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PICKME CULTUREyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:34 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 07:23 AM
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STAY WOKEyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:22 AM
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LIES MEN TELLyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:41 AM
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#JustLVMThingsyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:47 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?yesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:49 AM
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LEVEL UPyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:59 PM
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STAY WOKEyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:39 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:26 AM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:31 PM
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#JustLVMThingsyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:41 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:06 PM
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LEVEL UP BRO! yesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:56 AM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:28 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:35 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tyesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:56 PM
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LEVEL UP BRO! yesmme/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:17 PM
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A “normal”-ish man who’s joking would respond with something like “yeah, we’ll invite the neighbors over” or something ridiculous like that but how is having sex in front of one’s own daughter the first thing to come to mind when the subject of exhibitionism is brought up?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 06:35 AM
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“Honey, I cleaned your x box for you! It also smells good from the new Mr. Clean I got!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:10 PM
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An older man will usually have had more years being spoiled and pampered under the patriarchy. He’s not going to want to give that up so easily. Also, watch out for the older men who are dating coaches or who are giving dating advice (I’m not referring to the podcasters) especially the dating advice that makes them sound like they’re on women’s side. Many spent their youth treating women like shit and are now trying to capitalize on a faux HVM image. One of them was even called out for being hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:50 PM
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Thankfully I haven’t had those experiences but it’s a compilation of others’ experiences. I never go in expecting that the men will be HV just because they volunteer. I’m just aware of the numerous reasons for why they might be there in the first place. It’s a bonus when they’re there because they want to help and believe in the cause. I also worked for charities and saw how money-hungry and exploitative they were—especially towards elderly people. In my own experiences, I met a lot of my good f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:31 PM
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This is an interesting post. Some volunteering can also fall under the category of “common interests”—where you meet people who you have things in common with, which is a leg up on meeting random people on a dating app or at a bar for the sole of purpose of dating and having sex with them. But I am wary of volunteering and/or volunteers unless I really believe in the cause or it has something to do with an interest of mine. Some have white saviour complexes, saviour complexes, are frat boys who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:21 PM
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I was just about to add that sometimes our makeup is limited edition. I would make that man scour far and wide for a replacement, the replacement would have to be approved by me (it can’t be used, come from a poshmark type of place, and most definitely not a place that sells counterfeit stuff) and dump his ass right after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:41 PM
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There are times where I wanted to publicly brag (within the earshot of men of course) about the man I used to sleep with who needed Magnum XL condoms. Not even just Magnums! He was actually convinced he was small!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:43 PM
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I also see that you’re racist and have previously gaslit BIPOC. It’s no wonder why it hits a nerve when the LGBTQ community isn’t demonized for once. The medical field does not need racist, homophobic and archaic doctors who think they know how to read stats when they clearly don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:02 PM
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We’re talking about semantics at this point. The fact is that straight people are also affected by HIV and are not receiving as much education about it as the gay community has because HIV is stigmatized as a gay disease. That’s dangerous. Also, much sex education is heteronormative yet they failed in talking about HIV. Herpes appears to be more feared amongst straight people than HIV. It’s almost like an afterthought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:31 PM
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If the majority of feminist subreddits are run by men, we can only imagine that other social media platforms that tout themselves as feminist are run by men also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 01:46 AM
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Platonic friendships between men and women could have been a beautiful thing but men completely fucked that one up too. There is absolutely no reason a married man should befriend a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 10:46 PM
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Exactly. Straight people have not received robust education about HIV as much as the gay community has. I explained to the other poster (who had gotten unnecessarily defensive) that HIV doesn’t care about your sexual orientation or if you’ve even had sex in the first place (as seen in babies with HIV). Straight people are only likelier to get it because of ignorance, apathy, or complacency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 10:20 PM
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It is true that the total number of people who received a diagnosis for HIV in 2020 was 49% of heterosexual people and 45% gay and bisexual men. This is according to Medical News Today (same study). A man with HIV also chimed in about the subject for The Guardian. HIV doesn’t care if you’re gay, straight, or even a virgin. It’s not a gay disease and people (especially straight people) have been reckless and have been having unprotected sex. And if it’s been monogamous couples where neither partn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 10:07 PM
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The percentage of heterosexual people with HIV is now higher than that of the LGBTQ community because the virus was ravaging them. Because of that, there were so many efforts at educating them and spreading awareness. Not so much with straight people. You can be cishet and monogamous and get HIV from just ONE partner. Even some babies have it because their mothers have it. It’s not an STD to be messed with—let alone any other STD. I don’t get how so many men still argue against wearing condoms. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 08:08 AM
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No. It’s you not understanding and trying to police a BIWOC by dictating to her what’s so called appropriate to post on the sub. The last I checked what that was, that was called racism. And may I add, patronizing. And very typically Karen nonsense. Because your audacity hadn’t run out, you then spoke over another WOC (me) and attempted to explain the meaning of OP’s post to me. I know what she wrote, thanks. So did 129 other people. Just because you don’t relate to it or comprehend it, it doesn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 05:19 AM
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Men don’t mind seeing blood shed due to violence and life-taking but are grossed out when they see or even hear about blood that’s part of the life cycle. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:15 AM
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As a WOC, I can relate to this post. So have other women who have expressed the importance of addressing it. We understood what it was about and it definitely speaks about misogyny AND dating. You may not see it but the rest of us do. You don’t need to hide behind the excuse of “it’s not talking about dating” because YOU don’t see it. Black, Native, and women of color frequent this sub also. We too are women who are affected by misogyny—and often times much worse than white women. We also date. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:49 PM
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I found this post helpful and relevant. So have other women here. I don’t see why it should only be posted on fourthwavewomen. Colorism does affect all women. Men with internalized racism are a red flag for other women to look out for. If I know that a man talks badly about women of his own race, not only do I know he hates himself (race is part of someone’s identity no matter what), he’s an even bigger misogynist and is self serving. Misogyny and racism often go hand in hand also. There are so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:23 PM
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He is the reason why the “men are happiest in marriage while women are happiest single and childless” statistics exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:04 PM
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He has also got to have one of the dark triad conditions because there is no way a man with a drop of empathy would do this. That’s not to say that all narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths are violent but it is never a good idea to stick around long enough to find out if one is just viscerally apathetic (with bouts of emotional or psychological abuse thrown in) or if one is a full blown killer. And we don’t even know how far it could go for this guy. Yesterday he cheated on a woman who sacri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:57 PM
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Cheating (if they were married), according to the Bible, is grounds for divorce and even the death penalty. This is why humans see red when we are cheated on. We’re furious for a good reason and it is not meant to be prayed away. Putting someone to death for cheating satisfies that (rightful) anger. It is deep and not a kind of anger that we shrug off so easily. I knew of a guy (never saw him or met him) who cheated on my coworker while she was in the hospital and was fighting for her life. A ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:36 PM
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She needs to name him and shame him. Cheating is bad enough but to cheat on someone who SAVED his life?! And then expect her to forgive him?? What else is he capable of? This is so bad that it’s one level below murdering her. No woman should trust, let alone date a man so deeply ungrateful and selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:28 PM
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Men don’t get anything from me. They can’t even scam me because they know I’m broke 😂 But even when I do have money, men don’t bother with asking me for it. They know I cook but I have never offered or was warm about it. “Why don’t you come over and try my food!” Nope. I don’t do that shit. I have never done wifey shit. And the men I’ve dated were the ones who pampered me. Hell, I refuse to clean up after other guests at parties while the men are passed out drunk. I already cleaned up after myse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:18 PM
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It’s even better when a man sees you can do all of these things but that you aren’t going to lift a finger to do them for him. “It looks like you’re a good cook. I saw that dish you posted earlier 😁” And never cook for him. If at a time in your relationship, he’ll say “I saw you be able to do that (for example, fixing up the house), why don’t you do it?” Responding “I don’t want to” or “I don’t feel like it” is valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:58 PM
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I have a favorite artist (and I’m not using “artist” as a euphemism, she literally illustrates her own body, other women (not naked) and is often photographed naked) and she is naked in almost all the depictions of herself. She talks openly about all things sex and can be mistaken for a PickMe. Even she criticizes porn and talks about how bad and misogynistic it is and how it contributes to the trafficking of women and children and she makes these views known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:36 PM
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So fucking ungrateful. And you just know that there are scrotes out there who will blame her and say “she shouldn’t have given her kidney in the first place.” The further the video played, the angrier I got. First he cheats, cheats with women who knew her, then he gaslit her saying she needs to learn how to forgive, then he refuses to talk to her and communicate properly, and then blocks her? OH MY FUCKING DAYS. It hit different when she talked about how she had to go to work at Disneyland (of a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:30 PM
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Disability is not an excuse and men are so entitled as it is that autistic or not, they come out being assholes. Even the ones who pretend to be nice. There are lovely, kind autistic men out there. If all women, including female narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths, are conditioned to be nice, so can men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:49 PM
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They all want each other. Men are who they’ve been waiting for all along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 06:05 PM
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I never feel bad for the side piece when the side piece knows. They can drown in the mess that they created. I won’t even say “helped” created when they were very much equally the cause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:52 PM
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She bought his tickets? I burst out laughing. Oh, the clownery. When the side piece knows he’s taken, I relish in all the foolish things they do to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:20 AM
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I would divorce him. No point in wasting time being married to someone who hates you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 02:24 AM
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The SS had many women who tortured and murdered Jews and Roma. Little girls made up a part of Hitler Youth. You can’t blame the men for this one. White women were very much participants in the genocide of non-German women, children, and men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:48 AM
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Making sure that the man that you are already attracted to is into you more than you’re into him (but be careful with potential love bombing!) Don’t see potential, don’t make excuses for him, see things as they are. Begin mentally preparing to leave at the first yellow or red flag. This phase may last days, maybe weeks, maybe even months but always be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. This is the long game but therapy, having a strong, supportive, intuitive, and intelligent support system …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:31 PM
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I was thinking the same thing. All that’s missing is him making a TikTok video with “Get You The Moon” by Kina playing in the background, justifying why he feels most free with 20 year olds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 05:18 PM
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“I fEeL liKe a 16 yEaR oLd sPirItuAllY” Let’s see how well that holds up in court when he’s caught with a teenager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 01:46 PM
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That’s what I had thought and I had never had men be so obsessed with me that I would be their reason for throwing numerous parties. Even with the second guy, it was a yes or no poll that he posted asking if people were coming and the “No” was at 100%. He has thousands of followers and the poll had been up for an hour when I answered it. There was no way that all his followers responded no unless he arranged it so that I would be the only who would be seeing that poll. This man always had people…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:13 PM
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For a minute I was scared when you started mentioning how your grandpa’s male friends had gone to pick up your grandma. Look, we already have PTSD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:04 AM
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Off topic for a moment: I totally laughed when you said that he looked deteriorated. Why do men expect women to solve the problems that they created? Scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 02:51 AM
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I’m so sorry to hear that. Men really are depraved and they’re all like the wolf character in Little Red Riding Hood. (I hate making comparisons to animals but that story is one of the earliest cautionary tales taught to us as girls)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 01:55 AM
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Working and maintaining a good relationship? He knows he can do both…right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:02 AM
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I’m interested in hearing those details! (if you don’t mind of course) I have never gone through with such men so I didn’t always hear what became of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:52 PM
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It wasn’t easy to stay away especially from the second guy because I really liked the second guy but had to be as rational as possible. (That sounds so condescending but for lack of better phrasing!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 10:44 PM
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Thankfully us FDSers see “abuser” and “walking red flag”. The delusion and straight up stupidity of scrotes to believe that they aren’t going to be seen negatively for saying disparaging things about other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:20 PM
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Long before FDS, any time a man has told me that his ex girlfriend is crazy, that he thinks his bEsT fRieNd who he can’t shut up about (female, of course) is fat, or I’m told that I wasn’t like the other girls, I was already mentally making my exit. Men really do thrive on women dying to be picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:18 PM
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In other words, dating around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:08 PM
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“Ooops sorry I didn’t mean to send that to you” Because talking about another woman (no not you!)in such a degrading manner tells you that this man is a catch. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 02:54 PM
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This is scary how similar the men who were obsessed with me (and even the men I found myself falling hard and fast for) were similar to Ted. One of them was a stalker. The one thing they had in common was throwing parties for me, unbeknownst to me just like Ted did. The stalker was outgoing and had a lot of friends. In the beginning, the parties he threw were lively and had a lot of people but because they were thrown so often, the number of people showing up became sparser and sparser. I eventu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 01:34 PM
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Bombs don’t discriminate but if you’re rushing white Ukrainians on the train and BIPOC Ukrainians—as well as BIPOC citizens as a whole—are left behind, who are the bombs going to affect? The BIPOC who were still stuck in the country. There was a simple solution to that. It’s not that complicated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 11:21 PM
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That is not a good look that he’s permitting neo nazis to fight for the country. I’m not justifying the invasion of Ukraine but I’ve always known that they are a nation that has permitted fascism and racism. It’s only been a week that it came to light that they were literally leaving BIPOC citizens (some were even pushed off the train) behind while Ukrainians got to hop on trains and leave the country right away. Peep my thread. I have a German woman tripping over herself trying to justify why t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:38 PM
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You just made racist statements in your previous comments and are currently justifying why it took the Ukrainian government awhile to figure out getting BIPOC citizens out of the country when it could have been decided the moment a BIPOC person entered the train. That was minutes ago. Not 70 years ago. You don’t have grandma and grandpa to blame for YOUR biases and racism. And no, Black and Brown countries were not attacking each other over race, let alone have gone after European and British un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:20 PM
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It doesn’t take a week to figure out that everyone should be on the same train. It takes one minute for someone to board a train, no questions asked. It’s a privilege and clownery to realize that BIPOC in your country are being segregated in the lines for the departing trains. It does not take a week to figure out that they should be on the train and should be treated the same as the Ukrainians who are trying to flee—everyone is getting on the same train for the same reasons. And if there is evi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:06 PM
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It’s not. A Black student filmed himself at the border as he was waiting for a train and said that he wanted to be able to get on the next one. I’m not at all justifying what Russia is doing to Ukraine but Ukraine has participated in fascism and racism and are not necessarily the victim. (Again, I’m not justifying Russia invading the country)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 07:22 PM
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People were trying to get on the train and were physically pushing BIPOC off of it. There were also times where staff at the stations were saying that (white) women and children were to get on first. There are Ukrainians who aren’t white (and I don’t mean by the process of naturalization) and some are mixed. It was not up to the staff to make snap judgments on people’s appearance and claim that they were only letting Ukrainians on first. Everyone should have been on the train and if it was full,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 07:18 PM
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As I got older, I cherished my friendships with women more and more. Men are not trustworthy and they have proven over and over again that they will fuck over (or rape) any woman. Some are not even above molesting their own sister. They are depraved through and through
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 07:14 PM
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Irish people are not BIPOC unless they’re mixed with BIPOC. Irish people were also not treated worse by the British than Indians, West Asians, and even East Asians were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:54 PM
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As a WOC myself, I had always wondered about these men’s thought processes: is it to spite their own women? Is it revenge against white men/white women? Is he dating a white woman to leverage himself in society? Is he really brainwashed by the beauty standard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:48 PM
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That should have been done in the beginning. Not after BIPOC who had no connection to Ukraine, pointed it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:24 PM
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I found him cute and charming and later found out that he was actually an actor who was voted in so that made him even more likeable. But I am hearing that BIPOC in Ukraine are literally being left behind while the white citizens get to flee the country for refuge. My question is, what is he doing about this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:41 PM
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There are many autistic women who would never abuse, rape, or sexually assault others so it is not autism or any neurological condition (apart from the dark triad) that causes these things. It is the same old misogynistic bullshit, where men, boys, and their parents blame everything else but themselves for abusing or enabling abuse. Also a LOT of disabled children, especially neurodivergent children are susceptible to abuse but it is NOT abuse that causes the condition. Correlation doesn’t mean …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:18 PM
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Men have zero excuses. All the men blaming her are plain rapists. It’s the absolute bare minimum to not touch a woman or a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:02 PM
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My friend was deeply emotionally abused by a man who would use his childhood sexual abuse as an excuse. Like, go to therapy and STAY THERE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:49 PM
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People being diagnosed with a disability is not a fad. The problem is with autistic men who weaponize their autism and use it as an excuse for their abusive behaviours. I’ve called these men out before and I will continue to do it to any disabled man who weaponizes their disability. I was recently diagnosed and I can tell you that being diagnosed with anxiety and depression were not enough of an answer. I also have a track record of holding abusers and rapists accountable as opposed to participa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:45 PM
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I have been off my face many times. Sometimes alone in a stranger’s bedroom (at a party) and not once did any of the men in those situations rape me or even attempt to touch me. This is the BARE MINIMUM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:38 AM
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How could she have consented when she doesn’t know how or when she left the bar? I wish the justice system was more severe. I guarantee you that if rape was truly cracked down on, these scrotes would be shitting their pants and crying hysterically at the thought of getting caught. They wouldn’t be gaslighting victims this easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:34 AM
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It’s even more disturbing that he was a man who was likely in the friendzone and was only able to get “sex” out of her by raping her as she was drifting in and out of consciousness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:26 AM
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The fact that details are hazy means she was in no state to consent to him. Yes it is rape, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:24 AM
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I think there may be exceptions but anal is a dealbreaker for you and in the long run, trying to overlook dealbreakers wouldn’t be good for your mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:26 AM
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Exactly this. I have known people from all sides of the political spectrum—far leftists to dyed in the wool republicans and I immediately know when I’m dealing with a fake leftist, an apathetic, a libertarian, or a closet conservative. Libertarians always think they’re so clever saying “I’m not a conservative” when they are initially mistaken for one. Mmmkay. So you’re a libertarian who likes to eat Ben Shapiro’s ass. It’s also almost always the libertarians and closet conservatives who find peo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:29 AM
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They’re so pretty and cute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:23 PM
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I’m veering completely off topic here but I was wondering where you got your avatar? I noticed that quite a few women here have them and I want one too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:32 AM
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I personally don’t trust meeting men at bars. I don’t want to potentially date an alcoholic. I prefer meeting men through common interests. It’s not as quick like online dating or going to a bar but you’re already doing something you enjoy and you may run into a cute HVM. If you do, getting to know him would be a slower process that wouldn’t be rife for love bombing. (Not guaranteeing that it won’t be but you see how awkward it is as a timeline if the two of you were to rush under those circumst…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:33 AM
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Coincidentally plans a “surprise” trip to see his family while his girlfriend recovers from surgery? Yeah, no. He obviously doesn’t care about his girlfriend. Most men don’t care about their families THAT MUCH. Men always lie and make excuses that make them look like they’re caring beings (the 3 act play of him wanting to visit his family so much that he couldn’t wait until after his girlfriend recovered) when it only serves them in the end. It’s so manipulative. And a man who is that attached t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 10:31 AM
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My ex was a doormat (he can be mistaken for a HVM but I’m not comfortable saying he’s a LVM although he has done a few LVM things—there’s room for improvement) but his sister is a PickMe and had a very unhealthy attachment to my ex. You could have mistaken her for his girlfriend by the amount of times she would whine and fight with him whenever he didn’t feel like hanging out with her. She would even intrude on his and my time. I once had a nervous breakdown and my ex had asked her to turn aroun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 10:01 AM
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What a stomach churning story. UGH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:43 AM
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It’s so painful to see Asian men harass Asian women for dating white men but will then go on to triangulate Asian women with white women. It’s like the men are doing it out of spite. Black, Native, and other men of color can be horrendous with this. They sometimes pretend to worship their own women but will only date and marry white women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:49 AM
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Block and delete. Same goes for the men who say “I don’t believe in Valentine’s Day”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:04 PM
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Being attracted to men has caused me enormous stress. I’ve been happily single for a long time but the moment I start being interested in a man or start dating one, he will start to bring out the worst in me. Everything they do is either because they don’t care, it’s an act of manipulation, or it’s self serving. The world coddles men and doesn’t hold them accountable. The world only waits to speak up or do something when they become physically violent or outed as rapists—which is too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:17 AM
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I also wanted to add that some of these men will even rack through their brains to pick the woman who had a crush on him. Not because the feeling was mutual but because she would have been the path of least resistance for him! How awful to be that woman who crushed on him years ago only to be chosen by him out of desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:52 AM
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It seems like throughout history, many marriages were done out of convenience. Which makes it even more sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:51 AM
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No it’s not. It specifically addresses racist white women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 01:46 AM
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White people have no business calling BIPOC, Karens. It’s not misogyny. It’s him trying to co-opt slang that the Black community came up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 01:44 AM
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I would not get picked up by a guy especially if you haven’t been dating him long. For safety reasons, it’s best to meet your date at the place and to leave by yourself at the end of the date. Once you’ve vetted him enough to know that he isn’t going to put you in danger if you were to be alone in his car with him, he should be the one picking you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:42 AM
10

I remember how there was a lot of white fragility surrounding the topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 11:00 PM
39

This is such an important post. I also second the comment about how the push is very strong to not report men of color if they commit a crime. But this also begs the question: if criminals of color are aware of the risk of being killed by police, why are they going out and committing crimes and attracting negative attention to themselves like that? We see innocent Black people living their lives get killed by police simply for existing. The police should not be murdering people in the first plac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 12:45 AM
13

You hit the nail on the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:28 AM
53

I don’t feel bad for them. I was part of their groups as a single, unmarried Christian woman and I never could see them as victims. I did not see one ounce of innocence. They are just as evil, manipulative, and horrible as their abusive, misogynistic husbands are. How do I know this? Because I knew other women who were domestic violence survivors and these trad wives would argue with me and say that these women needed to be long suffering like Jesus was and that it was mandated by the Bible to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:22 AM
33

