Nothings getting better

Jbr74 · 2023-02-24T19:58:53+00:00

No bitch is worth it, believe me.

Nearly 4 years ago, I was in the same place and tried to end my life.

Spent a few days in a coma and a month in the hospital.

Now I look back and say man I was an idiot for letting someone so horrible herself, make me want to end my life. I would have missed out on so much including becoming a Grandpa this coming July.

I get how bad you feel, its horrible, but you have to find a better way to get past it, I know it doesn't seem right now that it's temporary, but it is.

3x15 · 2023-02-24T16:25:27+00:00

Music always helps me, maybe it can help you -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUiInhwNq6o

I've been separated (foolishly) nearly 4 years and in that time I've watched both my parents slowly die from dementia while my kids alienated me to please their Mom. We finally got the divorce process started a few weeks ago.

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2023-02-24T17:21:09+00:00

1800 273 8500 call them up when you’re having those feelings

whatamoniker1 · 2023-02-24T18:41:59+00:00

Please please please, dont use a permanent solution for a temporary problem! It's dark right now, and things are tough. But so are you. You will make it through this!

If you're going through hell, keep going

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2023-02-24T16:01:34+00:00

No woman is worth dying for. Keep your chin up and push through. Lots of success stories on this subreddit on people who are much happier post divorce but you have to want it. YOU. Not me or anyone else.

georeddit2018 · 2023-02-24T17:02:23+00:00

I am going through something similar after breakup. Me deleting myself will only make her happy. You can still get your life back even after a failed relationship. I remember you posting dew weeks ago, please try not to do what you have in mind.

SelectionNo3078 · 2023-02-24T15:49:48+00:00

I do the same thing sometimes

The worst is when it’s after the gym which should be my best time physically emotionally and intellectually

When I think about suicide I usually think jumping is the best path for me

Please find someone to talk to. A suicide hot line or something

Don’t do it

There will be a new love in your future

You might always miss and think about your ex.

Life goes on

You can make it

rickyspanish12345 · 2023-02-24T20:12:05+00:00

Everything is going be okay. You’ll get over this and I promise in a few years you’ll be laughing about all of this. Feel free to DM me if your feeling at risk. I’d be happy to chat

Jonger1150 · 2023-02-24T20:30:23+00:00

Don't do it.

You can recover from this. Heck, even find a new woman who will be even better.

Don't miss out because of someone who didn't want you.

Shovelhead8477 · 2023-02-24T17:57:03+00:00

My wife of 20+ years decided she wanted to split last year. I don’t blame her for this, because I know I have more than enough blame for where we ended up. In an instant, I felt my entire life come to a screeching halt. I had my pistol in my hand, and wanting everything to end. That was almost 9 months ago. I found a therapist and men’s group. I’ve lost weight. My career has continued to advance. Women have shown interest in me. I know things seem bleak right now, but I promise you there is plenty of life for you to live and enjoy. You will find happiness. Give it time. Take care of yourself. Make you a priority in your life. As shitty as the internet can be, this group is full of support for people in your exact situation.

PreviousFuel8980 · 2023-02-24T16:30:02+00:00

You have to change your mindset to not revolve around women. Focus your life on yourself 100%. Youll be good man. Many men have walked your path and it is a shared struggle.

007--Chill · 2023-02-24T20:48:44+00:00

Yoo there is plenty of fish! No woman is worth it. Fk stuff like this happens to create a new chapter in life. Make your book better

Tricky_Ice_7493 · 2023-02-24T22:16:03+00:00

If you Jill yourself, your ex is going to feel nothing, move on quicker, and relish the moment as the victim in your suicide. Just a thought. No one wins by you doing that.

SJSHARKMIKE · 2023-02-25T00:20:03+00:00

You're not the only one brother. They say 1 and 8 divorces end with the male committing suicide that's f****** crazy isn't it. I don't know how accurate that fact is but f*** I feel like I'm number 8. The only thing that keeps me from doing it is knowing how much it would hurt my kids And my mom. My dad just passed away so I wouldn't want to burden my family with more problems but That being said it feels like everybody's all caught up in that and I have nowhere to go. I don't even want to go to my friends with my problems because that b**** started seeing somebody that hangs out with all my friends.

glassofwater05 · 2023-02-24T17:19:00+00:00

Please listen/read the Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. It totally helped me put things into perspective. One of the other books in the series, preventative medicine, has a chapter dedicated to what you are going through. His brother in law committed suicide after a divorce, so he had a mission to make sure others don't.

I've been married for 18 years to a great woman. She is cute, successful, fun... she filed in December, and I was right where you are. Had I read this book years ago, I'd still be happily married.

What has helped me is I keep trying to remember all of her faults, and know that our divorce may actually be a gift. I don't know why I still want her, but I'm slowly realizing that my life may actually be better in the future.

