So, I want to make this clear: I'm not talking about men with genuine Aspergers, who don't understand people, and can't read facial cues.

I'm calling out dudes who pretend to have a disability so severe, that they can't relate to *anybody* and that is the excuse that they use to treat their SOs like trash.

My ex husband claimed he was an Aspie. So did my stepfather.

But here's the thing: they read people just fine. They both were able to tell when somebody was pissed, and they were able to easily discern why. Oftentimes, they even used peoples' triggers against them in order to get a negative response.

They don't have Aspergers.

*They're sociopaths.*

People with Aspergers are not able to gauge what a person's response will be to certain actions. They have to study it, almost as if it's foreign. They don't want to cause pain, in general.

There are slews of men who will fake the illness in order to avoid buying presents, showering, or acknowledging those who walk into the room, especially a woman who is helpless and depends on them. And when they're called out for bad behavior, they will gather crowds of people - whoever they can, to sympathize with them, and attack the whistleblower.

Men like this will squeeze the life and soul out of every partner who is unfortunate enough to cross their path. It is gaslighting to the extreme, and it WORKS.

Be wary of what the excuses are. If they're convincing enough, YOU will be blamed for calling them out.

Edit: further - psychiatrists and therapists will happily try to diagnose people with aspergers. Especially when a wife is seeking help in her relationship. They don't care. In fact, they feel bad for the dude whose "harpy wife" is demanding something that "hE juST caNT PROvidE." Specialists are not on our sides, and neither are the man's family members nine times out of ten. Don't assume you can call him out IRL.