I have not even read through your post yet and I can absolutely, without a shadow of a doubt yell “YES!” at the title of your post. They’re also some of the biggest PickMes. Their husbands are some of the biggest scrotes. Hypocritical, porn addicted, and for sure have a limp dick. They’re also rapists who do not think that rape is possible in marriage. They engage in reproductive coercion and view women as incubators. Trad wives will train you to enable horrific behaviour and groom you to stay w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:18 AM
779

He’s talking to you like it’s a bloody business meeting. Fuck that. He’s so rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:11 AM
69

And what was the point of asking you out? It was so needy on his part and it’s as if he was trying to set up for a backup (which would have been you) if his relationship was going to shit. That’s terrible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:39 PM
149

This is why I keep saying men need therapy. Even gay men have thought I wanted them. Men have bits and pieces of all the personality disorders and the grandiose delusions they have of themselves is just another on top of the other problems they have. And for them to think “she wants me” is not only delusional and entitlement but it’s also the first step to a rapist’s mindset. I remember how men would tell me they had a girlfriend (and even in one case, a guy who I did not know was gay told me th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:09 PM
55

Cool. Let’s create software where we can take a photo of a man and his browser history is immediately made visible and is sent to his family and boss. Even what was deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:57 AM
2

That’s horrible. I’m sorry to hear that. This friend group sounds like horrible news. I don’t know you at all but i’m proud of you for cutting your friendship off with them. This is 5 kinds of toxic. And how dare she fabricate stories about you and involve the police?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:49 AM
2

If I were you, I would ditch those mutual friends. They are enablers and the fact that they believe they know him better than you do…RUN. You saw him at his most monstrous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:47 AM
18

There are a couple of different answers to this. There are women who are attracted to criminals because they are delusional and are Bob the Builder types. They believe that had they been in the felon’s life, the criminal may not have gotten to that point OR felons are a trophy to them. Not in a “what a great catch” way but if they can achieve reforming a felon, it shows how powerful of a person and how impactful they are (but obviously we know it’s utter fucking foolishness) If it’s not that, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:36 PM
25

Yes they absolutely do. I know this because I used to hang out with pathetic tradcon types. They love porn, the tradcon women are PickMes and white supremacists and if the tradcon men are Christian (which they usually are), they love to go on “rescue” missions to save sex trafficking victims and sex workers because it brings them in proximity to women who get paid for sex. It has nothing to do with genuine concern for these women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:56 PM
8

I’m not at all fond of her politics (Indigenous and Asian here) but I’m happy that there is at least some visual representation for little girls of color.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:29 PM
32

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:56 PM
149

I’m willing to bet his parents are our age—he’s got a 90s grunge thing happening including the indifferent attitude to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:09 AM
25

The boy is starting to glitch. We’ve always known men to have no coherence in their thinking but this one takes the cake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:11 PM
43

Where was he in the past millennia....?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:03 PM
27

Men are logical? That’s news lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:03 PM
1

It’s actually not going to make a difference on the men’s side. My hometown is an extremely sexually liberated place and I still met men who were HV and who found the sex and the drugs lifestyle way too much for them. It’s all about vetting. I’m also very strict and make it known to these men that I don’t put up with their shit and if they fuck up even once, they’re out of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:21 PM
4

Sorry to hear that you’re a survivor of sex trafficking. That sounds very traumatizing. Adoption is also a racist, colonial tool so you are completely justified in not supporting it. Even if you were to have had positive experiences with it, it wouldn’t have been good to support it. You don’t necessarily have to get married to have children and you are also allowed to get married whenever you want. There’s co-parenting, there’s people who have an arrangement with their gay friends, there’s all k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:13 PM
9

And are joining MLMs and pushing their new sElf eMplOyeD venture on acquaintances they haven’t spoken to in 15 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:34 PM
9

Invite him over and charge him for using your wifi 🤣🤣🤣(obviously I’m joking, don’t do that. Just block and delete)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:17 PM
36

I also find myself annoyed by women who put in their bios: “mom” accompanied by “wife” and other stuff. I’m not a childfree woman and I don’t have the desire to be nor am I jealous of these women but it’s very...Karen and suburban PickMe. Even cows are mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:14 PM
306

wHy cAn’t thEse cHicKs jUst bE iNteLLigeNt liKe mY fUcKin mOm? There’s a huge difference between not tolerating you and lacking intelligence, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:47 PM
1

I find (openly) gay men who call themselves feminists to be the exception. I say openly out because there are still gay men—the closeted ones or the ones who are out to a select few—who act like misogynists so their cover isn’t blown and who use women as beards or take advantage of female friends who are in love with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:28 PM
7

A lot of dominatrices and dominant women have flat out told self described submissive men that they aren’t fetish dispensers and that they’re not going to play with them and their list of demandments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:35 AM
27

And film it and show the internet. Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:29 PM
5

Take screenshots. It will be clear as to who’s doing the stalking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:24 PM
20

Gentrification is colonialism. Colonialism hasn’t gone away at all and this is why I’m irritated by white people and their beliefs. Everything is a playground to them. The only white people I allow in my life are ones who literally give me money or do things for me (I’m disabled). Other than that, I don’t want to partake in or hear about their dinner table debate “adventures”. When you hear about the graphic details of gentrification, it will make your blood boil even more. We usually hear the g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:05 PM
16

You’re right. That too. I like the idea of traumatizing them also, though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:57 PM
59

I’m Indigenous and Asian and I believe in Indigenous sovereignty so I meet lots of wolves in sheep’s clothing and trash men across the political spectrum. Conservatives are the worst because they act on their hate. Liberals are two faced. Libertarians love playing devil’s advocate and are irritating Ben Shapiro types. White anarchists, Marxists, communists are performative and still act like colonizers. There are a lot of leftist (from liberal to anarchist) men who are predators and I find it la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:24 PM
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It is huge! Perfect choice of words too. As women, we should have such a visible, visceral reaction to this kind of thing that men will no longer have the audacity to blurt out “I’m not looking for a relationship but...” It doesn’t need to be an angry, emotional response or a speech on why we don’t want to but being blunt, direct, and getting up and leaving (or blocking and deleting) should be done by enough women so that it traumatizes them to never ask that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:52 PM
3

I won’t say but he’s not scandalous in that trashy tabloid way like some other presidents are/were. He’s still scandalous as hell but not in a way that invites jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:09 AM
36

This is another reason why I don’t hide my sexuality. Men think that virginal tendencies or vibes in a woman means she’s easier to take advantage of. It also brings out their Madonna/whore tendencies even more. They’ll hide shit like this for years and then you find out who they really are later on. Vetting is way easier when you’re comfortable with your sexuality and the moment men bring up sex in the conversation, I’m out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:10 PM
14

Of course you’ll have your broke ass scrote who announces that he’s “a dOm” but wealthy and privileged people already have no qualms about starving their own people, forcing them to live in squalor, travelling to Black and Brown countries to bomb, steal from, and to murder Black and Brown people. It really should come as no shock that Armie had no issue getting off on the idea of eating people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:58 PM
19

That still doesn’t make them any less wealthy and they are still attached to, literally, a household name. His great grandfather was also an oil tycoon. Armie Hammer can become homeless today and will still have tons of money to dip into if ever he needs it. The average actor who becomes an A lister doesn’t. You’re also veering off topic here. He’s wealthy, privileged, and has no business fantasizing about eating people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:49 PM
11

Do you know who his family is? Does Arm & Hammer ring a bell to you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:23 PM
34

Keep in mind that history is filled with people who practiced witchcraft, paganism, animism, satanism—everything outside of abrahamic religions. Cults also still exist. I don’t have anything against witches or satanists and do not subscribe to the mass hysteria that surrounds them. But there are grains of truth. Azealia Banks was known to routinely sacrifice chickens. The media has covered this. It was also said by a Haitian man who was friends with a friend of mine (this is not reported because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:14 PM
22

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:47 PM
43

There’s always people whispering about how elite people engage in a lot of bloody rituals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:42 PM
8

If we’re talking about submission or dominance, those are choices. Scrotes are often confused and fucked up over it because they choose women based on that spectrum. “You’re not submissive enough.” “You’re too submissive and I want someone dominant” “You’re too much of a switch.” “I’m dominant and you’re dominant so I don’t think we can work out”. This is also white people shit to identify oneself with their kink. Kinks are choices and not the be all end all of someone’s identity, sexuality, sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:37 PM
15

He had a Madonna/whore complex. I have also read stories where super kink addicted women who self identified as subs no longer wanted to be submissive and that it started to feel wrong for them. Kink is a choice. It’s not a psychological condition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:52 PM
93

That’s horrifying. Remember that he’s a very rich man. His family is practically American royalty without the overt fame. There’s always been really gross stories about rich people wanting to eat humans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:14 PM
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I remember when people caught him liking a bunch of BDSM profiles and photos on his social media and someone wrote an article about it. “Does Armie Hammer know we can see his likes”, the article asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:13 PM
66

FWB sounds good on paper but in practice, NO NO NO NO NO. Women have a lot to lose taking on this kind of relationship (and it is a relationship. Society gaslights us into believing it’s not. It‘s not a one time transaction between complete strangers.) I’m extremely open about sexuality but the moment a scrote brings up sex in the conversation, I’m out. And for those reading my comment, don’t think playing coy or innocent is going to work. Men are going to see you as a doormat whom they can push…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:12 PM
48

This is so true. I’m in my 30s and am very mentally strong and tough and even LVM and NVM will still manage to exploit something of mine. Men are baaad. The pandemic and FDS made me realize that it’s better to hold out and meet someone outside of OLD. Tangent: I think one of my guy friends/“friend” started talking to me again because he might be rebounding. I’m not attracted to him but * facepalm *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:05 AM
3

💯Most definitely a BIWOC would have been dead had we decided to do that shit. White feminists need to stop presuming that every woman struggles equally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:58 AM
26

This is so sad and it hurt to read your post. But at the same time he was racist trash. It’s not really your fault you tried to reach out to him after you dumped him. Women are always told to be nice, to cOmMuNicAte, to give men the benefit of the doubt, and as BIPOC, we’re expected to appease white people. It’s ingrained in us and it becomes habitual. Let your experience fuel you to become an ice queen—in a good way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:28 AM
211

She wasn’t spending his money so...what’s the problem, scrote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:23 PM
201

Not surprising at all because doctors have been sterilizing Black, Native, and Latina women for decades. That’s how bad all of this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:25 PM
33

40% of police families suffer from domestic violence. It’s also legal in 34 states to rape people in custody. In addition, cops rape sex workers—including trafficking victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:23 PM
5

I have several sources. Doctors used their own sperm even though the women wanted donor sperm: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/21/health/sperm-donors-fraud-doctors.html https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/fertility-norman-barwin-disciplinary-hearing-1.5183711 Various stories of being given the wrong donor’s sperm: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/03/health/sperm-banks-fertility-artificial-insemination.html This is an extremely ableist story and it’s bigoted to say “I don’t want a child with su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:57 PM
6

My best friend’s good friend was like this. My best friend had a crush on him for so many years and he would lead her on and blame it on him being sexually abused. Then he got a girlfriend, would proceed to treat his girlfriend like shit and would cheat on her and blame it all on him being abused as a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:20 AM
2

I was agreeing with you and added some sarcasm at the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:09 AM
16

I heard stories about sperm banks being dishonest and saying that the donor was one way and it turned out that the donor was the complete opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 09:07 PM
26

Sperm banks creep me out. No judgment if you want to have a child and go that route but I would not want to potentially have the sperm of some repulsive scrote in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:33 PM
-1

Calm down. I read too fast but you did write “Granted I know MOST were men”, then you started laughing for I don’t know what reason. The fact that “were there women? Were there not? 😮” is completely irrelevant. White women are racist AF just like white men are. Except white women are far worse because you’re two faced about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:38 AM
3

Funny how these women can complain about scrotes all day long but act just like them when they’re called out on their casual racism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:13 AM
4

“but also that there were hardly ANY WOMEN” ...and your point? White women are racist too, you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:09 AM
4

Pleading ignorance is a very poor excuse and shows that all of you have lived in a bubble shielded from this terror. Also mentally ill people and disabled people are not racist. Racism isn’t a symptom of mental health conditions and disabilities. What are your tears and your sadness accomplishing right now? Absolutely nothing. Go and collect your trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:09 AM
4

Men cheat all the time. Men also settle all the time. It’s not like men suddenly stopped!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:43 AM
3

I had a LVM guy friend who was in the process of buying a house with his girlfriend and months before, he straight up told me that he wasn’t in love with her. A female friend of mine said “well, it must be serious now because they’re buying a house together” when I told her “he doesn’t love his girlfriend. He’s just passing the time with her”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:42 AM
1

I’ve read about it and that white woman did not do anything to redeem herself. She’s trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:39 AM
2

It’s a really good thing that this is on the list of standards. I can’t say I’ve had oral that rocked my world but the principle counts. Any man who refuses or has a problem with it is immediately out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:41 AM
7

Sweetheart, I don’t need to prove shit to you. Now before I waste free labour on you and your willful ignorance, I’ll leave you with this basic fucking fact: Columbus tried to look for India and massively fucked up and decided to call Native people Indians because of his fuck up. Indians are from...India. Did you read that correctly or do I have to repeat myself? Go read a history book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:15 AM
5

Love the audacity and the lack of respect on your part. Try shutting up and listening for once. It might take you further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:09 AM
5

Actually lots of Natives have requested for people to not call them Indians. I’m also Indigenous so spare me the whitesplaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:05 AM
6

There’s a lengthy history of white women terrorizing BIPOC. You think that it’s just the fault of the men because you are too blinded by your privilege to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:02 AM
45

Don’t think that white women just happened to show up at the capitol just like that and that they didn’t know better and were just there with their boyfriends and husbands. White women uphold white supremacy. White women fuck, date, marry, and have children with racists and raise their children to grow up to be racists. White women are not innocent. White women voted for trump and call the police on Black people to this day. They also attended lynchings and brought the children with them. There’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:00 AM
5

Fuck that KKKunt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:52 AM
-12

Sweetheart, you obviously don’t know what you’re talking about and you harbour internalized racism. It’s appalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:51 AM
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No. Joking about the sexiness of white supremacists is not funny and reeks of your privilege. These people murder Black, Native, and other POC and then your white self comes along thinking it’s so damn funny and ha ha ha it’s a jooooke because you don’t suffer from their violence. It’s vile and disgusting and is no better than your typical scrote who expects others to laugh at their pathetic excuse for a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:43 AM
3

I saw a video of a rant of hers. I thought “good riddance”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 01:09 AM
21

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:37 PM
9

bUt hE goEs hOmE wItH yOu If a man I’m with doesn’t make me feel beautiful, I’m out of there. It’s also abusive when men withhold compliments. I also disagree with women who say things like, “but I don’t want to be complimented on my looks” or scrotes who say “I don’t call women hot/I don’t compliment women” because any time a man tried to dodge complimenting me in that manner later proved to me he was abusive, manipulative, and misogynistic in one form or another. Men should be complimenting yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:04 PM
8

Men from the colonies? Yeah they’re often LVM (not saying it in the “not all Canadian men” way but I’m saying the opposite). I’m pointing out that it’s all stolen Indigenous land and the descendants of these evil people continue to disrespect other countries and other people. Descendants of people who brought small pox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:59 PM
22

I don’t think that woman’s death is tragic. She was a terrorist and had it coming for her. She wanted to terrorize the capitol just as much the scrotes who showed up did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:54 PM
94

There was an obnoxious Pick Me who went to join in on the terrorist activity yesterday and she died. She was fascist so I feel no pity. One fascist down, millions more to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:32 PM
23

I even had a British guy beg to give me oral to the point of sexual harassment. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:28 PM
51

I’m beginning to think that this might be a cultural thing and by cultural, I mean every other country’s men don’t make it a big deal except for American men. Like, it’s part of the agenda for the evening. It’s a given. I’m always dumbfounded as to how many (American) men from what I’m reading here, refuse to. I even had a Kiwi try to give me oral first. I didn’t even have to ask!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:21 PM
39

These aren’t political issues you can have discussions about at the dinner table with your uncle Clyde. These people are terrorists who wish to carry on a legacy of violence and who admire people who lynched Black people and who threw Jews in gas chambers. Your centrism is fascism and makes you trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:03 PM
228

Hatred and white privilege
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:00 PM
11

I don’t think it’s funny to be joking about this. Brown woman over here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:59 PM
61

Oh yes. I went to church with trash people like that. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:57 PM
26

Even with consent and good intentions, no man can accidentally penetrate a woman. That shit needs to be guided by hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:46 AM
64

Animals don’t need to watch porn to entertain themselves or to learn how to mate. We’re the only species in the world who watch others having sex and getting raped for entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:38 AM
18

That’s what the guys at church would do. “I’m going on that mission [where there’s sex trafficking victims] to rescue them”, “I’m doing research”. They were all secretly porn addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:36 AM
3

It’s propaganda to be encouraged to give ugly men a chance. I always say “I don’t pity fuck” Not to be nostalgic over nothing because the men were equally trash back then, if not more, but the men knew how to dress back then. They need to step it way the fuck up. However, having lived abroad, the men often dressed way better so the sloppiness could be just an American/Aussie thing. Even a British friend of mine wears oversized dress shirts (unironically) and slacks but at least he tries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:33 PM
5

This is a must read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:29 PM
1

I’m remembering that I have daddy issues also but they don’t manifest the way the stereotype suggests. And good luck to any man who even tries to dominate me. My friend and I once made a dark joke about how a man needs to beat us for us to even listen to him and even then, we’re still going to dominate them and fight like hell against him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:27 PM
31

I think people on TikTok are now saying “seggs” because anything sex related is being banned. But yes, he needs a therapist and jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:13 AM
10

Men have no business making demands for things they know nothing of. Sienna Miller would be like a DD. Maybe even Natalie Portman. If you don’t know where the clit is, you have no business demanding sex and telling us that you’re going to rock our world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:42 AM
37

What’s a C cup? Because there’s men’s magazine C cup and reality C cup (which is often mistaken for A cups and B cups)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:01 PM
7

EXACTLY. Sorry to hear that you were nearly kidnapped. That sounds really scary. Little girls like Cyntoia Brown went to jail despite being a direct victim of pedophilia, rape, and human trafficking. She killed her trafficker out of self defence (and did a service for the rest of us) and she’s the one who wound up in prison. People had to petition for her release. I also forgot to mention that little boys are trafficked too. Usually for cannabis farms or something labor related but some are thro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:28 PM
3

Full legalization is kind of like a free for all which is what we don’t want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:10 PM
5

More reasons why the Nordic model doesn’t work: The Nordic Model was adopted in Ireland and crime increased by 90%. It also criminalizes sex workers despite its hopes in only holding johns accountable. Sex workers can also be evicted from their own homes and their landlords can be threatened with criminal sanctions if they don’t evict them. Sex workers’ children can be taken away from them. (I have a friend who was a stripper and she raised her son to be an upstanding young man)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:48 PM
1

The Nordic model doesn’t work because there’s the issue of being a migrant. It also does not distinguish who’s a pimp is and who isn’t. It doesn’t distinguish the owner of an apartment (for example) where the exchange takes place and an actual pimp. Both are criminalized if caught. Let’s say you’re an Air B n B owner. Unbeknownst to you, your place is being used for sexual services and the people who you rented out to got caught. You could also be charged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:12 PM
7

Legalization and decriminalization are not the same thing. Legalization makes it even more dangerous for trafficked and undocumented sex workers because they have to answer to the government. How could they come forward when they’re criminalized by the government?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:02 PM
6

You’re aware that there’s a whole bunch of things that need to be done? Decriminalization is only one aspect. Keeping it illegal is not going to do anything as we are already seeing. Scrotes didn’t magically go “oh well, I guess I’ll find something else to be entertained by” when the recent changes to Pornhub were made. It only led them to find a way to buy porn with crytpocurrency and exchange tips with each other on how to find porn. Yeah that sucks but keeping things the way they are is defin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:58 PM
12

This is why hell exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:09 AM
11

Of course. It was a hypothetical question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:44 AM
23

I’m sure it was intentional. Who throws gasoline on a fire to put it out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:36 AM
91

What. An. Asshole. And throwing gasoline on a fire? How did he mistake gas for water?! You don’t store that shit in the same container! What a fucking obtuse, useless scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:13 PM
50

He stole ideas and comes from a wealthy family who profited off apartheid. The name of his company suggests just that—stealing credit and insinuating that it’s a company that was started by Nikola Tesla. When I first heard the name, I remember being very confused. “Nikola Tesla started a company? And the CEO is now Elon Musk?” He’s not the eccentric self made man who just appeared out of nowhere with all the solutions to the problems we’re having.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:40 PM
70

I’d love to go on a walk after dinner. We can digest and maybe even go for hot chocolate or dessert or something after. I’m looking forward to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:34 PM
5

Sure, this could be staged but I’ve seen men freak out over very minute things. I had one gem of a roommate get so angry at all of us (there were a lot of us who lived in the same house) that he tore the toilet seat off the toilet because the house wasn’t clean to his liking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:40 PM
25

Okay there, Mr. 5’6”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:35 PM
7

I considered becoming a lawyer also but a lot of lawyers tell prospective law students, “if you have any other passion in life, do that instead”. A lot of lawyers say they hate being lawyers and that they’re burned out, etc. I myself was already burned out when I wanted to apply fo law school and I’m so happy I never took that route.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:31 AM
11

That’s so gross. Also a lot of horror fans appear smarter and more HV than that (but no) Especially the fact that he created a second account just for that purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:03 PM
35

One time I went to a (major league) baseball game and one of the players would not stop checking me out. He was really hot too. I found out who he was and when I saw on his social media that he followed a bunch of half naked women, I was immediately turned off and unfollowed him. And this is a guy I never dated or even had a conversation with. I would never put up with this in a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:52 PM
24

I would dump that guy immediately. And that girl laughing along is a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:33 PM
35

Being a pick me is not synonymous with being mentally ill. There are mentally ill women who would never put up with this from their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:31 PM
13

