Men have no ability to emotionally regulate because society has been coddling their feelings from the moment they were born

LateDiagnosedAutie · 2021-08-21T09:06:21+00:00

Besides the coddling that men get, let's not forget that boys are given a lot more space to develop their sexuality at their own pace without being intruded on preyed upon. Obviously these are pedo predators out there who prey on little boys too, BUT it's much more common for young girls to be the targets of older sexual predators.

So, on top of being granted significantly more space to grow organically into themselves, young boys are also granted the privilege of protection from sexual intrusion that young girls have to learn to navigate and cope around.

lullabybee · 2021-08-21T08:07:20+00:00

I swear men want special treatment for EVERYTHING, especially their mediocrity and lack of self-awareness!

Determinedblonde · 2021-08-21T06:24:07+00:00

Instead of feeling bad, maybe dudes should LEARN how to pleasure a woman

Vmchik · 2021-08-21T11:13:05+00:00

This is why I laugh when men cry about being ugly. They are so bad at being realistic and accepting reality because if they were raised like women they would’ve known they were ugly by the age of 7. Women are taught to be super hyper aware because our whole existence is meant to revolve around our beauty and usefulness while men are told to just be themselves and someone will love them for who they are.

Big shocker when they get in the real world and now their held to patriarchal standards such as height, fitness, and ability to provide. Now they’re the victims because they can’t be coddled and are expected to act like adults and get over things. The whole redpill/incel movement shows men want to be patriarchs without doing patriarch things. They’re so lazy and entitled it’s insane. Contrast this with women who are super aware of the way the world sees them and know they need to work super hard to get ahead or just survive in general.

xScarWintersx · 2021-08-21T06:37:29+00:00

Exactly! They love to complain but never actually try to fix their behaviour, feelings, situation or problem.

LateDiagnosedAutie · 2021-08-21T09:15:58+00:00

Also speaking of male entitlement, it must be nice growing up in a society that sees all of your emotional and psychological needs as the default. Girls are told to either STFU and adapt or just flat out told that our specific 'female problems' are just not as important as the 'problems of the menfolk'.

Example: I'm sure most of my neurodivergent sisters out there know how freaking difficult it is to relentlessly have our female presenting neurodiversity symptoms constantly compared to 'the default' male presenting symptoms. The care and attention that WE REQUIRE to help us cope with female autism or female ADHD or whatever is NOT THE SAME as the care and attention that is given to males with autism or ADHD. It doesn't fit or work as effectively to have men's medical treatment and psychological support applied to women, and everyone knows it!

Platipus6 · 2021-08-21T05:44:27+00:00

Males having toddler tantrums can be lethal, so everyone rushes to soothe baby boys at the first frown. They never get to cycle through their frustration, sadness or anger in a healthy way and calm themselves down.

It doesn't help when whackjobs tell them to unleash their anger in a "safe" way by escalating and using a punching bag.

No-one gives a shit when girls are crying, unless we're being too loud. We learn to calm ourselves down by neglect. Perfect.

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-08-21T12:55:04+00:00

Yes all of this. Men never had to go through anything what a woman has and it’s made them so weak and entitled. Additionally, men have ALWAYS had institutional power behind them.

zealousandvain · 2021-08-21T08:13:22+00:00

Our society cares more about men's hurt feelings than women's safety. Despite the overwhelming evidence of male depravity, we cannot call out misogyny without being labelled as a misandrist because we failed to consider all the "good men" whose feelings will be hurt by the generalizations. Our society wants us to give every man the benefit of the doubt, despite the logical conclusion that it would only put us in harm's way to do so. If we don't, we are being "mean" or "unfair", but what about the men who hate us? Their crimes are much more severe than "being mean", yet women are supposed to be the bigger person. And for what? So men can blame their downfalls on us AND expect us to be their therapist?

missyou2017 · 2021-08-21T08:57:29+00:00

And it turns into violence, as usual. Anyone who can't process their emotions properly turns to violence or aggression.

seraphinelysion · 2021-08-21T15:34:40+00:00

Men live life on easy mode and still have the audacity to complain.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-08-21T13:26:48+00:00

You're so right about us women not being able to have a childhood. I was molested by an adult when I was a little girl. Automatically and against my will, I had fucking issues I'd have to deal with for the rest of my life.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-08-21T09:15:21+00:00

Indeed.

Muffcakelord · 2021-08-21T06:32:24+00:00

Every time a man says he longs back to his childhood i make fun of him for even having a childhood. Imagine being coddled to the point where childhood was the easiest part of life

curiousiberiantiger · 2021-08-21T05:32:18+00:00

I think it's really biology if they had to bear children no baby would come out of their dirty arms alive

ConfusedPanda17 · 2021-08-21T17:12:19+00:00

This shit is why I am focussing so hard on helping my 3 year old learn to regulate and understand his emotions so he doesn't grow up to be an emotional vampire.

turtleshame · 2021-08-21T18:08:09+00:00

So one thing about being the mom of a boy trying to raise a HVM is recognizing how toxic the social emotional expectations are for boys, and how young the brainwashing starts. This means changing how I interact with men, and trying to model healthy emotional behavior.

This is incredibly hard. As women, we have very good life/death reasons for choosing to interact with men the way we do. There are a million day to day interactions where it would be easier to let it slide, let men continue to take up more space than they’re entitled to, stay quiet, and not put myself at risk. But in doing that, I’d be teaching my children that behavior is acceptable.

I am in no way excusing men and boys behavior, because part of growing up is taking responsibility for your shit, but I am recognizing that a lot of women before me tried these patterns and failed.

I could write A LOT about this, but it’s less female Dating strategy than Living strategy.

2021-08-21T10:35:15+00:00

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