So wife and I are getting a divorce. We decided finally today. No infidelity, but she found where I created an Ashley Madison account after I told her I was done. So she makes a out 30k more than I do. We've always split the chores and bills 50/50. I pay for our family health insurance. I am a very involved father and hate that I won't see my kids everyday. (3 kids, age 3, 18 mo & 3 mo) So she wants joint legal but full physical custody. She wants me to pay her child support, which comes out to about $2800 per month. She also wants to keep her savings (about 100k, and 401k about 300k) and for me to keep my student loan debt. I have a car that is paid off and we refinanced our house and used some money to put 40k on a new Jeep. She wants to keep the jeep and I get to keep my car. And she wants to sell the house and split the proceeds minus the amount she put on a down payment. I was willing to not think about her money if she was fair with the kids. But since she refuses to think it's ok for us to split physical custody of the kids, I feel like going after her money is leverage. (I have a divorce attorney in the family and I've already figured that I'd get half and maybe even alimony/child support if I wanted to push for it.) Ami wrong for thinking this way? She kinda bullied her way through the whole marriage and I'm not letting it continue.