I had posted earlier in the asktrp subreddit and had received excellent advice from you all. (see my comment on this post to see that post)
Since then, I implemented a lot of the advice that you guys told me. Lost weight (45lbs), got in shape, wore better clothes, started talking to girls and so on.Here's a before and after:https://imgur.com/a/kdoUbbo
From the last 1 year my college was closed, so I came back a month ago and today I finally hooked up with a chick after making out with her 3-4 times. She has a boyfriend who's not in college right now and in her words, she wanted to fuck me because 'I became too hot' for her xD
I also tried online dating 2 months ago for like a week and got 50+ matches (from Bumble + Tinder). Didn't go on any dates because I didn't have the balls to but still, it boosted my confidence a lot.
This might not be very impressive for you guys but you gotta start somewhere! So here are my tips for other guys who might be virgins/totally unexperienced with women:
- Lift
These are some before and afters. The left ones are after 2-3 months of dieting and no workout (I lost ~ 10kgs) and the right ones are 3-4 months after working out. I know they're not super impressive but again, what matters is that they are better than the befores.
Lifting is the sole reason why I was able to fuck a chick today and why I got some matches on online apps (I remember I got close to 2-3 when I was a fat fuck).
Look, lifting is one of those few rare areas in your life which will 100% give you results if you put in the work. You might work your ass off for an exam but still there are decent chances that the odds wont be in your favour but in case of lifting, if you put in the work, you body will improve, period. The confidence you get after someone says "Dude you've lost some weight right?", "Dude recommend a plan for me too" or when some chick says "I like your body, you're hot" is unparalleled.
2) Up your fashion and instagram game
This is the difference between the posts I used to post on Instagram before and after I was decently fit. Just use better pics guys. You'll thank me later.
3) Just tell chicks you find them cute and you wanna hang out
I read this online. The power of this simple statement is enormous. I went on some dates with girls in college I NEVER thought I had any chance with. I just tried to talk to them in a friendly way initially and then without talking much, i just said "so listen i think you're pretty cool so lets grab a drink sometime" and boom. If she rejects you, atleast you didn't waste your time on her.
4) Wear shoe lifts if you're short
I'm a short guy (5'7). Now a days, I usually always wear shoe lifts (3 inch min and 4inchs optimal). You won't believe a girl I was talking to a few weeks back (she's 5'2) was telling me that I was way too tall for her and that's the first time in my life I didn't feel short. So if chicks can wear all sorts of makeup, we guys can atleast wear some shoe lifts that make us look taller. They're absolutely worth the investment. They might be uncomfortable at first but you will get used to them pretty quick.
That's about it guys. You can change your life around in a span of a few months!
And of course, I want to thank this subreddit. I wouldn't have done it if I didn't write the post at the top. Thank you!
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