Wtf? How did he end up taking over her apartment? Did they start dating and he was future faking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:12 PM
7

All conservatives are bad. What you think are simple topics that you can debate over at the dinner table is ethnic cleansing, discrimination, and control of BIPOC in action. BIPOC suffer because of conservatives. Liberals aren’t off the hook either. Liberals treat the White House like it’s their playground while they get to pick and choose what they like to support while BIPOC suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:48 PM
3

There was this TikTok video where a gay Jewish guy was talking about how he went on a date with a guy and how the guy revealed to him that he’s a neo nazi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:28 AM
1

Knowing me, I would have gotten up mid dinner and left. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:13 AM
-7

“Heating prostitutes, strippers and porn actresses” I’m not sure what heating is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:38 AM
133

Any time a woman asks herself “is this normal? am I overreacting?”, it’s time to dump/divorce the man. They cOmMunIcaTeD about it last year and look where they are now. A grown ass man knows not to go to a strip club. You don’t need to communicate this to him like he’s 5 years old and not even single men should be going to strip clubs. I’m not a SWERF but this is getting out of hand. Men get to see masses of naked women all day long everyday and can’t even have sex properly because of it and wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:02 AM
6

He’s a selfish prick who likely applies the same carelessness to safe sex. While disabled people are being asked by hospital staff to die, we have scrotes like this partying like it’s nothing. He’s selfish, inconsiderate, and thinks he’s above the law. Ghost, block, and delete. Even at the beginning of the pandemic, I would unmatch men who would whine about how their cold symptoms were nothing and that it was okay for them to go the gym. One guy kept arguing about how he didn’t want to get teste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:24 PM
25

Those women are so disgusting. It’s like, how do you not see that you could be his next victim? That’s beyond fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:34 PM
93

There’s a common theme here: Stop believing that you’re the exception. Stop believing that a scrote is never going to fuck you over despite having evidence handed to you on a silver platter. She’s a PickMe who is just as depraved. You don’t willingly leave your husband for an evil man like this unless you yourself are evil. I’m not diabetic nor do I have HIV but the moment I heard about this man, I was disgusted and furious. There is no way I would have thought “aww what a sweet guy who treats m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:26 PM
60

It also speaks of the woman being an enabler. She knew Martin Shkreli is a depraved person. Who price gouges insulin and AIDS medications? Only someone so deeply evil and greedy like this. I have very little sympathy for women who choose partners like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:20 PM
4

One time a scrote who I was dating said I look 12. I said, “what does that say about you?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:34 PM
15

YES. Fat phobia is bigotry. I’m thin myself but I don’t respect men who are fat phobic. It’s also been said that men who hate fatness in a woman and who are very vocal about it are actually attracted to fat women. Even to the point where fat women are actually their type. It’s the exact same principle as homophobia. Hide your attraction and deep yearning to the same gender and criticize it mercilessly so nO oNe sUsPecTs a tHinG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:08 PM
4

I always take someone’s jokes seriously. I have a sense of humour but I can tell what kind of person someone is by the type of joke they’re making. One LVM I was seeing had a PickMe female best friend and he would pass on memes and jokes she would make. One of them was about how men and women will do everything: buy a house together, have kids, get a dog but that they don’t want to get married to each other. I found this very offensive and misogynistic and pointed this out to him. Both he and hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:03 PM
3

I actually felt nervous and uncomfortable as if I was her. As I was watching the video, I was trying to find ways to escape. This guy is about to become a rapist if he isn’t already one. He sounds so creepy, so predatory and even reminds me of Joe from You.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:45 PM
3

That actually stood out to me. He sounds like my 13 year old nephew when he tries to get out doing what we ask him to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:42 PM
11

PREACH. Same with bringing up Vikings or Norse shit. A lot of Vikings, by the way, were discovered to be part Asian. This is confirmed by the University of Copenhagen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:19 PM
21

There is such as thing as anarchism, communism, Marxism...or plain old Indigenous sovereignty which actually influenced Marxism, anarchism, and communism. I believe in what people think is the far left (it’s pre-colonial governance) because I’m Indigenous. We know how to run a nation and we would never destroy our eco system and resources like the shit show it is now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:01 AM
42

😂😂 Because racists are such a catch. When it was known that Richard Spencer was abusing his wife, I said it was nazis punching nazis and that they just made antifa’s job a whole lot easier. Any woman who dates racist trash, let alone marries them automatically makes her racist NV trash. They’re also PickMes but the white supremacist edition. There’s also the micro aggressions that need to be called out. If they say all lives matter, throw them in the trash. “bLacK oN blAcK cRimE”, feels uncomfor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:47 AM
91

I love when “but my boyfriend/husband is Black” comes up as a credential for being anti racist. No hon, ghost, block, and delete all the racist men and women in your life then you can come back and tell us how your partner is Black.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:13 AM
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Because of white privilege. At the end of the day, these are just topics and theories for white people to fight each other over whereas Black and Brown people suffer the tangible consequences. Remember when Rachel Maddow wished Trump a speedy recovery when he had COVID?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:20 PM
3

Too late. They had a child together if I vaguely remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 06:56 AM
12

Oh it was. I was like, “you shouldn’t quit school for that” ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have a backup plan! She was also a single mother before getting married to her scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:09 AM
43

I knew a girl who decided to not pursue her studies as a childhood educator because she felt it was more important for her to be a housewife and to “serve God”. Did I mention her husband is an ex drug dealer turned misogynistic youth pastor in his 30s and she’s in her early 20s? What can possibly go wrong...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:28 PM
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This is true. For Black female spaces, although they welcome all women, I stay in my lane and act as a guest. The same can’t be said for white feminism which, in actuality, is colonialism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:53 PM
15

What you lack in a visible reaction, men will make up for. Men become emotional and hysterical when I don’t bother with them. I especially enjoy making them write paragraphs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:56 PM
2

Someone tell this boy’s mother what he’s up to. What an asshole. He’s got a head start on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:46 AM
54

This sounds like something a serial killer would do. It’s so predatory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:36 AM
96

A guy I was seeing was like, “did you notice my cologne?” “Did you see my shirt?” I don’t care. If I don’t care, I don’t mention it. Men’s egos are already huge enough as they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:15 AM
59

I remember the days I used to go to concerts and how all the guys in their 20s, 30s, 40s in bands had no issue fucking teenage girls. Or girls who have only been a few years legal. It’s only acceptable because of patriarchy and rock n roll. This is also what happens when society enables men and they in turn do not develop a desire to seek therapy. If Julian Casablancas was that disgusted and traumatized, he should have sought help for it in the beginning. Instead, he turned into exactly who his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:01 AM
12

I would divorce a man promptly if he did that. Men have it all. Marriages, strippers at the bachelor party, porn on tap, female “friends”. Scrotes. If a man watches porn, byeeee. I don’t need the ensuing drama of a man’s starvation for women’s validation. Porn will mean he can’t fuck in bed and then he needs more women’s attention by befriending them and needing to sleep over at their houses? He already has a woman's attention, why does he need more? Fuck that. Yes, go your own way, men. What ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:58 PM
122

“That man is always hard. Why aren’t you able to stay hard?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:05 AM
28

It makes more sense if the female friends are from a group. It becomes questionable if it’s one on one or if he’s spending more time with these female friends more than with his partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:25 AM
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If men weren’t centuries behind in their perception of women, male-female friendships would not sow distrust. If men were seeing therapists in droves and seeking as much self help as women are, sure, you could be overreacting. But this isn’t that universe. Men with female friends can’t be trusted. Women can pull off being friends with men and have no sexual attraction or desire to their male friends but the same cannot be said for men. And even if you dump this one and meet another man who has a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:59 AM
1

I’ve been lucky enough to never have paid for a man (the only time I did was to pay for a room on my card up front and the guy paid me back anyway) so I don’t know what it’s like to cover for a man. I guess that’s a bit of a plus side to being kind of poor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:26 AM
8

I’m so sorry to hear this. Men really have the audacity and their disrespect is infinite. I’m a solo traveller but even this would piss me off and fuck me up for awhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:27 AM
41

That too. There was a bit of a theme with this post where it was originally posted. It was mainly about men dumping their girlfriends right before meeting her parents or going on Christmas vacation together. I’ve seen stories where the men will pay anyway but they’ll dump the girlfriend at the last minute. Terrible NVM stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:36 PM
13

I had a coworker with the name Marc and he was one serious pathological liar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:41 PM
66

Before FDS, one time I booked a hotel room for a guy and I (we knew we weren’t serious) but I was so lucky he insisted on paying me back and that the room was reasonably priced. He was still a LVM but thank God he paid me for the room!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:39 PM
25

I’m so sorry to hear that. Especially concerning the possible brain tumours. That must have been hell and you had to not cry literally for the sake of your survival and to not potentially mess the tests up. That’s fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:16 PM
21

I caught the part where she had just moved in with him so that’s one area that she could have used to prevent being with a LVM but as for the rest, I do wonder because even long term boyfriends are capable of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:13 PM
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I’m an outgoing woman and a lot of people have told me I’m charismatic and this has always led to men thinking I want them. Even gay men feel the need to tell me that they’re gay and have a boyfriend. Just because I can be warm, it doesn’t mean I want you, let alone are flirting with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:52 PM
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And if she wants kids, he’s wasting her fertile years. She could be meeting a HVM who loves her and whom she can get married to, start a family with, and raise HV human beings with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:48 PM
5

The only time I liked older men is when...I was a teenager and the men were musicians in their 20s who were in touring bands. Even growing up, I was concerned with the choices I would have left. “What will happen when I’m in my 40s? What will my peers look like? Ewwwwwwww”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:53 AM
15

It’s bad that I raise my eyebrow every time a white guy guesses my ethnicity correctly or is very close to it. I know there are men who are genuinely fascinated with Asian cultures and who aren’t that interested in dating or fucking Asian women but I don’t like how it’s a reflex of mine to go “how do you know?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:45 PM
28

The Japanese were also the nazis of Asia so it’s no surprise that white supremacists admire them. However, any darker skin Asians do not get as much respect as the lighter skin ones in Asia, let alone in the colonies. I’m a Brown Asian and can attest to this. Some Asians don’t even recognize Indians, Pakistanis, Sri Lankans as well as Lebanese, Iranian, Turkish people, etc as Asian which is fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:41 PM
21

She’s already not in a good state. You kind of can’t blame her especially when she has told him that he can leave. He’s not being supportive of her and he’s making her feel much worse. On top of that, she’s expected to put up with him saving nudes and inappropriate photos of his friends and is not deleting or unfollowing because he himself feels it’s wrong. He’s only doing it because he got caught. This scrote can go to hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:16 AM
12

Shit. Now I know why I am absolutely not surprised and was turned off by his insinuation that there were hardly any men in the world apart from him who knew what love means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:01 AM
5

That’s like the first step to knowing your worth. Not wanting to stick around after it doesn’t work out. And it’s true, a lot of these dating coaches are always gaslighting women and giving terrible advice to us. It’s like there’s only so much wOrKing oN yoUrSelF that you can do before seeing men for the users and abusers they are and that nothing you can do can change that in a man if he doesn’t take the initiative to get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:20 AM
10

I stopped listening to him when he made it sound like he was the only man in the world who was in love and who knew how to love and that everybody else was in the dark to what being in love is. It was very cult guru.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:29 AM
38

What? I’m scandalized by this news that he cheated. I also had no idea he was even dating anyone, let alone women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:28 AM
8

Evan Marc Katz is the worst. Also I find A New Mode (run by Eric Charles and an ex-FWB/situationship of his. Her name is Sabrina Alexis) probably even worse. It’s not him telling it like it is that’s bad, it’s the fact that it was started by two people who did not work out and it was the woman who wanted him. I can’t help but think, “why, Sabrina? Why would you start a whole dating advice initiative with a guy who totally used you and broke your heart?” Maybe she has a great laugh at what they h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:26 AM
48

It’s irritating when people use mental illness or disability as an excuse. And I say this as a disabled woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:08 PM
42

I knew a rich guy who had no shame in cheating on his banker girlfriend and who tried to cheat on her with me. In fact, he nearly raped me. I had to keep pushing him off. Also, some rich men think that women who are middle class or who are poor are easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:40 PM
57

Don’t be fooled. These guys are not leagues above the rest. They’re misogynistic and they are quitting porn because they no longer benefit from it, not because they care about human trafficking and rape. The fact that they got into it in the first place shows how depraved they are. Even if they were exposed to it as children, they knew it was wrong but continued to consume it well into adolescence and adulthood. I’ve been exposed to porn at a young age but it never became a routine so the “I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:14 PM
7

I hate how we’re expected to give a guy a chance. It also violates our consent. If I’m not into a guy, I’m not into him. I don’t pity fuck either. There’s no negotiation. Move on. Or the worst: when they ask why you’re rejecting him. I don’t need to give an answer. Just move the fuck on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:14 PM
3

Didn’t trump say he would date Ivanka? Fathers grooming their daughters is an epidemic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:26 AM
1

No father is proud of his daughter doing sex work. There are fathers who tolerate it but no father who is not trash has come out and expressed how proud he is. Even Thora Birch’s parents were porn actors and her father was overly protective to the point of creepiness and being predatory. He ended up ruining her career in Hollywood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:23 AM
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It didn’t even cross my mind that it could be the pimps who are using fake accounts and harassing her. I have a friend who’s a sex worker and I was pleasantly surprised when she was furious and blasted two pedophiles on her social media. She showed their profiles and urged everyone to report them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:50 AM
108

Never date an ugly man! It’s okay if he’s ugly to your friends and you’re wildly attracted to him but never, ever learn to like a guy. If you’re not into him, don’t push yourself to like him. Men will never do that for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:07 AM
3

I used to be so busy that I would fall asleep mid texting when I was talking to a guy I was seeing. No sweet goodnight texts from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:29 AM
1

Are you reading Fickle-Confusion’s trash? She’s backtracking now. “i wAs jUsT joKiNg.” Sounds just like the scrotes we talk about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:52 PM
2

Most of the women here didn’t flinch at the mention of white men but you certainly did, fascist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 10:14 PM
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Looks like Fickle-Confusion is a nazi sympathizer also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 10:02 PM
-1

Oh even better! The country where that Nazi Mussolini is from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 09:56 PM
4

We definitely don’t need racist trash on this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 08:51 PM
18

I laughed so hard when a scrote on OLD lied to me about the neighborhoods he lived in a city abroad that I also lived in. He was acting pretentious, naming all these neighborhoods that were extremely wealthy ones but were tourist traps. Anybody who has lived in that city for at least 3 months would know that this guy was exaggerating. The only people who lived in those neighborhoods were disgustingly rich (like royalty level) or students living in student accommodation. I wanted to go “stop fuck…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:48 PM
14

Greetings to our resident racist. For those of you who are reading this comment, perkytitssolidshits is a very racist NVW who uses multiple usernames and has conversations with herself egging “other” racists on. She also harassed a Black woman on another sub’s thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:16 PM
16

I worked at an Ivy League school and have met royalty and some of the wealthiest, most powerful people in the world. Many of them are mediocre white people who only got ahead by cheating, raping, murdering, stealing, and exploiting. Or mommy and daddy were making blood money and they descended from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:14 PM
11

Kate was nicknamed “Waity”. She also had a personality before her and William got married. It’s a sign of abuse that you don’t really see her personality anymore. William does not seem like he’s in love with her. I’ve seen this for nearly a decade. I saw this when they first broke up. Plus the recent rumours of him cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:34 AM
10

When you talked about your friend’s husband deleting your post, that pissed me off. (You being harassed already naturally pissed me off but him deleting your post added to it) It is never an inappropriate time to bring it up. In fact, because the discord is full of guys, it’s an even better time to address it. Your friend’s husband is a scrote and an asshole and will likely do the same/victim blame your friend if she were put in your situation. The reason why abusers thrive is because men like h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:04 AM
1

You’re definitely right about that. I remember when I lived abroad, I couldn’t even afford to buy myself a plane ticket if I wanted to go home. Where I’m from, it’s illegal for landlords to charge people a deposit for first month’s and last month’s rent. The deposit is what fucks people over even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:36 PM
5

Thank you. It happened a long time ago and he reaped what he sowed. Yeah, the excuses are where you begin to see that their mothers are PickMes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:40 AM
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I can’t stand PickMe mothers. I met the first one when I was a teenager. Her son is a rapist, a drug addict, and an overall NVM. She thought all his trash behaviour was funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:42 AM
40

We are literally watching the thought processes of someone who’s in denial. “She’s not happy she’s not happy she’s not happy she’s single now and miserable she’s getting married next year but he’s ugly she’s not happy this is how feminist females are supposed to feel....”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:18 AM
25

I would have more fun watching a movie marathon with my dog than hang out with this scrote. My dog is amazing to watch movies with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:13 AM
11

She didn’t sign up to be a surrogate mother, a step mother, or a co-parent. Enough with expecting women to drop everything to support your child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:02 AM
5

I don’t believe in hiding my sexuality because at some point, a man is going to start talking about sex whether he thinks you’re lady in the streets or a freak in the sheets but the moment a guy starts talking to me about sex, I call him out on it or I even just skip ahead and block and delete him. I also call them out on their porn use and talk about how it makes them pathetic and bad in bed. Only the strong survive the first conversation or date with me because as much as I love sex, I also th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:47 AM
4

That’s absolutely horrible! I’m so sorry to hear that. Not only did he assault you, he did it in the middle of a deadly pandemic. This is not “better than those other times” you’ve been assaulted. Please don’t think that something that seems as small as this (it is definitely not!) is not enough of an assault or violation. And yes, primal scream away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:20 AM
0

Are you Native? Because if you aren’t, you have no business complaining about who’s in the country or not and you, as a colonizer, do not belong in Canada. It’s funny that many of you use the excuse of trafficking victims yet fail to realize that they are trafficked to these foreign countries. They don’t go to other countries in hopes of working in the sex industry. It’s preposterous that you would even think that. Another thing: disabled people end up becoming sex workers because the government…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:45 AM
0

No. Germany legalized it. Legalization and decriminalization are two different things. Please educate yourself. Sex workers can still be criminalized because they now have to jump through bureaucratic hoops to prove that they are not breaking the law. A lot of trafficked women and girls are undocumented so they can’t be forthcoming with the authorities because they’re considered criminals. This is exactly why human trafficking in Germany increased and traffickers were harder to trace. It’s also …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:17 AM
9

I know it’s easy to say “send him to rehab!” without even thinking of the financial implications but I would have said “figure it out or get the fuck out”. Her daughter’s education fund is not meant for her stepson. If I were in this woman’s shoes, I would have resented them so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:19 PM
2

The sex industry is a catch 22. It’s funny how we all speak of it like it’s legal and that it needs to be outlawed...but it’s already outlawed. However, I read just now that Rhode Island decriminalized (not legalized) sex work and rape and STDs went down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 10:12 PM
2

I can imagine! In my mother land, women don’t go to bars and if they do, it’s often because they’re sex workers. Some of the definitions of slut are racist too. “Women wearing huge hoop earrings makes her look like a ho” “women who wear anklets”, “women who have their nose pierced have daddy issues”, “women who have tattoos” These are all jewelry, piercings, or adornings that are sacred to Black, Indigenous, Latin, and Hindu cultures. Or in some countries, if you look someone in the eye when you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:58 PM
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Why is it that you agree to pay for a movie or show and agree not to pirate it or distribute it? But it’s justified to go out and distribute a sex worker’s images when they said not to? Even models who are nowhere near doing sexually charged images get mad when their images are distributed without their permission or when the photographer who took their photos is making money off of them while they get nothing. That’s why there’s this thing called intellectual property law and copyright law. We …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:45 PM
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We can all hate sex work but at the end of the day, our hate for it is not productive when we unknowingly back the legal system that allows these women to be harassed, doxxed, raped, go missing, and murdered. There is, literally, a law that deems sex workers as not human. I was mentioning in another comment that because of its criminalization, cops rape sex workers after a sex worker refuses to take them up on their deal to get out of being arrested. And anyone who says that they’re concerned ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:21 PM
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Even sex workers find this demeaning. There was a meme making fun of women who judge sex workers but who turn around and do shit like this for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:10 PM
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It’s performative empathy accompanied by a whole lot of pearl clutching
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:04 PM
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Who cares if she wanted to be on Broadway? You’re aware that we’re in the 21st century now where women can now take on a career that they desire? It’s clear that you’re elitist and even ableist because not even disabled people could pull off the amount of work she had to do to survive in NYC. She took a job in a very well respected field and worked in a restaurant at the same time and was still not making enough. What are you complaining about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:53 PM
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She moved there because she wanted to be an actress on Broadway. It makes perfect sense for her to be there. You also shouldn’t be blaming people for moving to an expensive city. You should be blaming capitalism. The gentrification, the low wages, the predatory people like CEOs, landlords, and corrupt politicians who continue to make New York as expensive as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:43 PM
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I agree with you. It’s hollow to claim to be supportive of women but turn around and slut shame. Slut shaming isn’t just about being criticized for loving sex. Slut shaming leads to women being targeted, harassed, assaulted, raped, or killed. Men also have a spectrum of definitions of what it is to be a slut. That’s what makes it even more dangerous. One girl talked about her parents calling her a slut because she wanted to move out and that only unmarried and slutty women do that. And then you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:22 PM
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It’s good that she’s getting more of a supportive response than one of shame. Can you imagine if this was before MeToo? The world would have been so rude. And thank God for AOC calling it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:05 PM
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I hate porn and I do not want to date a man who watches it but also because of the economy even before COVID, sex work was even being encouraged by a government agency in the UK. Teachers were also becoming sex workers because their salary wasn’t enough. People are getting desperate. There’s also a reason why decriminalization (not legalization) is being demanded. It’s to be able to protect women from being violated in any way. I was reading yesterday that a serial killer specifically chose sex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:57 PM
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It was appealing for even the seasoned sex workers because they didn’t have to come into physical contact with their clients. It’s nothing new for cam girls but some of these women are strippers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:50 PM
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She wanted to become a Broadway actress, started working as an EMT and worked in a restaurant. She already had 2 jobs that had nothing to do with OF and was still not making enough money. She was struggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:42 PM
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Then you must be okay with rape and sexual harassment since this is the premise for violating someone’s privacy and boundaries. If I was a rape victim, I would definitely not want to be speaking to you in court. I can only imagine you would be asking me if I drank that night and what I was wearing. Everyone knows you have sex. Do you want your exes going to your family and telling them what you were like in bed? After all, everyone knows you’re not a virgin, might as well have locker room talk w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:32 PM
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She also wrote a piece for the Independent. https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/ny-post-medic-sex-worker-lauren-kwei-b1775264.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:28 PM
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New York is filled with gentrification. Translation: a lot of poor people who were born there and who grew up there were pushed out of their neighborhoods. If you’re a healthcare worker and are not being paid fairly, I absolutely do not blame anyone for getting into sex work. Especially in New York. New York City has fucked a lot of the locals over so anyone from outside of there will tend to fare even worse when they move there. She also wanted to become a Broadway actress. The other day I said…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:17 PM
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This is straight up victim blaming. He violated her privacy. There are lots of publications that have articles that protect a person’s anonymity. The reporter will use a different name for them. It’s not that hard. And all this shaming of sex workers only makes it more dangerous for them. I don’t see people like Chris Evans suffering for his leaked dick pic. There was even Noah Centineo who has a video of him masturbating and talking dirty. Nobody said a damn thing. Firefighters aren’t shamed fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:04 PM
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Definitely not church. These men are the biggest porn addicts and the most performative of male anti porn activists. Be suspicious of men who are vocally anti porn. They’re usually misogynistic and/or incels. There are men who are genuinely against porn or indifferent towards it but you just have to keep vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:46 PM
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I did this last year. * facepalm *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:49 AM
28

