head up and look into the soul of the guy you think is attractive. "Fuck Me" eyes will get his attention. In a mixed environment, half will be in relationships and blind to your charms. Half again will not return the gesture therefore not find you attractive. Half again simply won't have the courage to approach. 1/10 will approach you. Reward his courage with an opening compliment and flirt your lady balls off.

ballfond · 2024-11-26T18:13:03+00:00

I think it should be named something like taming which focuses on making men more agreeable to you or attached to you instead of treating you as use and throw because for men seduction can mean as a ladder to getting laid but for women it may be important to have someone see them as relationship material or high value as getting laid is not hard for them

miyass_miyass · 2024-11-27T06:34:51+00:00

Yes I'd say you're not going to be well-served here as a woman unless you want insight into the mindset and challenges of 1) men struggling with dating and 2) men who are training to become womanisers. Some of the advice given here will have a grain of truth in it but for the most part it's going to be coming from a place of male insecurity rather than understanding what constitutes female success.

NiceGuysDatingCoach · 2024-11-26T22:16:32+00:00

I read your replies, and my current hypothesis is that you are too intelligent. Have you ever taken an IQ test? My bubble is full of highly intelligent people, and some of the girls describe exactly your experiences.

WhySoManyRedditAccs · 2024-11-26T20:20:56+00:00

Could you explain more about what you’re looking to get or what seduction means to you? Seduction in the common dating sense is mostly just getting someone to be attracted to you and have sex which is basically just showing any interest in a guy and letting them know in which case it will likely lead to it.

My understanding is the thing women have trouble with is getting a decent guy to start off with and then getting that guy to have a long term relationship. Which is less seduction and more just relationship advice

Fast-Expert-9799 · 2024-11-26T21:33:58+00:00

For some reason, when I make a post on this sub, it does not go through.

But it will allow me to comment on other people's posts. So apologies if this is off topic.

I have been in cold approach daygame for 6 years on and off. Since September I have been averaging 12-15 approaches per week.

I will often get a number once in about 15-20 approaches. But when I text the number, the girl doesn't respond.

Could you please shed some light on why this is?

Thank you.

KingTrey7 · 2024-11-26T22:54:20+00:00

I wouldn’t say that there needs to be a seduction subreddit for women, as the vast majority of women don’t have trouble seducing who they want. Obviously there are outliers which sounds like is you, but as someone else has said, maybe a subreddit for getting guys to commit. But, from what I’ve read from you in the comments, I don’t see a clear end goal. I saw you said “i want to meet more men” in response to somebody, but if you are getting matches and you’re actually attractive that shouldn’t be a problem unless you’re presenting yourself very terribly. Further, I would also question if your standards are actually that low, since that’s subjective, and typically, low value men would more than likely chase like a dog after any female attention they can get. I will add age and location could play a factor in the struggle too. You also must factor in that if you usually go after a certain type, your look, vibe, etc must be congruent with what your type usually pursues in order to get the most desirable results.

redspikedog · 2024-11-27T02:26:54+00:00

I wouldn't mind helping out with it. Ill create banner and subreddit icon. And Post some good content to get it going.

I am also going to let you know now:

Woman hate being told what to do. They want to believe what they think is right, not what works.

For example, if you tell them to treat their potential partner like a friend on a date - as an paying for some of the dinners, or the tickets to a game, he will see that and think she cares.

A woman will be like "OH HELL NO HE HAS TO PAY FOR ME IF HE WANTS ME" ..but you want him too, right?? anyways, yeah it can be difficult. However, I believe their are women who do want to take it seriously.

SPKEN · 2024-11-27T05:15:27+00:00

Be direct is good advice. If you think it isn't then it's probably because you're the exact kind of woman that will do anything and everything except ask for what you want and thus are the kind that need to be more direct. Showing up in a space isn't enough, use your big girl words like the adult that you are.

I encourage you to make your own sub, I will enjoy seeing how many variations of the classic "take no actual action and wait for him to read your mind" y'all can create before it occurs to any of y'all that taking real physical steps are the only way to move forward.

And when a woman says that I'm sure you'll downvote her to oblivion.

2024-11-27T01:37:29+00:00

Lmao, literally every woman I’ve slept with just looked at me with a smile and desire. That’s basically all it took. It’s men who need to know how to “seduce”, not women

Title	Women’s Seduction Subreddit?
Author	PleaseDontBeTakenPlz
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Date	November 26, 2024 2:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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