There's a common idea that people who have low standards are less picky (which is tautologically true), and that they are therefore more loving, more understanding, more accepting, and therefore less judgemental and forgiving; that they are more capable of loving deeply, or that they overlook specific flaws or traits.

On the contrary, people with high standards are less forgiving, less likely to stick around when times are tough, and are more entitled.

I think this whole concept fundamentally misunderstands how love is developed, and this stems from treating love as some sort of quantifiable commodity that people can measure and trade.

If you have low standards, you do not have a good idea of who you are, what kind of relationship you may have or like, and what you expect out of a relationship; you are looking for a placeholder. You don't necessarily recognise a potential partner as someone with their own identity that you would like to have in your life, you see them as a person who exists to make you happy and be your partner, because that's all they are. If you don't care for the most part how your partner thinks or acts, or what kind of life they lead, you don't have a goal in mind concerning a relationship, you just hate being single.

This doesn't make you more loving, in fact, I believe it makes you less guided and less likely to truly love. A simple idea is this: if you are looking for a placeholder, what guarantees that you won't leave your partner for someone more physically attractive, or whatever your criteria are, when you get the chance? Seriously, if you only have a few requirements for your partner, what security does your partner have to believe that they're not just a placeholder, a way for you to alleviate a sense of loneliness?

People with high standards are picky, but they know what they like, which makes them a better fit for a relationship. There's less ambiguity, and less chance of them seeing you as just a means to an end.

Of course, I'm not discussing the feasibility of standards here, but I do respect someone with a very solid understanding of who and what they want. Your standards may be wholly unrealistic or batshit insane, but as long as you stick to them and don't bother anyone, who am I to care?

Basically, there's a real difference between "I want to be in a relationship with this person" and "I wish I had someone to alleviate my loneliness".