I don’t think it would have been so tragic had Diana not been murdered. If she was still alive, we would have seen her move on, living her life up. Shortly before the wedding, she didn’t even want to marry anymore. I also think Will and Harry would have grown up differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:17 AM
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It’s a good season for reaping what you sow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:06 AM
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I had made the most disrespectful NVM fuck boy who was so hot and irresistible to women that multiple adult women in their late 20s (I was in my late 20s also) would fight over, come crawling back to me because I was so cold to him. And by then, I had moved on. It did stroke my ego a lot though. We’re not the same as men but when you give back what they dish out, they lose their minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:25 AM
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I am cringing at the last time I did this. I hope he forgets (not expecting it but I hope there’s a miracle where he does forget it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:53 PM
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Since it’s so legal to doxx sex workers and to shame them, it’s fair game. Men already love openly defending their porn use on public forums and defending their attendance at strip clubs so why not take that extra step?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 08:33 PM
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One time a NVM I was seeing conveniently ditched my invitation to him for a party. I had no expectations that he would show up anyway and he didn’t. I wasn’t hurt by this at all. I met a few other people and had a blast. I also ended up flirting with another guy I met that night. My friends took photos and even quoted some of the banter that he and I had. They posted the pictures on social media the next day and tagged me and the guy who ditched me texted me an hour later apologizing for having …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:03 PM
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This is perfect. Let him have everything that he wants. He’s talking to another woman? No problem. He wants to live in filth? Cool. He wants to keep watching porn? You can handle it. He wants a second mommy? That’s possible. You just won’t be around anymore for it, that’s all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:51 PM
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Bad idea. Men know what they’re doing. She just needs to pack up and leave and not say a word. Not even goodbye. Let him fester. Somehow I think that if she were to leave without a word, he’s going to suddenly take a great interest in her and spend 5+ years regretting it but she’ll be long gone by then. Men are so needy. They need to have their cake and eat it too and if one factor is missing, it fucks with their heads for years to come. By then, he’ll be nothing but a forgotten memory to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:58 PM
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She should just ghost him. Pack up and leave without a word. No need to coMmuNicAte with him. He’ll know. It’ll also help him hone his intuition skills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:56 PM
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Ironically, many men consume sex work. Even the CEO. Your manager and your coworkers too. They just hide it. Imagine the shit storm women could cause if we were like “I have all the copies of your credit card statements”, the screenshots of your chat logs”, “the list of women you follow”. Let’s be evil mwahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:49 PM
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BAHAHAHA Approval please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:25 AM
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This is mommy’s job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:23 PM
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Continue telling the truth (even if it’s to other women) because eventually she will see that you tried to look out for her. She’s going to get red flags from him if she hasn’t already. I noticed the amount of drama guys would bring to the point where I would have random girls tell me they saw him flirting with other girls/making out with them/ insert all the typical fuck boy shit and I couldn’t even tell if it was all hearsay or if it was for real. I dumped the guys anyway and would leave them …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:19 PM
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They’re always so full of shit. I was invited to my friend’s cousin’s bachelor party once and I was actually there to try to talk the men out of going to the strip club. They had already booked escorts to come over but they ended up sitting and having a conversation with the escorts instead. They also ended up not going to the strip club but that bachelor party was an exception and definitely not the rule. Women are better off dumping all men who even think of interacting with sex workers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:56 PM
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Is it true they go back to your normal size post-breastfeeding? I could only wish for big boobs but I had heard that having them is so painful and inconvenient. Back pain, can’t run, can’t sleep in certain positions, etc. I had two friends who got reductions because they were in so much pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:58 AM
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That’s the fucking worst! “But why?” Why?! Don’t ask why. Just take the L and leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:20 AM
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Not surprised at all. I even knew of a scrote who graduated from law school in Massachusetts and still couldn’t find himself a job while he expected his soon to be pregnant wife (also a lawyer) to support the both of them. Even in some countries like the Philippines, people are choosing call center work because it pays more than being a professional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:36 AM
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I had heard about Google recently getting involved with cracking down on searches for porn itself but I didn’t see any news stories about it (I haven’t really looked it up so I could be wrong)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:36 PM
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Apparently taxpayers also pay for rapists—the ones who end getting charged and going to jail but that’s none of my business. (Clarification: I agree with you on the ableism. I was disgusted reading it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:00 PM
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People aspire to it because they think it’s easy money. Not necessarily because they want to hang out in lingerie in front of strangers or have the spotlight on them. I knew a civilian actress who was a stripper. She did it well but it’s obvious that she would have preferred working as an actual actor. You would be surprised by how many theatre actors do sex work on the side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:51 PM
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Is the internet cracking down on porn or just Pornhub? Because Pornhub isn’t the only porn site, unfortunately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:04 PM
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Unfortunately, so many have. I even had an ex boyfriend who lost his virginity to a sex worker. He was an average looking journalism student (speaking of journalists) who thought everyone else was having sex so he paid for it : / Sex workers are also strippers so if a man attended a bachelor party or organized one, he likely hired one or pooled his money with other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:01 PM
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Someone mentioned that this would have been the opportunity for a woman to write a scathing exposé on capitalism. If I was a journalist, I sure as hell would’ve written that piece and put the government, her employer, and her misogynistic coworkers on blast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:36 PM
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OF is like an amateur porn site where it gave sex workers the option to be in control apart from creating their own website. I don’t follow porn trends but I assume it was the first of its kind for having combined porn and a social media aspect to it which is why it became so popular and common. The falsehood behind it was that everyone was going to get rich off of having an OF due to sex work having a reputation for being lucrative. The reality is that it’s like being famous on YouTube or TikTo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:30 PM
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Even a government agency in the UK was encouraging job seekers to do sex work because the government couldn’t find other jobs that these people could have. There’s obviously something very wrong with the government if they’re failing to get a living wage in place and are kissing Big Business ass instead of forcing industries to create jobs for people. Someone’s being greedy somewhere and they aren’t coming clean. Keep in mind, this is under the Tory government.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:42 PM
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I also think a lot of us missed a huge detail: why her employer felt they were right to underpay her in the first place. Her employers are evil if they felt the need to fire her when she was doing sex work. They’re the fuckers who weren’t paying her enough in the first place. The gall. Healthcare workers are supposed to at least make decent money. It’s such an admirable field to get into and the work is important but people can’t even afford to live? That’s fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:39 PM
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I don’t think she would have made $50k through GoFundMe if she had gone straight to GoFundMe to ask. The CEO of GoFundMe said that 1 one out of 3 campaigns are of people asking for help to pay their medical bills. (Which is so tragic) I’ve donated to a lot of different GoFundMes and some people were still missing a thousand dollars or so even after the media brought attention to it. And the money isn’t necessarily going to come quickly until the media makes an announcement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:30 PM
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I think what CountingDownTheDays5 was trying to say (correct me if I’m wrong, Counting) that there’s a humongous risk of losing your civvie livelihood when you do porn and that you’re extremely susceptible to men exposing you on the international level like this. Even if there are laws slowly being put in place against revenge porn, the justice system is way too slow to catch up to it and to charge offenders accordingly. It’s also very creepy that there are men who share women’s Tinder profiles …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:14 PM
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I truly don’t understand it. The cost of rent/housing is obscene and people are working for much less money than in other countries. I remember applying for jobs one time and laughed my ass off at some of the demands these jobs had: multilingual, university degree, 5 years of office experience, data entry skills, etc etc etc, “pays £6.50/hr” I was folding t shirts at the clothing store that everyone makes fun of for £7.45/hr. Even other clothing stores like H&M had staff who would laugh at peopl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:53 PM
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I was never, ever a fan of approaching a guy and asking him out because it never works out in the end. I’ve had model friends ask men out. I had a friend who was a part time model, rich, intelligent, and was studying law at the time. This woman was so hot that she attracted rockstars. Many asked her out but she also liked asking men out. It never worked out for her whenever she did. One boyfriend even cheated on her. Even on OLD when I still used it, I expected that my matches would message me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:50 PM
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The United States is such a shithole country, it’s beyond me that people think they are free. mUh frEedUms Only in a shithole country would a healthcare worker need a second or even a third job to pay the bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:14 PM
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I’ve read interviews even in very respected publications where in the middle of the interview, the subject will be quoted with “by the way, please don’t write this down”, “damn, that came out wrong please leave out what I just said” and variations of this. EDIT: It’s not her fault she spoke to him. Sometimes you’re in between a rock and a hard place. Her employer was not in the right to judge her. Who the fuck were they to judge her when they were underpaying her? It’s kind of understandable tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:09 PM
14

It looks like mommy dressed him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:49 PM
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“Am I being too controlling?” The gaslighting even gets to the point where women blame themselves. Going on multiple trips with your best female friend while your girlfriend won’t be there is abnormal and inappropriate. A HVM knows that this is questionable and they’ve already coMmuNicAtEd about it before. He knows he’s violating her boundaries. She doesn’t need to make rules because he already doesn’t care and if he follows them, it’s not because out of his desire to. She’s better off moving ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:23 AM
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309 other people found it helpful plus there are newbies joining all the time. Maybe you just need to scroll past this thread. There are lots of threads I don’t pay attention to because I’m not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:25 AM
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“We already know (your name) failed that” is rude. Friends aren’t supposed to be taking jabs at you like this. Or being ableist and making fun of your memory skills. The breakup with your best friend hurts but it would be a lifetime of a toxic person dragging you down instead of having friends who would never judge you and put you down. It’s always better to be alone if you’re surrounded by toxicity. When I was growing up, I had a lot of shitty friends that would drag me down and eventually I cu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:39 PM
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Pictures of their dog only make me more interested in knowing more about their dog. I’ve even taken screenshots because I think their dog is so cute but I still swipe left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:41 AM
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There are still social media accounts based in the US who call the police out. Some have even warned others of potential racial profiling in different areas or will keep others up to date. “This cop began harassing these food truck workers” “This police department is issuing tickets to Black people on such and such a street” I know you’re not a WOC but these accounts look out for people. These groups also understand that cops are abusive and beat their wives and children. There was even one whit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:35 PM
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“Could you...” that’s a demand. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:30 PM
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Because cops are predators themselves. The other day, a cop got caught for being a pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:24 PM
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Your advice is horrible and unwise. The OP had a bad feeling about the cop. She should absolutely raise the issue. We live in the age of social media where living in a shanty town with corrupt cops is no longer going to stay the town’s secret. Especially in this age where people are protesting against the police internationally. I have a Black friend who alerted the media shortly after he was racially profiled by the police. No violence occurred but the police used a city by-law as an in to prof…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:09 PM
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Yes, absolutely report him. To multiple avenues—governmental and independent/guerrilla. Just know that police unions and governmental agencies may not have your best interest at heart and may even thwart your report but it’s worth exhausting all avenues. In London, there’s something called the Independent Police Complaints Commission so there may be something similar in your area. There are also social media profiles that are dedicated to holding police accountable. They are run by the people. F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:03 PM
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If your date is Black, the cop would be all over himself and jumping through hoops to shove a breathalyzer test his way. Plus your date sounds nice but it wasn’t wise for the both of you to have driven away from a well lit, populated area. Cops are almost always sketchy. There was a cop who was caught a few days ago texting a man’s 14 year old niece, asking her for bikini photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:56 PM
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PickMes are so dangerous. I can smell a rape apologist just from reading that horse shit she wrote. She would be like Ghislaine Maxwell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:47 PM
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The Office is good but I hate hate hate how a lot of LVM love it and mentioning their love for it on their dating profile is a staple for them lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:23 PM
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I can’t see myself being interested in those men LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:22 PM
5

I always found it cringe to see a man do this. It’s cringe, it’s cheesy and I don’t even take bathroom selfies. I’m a photographer and know better settings to take photos in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:03 PM
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“The Office”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:11 PM
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I noticed that men love posting photos of them with dead animals. I always swipe left
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:10 PM
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LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:07 PM
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Photos where he’s posing with dogs or children. It’s a manipulative ploy. Men know that women think that they’re good guys because they look like they love puppies/dogs and love children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:06 PM
3

I don’t know what it is but there are jock fuck boys based in the suburbs or the city who somehow like bad country music.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:03 PM
5

I stopped liking The Smiths because Moz is racist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:01 PM
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Love how he’s comparing women to sea creatures completely oblivious to the fact that he looks no different than they do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:22 PM
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And the inevitable unicorn hunters. That must be incredibly irritating as a bi woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:19 PM
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This is so depraved. Men need to fucking stop and it’s so bad that this is common. I’m also disturbed that from reading these stories, I wouldn’t have the instinct to realize that I am witnessing something predatory. Or maybe in the moment it sets your gut feeling off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:32 PM
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This is terrifying! “I just want a chance” WHAT A FUCKING ASSHOLE. Take the L and leave, rapist. Thank God you got away and that was very smart to text your loved ones and put the GPS on. Unfortunately I don’t know cars very well but I should be more vigilant and google what the car is supposed to look like beforehand. I haven’t used Uber in ages but I noticed with Uber Eats before the pandemic, sometimes I get people who were delivering on behalf of the delivery person shown on the app. I can o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:16 PM
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My jaw dropped. I’m so sorry to hear that that happened to you. That sounds utterly terrifying and disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:09 PM
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LMAO. I burst out laughing. If I was drinking tea, I would’ve accidentally spat it out on my screen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:47 AM
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This post made me remember that I never did my then-boyfriend’s laundry when we lived together. It never crossed my mind to because I think that’s weird to do someone else’s laundry when they are not your child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:43 AM
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We need to reclaim it LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:28 AM
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THIS. Always always always ask the Uber driver the name of the person he’s there to pick up. Never ask them “is it for [your name]?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:53 AM
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I have a cheesy saying but sobriety is power. I used to get trashed when I was in my 20s but it is a miracle that I would able to walk around, drunk out of my mind at 1, 2 AM downtown on a quieter street and not get raped, mugged, attacked, or murdered. Never again would I do this. I’ve been sober for a decade and I don’t regret it. It’s a lot easier to be in control. Obviously we can’t control everything but we are certainly not as strong when we’re drunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:18 AM
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I know someone who worked for the company (not as a porn star) and she said she will never ever support that industry again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:01 PM
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This is that “I’m shit” non apology
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:41 PM
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I know a lot of Christian women who hide behind an image of virtuosity to conceal their jealousy of other women. A lot of them are also Pickmeishas. I have gone to church with women like this and they would say things like how it bothers them that women dress immodestly because they’re making their husband stumble. I don’t need to tell a woman I hired to dress a certain way because mY hUsBanD sAid iT boTheRs hIm. I would tell my husband to stop drooling over a teenager and look into divorcing hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:57 PM
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Obviously pre-FDS days but I never understood how men say they don’t want to be serious early on and then try to hide from you that they’re dating others. Even when you show that you’re dating and talking to other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:12 PM
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I disowned half my family and I find his request offensive. It’s also a red flag because cults and individual abusers love nothing more than their targets to be isolated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:05 PM
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I’m so sorry to hear that you went through this. This reminds me of the time I had to fill in for the housekeeper/assistant manager while she was away. One of the cleaning women told me that a resident was sexually harassing her telling her that he enjoyed the view, following her around and asking her if she has a boyfriend. That he sometimes followed her around while he wore a towel. I sent the male cleaner to clean this guy’s room and had her clean rooms on another floor. I also immediately re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:33 AM
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“SHE also brought up the fact that it was morally unacceptable to dress up That way when attending a workplace” “And SHE wanted to talk about “values”, morals and how they’re a Christian family” The wife is a grown ass woman. If these were not her opinions, she would have never had this conversation with the babysitter in the first place. She would have told her husband a long time ago that he’s being preposterous, misogynistic, and would ask him why he’s even paying that much attention to a tee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:18 AM
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Funny how repulsive a 15 year old football player is to a woman but a 15 year old girl captures the attention of men of all ages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:32 AM
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If the wife has such a problem with how the babysitter dresses and how she might be a threat to their marriage, why doesn’t she hire an elderly, matronly woman instead? Ali Wong once said “you a dumbass” if you hire a 25 year old woman to be your nanny/babysitter. And her husband is disgusting and sounds like a pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:09 PM
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He likely did but is feigning his hatred for it. We all know he jerks off to porn in secret. The wife is also jealous and is enabling her pedophile of a husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:04 PM
5

That sounds like a power couple to me. Money wise. Unfortunately the power doesn’t extend to the V part of HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:42 AM
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🤦🏻‍♀️Who needs a woman when you have the whole kit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:15 AM
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Men do not live in the present. I have read countless stories of men still living in the fucking past. Even thinking of you 20 years later (even when you haven’t reached 40 years old yet). That’s why men come crawling back later on. They’ll treat you like shit today and 10 years down the road, they’ll reminisce about you and hope that the two of you can try again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:21 PM
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This isn’t a tiny red flag, it’s a big red flag. Your boundaries have nothing to do with his opinions of your boundaries. He is overstepping them when he says “that’s okay, I don’t mind...” or some variation of that. His opinion is not going to make a difference and is not going to work to his benefit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:15 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:07 PM
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That’s something professionals—medical or mental health—can answer. He has to take the initiative to look into it. Don’t tell him “I think it could be this or that”. He needs to go get that confirmed. There’s nothing wrong with suggesting to him that he needs to see professionals but don’t be the one dragging him there. Men also admit to each other that their ED makes them feel depressed and worthless. If that’s the case, they should help themselves. I think the fact that they think that a woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:51 PM
24

As someone who vehemently was against dating younger men (it took a lot of women and decades to convince me to give them a chance—in fact, I was so militant that I even didn’t like the idea of dating a guy who was a year younger than me), as someone in her mid 30s, no I am not attracted to older men. They look old enough to be my father and so many of them lie about their age pretending that they are younger than me when it’s obvious they look so fucking old. For the sake of logistics, I prefer …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:16 PM
28

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:04 PM
171

They went to dinner alone. A few hours away from the city. Yeah, no thanks. Let’s say it was strictly platonic and they really are that oblivious. The fact that it doesn’t even cross their minds that this is inappropriate shows that they have a poor sense of judgment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:00 PM
41

Presume that all guys watch porn and watch how he speaks to you, what he jokes about, and who he follows on social media. Also, never trust the religious guys who feign being anti porn. Sometimes there are men who don’t give off any hints whatsoever but who still watch it. They can be all talk. It will show up in his sex drive. It doesn’t matter whether he can talk dirty to you (after you vetted him), knows how to undress you with his eyes, and will act like a super horny guy. Behind closed door…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:30 PM
27

He is murderer and serial killer material. The OP was very wise in getting rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:38 AM
10

How fucking lazy is this scrote? i’M nOt reAllY iNterEsteD aNyMorE. Knowing me, I would have said that his suggestions suck and immediately unmatch him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:55 AM
3

Preach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:09 AM
7

Your story is another cautionary tale of its own. He still lied relentlessly through his teeth and it’s disturbing that he kept it up for three years. It’s like, “what else are you lying about?” This is slightly off topic but upon reading FDS threads and other sources, I realize that men really do not live in the present. They’ll be engaged and suddenly regret how they treated an ex girlfriend and think of getting back with her. It‘s like, “why didn’t you sort that out when you were with your ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:06 AM
6

Once a cop gets the job, anything goes. All the laws in place are only for show. Cops even invent laws on the spot. This is why they are extremely dangerous people. It’s also legal in 34 states to rape people in custody. I also read horror stories where police would offer women, girls, and even trafficking victims a way out of arrest by having them do sexual favours. If the women and girls refuse, they rape them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:21 PM
8

That’s terrible. Unfortunately it appears to be common. I think at this point we need to follow our gut feelings because some of these men check off every box but our gut feeling is saying otherwise. There were even times where I wondered if I had people spying on me because they took an unusual amount of interest in me. I mean, sure, I’m a queen but I’m not that fascinating to be gang stalked like I was a few years ago. (I’m making it sound a lot more dramatic but this guy and his group of frie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:09 PM
25