You'll get there brother. Just hang on. Therapy could really help too. Just someone to talk to. I couldn't get through my first few session without breaking down. I'm in a much better place now, and if you give it some time, you will be too.

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-02-24T16:00:47+00:00

Don't solve a temporary problem with a permanent solution.

It’s up to you which handle you will grab: Resentment, bitterness, anger, unfairness or forgiveness, strength, fortitude, looking for the good, of looking for what you might do with what has happened. It’s the faculty of choice to grasp the problem or the opportunity. There’s always some good hiding in or around the bad. You have to look for it and grab hold of it. This is how we thrive in life. It’s not easy to accept pain and suffering in life. None of that feels great. You must have a love of challenges and embracing adversity. It’s training for what the world is throwing at us every day, not resignation or pessimism. It is bold optimism fused with determination. Turn what you have to do into what you get to do. Turn what life throws at you into fuel for the fire that is making you great.

Responsible_Ice2426 · 2023-02-24T22:18:55+00:00

go to pharmacy get valerian root. Put about 5-10 drops in your coffee or tea. It will help with the thoughts and give you some calm in your mind. Every morning take few drops until you feel better.

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-02-24T22:49:43+00:00

I know it may not help but I wanted to share this with you please don’t laugh - it’s helped me through the last few grim years . It’s calming Elf Music. I hope you find your will to live again - Love and Hugs 🤗 .. Sorry things suck for you hang in there xx

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=asyvA7XjZnw&t=9s&pp=2AEJkAIB

condom_schmomdom · 2023-02-25T01:06:46+00:00

It’s easy to day “just don’t be sad”, but you have to prime your physiology for a different mood. It won’t happen by itself. 1. Proper breathing, then…1. Cold shower. 2. Hard cardio (1 minute max effort. As many burpees as you can. 3. Cold shower. Repeat a few times. Stay away from sugars. Get sleep. Huberman Lab has a ton of info on physiological techniques to self improvement. https://youtu.be/PZ-GvIOhcf8

keefhalek · 2023-02-25T01:24:21+00:00

We are here for you. It’s going to get better! Promise!

AcrobaticStick2432 · 2023-02-25T03:24:13+00:00

NO ONE - no exceptions - is worth that. NO ONE.

You are the most valuable person of your life.

caseyjshu · 2023-02-25T01:41:41+00:00

It does get better but it takes time. Its a scar that never goes away. Many of us have been where you are and come out better people. Ending your life is not the answer. Its the ultimate selfish evil act. Finding new things to do and people to do it with will go far. Go talk to a professional before you do something you and those who care about you will regret.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2023-02-25T00:43:42+00:00

https://youtu.be/ucY6NwQTI3M

polarshred · 2023-02-25T02:03:36+00:00

These tough times are an opportunity to grow. Imagine the person you will be once you get through this (and you will get through this). You will be tougher, wiser, more resilient, and more apprective of the life you have. Soon You'll be able to share these good qualities to the benefit of those around you.

Sometime you'll look back and say these struggles were the best thing that ever happened to you.

rumble_salt · 2023-02-25T12:26:57+00:00

You ever see Lovesome Dove?

There’s a part in the movie where Robert Duvall says “They’re just whores.”

It stuck with me.

The important part of life is living. Don’t get hung up on the problems.

Jasey_Cones · 2023-02-25T19:07:55+00:00

Hi everyone I'm still here somehow. Still at work since I'm a trucker in England I don't finish work until Tuesday. Working nights every night. I'm sat on a chair in a shitty run down distribution centre about to drink cup of tomato soup with croutons out of a vending machine. Then I'm off to Wales (not the bridge) Pembrokeshire for a load. Thanks for the comments. You're all strangers, and since I only see your comments in the form of pixels on a phone it's almost as if you don't exist but still, despite not any of you physically being here to give me a handshake or pat on the back... Thank you for trying to help me.

IcyEntertainment8673 · 2023-02-25T04:39:28+00:00

Are you my husband?

He’s professed his love for me multiple times since we split a year ago. I lurk here for perspective.

Dear Husband (OP),

You don’t want me back. Our relationship ended long before I (she) took the step to mention the word ‘divorce’. In my mind, you’d be the last man on earth and I still wouldn’t want you back. Maybe for convenience, maybe to grab a bite to eat and TRY to relive a good moment, maybe to make myself feel better, maybe out of pity for you or maybe to see if there’s something to fix. But deep down, it’s dead. Move on. You don’t want me back, I don’t want you back.

Best of luck OP. I hope you (my ex) find healing.

Title	Nothings getting better
Author	Jasey_Cones
Upvotes	8
Comments	29
Date	February 24, 2023 3:43 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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