I am a man with full custody of both my children. I just want to say "FUCK YEAH"

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-03T11:27:26+00:00

Congrats!...I was also awarded full custody of my two boys, 4 and 6 years old at the time. My wife decided that an affair and a shared meth addiction with the scumbag where she was employed would cure her pathetic mid life crisis at 30 years old. Her mind was so fucked up at that time she couldn't even make it to the court house. The kicker was that I was NOT awarded child support. She never coughed up a dime for our kids.

Pinchersofperil · 2012-02-03T07:46:38+00:00

Your ex must of had a bad lawyer or be full crazy. I'm betting on the former. My cousins wife was awarded full custody and she was bat shit insane! I mean she heard the devil talking to her and other shit like that. After that bad decision of the judge he documented everything and was eventually awarded full custody. This lady would take off and leave her son with someone and forget who. Lucky those people had his number and called him. So congratulations!

T0mServo · 2012-02-03T14:53:40+00:00

You are the 1%

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-03T08:21:11+00:00

Be careful. You childrens road will be difficult and they will go back and forth choosing mom and you. It will not be smooth sailing....wait until puberty...lol.

Get ready for a difficult road but thanks to guys like you for stepping up and taking care of their children, they need you now.

But I've been there and yes, it's time for a giant celebration!

turtlellama · 2012-02-03T10:02:39+00:00

Congratulations!

CharlieTango · 2012-02-03T15:15:39+00:00

Congrats sir. Give them a good life and let mom see them a fair amount of time

AnthonyZarat · 2012-02-03T15:14:57+00:00

Can you tell us more about HOW you did it? "Good lawyer" is pretty useless, because there is no way to tell the difference between good lawyers and bad. How did you go about documenting the ex-wife's abuse? Did you document anything to demonstrate that you would be a good parent? How did you get around privacy laws that don't let fathers document anything that mothers do, for example using video or audio?

Any help is HUGELY appreciated. In most cases it is impossible for a father to hope for custody. Some fathers dream of joint physical custody, but FULL physical custody?

MRAThrowAwayBro · 2012-02-03T16:07:16+00:00

I was awarded full custody too.

But that's mostly because their mother moved to South Africa to live with her boyfriend and refused to come back to the USA.

MuseofRose · 2012-02-03T16:50:01+00:00

Awesome. Let me guess tho...that chick cray.

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-03T11:04:10+00:00

Awesome!

I hope your ex is paying a nice sum for child support, like you would have to.

CedMon · 2012-02-03T15:09:48+00:00

I'm happy for you man, grats!

krustyloustudio · 2012-02-03T16:41:16+00:00

bravo good sir! i'm about to start the process. my 12 year old daughter has been begging to live with me for quite some time. i've waited a while to make sure it wasn't a phase. over time she's wanted to live with me even more.

what i'm trying to say is, is that i'm super excited knowing my daughter wants to live with me so i can't imagine your excitement. i hope i feel that joy sooner than later.

congrats!

Hypersapien · 2012-02-03T20:51:51+00:00

and no one will take them from me.

I'm assuming they aren't at the age yet where they have boyfriends.

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-03T23:04:04+00:00

Congratulations. It is a relief to find at least one man in r/mr who seems fair and reasonable - acknowledging that while you are, and have been deemed to be, the more 'fit' parent, the woman is still the girls' mother and should be in their lives too. Good luck to you.

hubbyofhoarder · 2012-02-03T18:30:54+00:00

I had that feeling when I first "won", but honestly now, it doesn't feel much like winning. I know my son is safe all the time now, but I am also dealing with the fallout of helping him figure out his batshit insane mother, and am a single dad. Winning custody was just the first step.

geodebug · 2012-02-03T16:17:00+00:00

Good for you. My dad has you beat though :-) He pulled off getting all four sons back via the courts in 1977 and had us through High School on his own.

Take care of those girls!

McIanAvelli · 2012-02-03T16:49:40+00:00

I got full custody of my daughter and three sons in 1995. She is now in a master degree, one son working on a degree in math, one just finishing up training as an electrician and one on a full ride scholarship in the liberal arts. Oh, and my daughter just got married to a medical student last fall.

NiceGuysSTFU · 2012-02-03T18:11:51+00:00

Congratulations. My dad got full custody of my brothers when he and his ex-wife divorced. This was back 40 years ago when men rarely got full custody.

2012-02-03T20:09:14+00:00

Booyah. Congrats.

Ragnrok · 2012-02-03T21:46:24+00:00

Dad?

2012-02-04T16:30:07+00:00

My dad got fucked in his last court hearing with the crazy fucking mom of my half brother. He now lives on $1,200 a month while giving her $3,000. Worst part is, his ex is fucking bat shit crazy, and the court even recognized that. He's not even allowed overnight visits. I'm fucking pissed. Sorry to rant, but it's good to hear a story like yours.