This is nothing but state sanctioned rape. Even women who are not activists or targets are susceptible. Don’t forget that a lot of these cops were married and had children of their own and were going out and literally forging relationships with other women. There was an exposé a few months ago about the Met police. People—even other cops who aren’t American—think it’s just American cops who are bad but cops everywhere are bastards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:28 PM
26

I know a cop who likes it. He even warned me that he likes to make women throw up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:36 PM
44

The last guy I was seeing told me that he was going to be busy. Two weeks later, he noticed that I wasn’t texting as much and a month later when I admitted I went out to dinner with a guy twice, the next day he “accidentally” sent me a text that was meant for someone else. This is the same guy who told me we weren’t going to be serious, who always wanted to get out of paying for dinner (this was all long before FDS), tells me he’s going to be busy and that we’re not going to be hanging out as of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:19 PM
1

I love the lack of self awareness here. He had the gall to get mad at her. Like, you’re dating your kid. What do you expect? He thinks he played no part in this shit show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:13 PM
9

Never trust an ugly dating coach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:24 AM
4

Because men are all about ego and any attention (negative attention included) still means attention for them, I act distant and indifferent. Treat him like a complete stranger. No saying hello, no smiles, and if you ran into him at an event, focus on the people you’re there with or meeting other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:02 AM
9

That sounds scary. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. For the medical letters, surely you can request a copy, right? I also wonder if there’s a service for women/domestic violence survivors where the abusive partner needs to give up her pet or else there are consequences. Oh how I wish there is a service/organization that pressures the abuser to give the pet back. Or somehow let an organization know that your pet is in danger because your ex is an abuser and your ex is refusing to give you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:51 AM
1

This is so sad. Her mother too on top of it? This is a tragedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:45 AM
57

They’re all about mother and daughter but can’t even handle father and son or even the son’s brother
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:53 PM
33

I’m screaming 😂I just remembered this one profile I found on OLD dating last year where a father and son were advertising themselves to be tried out by the same woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:51 PM
143

I actually burst out laughing at the title. The schadenfreude is tasting delicious over here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:44 PM
26

That’s fucking awful, by the way. It’s like he physically assaulted you without actually intending to yet still assaulted you anyway because he never took the extra care in not doing it again and on top of it, threw in a racist analogy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:43 PM
5

I never had a murder dream until I was talking to the first guy i matched with on OLD. I don’t think he “hurt” me because I had only known him for a few days and I had never met him but he was very creepy. I always had this really bad feeling and visual in my head that he was using the location/distance feature on the app to calculate how near or far he was to me. Sometimes the distance would switch up while we were talking. Soon after I had that nightmare. I immediately unmatched him and blocke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:31 PM
15

And he’s walking with his hands in his pockets?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:22 PM
2

That’s so ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:36 PM
13

I’m not a fan of the art itself but I didn’t know that people presumed that all anime was sexist or hentai. I always thought that anime had different genres.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:21 PM
20

I find sarcastic people to be angry. I don’t want a hysterical, over emotional man punching holes in his walls and kicking his pets behind closed doors. I stay well away from sarcastic men. There’s a time and place for sarcasm (when criticizing 45, for instance) but in everyday interactions or in interactions where it’s not warranted at all is abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:49 AM
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You also get a preview of this in your younger, not so marriageable days, and most definitely non FDS days. When you had something casual with a scrote and he comes back out of nowhere and asks you if you want to hook up because he’s about to get a girlfriend. This is exactly the reason why men need therapy. All of them. They’re so fucking needy and can’t be alone and single without losing their shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:04 AM
2

The movie is called Polytechnique
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:27 AM
6

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:50 PM
7

Oops I didn’t see this post earlier. I posted about it too. I didn’t see the movie but I felt sick when I saw the clips. TW: graphic description of how it went down He went into the classroom and separated the women from the men and started talking about how he hated feminists. He proceeded to shoot the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:49 PM
25

I often found myself getting mad at men I was dating for not coming up with thoughtful things on their own. Not even social things like this but the thoughtlessness that men have is irritating as hell. I should add the pleas for women to lOweR our eXpecTatiOnS onto the list of terrible unsolicited advice men give to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:45 PM
30

She’s also putting you in danger of catching COVID if she keeps dating. She doesn’t even have to bring guys over for you to potentially catch it. She could be asymptomatic and spread it to you. Honestly, as someone who has moved out over 10 times in the last decade, I would say gather/save your money and get out of there as soon as possible. Put ads up online, pharmacies, clinics, grocery stores—all the essential places that are open, schools (but you likely already knew that)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:06 PM
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She would have been so fucked if they had joint accounts. Abusers especially love breaking strong women down. It’s like their trophy hunt. First it will be the money and then who knows. An aside but I think she may be a new doctor which might explain for his giddy anticipation for access to her money. They’ve also been married for a very short while. Thank God she had the sense to not merge their finances together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:39 PM
34

That’s so disrespectful, self centered, and attention seeking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:13 PM
15

Yes, why are they talking to teen girls?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:48 PM
33

Gaining is an addiction. I have seen divorces take place because the husband would neglect their children because they were too into their game. Plus the aggression and the myriad of unhealthy habits that accompany it. I love playing video games but I need a partner who is present
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:46 PM
4

Love this. However, be careful with Damsel In Defense. They’re a MLM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:51 PM
3

You should see how the cop Brian Encinia abused Sandra Bland at a traffic stop. It’s a sad and enraging video. These men have no reservations about abusing and murdering women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:24 PM
16

Obviously domestic violence can happen to any woman regardless of socioeconomic status but I noticed that cops usually marry women who make around the same salary they do or lower. This is the first time I’ve read about a cop being married to a doctor. I wonder how this is going to play out considering his wife is more powerful than him not only in salary but in name. It’s much easier to fuck over a wife who isn’t highly paid than one who makes more money than you, is rich, and who has more stan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:49 AM
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I cyber marched over there and told her exactly what kind of husband she has. This especially hits because I was seeing a cop and it all started with being asked for coffee. I insisted on brunch because I was fucking hungry and he was always complaining about how expensive things were. This post is like looking into the future! 😳Thank God we’re not seeing each other anymore! I also tried inviting her here...vaguely. I hope others can successfully have her join because she’s in dire need of FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:26 AM
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And it all started with the cheap ass cop asking me for coffee. Why of course, this is what will transpire a decade later. A parasitic, gold digger of a husband throwing a tantrum because his wife won’t pay for his family’s gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:21 AM
24

My blood was boiling reading this. It’s her money! Why doesn’t he go out and make more money then if he wants to buy his family presents? Fucking parasite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:08 AM
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Oh FFS. This is the second time I hear about cops being fucking cheap. And yes, I agree with you 100% to not date a cop. Horrible idea. They are some of the most violent men in society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:04 AM
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Those are exactly my thoughts. I hate how I didn’t catch on in time (he eventually took me bowling) but any man who is too broke to ask me for dinner does not get to meet me offline, period. These men cannot afford to be players therefore they not should be entertaining multiple women at once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:47 AM
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I think he wanted to role play Ted Bundy or something /can’t tell myself if I’m being s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:45 AM
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They’re more predatory than your average man. And cops are serial killers. It’s the way society has framed their crimes that makes people think otherwise. I also had a cop ask me if he could take me on a drive while I sit in the passenger seat topless and wear a mask (not a surgical mask). That sounds like the beginning of a horror movie. Meanwhile your average LVM is like “let’s go on a walk”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:25 PM
16

Upon doing more research, I concluded that he called her a slut because he’s a racist asshole. He’ll post pictures of his wife in a bikini and have the audacity to call an Asian woman who is more dressed than his wives’ and ex wives’ throughout their entire careers a slut. (An aside: a woman wearing a bikini or revealing clothing does not make her a slut but if Tommy Lee is going to equate revealing clothes with sluttiness, he is drowning in double standards here) He went on a racist tirade agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:02 PM
8

The makings of a Pick Me and NLOG. It won’t be long until he dumps that misogyny all over her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:58 PM
44

And you don’t have to give up your favourite foods!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:56 PM
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In my experience, treating me to dinner was never an issue for rich men (whether they were rich because of their careers or because of their family). Even my friend’s mother’s boyfriend is a lawyer and he treated all of us to a seafood lunch! I’ve dated men from all employment backgrounds (from warehouse worker to banker) and the only one who stood out as a cheap ass was the cop (I also do not recommend dating cops. Some of them are scrotes who have access to everything meaning they can stalk yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:47 PM
15

“No, none of them got picked.” LMAO. The rude and disrespectful one is the guy sitting on his ass watching his guests clean his place up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:15 AM
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This is how you live when need a place to crash for the night because you’re too drunk to drive and you’re rich enough to have a second apartment in the party district.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:11 AM
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There are a lot of kinky Black folks and Black sex workers who would totally tear anyone a new one for saying not to kink shame that “kink”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:09 AM
8

Thank you. I too had the epiphany the moment I wrote it. It did not cross my mind before, actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:59 AM
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I ran right over there to remind her to not gaslight herself. There’s nothing kinky about that. It’s fucking disgusting that he would even think of doing that. I would probably even notify Antifa of him and for them to keep a close eye on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:58 AM
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There are exceptions, of course. We should all pick up after ourselves which is a basic courtesy. I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving my mess for someone else to clean up but depending on who (if it’s an all woman party, if my family is hosting, if I feel bad for the hostess—these are the exceptions), I’m not going to go out of my way to become a member of the makeshift cleanup crew while scrotes who are off their face get to be passed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:13 AM
22

They always lie about their female friends. Unless he’s friendzoned her and has said she’s like a sister to him (but can we even believe that? I doubt it), he has her in his life because he wants to fuck her. Or he could be gay and use her as a beard but that is clearly not the case here and even at that, you still can’t trust gay men from heavily flirting with their female friends (to the point where everyone is like “are you sure he’s not bi?”). I’ve seen gay men heavily make out with their be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:57 AM
36

Be sure to subtract 2 inches from his listed height. He’s also a butterface/butthisface.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:49 AM
21

There’s an article about a guy who purposely left his apartment messy so he can test his girlfriend to see if she was wife material
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:44 AM
19

Second on “his food tasted the way that television static sounds” remark. LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:39 AM
14

How I pray that he does not follow in his mother’s and stepfather’s footsteps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:52 AM
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Keep it up, queen. The moment that triangulation shit begins (even if he’s not employing it as a strategy), you let the other woman have him. In the end, nobody got picked or else he wouldn’t have been trying to entertain you both at the same time. If you were picked, there would be no her in the picture and if she was picked, you wouldn’t have been around. Now hopefully she comes to her senses and leaves him also. No time for scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:49 AM
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Of course. What he lacks, he expects you to make up for. My father is not a HVM either but he does the basics without dragging his feet or resenting my mother. He also has a temper yet somehow I don’t ever recall him bossing my mother, my sisters, or me around. I am forever stupefied by fathers who do nothing in the house and who expect the women to pick up after them. I really feel for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:44 AM
103

Let me guess: he does fuck all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:39 AM
4

Yep. It was after our really cool, laidback roommates sat him down and said “look. We love you but you can’t get mad like you did the other night and tear the toilet seat off like that. We all work and we all try our best to keep our house tidy but it can be hard to because there’s a lot of us here and we all have different schedules” The house mates were not at all rude and were very nice in calling him out and what does he do? Shits on our staircase two days later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:07 AM
34

Same here. It’s actually not a reflex for me to offer to help in the kitchen. It sounds rude but I grew up seeing my parents cook and clean equally (hence why I will immediately judge a man who doesn’t pick up after himself/expect women to pick up after him) and when they are hosting, they never demand their guests or those who came in early to help out. As one of their kids, I will help because they’re my parents and they’re hosting but anyone outside of my family, no. (With exceptions of cours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:59 AM
30

My friend got married and expected us to pay for the fucking wedding. Her friends were also a trashy crowd who were either heroin addicts at the time or recovering heroin addicts. She had a 6 year old kid who obviously came to the wedding and burst into tears when he saw how her and her husband’s friends were getting high or drunk. The bar also ran out of alcohol within the first two hours because they all kept drinking. I thought asking us to pay for a ticket was just tacky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:56 AM
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I work full time so I can’t indulge in a game all night long but even then I make sure I get myself to sleep because there’s nothing grosser than hearing birds chirping after pulling an all nighter—even when sober
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:52 AM
9

That’s horrendous. Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry. It’s almost a prerequisite for men to be disrespectful and when they are, it’s off the fucking charts every time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:50 AM
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We lived in a very dingy houseshare and there were more than 10 of us living there. We all had different schedules so even if we kept the place tidy (which we actually did) the houseshare was a dump itself. It would not have been obvious that the place was tidy. Im fact, as I am typing this memory up, I don’t recall dirty dishes or cigarettes being strewn about (we were all smokers) or garbage piling up or anything like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:41 AM
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If the mother was the hostess and you feel bad that she’s left with the mess, that’s a valid reason to help her. You weren’t doing it for the men nor were men bossing you around and expecting you to pick up after them but had that been the case, that would have been straight up clownery!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:34 AM
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Especially when we’re not the hostess nor is it our house. We are not obligated to pick up after grown ass adults. Everyone should be cleaning up after themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:30 AM
7

Great minds think alike! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:45 AM
133

Don’t get me wrong, I love video games but porn and gaming for men are both the same addiction except gaming doesn’t focus on women or sex. Do not date an obsessive gamer. I even once came across a Naked Challenge TikTok video where the girlfriend came into the room while her boyfriend was playing a game, told her he was busy, and even got mad at her for interrupting his game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:24 AM
10

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:55 PM
27

Gift cards are what I won from work for entering contests. He shouldn’t have mementos from his exes and he is a cheap ass for giving you gift cards. There is no pRopEr rEaSoN why he gave her a necklace and you a gift card nor should you have to coMmUniCatE that. No grown ass man should be educated on why gift cards are fucking cheap unless you specified very explicitly that you wanted a gift card and nothing else (which you haven’t and the average woman is not going to choose that over an actual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:51 PM
8

Even without snooping, if you have a bad feeling, chances are it’s right. It’s also a good idea to dump them when you have a bad feeling because it means you don’t trust them to be telling you the truth. The snooping is your confirmation that they were up to no good but your bad feelings were there warning you in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:21 PM
5

I wanted to add that someone who is too clean is worth looking into also. I’ve read ridiculous ads for rooms/apartments to rent or share and there are some who are militant about cleaning. Also a NVM roommate of mine was so angry that a bunch of us could not maintain a tidy and clean house share that he tore the toilet seat off the toilet and two days later, took a dump on our stairs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:19 PM
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I also didn’t talk about the part where a world renown professional sports league wanted him and was offering him a contract and he turned it down because he wanted to party and being a pro athlete would not allow that 🤦🏻‍♀️Aside from this, this guy was probably a sociopath. And I’m not throwing the term around either. He had zero empathy for others but came off as a fun loving, laidback guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:13 PM
10

If it makes you feel any better, I knew a LVM who was an alcoholic and a drug addict who left his condo spotless. 🤪 It wasn’t bare or anything but the place was so clean that I could have eaten nachos off the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:59 PM
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Family dynamics are a lot more complicated to judge these days because there is more awareness about toxic families than before and people are being more forthcoming about it. I know a HVM whose sister is a huge narcissist. I know a LVM who doesn’t have sisters but who sounds like he has a Pickmeisha mother and strangely, a really cool brother (can’t say yet if he’s HV). I also know a LVM who only has sisters for siblings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:41 PM
19

Yeah only do that if you love those cities and seeing those men are the backup plan or were never part of the plan in the first place 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:21 PM
9

This definitely falls under Bob the Builder concepts. Can’t pick up after yourself? You’re out. Cheated? Out. Took up a drug addiction after getting married? (This actually happened to a friend of mine) Get the fuck out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:16 PM
74

I thought she was packing that stuff up for an 8 year old boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:09 PM
30

“Don’t date an ugly guy” should be a new rule
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:46 PM
50

I hope you told those men that they forged their own destiny. It’s about time men are slapped really hard with the reality. “Young women don’t want you. Even the women who you think are too old want younger men”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:57 AM
26

Or she can skip the stress and depression of heartbreak and just skip ahead to the motivation part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:50 AM
45

I cringed when she said she lost job opportunities to support him. She should dump the parasite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:18 AM
133

When I first joined OLD (I deleted the apps), this was the one thing that turned me off. Pathetic man children in their 40s and beyond not looking for anything serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:26 AM
33

Queen alert but personally I would have been more blunt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:12 AM
9

I’m the ideal stature that men want but it has not stopped me from being a massive picky bitch 😂I’ve also attracted a lot of muscular men so I use that against any and all LVM I’ve dated when they started getting cocky and complacent with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:08 AM
10

I feel for poor people and homeless people but at the very least, a soup kitchen is where you would drop by or hang out for the sole purpose of eating. It’s not a place to bring a date to. What is this man thinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:44 PM
114

5’6” does not a 10 make and I didn’t realize that one of the comments pointed out my very thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:34 PM
29

I have so many questions. How did it come to this? How did it come to him getting paid to murder his girlfriend? I really don’t understand. I could not read the whole story because I was afraid that there were going to be stills from the video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:29 PM
5

As a WOC, if I see any woman get together with a racist, I immediately view her as a PickMe because she is willing to overlook a glaring flaw—that he dehumanizes and categorizes human beings of worthy and unworthy based on a factor that cannot be controlled and supports the violence against marginalized people. There’s nothing more LVM than that. I’m thin and straight but I see nothing HV about a man who is bigoted against fat people or LGBTQ people. In a way, us marginalized people are canaries…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:13 PM
8

Look at Johnny Depp. Yes, Amber Heard is an absolutely terrible person but Johnny Depp is still seen as innocent despite his decades long history of being a violent man especially when drunk. He has enough power and money to persuade the media to work in his favour. Notice that tabloids won’t even smear him. They’ll published the stories but they won’t publish their opinion unlike other celebrity subjects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:25 PM
3

That can be said for any disabled person. She has teams of people who can advise her and enough money to flee him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:16 PM
22

Yeah it’s documented knowledge that he’s a misogynistic asshole who has fucked people over. I feel bad for his ex wife because she was the first to experience his manipulation. As for Grimes, I can’t say the same. There was a lot of information about him by now and she chose to date him anyway. Even on another post, I had talked about how rich men can appear HV but who are on a whole other level of being able to fuck you over. Powerful rich men have the potential to be even worse than your avera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:03 PM
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But your daughter isn’t internationally famous. Whether Grimes is autistic or not is irrelevant because you don’t just get thrown into fame like that if you don’t know what you’re doing. And if you’re an overnight sensation, cluelessness is not going keep you afloat. So to insinuate that she might be clueless because she might be autistic is ludicrous. Sure, she may be autistic but she definitely has enough business savviness and is capable of making decisions which she has. There really is no e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:57 AM
1

It’s not helpful. It’s ableist and unnecessarily excuses a woman’s poor taste in men. I’ve also spoken to a lot of autistic people and they would never marry or date someone like Elon Musk so it’s nothing short of ludicrous to speculate that Grimes may be autistic and that it may have led her to marry this douchebag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:43 AM
2

There are a lot of autistic people who would never choose to date or marry someone like Elon Musk. Trying to figure out whether she’s autistic or not is irrelevant and does not explain anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:40 AM
1

Grimes is in her 30s so she’s not this helpless little girl who is being groomed. I’m in my mid 30s—years older than she is—and even I laugh my ass off at 49 year olds for having the audacity to pursue me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:34 AM
11

My comment got downvoted because I pointed out what you said but as a much shorter version. Grimes was already rich as it was before she met Elon and she is also in her 30s. She is privileged, old enough to know right from wrong, and is no victim. She knew her husband was white supremacist trash who is wealthy off exploitation and genocide. She clearly doesn’t give a shit about others if she was willing to overlook this. That’s the truth and I don’t care if that hurts anyone’s feelings. If we wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:24 AM
-1

She’s not a victim. She’s a grown ass woman who chose all of this for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:56 AM
71

He still sucks. He exploits his workers and insulted and gaslit a Black employee, telling him that he needed to suck it up after coworkers racially harassed him and called him the n word. He fights against any union efforts that his staff makes and he also mocked people’s concerns over COVID. Fuck Elon Musk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:51 AM
6

Intersectional feminists are the most radical and the most knowledgeable. Liberal feminism is white feminism. Bigoted feminism is also white feminism because there is a lack of nuance. Women of colour have histories of being warriors and who knew how to put men in their place. For example, Ching Shih was a pirate who was also a sex worker who warned her fleet of men that if they dared rape any of the women, that rapists were going to be put to death. Harriet Tubman ultimately told a man to shut …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:41 AM
16

I used to be vegan a decade ago and have had a vegan FWB. I don’t recall dating any vegan men after that but the FWB was extremely vain, extremely selfish, and was overall NVM. He was an alcoholic, a drug addict, and definitely did not fit the vegan stereotype either. He looked more like an athlete and turned down a contract by a professional sports league so that he can party and play in a shitty band. I think he was vegan because it was the punk rock thing to do but other than that he didn’t s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:21 AM
19

To make matters even more confusing, there have been men who criticize fat women, say they don’t want to date an overweight woman, will pressure their wives and girlfriends to lose weight and eat healthy and it will turn out that fat women were their type all along and even will cheat on their partners with one. (I’m also using this term because fat women themselves and bopo advocates want people to use the term “fat”) There’s nothing scandalous about their type being fat but it’s very fucked up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:22 AM
39

You gotta applaud men for being so vapid. How is he going to handle dating an Instagram model when she doesn’t wear fake eyelashes and contour during breakfast?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:13 AM
9

I’m Asian but not East Asian and it’s actually tough to find out if I would be a man’s type. Sometimes men will come from towns or places where they won’t know any Asians so their exes will often be white. It’s kind of a hopeful sign but at the same time it doesn’t tell me if the guy is racist and I’m oNe oF thE gOoD oNeS. (Or if I’m a forbidden one because his town is so damn white and he doesn’t want to be caught with a WOC (but any man who is ashamed to be around me in public gets dumped by m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:04 AM
16

