Child Abuse Apologists -- "She's just overwhelmed!"

NonbinaryYolo · 2024-08-30T20:08:46+00:00

This is something I've experienced when talking about my rape too. If I bring up the fact that I've been raped, and abused by women, the majority of the time on reddit I'll have someone commenting "I'm sorry that happened to you, but you need to understand this is caused by patriarchy".

Like... wtf... How hard is it to say women can be predatorial?

Last time I brought it up the response I got was "Rape against women is a systemic issue. Rape against men are isolated incidents".

Burning_Burps · 2024-08-30T20:38:27+00:00

When a man is abusive, all men are expected to take accountability.

When a woman is abusive, not only is she rarely held accountable, but she is also portrayed as being a helpless victim to patriarchy.

There is no justification for abusing a child, and anyone who tries to justify abusive behavior toward children has a broken moral compass.

managedheap84 · 2024-08-30T21:36:57+00:00

How do you fail as a women these days? You can literally abuse children and it’s the man’s fault for not being home enough.

There is so much Infantilisation of women and lack of accountability to their actions

KordisMenthis · 2024-08-30T22:36:13+00:00

These subs are dreadful for this and I hate it.

I remember one where a woman said that her marriage was perfect except that her husband closes jars too tight. OP talked about screaming at her partner so loud the neighbours were commenting on it, and there wasn't any really clear cut evidence that he was even responsible for the jars being tight.

The comments all concluded that he must be an abuser who is pretending to be perfect but secretly tightening jars to try to subtly undermine her sanity. Only one or two people seemed to pick up on how unhinged the post was and the fact the she was screaming at him so much over this was problematic.

eldred2 · 2024-08-30T23:28:35+00:00

Funny how when it's a man doing it, there are no excuses, and when a woman does, it's all excuses.

rammo123 · 2024-08-31T00:43:59+00:00

The mental gymnastics people are willing to go through just to avoid even contemplating that a women might be in the wrong. It's really quite astounding. The women are wonderful effect has permeated every level of the collective conciousness.

OddSeraph · 2024-08-30T20:26:24+00:00

You got a link for it?

Raphe9000 · 2024-08-30T23:19:44+00:00

It's crazy to think the abuse my mother did against my father and me as a kid because she was "stressed" would be treated so minorly on this site.

ChimpPimp20 · 2024-08-30T23:55:12+00:00

Have you considered getting a nanny or maid to help out?

If they aren't rich then this is a boof ass question.

AigisxLabrys · 2024-08-31T00:26:47+00:00

How people look at this and still think feminism isn’t evil is beyond me.

Your_Nipples · 2024-08-31T01:28:25+00:00

This is a little window into a reality that I hate to face. I still can't accept it but holy shit. I can't. Absolute filth.

SillyGayBoy · 2024-08-31T09:18:00+00:00

The amount women get away with things is insane and more and more of us men are speaking out about it. If we know a guy wouldn’t get a pass, neither should a lady.

Gold_Hawk · 2024-08-31T09:21:21+00:00

No fucking excuses for beating children because they can't regulate themselves and they have the emotional maturity of a child. Smacking is so fucking sickening and really fucked me up as an autistic adult. Some people shouldn't be parents. Edit words

CatacombsRave · 2024-08-31T12:28:31+00:00

This x1,000. When a crime happens, society and feminists don’t see a criminal; they see a man. If the criminal is a woman, they see an exception.

Minimum-Force-1476 · 2024-08-31T05:09:23+00:00

These drama subs like AmIOverreacting have mostly women as members. So they create an echo chamber where they defend their in-group and villify the out-group

The fact that this happens so reliably with womens subreddits actually tells me that there isn't much inequality between men and women (on reddit). Because if you compare it to minority subs (with people that are actually opressed), like blackpeopletwitter, they aren't nearly as hateful towards outgroups

Bertje87 · 2024-08-31T07:49:37+00:00

And if the narrative gets broken down, it’s because men are bad

brokenborderlineboy · 2024-08-31T13:02:04+00:00

Women have an in-group preference for other women. And men don't have an in-group preference for each other. Because men see each other as competition. This is biology. We live in a misandrist society. Unfortunately children who are victims of abuse from their mothers pay the price for this.

jpla86 · 2024-09-01T16:15:27+00:00

There was a story I saw on Twitter about a business woman who killed her own child by throwing him out the window in a MOVING CAR. She apparently killed her child because she felt having a child would affect her career.

And you guessed it. Not a peep about this story from blue checked marked liberals and progressives, feminists and “Free Palestine” Gaza flag bearers in their profiles; all of whom who talk about gender based violence non-stop only if the man is the perpetrator.

I saw one thread from BBC who was covering this story and it was nothing but women making excuses for her and even saying she did nothing wrong because she was stressed out!

So fucking infuriating the double standard.

fakemuseum · 2024-09-01T05:10:42+00:00

The right leaning persons also don’t justify a man hitting his family tbf

IVKIK55 · 2024-09-01T18:02:46+00:00

wtf, it's sick

ferrocarrilusa · 2024-09-02T03:45:09+00:00

no excuse for abuse

pvtshoebox · 2024-09-03T14:30:06+00:00

Isn't this the exact type of dismissal that we were told was always given when men committed domestic violence 2-3 generations ago?

The old story is that, bacj then, the "man" was always right, and was entitled to violently show his disapproval towards his family, and that if it was discussed in the broader community, he could expect to enjoy support from strangers. The stangers will generally agree that if a man chooses to batter his family, he must have a good reason, simply because the man is almost always right and that women need correcting.

Couple this with the reality that men are now enrolling in college with the same disproportionate enrollment gender skew that women saw prior to Title IX - when legislation was needed to correct gender bias in higher education. The gender bias has flipped, and bias is still celebrated.

Feminist achieved a lot of important things after lots of effort, and I am thankful for that. They have also been largely responsible for the creation of a gender-mirrored version of the problems they meant to address. At best, their own apathy over men's issues gives cover for any other 5 organization to so the same.

Feminists legitamize misandry by choosing to ignore it.

eli_ashe · 2024-09-04T03:25:51+00:00

We already have the subs for tracking misandry, I think another key thing that needs to be tracked is how frequently abusive women aren't held responsible for their choices. If a man doesn't something wrong, it's because men are bad. If a woman does something wrong, it's because men are bad. This narrative needs to be broken down.

agreed. such a forum needs to be.

AdmirableArcher8077 · 2024-11-14T18:16:49+00:00

Wrong, misandry will only exist when misogony exists, I hate and do not support abuse of any kind but why are mad at feminists? Crazy ppl exist everywhere and misandry isn't as close as to misogony.

Title	Child Abuse Apologists -- "She's just overwhelmed!"
Author	NonbinaryYolo
Upvotes	240
Comments	111
Date	August 30, 2024 7:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates
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