Nagging to put in most generous way, counterproductive. It doesn't really solve anything other than creating a bad atmosphere in a relationship, that is not good for anyone.

But still women justify it. They say it's necessary because otherwise their husbands just won't listen. That may be true and all.

But they could always leave if their husband do not listen and there in lies the rub. It's not about the chores, or "emotional labor" or whatever, it's about control. It's because they can't leave or they find it difficult to leave.

It's similar to men who nag their wife for sex. It's not about sex, because if sex is what they want, they can just get it from somewhere else. They can cheat(unethical) or divorce (ethical) but they won't do either. They don't cheat because most likely they don't have much options, and they don't divorce because of same reason that wifes dont divorce.

Reason for not getting a divorce can range from love to more practical things, like money, children and other psychological reasons like cost sunk fallacy, not wanting to endure discomfort of dating etc.

So people want assurance that even if they are stuck in a relationship, they have something they can control. For men it's that their wife desire them sexually, for women it's that their husband is investing in the nest she has created for herself.

Most solutions to these problems address that insecurity. Women with their 4B movements or just being content with being alone. Men on the other hand with redpill philosophy to create abundance.

The solution lies in a win-win scenario. A win-lose scenario just doesn't work. Because if a man becomes the chore-tzar and his wife didn't up her game then relationship will fail. Same as if wife becomes a man's personal porn star and he remains a slob, things will end. Lose-lose situation tend to work though, we all know of married couples who hate each other but stay married because they both know that both suck and both will have to put in work for next partner so they stay lol.

It's one of the reason why women sometimes nag for no reason or very small reasons. Its because they don't have confidence that they can up their game to match a perfect man(they can't, they will age and become less desirable) so as long as man is chasing the unreachable, the relationship sucks for both of them.

Nagging is a sign of insecurity in men as well as women. If they need to do it, it just means that they are not willing to nuke the marriage.