I know a nerdy gamer type. He had a girlfriend and they seemed perfect for each other. Beyond compatible. I didn’t ask out loud but I often secretly wondered why such a compatible couple would not work out. It turns out he’s a rapist and a narcissist who abused his girlfriend their entire relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:26 PM
10

And remember that closeted gay men will post pictures of large busted women in bikinis on their walls and will join their buddies in talking about women in dehumanizing fashion. Some will even date the woman that everyone else dreams to have just so that he can use her as a beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:19 PM
8

Oh, she knows. Not necessarily who he’s cheating with but she definitely has a feeling. I really hope this fucks him over every which way possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:07 PM
205

Elon Musk is one of the worst men. And on top of that, he’s the second wealthiest man in the world right now. He’s older than her, his family became wealthy off genocide, and he’s a misogynist. She is so fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:57 PM
7

Not only is he narcissistic and infantile, he’s racist. Also, a lot of racist, white supremacist people enjoy soul food, Mexican, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, and even Indian food (the list goes on) so it’s an even bigger red flag when a man turns down your culture’s food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:55 PM
12

At this point, she may as well ask him if touch is his love language seeing that all of this and talking to him is futile. (Translation: dump him. He’s bad in bed)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:01 PM
62

It’s not necessarily an intellectual exercise but you will start getting bad feelings. Heed them. Don’t even question yourself (“maybe it’s because I’m dealing with the trauma of my last boyfriend who cheated”)The majority of women have done a lot of work on themselves while the majority of men have not and are repeating exactly the patterns of abusive men you have dealt with in your life. A man also shouldn’t be telling you that you’re his soulmate, best friend/good friend so early. Those are r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:33 PM
4

Oh my goodness. I’m so happy I never knew about this show. I’m also grateful for FDS. I love kids, want kids, and am at the age to but this is the greatest daydream killer and birth control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:56 PM
34

It could be that he’s a stalker. Stalkers don’t care about their victims. Even if they do it for “romantic” reasons. Stalking is dehumanizing and objectifying. Stalkers are also often dangerous. If he’s not a stalker, men will do anything and everything and not talk to you. They can be staring, checking you out, gossiping about you to their friends, even laughing amongst them when you pass by but if he’s not doing anything to talk to you directly, he’s not interested. Remember that women are in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:30 AM
10

The video is apparently fake but when she was first asked this, she responded “my parents don’t want me calling the police”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:07 AM
37

Apparently the video is fake and for clout but God forbid that this happens in real life (because it is possible) and everybody shrugs it off as her doing it for clout
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 01:05 AM
6

That’s terrifying! Obviously the girl isn’t here to answer our questions but does she know her neighbors? If there was a way she could have stalled and acted like a random house was her house and that way he wouldn’t have seen where she lived exactly but again, this depends on her instincts, how her neighborhood was designed, if she knew her neighbors, and if there was anywhere that was open where she could hang out temporarily. If she felt it was okay to run, running in a zig zag pattern might …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:41 AM
7

Which is another reason why a date should not take place at a coffee shop. A muffin or a little sandwich isn’t going to cut it. I also got hangry one time because I had to go to work and then the scrote expected that I would be cool with eating chocolate and drinking tea after work. Like, GTFOH. It’s supper time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:30 AM
20

When your boyfriend from when you were a teenager thought “clit” was another word for “vagina” Or that teenage boy from a few years who tweeted that women need to know how to control their periods
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:36 PM
19

Their lack of consideration also stands out. Most people are like “are you hungry?”/“I’m hungry”. There isn’t this preposterous sense of anxiety over getting food together. If you’re going to spend time with someone platonic or romantic, you’re going to get hungry. That’s inevitable. I go out to group dinners with friends all the time (obviously before COVID) and I jokingly nicknamed dinners like this “orgy dinner” “If fuckboys assume that dinner = date, then all of us hanging out right now woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:06 AM
23

And he most certainly does not have my consent to leak it now. I suggested to him that if he were to leak it, I would have no problems going after him for rape, pedophilia, and revenge porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:57 AM
58

That’s the fuckin worst. Eating is also a need. When you go out whether you’re going shopping on your own, hanging out with friends, meeting someone for business, or yes, a date, eventually you’re going to need to eat. Denying yourself/the person in your company the opportunity to eat is really fucking inconsiderate and it’s contrived. It takes more effort to not go out and grab something to eat. Even going out with acquaintances or friends as a group outing before you’re going out for drinks an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:50 AM
45

Yep. You understand. It was also evidence that he’s still a rapist because he argued (we’re now in our 30s) that I did give him consent and that the pRoOf lies in the “sex tape” (I find the term “sex tape” implies that the people who made one wanted it for other people’s consumption) we did. Consent isn’t a one time thing and lots of husbands rape their wives and the mother of their children 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:37 AM
51

Oh this was decades ago. I stopped talking to him when I was 18 but he contacted me on social media just a few months ago. I put him on blast by posting his picture and captioned it with a huge sticker saying “rapist”. Blocked him later on. Never saw him in person or even bothered to have a conversation with him since I was 18
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:57 AM
15

I agree. It’s such a cop out when people say “it could be mental illness”. That’s not always the case. A lot of people are just plain evil and choose to prey, harass, and commit violence against others because it’s for their own enjoyment. And some of these people can’t even be defined as psychopathic because it’s not caused by a mental or personality disorder in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:54 AM
128

When I told my gyno at 16 years old that sex hurt for me no matter how much I tried to relax or drink water, she said that when we have sex with someone who we really want to have sex with, our vaginas will be more than accommodating. My boyfriend at the time is a rapist and a cheater. (Notice that I kept that in the present tense?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:41 AM
23

Yes, it is a fact that mentally ill people are likely to become victims of violence more than perpetrate the violence themselves but I also think mental illnesses like schizophrenia are not conditions a roommate or a stranger should be expected to handle unless the roommate or the stranger is professionally trained or is family themselves. Yes, mentally ill people deserve dignity and mental health services around the world are often underfunded. My friend lived with, not one but two, schizophren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:21 PM
31

This is not your fault but this is another reason why I do not want to live with roommates. Roommates can be dangerous themselves (check), bring random people over who may be dangerous (check), or who may be forgetful and are lax about maintaining a safe household (check). I don’t even trust landlords. My landlord harassed me, threatened me, and eventually assaulted me. I am all about home ownership, safe and affordable homes, learning self defense, and being in possession of weapons. You can ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:14 PM
12

I heard that men on Grindr send out pictures of their assholes to each other 😕 Even straight men who are on the app. As far as I can see, lesbians and other LGBTQ women don’t harass each other like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:05 PM
9

It was his parents’ hot tub but still. I would divorce this man so fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:46 PM
17

I would divorce him. No grown ass adult would think that that is appropriate. That’s something that children do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:39 PM
39

I don’t even think communicating with them would be worth it. It’s best to just ghost them and let them start questioning themselves and wonder why so many women keep ghosting them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:30 PM
15

I’ve never seen someone go “but it’s a beautiful place” when they’ve criticized their own country. I have however read about Kurdish women shooting Kurdish men out of self defense which I found was the appropriate action. However, I found it very obnoxious when a white friend began infantilizing Kurdish women living in London and was wondering how can Kurdish people expect to surveil their own community and to hold each other accountable. That was racist and paternalistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:53 PM
18

There’s nothing wrong with criticizing your own culture. I know male Muslim feminists who tear Muslim men to shreds but I don’t think it’s right when white liberals and other non Muslims who are not in any tangible position to help you call you racist or to speak for you. It’s just as bad as white people (including white liberals) going on and on and on about Muslim men and being overly cOncErnEd about women wearing a hijab. Both come from a place of colonization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:49 PM
2

“Do you like brown puppies?” should also not elicit “what do you mean?” as a response. This actually happened to me. I asked the guy I was seeing if he wanted to meet my new (at the time) puppy. Women more often than not, do not talk in innuendo. Even women who are writers will not talk in innuendo in their everyday conversations. So yeah, NVM #36533, that was a literal question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:11 PM
16

I lurked some male forums and some still didn’t know that porn was causing ED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:44 PM
7

The onus isn’t on women but I think I hardly got unsolicited dick pics because I would post screenshots of past offenders, talk about how I would send screenshots of rape threats that they made, to their families. I showed any future rapists and assailants the consequences if they dared cross me. I can also be frighteningly angry on social media so this also helps keep the scrotes away. Even my ex from when I was a teenager recently threatened to leak a sex tape we did and I bluntly pointed out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:42 PM
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I remember being 14, 15 years old and reading how sex in porn is about camera angles and not pleasure. Porn isn’t even good sex ed. You don’t learn about condoms, STDs, or birth control and the positions that the porn actors engage in aren’t even pleasurable in real life. I also found that any inspiration drawn from porn that a guy would bring up in the moment, suddenly took us out of the moment and changed the vibe. It suddenly felt contrived and boring as hell. Good sex is about being present …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:33 PM
55

I remember when The Simpsons talked about Homer proposing to Marge with an onion ring and this wasn’t a funny scene. They indoctrinated us young because I remember being a teenager and not seeing non-engagement ring proposals as cheap or problematic. Nowadays, I’m like “hell no. Get me a proper ring”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:33 PM
7

She’s re-traumatizing you and doesn’t seem to be listening. Of course there‘s HVM but discussing the outliers are not the reason why you were sitting in your therapist’s office in the first place. I would suggest finding a new one when you can. Yes, you will go through shitty times with your therapist (things get worse before they get better kind of deal) but this isn’t one of those times. She doesn’t sound like she is the one for you. Besides, it takes one man to completely fuck it up for the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:17 AM
2

I think it’s the online equivalent of being at a bar and the guy wanting to get away from the bar for somewhere more quiet. I don’t feel comfortable giving out my social media profiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:09 AM
12

It sounds like divorce would be great suicide intervention for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:37 PM
6

Wow. That didn’t even cross my mind. Instinctively when I have been in situations where I needed help (looking for directions, asking what the brouhaha of a crisis taking place in front of my eyes means, etc) I would never ask a child because I know they wouldn’t be able to help or that they wouldn’t know the answer. It’s instinctive but also logical to not need anything from children so it’s a great rule to teach your kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:31 PM
6

I think it’s weird because it’s like being defensive for no reason. It must really be a mindfuck to a scrote when they say “we’re not going to be serious” and you take them at their word so well that they don’t know what to do or how to react.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:31 PM
30

I’m a homelessness advocate also. I can confirm that world hunger can be solved in a few minutes from now if the world wanted to: distribute the food properly. If a woman makes money (even if she works for minimum wage), it’s far more labourious to go on a date with someone you don’t give a shit about just so that you can get a free meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:22 PM
22

Is showing you that you’re the only one they’re talking to a red flag? You never brought it up or asked them but they’re going out of their way to show you or tell you that you’re the only one...and they were the ones who said in the beginning that you two were not going to be serious. (It was pre-FDS days) For example, they’ll randomly show you that you’re the only one in their dating profile inbox. I find that suspicious. Has anyone had experiences with this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:05 PM
9

Who was it again that insisted that women stay in the kitchen and make them a sandwich?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:01 PM
53

Even people who are homeless can get free meals given to them so the “woMeN aRe loOkInG foR a fReE mEaL” is folly and societal gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:58 PM
11

😐is how I read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:54 PM
33

Send it. You will save her from deeper heartbreak, possible domestic violence/abuse, and even an STD if he has one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:19 PM
10

I somehow have a feeling that this guy I had a situationship with was actually around my age (I’m in my 30s) and not early 20s like he claimed. We were not supposed to be serious (this was pre-FDS days for me) so he initially felt like it was okay to not own up to it but eventually we went a bit further emotionally than expected. There were moments where he displayed maturity and even his jacket hinted that he wasn’t as young as he claimed to be. Men in their early 20s—especially unassuming fuck…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:22 AM
8

A lot of men don’t even know how to braid hair properly. I wouldn’t trust them to cut my hair unless they are hairdressers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:53 AM
28

Would it be appropriate to stand on the street and hand out those images to everyone passing by on the street? Would he hand those over to a hiring manager during a job interview? If he can’t do it to strangers in real life, then he shouldn’t be doing it online either. (But let’s not kid ourselves. Scrotes do that kind of predatory shit to strangers in person too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:23 PM
32

I’ve met seemingly HVM (I’m talking some of the wealthiest, most powerful men in the world) and some of them are trash and psychopaths. A degree from an Ivy League and a really good job does not guarantee a HVM. These are the kind of men who will not only cheat on their wives but they will murder women on their yachts and submit a story to the mainstream media, lying by omission and making it seem like these women randomly died on a yacht just like that. If they’re not as filthy rich, (for examp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:12 PM
19

See the truth for what it is. I did this with a guy who I fell for at first sight. Which is the perfect opportunity to throw every sense of rationality and logic out the window. It took every ounce of energy for me to deny him and to resist him. It’s hard but you must rip the band aid off and start planning your exit. And it’s worth it. If you have mutual friends who are coming out of nowhere and warning you, heed their warnings! It’s not them being jealous, it’s them being a good friend. If he’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:00 PM
64

That’s sexual harassment and on top of it, you did not give him consent to send you those images
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:46 PM
9

I’m convinced that women are the manifestation of the dollies men were not allowed to play with when they were little boys. “Don’t get piercings” “Don’t get tattoos” “Don’t cut your hair” “Wear something sexy” “lose weight” “get curves” It’s incredible how concerned straight men are with women’s appearances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:40 PM
3

I noticed a lot of LVM love him too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:18 PM
16

LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:24 PM
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Sweetheart, the recognition of human rights and your role in the oppression of BIPOC is not pRogreSsiVe. Human rights are not a debate and it’s extremely laughable that you think your right wing PickMeisha cacophony is valid. Hon, that worked centuries ago but it doesn’t work now in the 21st century. Now go and wipe those precious white tears up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:44 PM
12

I’m not entirely sure either. It could be the whole bullshit Ladies Home Journal nonsense that had been indoctrinated into women for decades, centuries. It could be PickMeism (but that pretty much goes hand in hand with insisting that women should not work outside the kitchen) But I’m also a messy person because of being disabled so where I fail in the domestic sphere, a man makes up for it. (I do keep things tidy enough to avoid turning plates into petri dishes and avoid turning my living space…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:04 PM
9

I think I know which city you’re referring to. Hahaha The city where all the women are drop dead gorgeous and the men are ugly, entitled, and dating these drop dead gorgeous women because nobody gives a fuck. Also the city where the women are buying a case of beer and bringing it over to the guy’s place as a LV attempt at a date. There’s also a very weird take on the Pickmeisha in this city. They’re somehow simultaneously aloof but pose absolutely no challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:07 PM
3

In other countries, there are men who are overly expressive and I don’t trust that either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:04 PM
3

In the UK, (assuming you aren’t British yourself) it’s a cultural thing to not show your emotions. Verbally or physically. It’s an endless riddle to interpret what someone says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:51 PM
4

British men and their lack of directness and any sort of facial expression drive me to frustration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:31 PM
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“I think that woman joining forces across racial and cultural lines is a better start.” You’re aware that colonialism is part of the patriarchy? Now stop upholding it with your coNceRn trolling. I also told you that as a Brown woman, it is not your place to shit on Black and Brown countries and their people. There are people within who are doing that. India is not my country but I let the Indian feminists call their own out and I know that they are more than capable and competent to. Stay in you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:25 PM
1

We agreed we weren’t going to be serious (this was my pre-FDS days) so there was no obligation to buy each other presents or organize a celebration on the other’s behalf. I even used to tell him all about the guys I was talking to. That’s how casual we were
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:50 AM
8

My situationship LVM used to always talk about age. I once even told him that I hated when older men would lie to me about their age. I also confessed to him that I avoided dating younger men and that it took years and a whole bunch of people trying to convince me to give younger guys a chance. He told me that his mother would tease him and say “don’t date pervy old women” and how he would never settle down with an older woman but said having one as a girlfriend is fine but not to settle down wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:21 AM
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We don’t need white intervention. There are plenty of Southwest Asian, African, and South Asian people who have been very good at calling their own people out. There are lots of Arab, Muslim, South Asian feminists, queer folks, HVM and HVW who expend much emotional labour in criticizing their own societies. I see that you grew up as a right winger and are repeating the racist, colonial rhetoric that comes with it. Stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:32 AM
11

That’s hilarious! I wasn’t expecting that but Australian men are louder and rowdier than men from the US. And drunker. American frat boys are like catholic school boys in comparison to Oz men when it comes to partying. And you can definitely count on one bringing out a LVW side out of you if you decide to date one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:02 AM
47

You can still be a badass disabled woman. I know the bar is in hell but there are HVM who will be there and who will understand. I’m also disabled (but it’s not obvious) It also helps to follow disability advocates. Many are disabled themselves and talking to them in the context of a community on social media helps. They often crack jokes and share their rants about inspiration porn. It’s actually pretty funny. My ex (I’m not attracted to him and we also outgrew our relationship) is the son of a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:02 AM
12

I never found Dave Chapelle to be funny and he’s a rape and pedophile apologist on top of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:19 AM
15

You’re going to have to be VERY careful about the military. No matter how HV of a woman you are, your fellow personnel are going to feel entitled to you and if you’re giving no’s out to them, they’ll rape you and violate you anyway. Currently, Thae Ohu, a female marine was sexually assaulted by a fellow soldier and is in jail. She was either defending herself or she broke down from having PTSD caused by the assault. Then there’s Vanessa Guillén who went missing and was found dismembered. The mil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:48 AM
12

I find it’s usually white men who aren’t funny. And it’s because comedy comes from pain and suffering. A lot of white men have it really good in the world. I also have extremely high standards when it comes to standup comedians. Will Ferrell, Adam Sandler, Jack Whitehall and I’m missing a lot of others because they’re so forgettable and unfunny—none of them make me laugh. Margaret Cho, Ali Wong, Trevor Noah, Amir Koshokhan—these comedians are HILARIOUS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:36 AM
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🤷🏻‍♀️This was pre-FDS days. He and I had agreed that we were not going to be serious. I guess I’m going to assume that he was lying to me about his age. He claimed to be in his early 20s but was probably older than that and closer to my age (I’m in my 30s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:23 AM
10

I stopped talking to him awhile ago but I found it really weird that he wasn’t so forthcoming. It was a very nonchalant, passing question and he was guarded about it. He also talked a lot about age and I had wondered if he actually lied to me about his age. He’s already younger than I am (or so I believe). Most guys would be like “December 8, why?” (Not his birthday) but he stuck out because he was evasive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:08 AM
15

I meant to say North American but yeah, Canada is part of the Americas as well as Mexico and men in Canada are definitely trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:03 AM
44

He told me his birth month but not the day or the year. I don’t follow astrology but I do know that there would be two possibilities for his sign and I’m pretty sure which one of the two they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:34 PM
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As aside: what’s the deal with men who won’t tell you their birthday? Are they lying about their age?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:27 PM
38

Plants give us life, literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:25 PM
37

I would hope that it’s just an American thing but I’m well aware that men are trash all around the world. However, I do suspect that American and Australian men are probably the absolute worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:23 PM
22

When we start dating a man, we need to know if he knows how to cook and clean and if he’s already doing these things on a regular basis. That indicates that it’s habitual for him which suggests that he’s not going to be a manchild who will be kicking and screaming his way out of doing basic domestic upkeep if you end up having to ask him. This standard should be part of the vetting process. No training him and hoping that he keeps it up. This is also part of Bob the Builder nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:10 PM
45

The fact that she’s veg and she had to prepare a turkey...I would never do that. I would be like, “you’re on your own for this one”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:58 PM
41

Ngl but I felt so sad for that turkey. I love animals and am pescetarian (for health reasons) and it hurt to see that a turkey’s life had gone to waste because of a lazy manchild who refused to pull his weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:46 PM
25

My father is not a HVM but I’m used to BOTH my parents cooking and cleaning. When it comes to chores, I have never seen my father whine or drag his feet. My parents have never had to cOmMuNicAte and I have never seen my mother plead my father to help her. I grew up witnessing this so I expect any partner of mine to be the same. Anything less is grounds for a breakup or divorce. Even men who I was not serious with would cook me a full breakfast in the morning without my ever asking them to. Or I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:43 PM
1

You’re aware that millions of us are immunocompromised? You clearly didn’t think things through, did you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:49 PM
2

What part of “we are in a pandemic” are you not understanding? What part of “there’s an increase in cases”, “there aren’t enough beds in the ICU”, “there are people dying” do you not understand? Comparing restaurants to essential services like the postal service and Amazon (who has forcibly become a monopoly during the pandemic) is ludicrous. Eating in a restaurant for a date is for leisure. Even restaurant staff have urged people to stay home and order delivery instead of show up at the restaur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 02:31 PM
15

Follow that gut feeling. He also made it clear that there was nothing beyond work that led you to cross paths. It’s best you drop him immediately. He’s also a coworker so there are going to be many more awkward moments if you don’t stop associating with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:11 AM
2

It’s not “all are considerations to weigh out”. Working for a restaurant is non essential. Going to a restaurant is not essential, let alone for a date. We’re in the middle of a pandemic. It’s not debatable. Service workers also did not sign up to be frontline workers for a deadly virus. They are also underpaid and often do not have benefits—let alone health insurance. It’s beyond selfish to further put these people at risk because you were having cabin fever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 07:19 AM
2

At the beginning of the pandemic, I got really mad at the guys I was talking to, lectured them, and ghosted them because their approach to COVID was my last straw. One of them went to the gym and had symptoms for a cold and another one had flu symptoms and kept making excuses for why he shouldn’t get tested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:28 AM
8

Keep in mind that other people have already sat on those surfaces. Also, the more people go out to restaurants instead of get delivery, the more they put the staff at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:24 AM
13