AnthonyZarat · 2012-02-03T15:15:43+00:00

This kind of anomaly has started to happen occasionally to a few fathers across the country. Maybe this means that the feminist head-lock on family courts is beginning to weaken? MRAs -- keep up the pressure! Every day the enemy grows weaker!

As Churchill said after the Allied victory at the Second Battle of El Alamein:

"This is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning."

Kitten_paws · 2012-02-04T02:36:28+00:00

I've never found anything on here that has disappointed me until now. From what you have said your children are better with you but bringing bdsm into this as a way to make her look bad is rather unfair on all those couples who already have to hide it for fear of it being used against us. My fiancé is a dom and I'm his sub, and what happens between parents or between a parent and another sexually should never be brought into an environment where the child may find out about it one day. I'm not blaming you, I'm blaming your lawyer for crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed. People can say I'm being anti-male since I happen to be a woman but I truly believe neither gender should have preferential treatment, so it wouldn't be anywhere near the truth. I regard my fiancé as superior to me due to him being emotionally stronger, physically stronger and the breadwinner (not to mention he's smarter and better at managing money than I am). Just because people have come here to defend being into bdsm be it in fantasy or 24/7 it doesn't mean they're anti male, in fact some are quite the opposite.

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-04T22:12:37+00:00

I will NEVER post in this sub reddit again. All though the biggest majority has been very positive and I THANK YOU. All I did was drop a bomb on you . I thought I had a really positive and civil separation. My ex and I talk and are friendly. SHE never gave me as much shit about it as some posters have. I think someone should write a life time movie about how the case these IMAGINATIVE posters have created. I could play the Evil ,handsome and rich villain. My ex could play a down on her luck dominatrix. I hire a hot shot group of soulless attorneys who pick her life apart and follow her around with cameras. In court my poor ex is crying trying to explain she needed the money. Of course the judge I paid of had already come to a decision. MWHAAAhhaahahahahahaah cough* life isn't black and white people deal with it. AGAIN THANK YOU TO THE GOOD AND SUPPORTIVE

also sorry to the people I got nasty with.

2012-02-03T14:47:36+00:00

Congrats brother.

mkhorn · 2012-02-03T17:45:31+00:00

Now get off reddit and be the world's best dad!

Gareth321 · 2012-02-03T18:19:14+00:00

Provided she was indeed an unfit parent, congratulations.

lotsa1s · 2012-02-04T05:19:32+00:00

It was a combination of character witnesses documented questionable activities( ie bad facebook and fetlife photos)

The OP used someone's sexuality against them in court. What a piece of shit.

2012-02-07T15:46:54+00:00

I don't really understand the argument against using Fetlife photos/profile in this hearing.

When judging whether or not someone is fit to be a parent, I would definitely include ALL factors into the equation.

If you go by "Sex life is private" then should my private white supremacist website not count? Or my reddit account on r/jailbait? Or all the child porn I like to jerk off too?

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-03T14:25:54+00:00

crazy how? it would be good to get a sense of just how far down the rabbit hole one has to go for a mother to lose custody of her kids, especially without any sort of a legit mental illness diagnosis, etc. It seems like she'd have to be completely bananatron.

a_low_down_Mo_Fo · 2012-02-03T19:08:22+00:00

Congratulations, I bet it was a hard fight.

Middle_Aged · 2012-02-03T19:47:42+00:00

I pay 28% of my unemployment to see my girls every other weekend.

Bobsutan · 2012-02-03T20:03:15+00:00

How fucked up was the mom and how much evidence did you have to show that you were the better parent?

zandyman · 2012-02-04T02:48:07+00:00

Hey, me too... 100% legal, 100% physical.

My tiny princess is safe, happy, healthy, secure, and WAY better off.

(yea, crazy on this one too... and addicted. Yay!)

Congrats. It's a tough road, and absolutely worth it. Not to demean/undermine/whatever the army, cuz they kick ass too, but it's the toughest job you'll ever love.

-Z

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-03T15:57:09+00:00

I am a woman with full custody of both my children. I just want to say "FUCK YEAH"

So much for MRAs being egalitarian.

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-03T10:03:55+00:00

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Nivlac024 · 2012-02-21T10:30:08+00:00

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td9red · 2012-02-03T17:47:37+00:00

Why didn't you and your ex do a 50/50 split. I think sole custody with one parents mother or father, limited to visiting their kids 8 days per month, or worse yet 4 days per month to be state sponsored parental alienation. You are now a part of the ever growing group of single parents. Yours ex is not a mother, she's just a playdate with a visitor. When will our family court system get it together and mandate 50/50 custody. This would reduce the number of custody battles and the cost.

Nivlac024 · 2012-02-07T19:51:34+00:00

I have both my girls

wow, you went through all that trouble for girls? I would understand if they were boys and you wanted to raise them to be proper men, but girls...smh

Title	I am a man with full custody of both my children. I just want to say "FUCK YEAH"
Author	Nivlac024
Upvotes	349
Comments	261
Date	February 3, 2012 7:27 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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