So recently, a man who I went to highschool with followed me on social media. I hadn’t spoken to him in probably 10+ years and we were not at all close friends back then, but I thought sure why not accept the request. Almost immediately, he “heart eyes” a selfie that I had posted earlier that day on my story. Then sends the fire/flame emoji. I just ignored it. A few hours later he slides into my DM’s asking if I remember him. I go to take a look at his profile because I remember he was quite attractive. But then I see not only is he MARRIED, but he has a baby due this month…I felt so icky even though I hadn’t at all engaged back with him. I wanted to respond and say something about him having a family, but I figured what’s the point? The dude had accepted my follow back request, he clearly knew I’d be able to see his many photos of his wife and their pregnancy announcement. There is zero innocent explanation for this, even if he hadn't sent those emojis. A married man should never be private messaging another female, period.

My conclusion is that he most likely does this type of shit often and assumes there’s no point in trying to hide his marriage/family. And that he probably misses being single and gets a sick ego boost off of flirting with other women (emotional cheating), even if things never get physical. This kind of fuckery makes me wonder if I will ever be able to trust a man. Obviously I don’t know for sure, but I would be willing to bet his wife has no idea. And if she does, she’s making a mistake by turning a blind eye because I know how with men like this, DM-ing other females flirty things is usually just the beginning. I looked through his photos and he hasn’t even been married for 2 years and he looks crazy about his beautiful wife. I know this is nothing new but I’ve just never been in this situation and I feel so distrustful of men now more than ever…