Yeah I wouldn’t trust any man who is looking to date right now. Who’s to say that they haven’t been dating this whole time or haven’t been in contact with COVID carriers? I had recently read that a woman went out on a date with a guy who had COVID and either he was asymptomatic and didn’t know or he did know and didn’t tell her and I think she caught it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:55 AM
8

I haven’t really bothered but I was asked out to have lunch or dinner in a guy’s backyard. He also offered to pick me up in his jeep. I flat out told him that it wasn’t safe and he blocked me afterwards. There were also men who I was already talking to before COVID who I continued talking to but they weren’t initiating as much as before so I let that die down. I deleted the dating apps shortly after I joined FDS because I was tired of ugly men and LVM and we are also in the middle of a pandemic …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:34 AM
13

Where to unpack? The first video talking about the long engagement...Her sister has not even been married yet and she’s already insisting that it could work. Nobody gets engaged knowing it isn’t going to work. Yet so many long engagements have ended in a breakup. And even if you can’t afford a wedding, you can always get married at City Hall for now and do a big wedding later on. (Or is a City Hall wedding too Cool Girlish?) As for the second video, I watched some of it and there’s a part where …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:54 AM
91

If he asks you for coffee, talk about how excited you are to finally finish up that school project you’ve been working on and if he doesn’t mind, can he help you and proofread it? If you have a career, bring your laptop and thank him that you’re going to be paid overtime because you’ll be able to conquer your work inbox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:30 AM
24

🤣🤣Even better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:22 AM
227

“That sounds great! I’ll bring my dog and ask my parents to come along too.” Clownery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:53 AM
30

“Hon, I walked through the park every morning to get to the subway before COVID hit”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:51 AM
32

I’m cringing at my old self. This is obviously not the most humiliating of mistakes but I definitely wish I didn’t reply back so quickly or have endless textervations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:48 AM
10

I coMmUniCaTed. No. Get yourself to a therapist, loser. Men like this are obviously needy and CANNOT be single. Instead they NEED women for validation and to inflate their egos. At first glance, I can appear like a PickMe or the Cool Girl but I take these men at their word so well that it absolutely fucks with their head that I’m dating others, flirting with others, considering fucking others (all pre-FDS by the way) and planning my future WITHOUT them in mind. And by this, I mean planning my mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:33 AM
4

Men call women who they were pursuing and stalking “ugly” when she rejects them. They do it because they think it will hit us hard. If I want to hurt a man, I don’t call him ugly. I attack his height, his bald spots, his ED, and/or his low salary. If he’s rich, I attack his parasitism and his laziness (inheritance is not a job, owning buildings is not a job, and exploiting people and holding slaves via low wages and outsourcing are not hArD woRk) There are multi billion dollar industries who nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 09:56 PM
7

I wanted to add that the plot twist is that a lot of us are viscerally attracted to men who aren’t always conventionally attractive. However, society excessively pushes women into giving an ugly, ingrate of a man a chance while simultaneously mocking men for having women who doesn’t look like trophies, on their arm. All of this feeds into male entitlement. Can you imagine what would happen if more 20something models treated Leonardo DiCaprio like the creepy predatory man that he is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 09:04 PM
1

I learned very quickly that men deserve to be ashamed and feel ashamed. They judge women so harshly on everything. Women should also go on dumping sprees. It will knock some sense into a man’s head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:03 PM
7

I don’t know if I’ve heard any sex workers say that or are the type who would. I know that even the most pro-sex work sex workers want decriminalization to make do with how society deals with the issue. It’s being twisted into promoting it because of capitalism and the denial of a living wage, affordable rent, etc etc For example, people in the Philippines are getting paid more by working in a call center than by working as an engineer. It’s not that they’re incompetent but it’s because so many …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:55 PM
9

I burst out laughing at your friend’s ultimatum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:53 PM
41

“How big of a red flag is this?” That’s not a red flag. Those are SEVERAL red flags. She also knows that he is a rapist and she is doing mental gymnastics. I wish it was engrained in our heads to leave the moment we are not comfortable. That no matter how hot, how much he gets us hot, how sweet he seems—none of these things salvage him from pressuring for nudes, threatening to cheat, threatening to break up. Throw him in the trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:24 PM
10

If it was a mixed dorm, it’s more understandable to sneak your friends in but there are reasons why women book a female-only dorm. Also one time I booked a mixed dorm and this one guy woke me up at 10 in the morning and asked me if I wanted to have cider. Other times, men have masturbated in their beds not giving a shit that there were 8 other people (men and women) in the room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:21 PM
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AGREE. I don’t trust men who were forced to go to therapy. The only exception to this is if they were forced to by their parents when they were a child or a teenager and have recovered or are still currently seeking help but who display a lot of self awareness and maturity about it as an adult now. But even at that, we’re not Bob the Builders. Someone could have started therapy when they were 7 years old and still be a nightmare 20, 30 years later. The onus is definitely not on us but I think I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:12 PM
94

Oh yeah the classic yoU’rE cRaZy. That insult is getting real old. This is way easier said than done but I would’ve been like “if I’m crazy, you must be a psychopath then”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:31 PM
2

I definitely would not want to be one of those ableist people who are like, pikachu surprise face “disabled people are hot!” but there are a lot of disabled people who are. I definitely wouldn’t turn down a disabled man if I was attracted to him. It’s unfortunate though that ableism is extremely rampant in society and that they’ll overlook someone because of their disability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:21 PM
14

I think this is another thing women need to stop coddling men for. I never believed in the need to learn to like a man or to pity fuck him and ugly scrotes’ egos are already overinflated...for no good reason. I tend to go for male model types who are more on the manly looking side than the boyish side and I get a huge laugh at ugly scrotes who always call me ugly or who threaten that I will be forever alone. The joke is on them because you know the model types I just mentioned? The feelings tend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:09 PM
234

Rape isn’t always committed with physical anger and violence 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:45 PM
30

Even living with other women is a risk too because some of them are Pick Mes or are just plain naive and bring random, potentially unsafe people into your home. I’m a huge fan of living alone and emphasizing safe and affordable or even free housing. This wasn’t a living situation but I remember when I was staying in a female dorm at a hostel and one of my dorm mates wanted to bring her guy friend in. I asked her why she needed to have her friend come and hang out in the room when there was a com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:11 PM
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They are. They’re also very privileged groups and usually more financially well off. Some don’t even get to interact with the general population which is why they think all this sick shit is normal. I also noticed that there is propaganda being released to encourage people to be sympathetic towards pedophiles. I’m like, “fuck no. Lock that person in jail or execute them.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:24 PM
41

I’m more lenient when it comes to society’s approach to sex work but I found it disturbing that a government agency in the UK left job seeking women with hardly any other choice than to suggest sex work. The whole point of decriminalization is to be more forgiving of women and children who are trafficked or who had no other choice than to go into sex work. Not straight up offer it as a job prospect and be like “well, there’s this. There’s nothing else at the moment.” That’s coercion and state sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:19 PM
37

Women are hands down more safe living alone. This is why there’s a plea for safe and affordable housing. I wish the outcry for it was louder. There’s also an even more radical plea for housing to be free because even as a HVW, you can do everything right and still get stuck with abusers because you don’t have enough money to flee and rent another place/buy a house. I’m also not a hard person to live with but I’ve moved several times over the last decade because of dangerous men. Whether they wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:10 PM
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I lived with degenerate scrotes. They were not my friends beforehand. It was a housing crisis and a lack of money that forced us to cross paths. Never again. I never want to share my living space or even have a landlord. Lots of domestic violence occurred between the boyfriend and girlfriend (who were two of my housemates). The boyfriend also expected the women in the house to clean up after them. Fuck that. The housing manager allowed all this violence to continue. My two okayish female housema…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:56 PM
12

It was an epiphany I had. We women are in a constant state of self improvement due to society imposing all of its standards on us. But men have stayed stagnant, have not looked for a proper outlet to express their feelings and keep using women. The neediest men are the ones who need FWBs and situationships. It’s like get yourself to a fucking therapist because you’re dragging multiple women into it and are even reproducing and dragging your children into it. I wish as women we would collectively…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:19 PM
9

He told on himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:07 PM
8

Tucker Max was the king of scrotes. He made a comment recently where I shook my head and was like “no. Go back to therapy” I even @ him on social media correcting him on his comment. He supported BLM but then talked about soCiAl jUsTicE wArRioRs. I’m a bookworm myself so I’ve judged men on who they read (plus what kind of music they listen to but music is more flexible and not always a reflection of a person’s character...) and I’ve been lucky to not have dated men whose heroes and role models w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:06 PM
4

“Oh no! I don’t want us to become boring ass parents now!” I would be so tempted to divorce this man’s ass so hard. If there was no child, it would be no question. And then I think of how single parenthood is so challenging. Divorce and take full custody? It sounds like the solution at this point. Then he’ll get to spend even more time with his friends! Win win /sarcasm She’s been very generous and patient in allowing him to have hung out with his friends that much and ESPECIALLY on weekends. FD…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:53 AM
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Forcing therapy on someone doesn’t work but if the abuser themselves goes to therapy by their own volition, there’s hope but it will take a LONG time for a man to heal. It will take at least a decade (as per the FDS handbook) to even consider dating a man who’s been seeing a therapist. Where we’re at now? We have societies filled with men who have never decided to see a therapist and who continue unleashing their hate and their destruction. I’m still so skeptical of Tucker Max but I was SHOCKED …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:34 AM
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It’s fucking creepy that almost NONE of the men out there are seeking therapy. No wonder why we have an epidemic of LVM and NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:11 PM
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You will need to get him out of your life ASAP. Change your locks, block him, and maybe even consider finding a new place to live so that he can’t follow you and stalk you. I also wanted to warn that one of the commenters here was lucky enough to even have a police swat team but that’s no guarantee. She even says she went through hell. Police are more known for NOT helping women in domestic violence situations and making things more dangerous for the victim than safer. HOWEVER, report him anyway…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:51 PM
7

I moved abroad for a few years and vetted the men really hard. I didn’t date or have sex once. Partly because the men hardly initiate (it was their culture. Women didn’t really initiate either and there’s a running cultural joke that the population only continues because of copious amounts of alcohol) and the other part being that the men were way too promiscuous for my liking (usually other tourists/travellers) Any time I would hang around the touristy areas, I was always cautious of locals who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:09 PM
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I love using travel as a weapon against scrotes. Especially if I find out that the guy I’m seeing/having a situationship with is a LVM or NVM. (Pre-FDS days of course) There’s also nothing wrong with making their fears come true. Go ahead and date the locals or fellow travellers (if they’re HV enough but you need time to find out if they are) if you’re there long enough. Men secretly HATE it when you talk about your travels or your future travel plans. I’ve had men tell me tHis iSn’t goInG tO bE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:07 AM
9

That would seriously piss me off. That’s really ableist also but then again, we’re talking about the same kind of sociopaths who would cheat on their pregnant wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:56 AM
13

And they’re the ones who rule nations and go to war
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:50 AM
1

Sorry, I didn’t see the update of your comment. Even if law enforcement were to take a stance on porn, cops would continue to be hypocrites. Cops hate women. They side with abusers and rapists and will go to great lengths to make sure that said abusers and rapists stay out of jail. Also 40% of police families experience domestic violence. This is higher than the national average. Cops have hit on me before and their sexual propositions always made them sound like serial killers. Cops are also mu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:08 AM
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That’s ominous. I hope you kicked him out. You need to get rid of him ASAP. That should have never crossed his mind, let alone been uttered. He has the fucking audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:02 AM
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You pulled a Queen move. Well done. If a guy tries to hide you, he’s absolutely worth dumping. He sounds like a parasite. Needs you for sex and emotional labour but can’t even acknowledge you in public. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:52 AM
5

Knowing me I would do that and do it in such a way that says “oh so now you know how it feels”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:29 AM
27

“Does your dick have permanent shrinkage? For once it doesn’t look like it hahahah it’s just a joke”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:17 AM
8

I think this Asian plush company once made a plush of the blob fish. It was actually cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:51 PM
21

At this point, I think women should start psychologically torturing men. They’ve gone way too fucking far. Cheat on them because they have ED. Dump them for having dad bods. Complain about their height and tell them everyday how you wish they were taller. Tell them “I wish your dick was as big as [insert porn star’s]” and specifically search for and hook up with men who have them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:49 PM
16

“Too bad. These were always for the kids anyway”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:43 PM
42

I would already file for divorce. This also goes for those ridiculous LVM/Pick Me engagement pictures and cake toppers where the man is being literally dragged to get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:12 PM
30

It’s a feat if they simultaneously like tacos and call for deportations of Hispanic people. /bitter sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:09 PM
9

Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:21 PM
3

Strangulation is extremely dangerous. I’m surprised it’s becoming a common thing amongst younger adults—unless it’s more an OLD thing/hookup culture thing. I’m only in my 30s and I remember that anal was the forbidden sex act. I’ve had men (younger ones) ask me to choke them and I won’t even do it because it’s very very easy for it to go wrong. You can do a “safe” way (like in a stage combat kind of way—grab their collarbone instead of their throat) but it’s the lack of oxygen that is what leads…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:12 PM
13

tRuSt mE iT’s rEciProCateD. Unless they’re poly, no it’s not reciprocated or else he would have started a proper, respectful relationship OUTSIDE of the current circumstances he’s in. If they are poly, he would have had no problem telling his wife “I’m going to be spending some time with the girlfriend” He cheated anyway. He’s a LVM who doesn’t give a shit about his wife or his side chick no matter which way you spin it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:58 PM
12

And we don’t need white women’s coNceRn trolling. Lots of Asian women have successfully shamed and humiliated white men for their participation in rape tourism. We don’t need white intervention. Also, white women like to hide their jealousy of Asian women behind this coNceRn. The accusations that Asian women are here only for the purposes of pedophiles (we didn’t choose to be petite and have youthful looking faces), creeps, nerdy types—ya know, all the male rejects in society. The assertion that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:39 PM
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Mmmkay. Found the rapist. Funny how men never outgrow pressuring their partners for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:04 AM
10

This kind of thing always reminds me of Cat on a Hot Tin Roof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:54 AM
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Because he broke her down and manipulated her. I knew a NVM who attracted pretty much every woman he met (including me) His on and off girlfriend was hot AF and we kind of paled in comparison to her looks wise but he treated her so badly (got numerous women pregnant during their off phases, verbally abusive, just a really horrible person all around) and she still stayed with him although she could have EASILY gotten anyone. There are times where I want to be her friend and be like, “woman, we ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:35 AM
9

No thanks. He sounds like damaged goods. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:30 AM
3

Good observation. I didn’t even realize that (apart from the obvious red flag of the age difference)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:29 AM
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It’s a very racist statement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:55 AM
27

This calls for a reality show premise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:49 AM
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You can’t choose who you’re attracted to. If we could, none of us on here would ever go for men. The “not being able to get a girl of their own race so they go for Asian girls” implies that you believe that Asian women are beneath white women. There are lots of white men who date Asian women who couldn’t care less that they’re Asian. My ex grew up in a town that didn’t have Asian people at all. It was predominately white and he had one Hispanic friend. I was the first and the last Asian woman wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:45 AM
7

I haven’t read many books on the topic lately but ten years ago Why Men Love Bitches was my prelude to FDS. I also began reading The Gift of Fear 2 years ago (still haven’t finished it but it’s FANTASTIC)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:26 AM
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And also, men never give a woman a chance if they don’t like her. They’re not “well, she seems nice” I don’t see why women are expected to gIvE hiM a cHaNcE when men are like “i dOn’T wAnT aNytHiNg sErioUs” when it comes to women they don’t want. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:32 AM
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Yep. My rule is no “learning to like him” and no pity fucking a man. He needs to love me more than I love him and already I need to really love him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:18 AM
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Yeah that’s ridiculous. I also find that boys and men have a habit of leaving details out of their stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:48 PM
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And rape is not necessarily violent nor is it always committed by strangers hiding in the bushes. Just because she sent a text asking to hook up, it doesn’t mean in the moment that she wanted to follow through. My ex from when I was 16 used to rape me all the time. He thought that us having sex on camera one time meant that he wasn’t a rapist. No. I “lost” my virginity by him raping me. He had often pressured me for sex and would get really mad at me whenever I said no. I would give in because I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 09:44 PM
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It definitely gives off the impression of Cool Girl nonsense. I love standup comedy and even have friends who are professional standup comedians so I have a robust sense of humour but the whole roast me concept is desperate and attention seeking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:33 PM
1

That’s a cute sentiment but the “heroes” of feminism like Susan B. Anthony begged to differ. She wanted to gain the vote before a Black man would. She as well as several other feminists ordered for Black women to stay in the back of the marches. And her wish came true because Black women gained the right to vote 45 years after white women. And I haven’t even started on 40% of white women holding slaves. Miss us with the faux solidarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:51 PM
2

You’re right. We don’t need white people’s help to come and rEscUe us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:39 PM
8

Us BIPOC have agency and can call out our own. And we do it on a regular basis. We don’t need white saviours and white feminists coNCeRn trolling us and trying to infantilize us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:11 PM
5

No. Christianity is a Brown religion and features women who ruled countries, women whose voices were taken seriously, and even women who were sex workers and who were part of Jesus’ ancestral bloodline. Also some Vikings were part Asian. The University of Copenhagen discovered this in September. It was Christianity that was stolen by white European colonizers and appropriated for their agenda that set misogyny in motion. In summary: white people (yes both white men and white women) who are respo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:06 PM
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The tradwife movement was started by white people and white women are eating it up and are the ones raising white supremacists. A HVW would not do this, let alone marry trash and raise trash. There’s a lengthy pre colonial history of Black, Native, and other WOC having egalitarian partnerships, working, fighting, and not being forced into submission. Even my own parents don’t have to sit down, cOmMuNicAtE and push themselves to be egalitarian. It’s natural for them. White women are extremely beh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:11 PM
16

The. Fuck? I would set that kid straight so fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:00 PM
2

Bystanderism and enabling are still a part of parenting. Not good parenting, obviously, but a good mother would not have acted the way Brock Turner’s mother did. Pick Me mothers enable rapists. Even his LVM of a father cheered him on for getting sOmE aCtioN. If there was a fantastic woman who did everything she could to raise her son right and he winds up being a rapist, it’s obviously not her fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:14 AM
2

What you’re describing is the most dangerous kind of Pick Me. She’s like those mothers of children who are raped or sexually abused by her boyfriend and who continue to stay anyway. She not only puts herself in danger but she puts their future kids in danger. This man had a good decade to undo the shit he did. Just because he seems to have cHaNgEd, doesn’t mean he won’t do it again. Especially considering that in this world, rapists are living their best Iives, rarely go to jail, get to keep the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:00 AM
16

“Oh I understand sarcasm. I just don’t think you’re funny.” I’ve said this a few times to men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:07 PM
55

The only good reason for marriage is because you have a piece of paper that holds the man financially accountable for his parasitism. Even at that, accountability is not guaranteed. Playing house with no piece of paper to show for it is definitely a no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:26 PM
1

