Dating a woman who was promiscuous is questionable is based on the type of men she has been with, not necessarily the number

AcanthocephalaNew947 · 2022-10-06T17:58:29+00:00

Interesting.

I feel like a lot do this boils down to competition with other men and feelings about other men more than the woman.

Men see each other men as dirty I’m convinced.

It’s kinda interesting if you think about it

wtknight · 2022-10-06T17:51:01+00:00

I’m not sure how women are going to know in one night whether a guy is respectful or not. That’s not enough time to vet. He could be buying her drinks at a club and being gentlemanly but as soon as he gets her in bed he doesn’t care about giving her an orgasm and ghosts her afterward.

So frankly, I put casual sex all in the same category. Whoever it is with, the fact that she was willing to have it says something to me about her personality that is undesirable to me.

SmilesLikeMardiGras · 2022-10-06T18:04:41+00:00

Why are hundreds of you spending so much time justifying this preference to women. Who cares what women think of it. You don't have to have a reason at all you can just say I think promiscuous women are gross. You don't have to justify your preference to anyone but God if you believe in him. This endless rationalizing and excusing your preferences is so neurotic, it's neurotic and inexplicable to me

januaryphilosopher · 2022-10-06T18:28:48+00:00

I'm confused about what's wrong with this in your head. You don't want to be with people who other people treated poorly? You become "questionable" in some way from being badly treated?

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-10-06T18:11:14+00:00

I’m still trying to figure out a scenario where these ladies who seem to be able to pull a lot of the kinds of dudes they could pull casually suddenly start finding the dudes that they used to ignore irresistible. Like are guys waking around going “oops pardon me, I accidentally dropped my monster portfolio for my magnum Investments!” Is there a scoreboard somewhere that suddenly says “the following STEM dudes are now a catch!” What’s going on?

Bandit174 · 2022-10-06T17:48:41+00:00

I mean I care about the numbers too but I 100% agree that the context is at least just as important if not more. I'd be more down to accept a promiscuous woman if I believed the types of guys she had casual sex with were similar to me in terms of personality and appearance and if she is still that same sexually open person with me rather than a scenario where she just got jack hammered by a bunch of hot fuckboys who pumped & dumped her and then puts up a wall of Im not that kind of sexually unrestricted girl anymore for me.

The girl who was slutty for other men but reserved for you is the worst of both worlds and ultimately the dynamic I think men most want to avoid.

Seeing online conversations about AF/BB or women saying they make guys they see as boyfriend material wait for sex are the two things that got me down the red pill rabbit hole in the first place.

2022-10-06T18:27:57+00:00

This is an interesting take and hard to disagree with. Certainly analogous to being with a man who was in relationships with crazy women who were too controlling or cheated on him. More a question of their judgement in putting up with shit treatment.

tommysamson · 2022-10-06T21:48:18+00:00

if all 20 men she had sex with didn't want to date her then she must be low quality, or if she didn't want to date any of the 20 men she had sex with that means she fucks low-quality men and has a bad moral system. both scenarios are red flags to me

mmm_try_again12345 · 2022-10-06T18:00:39+00:00

The problem arises if some of those men whom she slept were guys who only saw her as a hole to use for one night

If she had casual sex at all, this is how they saw her

DarkBrandon46 · 2022-10-06T19:00:54+00:00

There's levels to this shit and a lot of nuance.

If a we took two women that are the same in all aspects but one fucked 10 fuckboys who only saw her as a hole to fill, and another woman fucked 11 Good guys, most men might pick the one who fucked more men. But if we took that one women who fucked 10 fuckboys and compared her to a woman who fucked 90 good men I think most men would take the girl who only fucked 10. At least I would.

But like I said, there's nuance. Lindsey Lohan made a list of men she had sex with that was leaked back in 2014 and she had sex with 36 men. Assuming her body count is only at 40 now, most men would prefer being in a relationship with Lindsay Lohan than a average girl who only slept with 5 guys. So status plays into the equation.

Looks also plays into it. I'd imagine most guys would rather be in a relationship 9/10 women with a body count of 20 than a 5/10 girl with a body count of 10.

There's also levels to promiscuity. If there's two women who are the same in all aspects but one has sucked 10 dicks in her liftime and the other sucked 5 dicks, in a row, most would take the girl who sucked 10 dicks over the one who sucked 5 in a row.

Like I'm saying there's levels to this shit and a lot of nuance, but at the end of the day, body count does matter to most men.

Embarrassed-Tune9038 · 2022-10-06T18:24:41+00:00

No, just no. The good girl hasn't fucked 100 guys by age 20.

2022-10-06T21:30:05+00:00

I said this before but the quality of past relationships matter as well as her ideological view on sex. This discussion falls into liberal trap by focusing too much on individuals and individual preferences. Us stating our preferences is not going to change anything other than trigger the hook up culture warriors.

2022-10-06T22:33:17+00:00

I’m curious how this post would be receiving with the gender switched

FancyCocktailOlive · 2022-10-06T19:05:49+00:00

You’re too judgmental. You can’t expect women to be mind-readers.

Personally, I judge men by what they masturbate to. If any of the women are sluts and appear in porn, I say these men are for the streets.

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2022-10-06T19:21:15+00:00

You think high count women got there by being selective about their partners? Lol

bunnakay · 2022-10-06T17:41:06+00:00

Why would it bother you if they're using her for sex when she is doing the same? Do you think women respect the men they hook up with?

NockerJoe · 2022-10-06T18:05:57+00:00

You aren't interviewing those guys beforehand. Thats not really information you cab expect to have in a meaningful way.

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justForFun957 · 2022-10-06T17:52:25+00:00

I don’t want to date a fboy, but I would consider dating someone who in the past briefly had an fboy past (for whatever reason). Would you date someone you really liked if they had a f*girl phase in the past, or just break it off?

Btw not judging at all regardless of the answer, just curious

2022-10-06T18:34:45+00:00

Just gimme credit for inspiring you to make this post

Meihuajiancai · 2022-10-06T20:00:57+00:00

Not sure if this should go under the automod or not.

I agree with your title, but not your reasoning or criteria.

Holding it against a woman for having slept with someone who was disrespectful isn't my standard. Women like that are like really hard to find. And anyway, how could she really know in advance?

To me the only thing that matters is if there is a big difference between me and the type of guys she consistently gets with. As long as I'd have had a chance with her in the past, her past is probably fine with me

Title	Dating a woman who was promiscuous is questionable is based on the type of men she has been with, not necessarily the number
Author	zojiwoji
Upvotes	8
Comments	124
Date	October 6, 2022 5:29 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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