Even if someone has been manipulated, they still have a choice. The fact that she doubled down on the Pick Meism makes her an abuser and her previously enabling him were the seeds of her evil. Some people who are abused don’t become abusers themselves. Others do. And she happens to be one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:57 PM
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I’m best friends with one of my ex boyfriends but we are an exception and definitely NOT the rule. I would never want to date a man who has female friends let alone who is best friends with his ex because I know that the majority of men cannot handle that and want to fuck all their female friends. I’m also willing to stop being friends with my ex if I meet someone because I know it will be a pain in the ass for my future partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:28 PM
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People can change but remember that there are also bullies in high school who have caused serious lifelong trauma to others. Some of them regret it, some of them don’t but youth is not an excuse. She was an abuser and that’s the truth. She may no longer be but she was still an abuser in her past. We also have teenagers walking through their own schools and shooting people dead. That makes them murderers. Doesn’t matter if they volunteered at the nursing home a week later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:49 PM
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An aside, but a known murderer and rapist who orchestrated the rape and murder of her sister and her sister’s friend used to post on a UK parenting forum. Her name is Karla Homolka.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:46 PM
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I take them at their word so well that I plan my future without them. Thinking about going back to school? Go for it. Book that visa to go abroad next month (obviously before it was COVID)? No problem. Buy a house? Yes please. And obviously date others. I do everything on my own anyway (go to the movies by myself, go out to dinner by myself, etc) that ultimately, the only thing I need a man for is sex but even at that, the quality of men is so low that I don’t even want to bother sleeping with t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:31 PM
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Enablers ARE abusers. They join in on the gaslighting and they are accomplices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:20 PM
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I’m so sorry you got COVID. This is more proof that men will put you at risk for the sake of their own pleasure. It’s infuriating. Even when I’ve been sick, men have wanted to see me knowing that they were going to get sick. STD wise, condoms are optional for men. It’s usually women who are the ones who are suggesting condoms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:16 PM
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Your story actually triggered me. It reminds me of how an acquaintance had raped one of my friends. My friend was crying because the sex hurt and he told her to shut up and just kept going. Some of us also found out that her rapist’s last relationship didn’t last because he used to beat his girlfriend. Your body just viscerally reacted to a dangerous man. Do not discount your gut feelings!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:25 AM
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I was wrestling with this a few years ago. I had a crush on a guy and didn’t know he had a girlfriend. He revealed it to me when I was in his apartment but he kept trying to make out with me and have sex. We didn’t end up doing anything because I kept pushing him off and he even tried to keep going as I was literally trying to get myself out the door. I had a Pick Me friend (thank God I don’t keep that low value, loser of a woman in my life anymore) who heavily advised me not to tell the girlfri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:36 AM
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We literally are talking about going our own way. We’re not giving each other tips on how to deceive men and rape them. We’re telling each other to get the fuck out, move on, live our best lives, and literally GO OUR OWN WAY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:56 PM
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If I’m not mistaken, FDS has a handbook somewhere in the resources here going into great deal about how to discreetly plan your exit. The emphasis is on doing this in secret and as discreetly as possible because leaving can be very dangerous. Try to start also moving things little by little and having it go to your family or put in storage. One thing I always recommend: keep your phone charger on your person at ALL times. Does he have control over your phone? Be careful if he has used it or stor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:18 AM
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Three things you need to know: Madonna/whore complex. Translation: it’s not you. He’ll simultaneously use two women who are the complete opposite of each other at once Sex symbols and bombshells have all been cheated on: Audrey Hepburn, Natalie Portman, Pamela Anderson, and Kate Upton just to name a few—all women who have been highly sought after. Translation: it’s not you A person’s job is not a reflection of their worth. Men who go to the military end up homeless years later. Women can be clea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:42 AM
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I predict the opposite. I don’t see co parenting picking up. There’s a lot of women who don’t want children and there are women who do but who are not going to settle even for a sperm donor. Plus single parent families cannot afford children under the capitalist state we’re living under. You have to be financially well off to want to successfully raise your child on your own. A lot of us here are also former Pick Mes who got really fed up with the state of men. I think if anything, this is the g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:51 AM
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The hypocrisy is where it becomes a turn off. Thankfully, there are Muslims who are on the same wavelength as you. It’s just a bit harder to find them (hint: they hang out with the intersectional feminist crowd)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:46 PM
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You don’t need a good reason to leave him. If you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it. I But you also cited plenty of red flags: making you insecure, is into another girl, has anger issues, uses the hOneYmOoN pHasE excuse. You have an arsenal of good reasons for why you should leave him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:33 PM
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Women back then had it even much worse. Nowadays, we’re freer to put our foot down but any time someone romanticizes relationships in the past, I quickly point out that it was taboo to divorce and women were expected to keep their mouths shut and to pretend everything is okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:27 PM
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Be an ice queen by not showing him any emotion. Treat him like you don’t know him. It’s going to help immensely. One time I slept with a coworker (we’re in a wild industry that permits that kind of thing more than other industries. This was also long before MeToo) and he slept with my best friend the day after. As soon as I found out, I immediately ignored him at work. He starved for my attention but I continued to avoid him and that also helped me get over him. Later in the year, I found out he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:14 AM
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I get that she has an OF but why is she posting these things to Instagram? 🤦🏻‍♀️Cutting him out of your life and blocking him is the first step. Also cut her out too (although the both of you don’t know each other) Out of sight, out of mind. No joke but reading FDS for a week straight made me stop missing the last guy I used to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:30 AM
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I know what you mean. It hurts a lot because he was deceptive by having love bombed you and then he went and fucked his ex and there’s footage of it on top of it. Meanwhile, you were trying to take it slow and get to know him. The best thing to do is to tear the band aid off and leave him. It gets easier and easier the more you do this. Already he’s leaving such a bad impression on you and if you two progress further, you’re always going to have the insta story and his ex in the back of your min…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:24 AM
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I’m not sure what the significance is but men tend to have a Madonna/whore complex. Apart from that, he simultaneously disrespected the both of you. If you were kinky, he was bound to emotionally cheat on you with a more reserved woman. Men expect caricatures. It blows their mind that a woman could, for example, love video games, but also be obsessed with makeup and fashion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:12 AM
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You’re expected to put up with his porn collection and a sex doll and then he loses his mind when you want to keep your sex toys?! He can literally go fuck himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:00 AM
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Don’t blame yourself. It’s not your fault. Men’s depravity is off the charts. He also used another woman who is the complete opposite of you. The problem isn’t you. It’s him. He’s the one who needs to be thrown in the garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:54 AM
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I remember that 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:53 PM
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When you talk to a guy and you have never spoken about sex or anything to him but you feel repulsed by him. There are also men who can be downright ugly but won’t creep you out because they’re not perverted, let alone addicted to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:40 PM
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One word: ED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:36 PM
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aT leAsT i’M nOt pAsSinG yoU aRouNd tO mY fRienDs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:35 PM
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He had COVID? That’s good news. I had been inviting people to eat him. Looks like we’ll have to hold off 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:29 PM
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I always hated him and I’m glad the world is catching up to his true colors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:28 PM
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I really don’t understand all of this. Both my parents cook and take turns making meals. They don’t even have to sit down in advance with each other and plan. It’s understood that if my father or mother is in the middle of making food, they either help with making a salad or a side or they simply back off. They’re not foodies either so it’s not like you need to have a passion for cooking to just get to it. This is fucking ridiculous. The only time I would cook for a man is if he’s sick. The only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:43 PM
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Thank you. I didn’t get justice as per the justice system but I can heartily laugh at him now because I got my revenge pretty much right away 🤣🤣(I slept with his hot brother and we became FWB (I suggested it). Did things with him that I had never done with my ex and always refused to do, joyfully made him cry when telling him this, and said “I enjoyed every moment of it”. He threatened to commit suicide (more like tried to manipulate me), attempted to in front of me, and I asked him “can you do …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:07 PM
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My rapist ex from when I was 16 STILL came looking for me on social media 20 years later—during the pandemic. I haven’t talked to him since I was 18! He even found me on social media ten years ago and I didn’t accept his friend request. This time around, I decided to screenshot a series of notifications showing that he was liking my pictures, stamped it with “rapist”, and put him on blast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:49 PM
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No, they’re terrible looking and there’s nothing that can salvage them if they keep it up with their seething hatred for women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:38 PM
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I’m almost in my late 30s and have been (willfully) single for a LONG TIME. I guess I had used my gut this whole time without knowing because men have always been a disappointment to me and I had wondered if it was just me. I was always more stressed out, more angry, more depressed whenever I was in a relationship with one. I would love to get married and to have kids but I’ve been holding out because most of the men I meet are either ugly or are hot but irritate the fuck out of me. Or they’re u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:37 AM
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Wow. “I know your defenses are up...I’m different” He comes off as a predator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:25 AM
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I’m Christian but I left the physical church LONG ago because of this nonsense. The men are more often LVM pretending to be HV. They’re often addicted to porn, take their tempers out on women, are rape apologists and believe in (marital) rape (rape is rape no matter who you’re coercing into having sex) My date with a guy who works for porn was far more respectful and (too soon to say) but seemingly very HV than most of the Christian guys I’ve come across.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:12 AM
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Have you seen Vera Wang in a bikini? She’s in her 70s! Christie Brinkley is almost 70 also from what I remember. These men disgust to me. Physically but also psychologically. There was even a study that was done where the ideal age of a woman that men wanted to date was a 20 year old woman—or a woman in her early 20s. That’s repulsive! Why would you want to date someone young enough to be your granddaughter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:36 AM
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We don’t need to hide behind law jargon to see what’s going on here. Also, it was irrelevant for the cop to start asking about the woman’s mental state when she was there to file a report about something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:21 PM
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There’s another man (another who is likely to be considered HV) who said that when he, as a white man, exercises his rights that are laid out by the constitution, the police often escalate the situation. There was one time where he exercised his rights AND WENT TO JAIL for the night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:17 PM
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The cop was charged and let go so invoking one‘s Miranda rights would not have made a difference. As we’ve seen with the several cases over the last summer alone, cops have violated and continue to violate laws. They are absolutely corrupt and no amount of compliance is going to save a BIPOC’s life. There is countless footage of people complying and being murdered by police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:57 PM
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“Can you? iT’s jUsT gAy iF i dO iT”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:08 PM
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The other day I was called ugly by 3 scrotes who were probably teenagers or in their early 20s. They obsessively called me ugly and I bet in my head that they looked like the above. (An aside: men call women ugly as a way to dominate them and will call women ugly, fat, or a slut after they harassed her and she rejected them) And it’s not me telling myself that I’m beautiful. I’ve had men randomly blurt out to my face “you’re very beautiful”. The ugliest of the ugliest are are always the most ent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:05 PM
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You had to “learn” to like him. When you have to learn to like someone, run (I’m not a cheater and can even stay in long term relationships with guys who I initially were not that attracted to in the first place) but I will always wonder who else is out there. When I dated men who I actually wanted, that thought NEVER crossed my mind. The ugly ones or the short ones ALWAYS have the audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:00 PM
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HAHAHAHA I actually refused to answer his question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:29 PM
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I think this is what happened with the last guy I was seeing. He had previously been in a long term relationship, left his gf because he wanted to sexually experiment with other women and “didn’t want to cheat on her”, became FWB with a random woman who then stopped sleeping with him when she got back with her ex and that ex-FWB became his best friend. Then I entered the picture and eventually stopped talking to him. I don’t suspect him to be that noble to just leave his gf just so that he would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:28 PM
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One time I wound up talking to a guy who lied about his age claiming an age that was 2 years older than me. I’m in my 30s and he was probably in his 50s or 60s. You could tell that he takes care of himself but he was not my type and it disgusted me that he felt entitled to younger women. I straight up said to him “you’re old AF and you look it. Why the fuck are you lying about your age?” He started whining about how if he were to put his real age, that he would only get older women. Then he proc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:06 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with clamouring to buy a PS5 by burning a hole in your pocketless dress for yourself... My ex/now best friend (he could have easily been a HVM but I’m not sexually attracted to him and there are some things in his character that needs tweaking around) bought ME a Super Nintendo Mini for Christmas a few years ago. I would not buy a console for a LVM and I most certainly would not want a gamer SO who spends more time playing video games than spending time with me. I love my v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:25 PM
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I think you dropped your crown 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:43 PM
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I knew a guy who was financially stable, seemed to have come from rich parents, had a really nice condo (it was clean too) but no toilet paper or paper towel. He had a BBQ at his place one time and us women were like “how do you not have toilet paper or paper towel?!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:34 AM
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I don’t know anyone who is not employed and who makes excuses to not get a job. Even the people who are like “fuck work! fuck capitalism!” are employed. I guess being unemployed and making excuses for it depends from region to region
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:25 AM
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I find there’s something calming about their energy. I noticed that in a lot of couple photos (especially with American couples), the couples often look like they’re trying way too hard to appear like they’re so in love and perfect for each other. (And you find out later that one or both of them were LV/NV) There’s a very scattered vibe but I find this couple looks quietly joyful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:38 AM
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Some of those bOy moMs are huge sanctimommies and the worst PickMes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:42 AM
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I once dated possibly the most asshole fuckboy type of NVM and even HE was like “what are we?” “I want a girlfriend” Remember that the bar is at “loser who fathers several children from several different women asked to be serious” and move way up from there. If a man isn’t initiating, drop the time waster!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:35 AM
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Ah yes, another display of men’s logic and rationality. All dating apps are the same. It’s funny how Hinge is marketed to be this app for people who are looking for something more serious yet you still have these losers fussing over the concept of a dinner date. And in this case, beat the woman and nearly killed her. I think it was Bumble (which is of course another app that is marketed to more of a feminist leaning app) where a woman went on ten dates with a man before he killed her. At least i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:15 AM
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Out of the mouths of babes...that 10 year old DEFINITELY knows
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:44 AM
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All I’m thinking is either “he’s cheating” or “is that for a gambling habit?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:34 AM
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You’re aware that you can be silly without harassing someone and overstepping their boundaries? I’m friends with standup comedians so I know what it’s like to hang out with brilliant, hilarious people who aren’t trash. If someone doesn’t like being pranked (hell, I know a woman who HATES hugs), you respect that and you stop. Lots of people don’t like pranks. You don’t need to question it, you respect that person’s wishes. How hard is that to figure out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:17 AM
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I think any time a man starts talking about how men are visual, you should initiate a pretentious conversation about art. “Since you’re visual, which painter do you think is more suitable for blue walls? Monet or Georges Seurat?” “Which shade of pink looks good to the eye? Fuschia or bubblegum?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:41 AM
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Charles is King NVM and the queen is trash also. (Not even basing this on the show. They were so cold and so cruel to Diana)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:06 PM
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They’re time wasters. They may not be using you for sex but they’re using you for emotional labour. I used to talk to this guy every single day (he was always initiating the conversations and he even swiped right on me on another app and wrote to me laughing and informing me that he that) He told me he didn’t want to go out with me or hook up with me and it would get to the point where he was writing me about women he was writing to and trying to go out with. For me, I didn’t initially care but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:28 PM
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aggressively locks doors 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:19 PM
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The farting and the lying is actually disturbing. Yes, there’s a big comical element to it but he subjected his wife to waste all of that money on vet bills. I also find it super disrespectful to subject someone to noxious gas all night long on a nightly basis. That sounds like a health hazard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:17 PM
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I think your situation is the reason why there is a new trend in relationships: separate bedrooms. (There really is a trend of this. There are now married couples who are nowhere near separation or divorce who opted to live in DIFFERENT houses)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:15 PM
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I’m still surprised that there are men who DON’T give oral. Mind you, I’m from a place that is not shy about all things sex but it’s almost like the standard. I have never met a man who has said “I don’t eat pussy” I’ve even had men who had this on their list of sexual acts they WANT to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:11 PM
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Yeah the rim of the toilet thing is the reason why I was ALWAYS turned off by giving men spontaneous BJs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:06 PM
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I thought that boxes of tampons or pads would have also been a great weapon against men. 🤣🤣 I remember when I had fallen asleep on the couch at my relatives’ place and somebody had left a bag of period products right next to the couch. My cousin picked it up, screamed, and threw it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:04 PM
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The irony is that men have NO issue going to war, watching horror movies, watching graphic, bloody news reports of people dying but then think a woman’s period is disgusting. Not to be all yoni and philosophical but men are somehow okay with blood that’s associated with death and are repulsed by blood that is associated with giving life? Make it make sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:36 PM
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jUsT aSk hiM ouT. Worst advice ever given to women. I had this absolutely stunning friend of mine who was a model (not a famous one or anything but still HOT) and who rockstars would fall all over but she was a big fan of pursuing men and asking them out. She always did it with the band guys who even liked her but it never worked out. One of the normal guys (remember, this woman attracted rockstars) she asked out, ended up cheating on her with the girlfriend of a roadie. We were all shocked beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:11 PM
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It’s like he wants her to be sabotaged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:00 PM
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One of my FWBs from a decade ago did not care that I bled all over his sheets. I wasn’t expecting my period but it happened. He was so not a HVM at all but this gave him a brownie point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:58 PM
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I’m one of those people who uses the idea of period sex as a standard. I always bring up the idea to use it as a test to gauge a man’s misogyny and immaturity although it’s not something I want or need but their responses can be very telling. One guy (still a LVM) said “that sounds hot” and another one bought me a chocolate bar although he didn’t want to hang out for the rest of the week. Both are LVM. One of my exes would buy my period stuff whenever I asked him to and he was never like “ewwww …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:56 PM
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Question: has any physically abusive man foreshadowed their abusive ways with “I’m scared of hurting you?” I know it’s a given that they’re talking about their emotionally and psychologically hurting you but has anyone had a physically abusive partner say that too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:47 PM
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If women weren’t visual creatures, how the hell do we pick our outfits? Stand in the middle of our closet and let the clothes fly over to us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:45 PM
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Who wears camo pants to a date?! I visualized the part where you said “I guess you’re not ugly?” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:43 PM
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Yes I totally think the love language thing is bullshit. Human beings are capable of expressing themselves in ALL the love languages. Sometimes even at once. Mind. Blown. It’s also the same as blaming one’s sign. i’M liKe tHiS bEcAuSe i’M a sCorPio
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:22 PM
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I also outed him as a rapist when he found me on social media and started liking all my photos during the pandemic. He threatened me with the video and I screenshotted the threat (in the threat itself, he was like “you can screenshot this!”) and captioned it with “that’s smart, leaking child porn”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:00 PM
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Pam was also a bit of a Pick Me in the sense that she joined in on Jim’s trashiness and immaturity. If ever I had a boyfriend like that, I would have told him to grow the fuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:51 PM
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I wish we can sue on the basis of their threats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:46 PM
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A man can have you in person. There’s no need for him to have nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:28 PM
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Yes because it’s not just the—for lack of a better word—humility they experience from having low self esteem. “Maybe I am at fault 🥺” PickMes have a superiority complex and they totally overide their own logic, their own rights, as well as the rights of other women just so that they can claim a whole circus to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:17 PM
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He was that rare boyfriend where I couldn’t even care about him. 🤣🤣(I was 20 at the time, he was 27) I think that’s why I couldn’t even muster up any envy or jealousy towards his ex or his best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:13 PM
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I can’t even. I imagine a poly couple doing this but I know that some men STILL cheat in their poly arrangements. I’m also willing to bet she did not give him consent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:47 PM
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Also why do you need nudes when you can have us in person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:20 PM
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WHAT?! to your last sentence 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:18 PM
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It’s super disgusting to keep sexual mementos of your ex. Like, why?! I won’t even keep cute gifts from them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:47 PM
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I already can’t handle keeping a cutesy wooden sign that had our names on it. Why the fuck do men keep these images and videos around? Like, move the fuck on. No wonder why you have limp dick. You’re watching porn of strangers and you still consume nudes and videos of your exes. I think from now on, we should start berating them for their ED. We’ve been too fucking nice and empathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:56 PM
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My ex boyfriend from when I was a TEENAGER claims that he still has a video of us having sex. Still has it TWENTY YEARS LATER and even threatened to leak it. I stopped talking to him when I was 18. Yet he still searched for me on social media during the pandemic. I also counter-threatened that that I was underage at the time and that if he were to leak it, he would be distributing child porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:53 PM
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🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️I’m so sorry. All these stories are HORRIFIC. I have a friend who witnessed, as an adult, the disintegration of her parents’ marriage. She has never been married but she saw the horrors. She said to me “guard your heart even when it comes to your husband. You can never trust them”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:48 PM
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That’s bordering on (marital) rape if it hasn’t already been defined as rape. I’m so sorry your then-husband did that. You were in no position to have a say and then he goes and further violates you by showing his friends. Absolutely disgusting. And even if you were an exhibitionist, he still needs to get your permission. He can’t just snap photos like that and freely distribute them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:28 PM
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i hAvE iNtEgRiTy. i oNLy sHoWeD iT tO kEviN. iT’s noT lIkE i woUld uPloAd iT tO poRnHub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:22 PM
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You critiqued his performance 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:36 PM
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Ironically he had more of a thing with his best friend (who was a woman) than with his ex. He cheated on his ex. Can’t remember if it was with his best friend but strangely, he wouldn’t talk about her as much as he brought up his ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:35 PM
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When I was still in a relationship with one of my exes, he nearly showed me the sex tape he did with his ex and not even in a malicious way either. He was literally scrolling through his phone and came across it and was like “oh yeah I have this. Wanna watch it?” If men aren’t being malicious, they’re that fucking careless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:18 PM
47

She also said she was self conscious. Girl, you aren’t in a position to be sending nudes if you’re feeling self conscious. That’s not enthusiastic consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:13 PM
57

I had seemingly “sweet” boyfriends who nearly showed me their sex tape with their ex had I not said “I don’t think you should be showing me private stuff”. Boyfriends lose their phone that was filled with nudes. So even if they were to hAvE iNteGriTy, it doesn’t mean they won’t lose their phone or someone else won’t hack into it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:11 PM
39

I also feel for any bi woman who has to deal with unicorn hunters. I feel for all of you. UGH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:52 AM
1

I don’t remember the episode where Dwight brought a gun. However, Dwight and Angela were not rElAtiOnsHiP goAls and Dwight is not seen as better than he actually is. Considering that he was dangerous, the smart thing for Jim to do would be to leave him alone and NOT provoke him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:24 AM
88

I make it very clear to men that I will not cook or clean for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:40 AM
106

Same with the men who think their pregnant wives are fat and who insist that they work out post pregnancy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:37 AM
2

Just skip to the blocking and deleting. Give no explanation. He’s a parasite and a time waster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:16 PM
1

Men really have the audacity to make demand upon demand and give nothing in exchange. The ironic thing is that muscles don’t really capture my attention but I will be more than happy to hold that over a man’s head if ever he starts whining (which he will)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:12 PM
51

When you see these hot men disrespect their extremely hot wives, it’s enough for you to see the truth. Even the ugly ones have no shame and all the audacity. So if these are the prospects, hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:33 PM
28

I was very late on watching The Office (a good decade late) and I wondered why Jim and Pam were rElAtIoNsHiP gOaLs. Some fans had even pointed out the immense amount of white privilege they exhibited. Jim constantly slacking off, harassing his eccentric coworker on a regular basis, and still being able to keep his job. Didn’t he get promoted at some point too? Pam was trash herself. Just because she wore cardigans and looked plain, it doesn’t mean she was sweet and innocent. She was enabling Jim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:47 PM
16

There was fan speculation that he was actually cheating on Pam and in that episode where the woman was in his hotel room, he only “tried to get rid of her” for the cameras
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:36 PM
2

I also read too fast and thought I saw that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:37 PM
7

I remember reading from a Facebook group talking about how obnoxious it was that a family got sick because the husband washed the dishes with laundry detergent. And these are the people in power? FFS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:36 PM
40

If the teenager who works at Shake Shack can throw in an ice cream on the house, the guy who works for porn takes you out for non alcoholic drinks at the bar (you don’t drink) and expensive sushi afterwards and if the cheating scrote insists on buying you dinner and getting whatever you want, then your little date off Hinge can take you out to eat on his dime, no questions asked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:06 PM
1

Need tall, muscular, and big functional dick with a sexy face. Watch the scrotes have a meltdown at that list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:00 PM
15

It’s already enough to drink in Canada
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:40 PM
8

No it doesn’t. So called forgiving someone is a way to repress your feelings which is not healthy. For instance, my first boyfriend from when I was in high school raped me and cheated on me several times. I got to experience the full spectrum of emotions—from laughing at him and saying “can you do it faster?” when he was trying to kill himself in front of me to turning his step brother into my FWB after my ex and I had had broken up for the millionth time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:26 PM
9

I used to work in customer service face to face and I ALWAYS saw this kind of thing. Even in non romantic settings. The same goes for friend groups where one or several of the friends are nice to outsiders and strangers but are always negging each other and calling each other degrading names the closer they are to each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:26 PM
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