Contemplating walking away

47omek · 2023-01-14T23:54:38+00:00

"Walking away?" Nah you file for divorce (do not tell her you're doing this, just file and have her served) and have her hit the road. It's your house and she needs to be the one to "walk away". If she's wanting divorce it's because she's already got her next victim lined up anyway.

ijustdontcare74 · 2023-01-15T09:29:13+00:00

This is exactly why you NEVER get involved with single moms. No upsides...HUGE downsides.

Throwaway4120213 · 2023-01-14T23:22:54+00:00

So she brings nothing financially, sexually, biologically, or practically to the marriage? No money, no sex, no joint kids and no help around the house? And she is still not happy and wants to emotionally and mentally drain you by forcing you to dance to not just her tune but her family’s?

Dude - you are being a simp. Seriously wtf did I just read. File for divorce and help her pack her bags.

No_Analyst_5235 · 2023-01-15T00:37:53+00:00

There is a book called “ No more Mr. Nice guy “ that speaks exactly to the dynamic you describe . Your relationship is most likely DOA but you should read it for future relationships

tyyyy110 · 2023-01-14T23:40:48+00:00

Dude let her leave! It will be a blessing for you!

She sounds useless and trifling.

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-01-15T14:09:41+00:00

> never got her last name changed to mine

A clear sign she had one foot out of the marriage from day one.

The equity of the home prior to marriage is not a marital asset. It's separate property. The equity gained in the past 18 months (during your marriage) is a marital asset. So is any money in retirement accounts, brokerage accounts, etc. All credit card debt accrued during the marriage is a marital liability.

> step kids ate

You've been an ATM to her since day one to pay for her crotch goblins.

The point of marriage isn’t to endure it. There is no prize for making a miserable marriage last a long time. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership cemented by attraction, affection, respect and love that you enter into to make it easier for both of you get through life together. It’s like you become a team of horses, and you both help pull the wagon, and it’s easier with two than with one. But being yoked in a team with a partner that isn’t pulling is worse than having no partner at all. Sometimes you have to give up on her. Not because you don’t care, but because she doesn’t.

Hayekr · 2023-01-15T17:33:29+00:00

I'm not trying to be harsh and I'm very sorry this is happening to you, but you have a fundamental misunderstanding of female nature.

Which is OK. Every man that eventually dates women gets a harsh wakeup call at some point. I was fortunate to get burned in my early 20's by dating and getting friendzoned by them where I one day woke up said:

"Wait a second....this is not at all how women are depicted in popular culture. In fact, there is a huge asymmetry between what they say they want (the nice guy) vs what they are actually sleeping with. The girls I'm trying to date seem to be turned off by me being nice to them. The nicer I am, the more they use me but at the same time want to get bent over by the football player. This doesn't add up."

In your case, a single mom with children from another man is looking for a safety net, full stop. They want a step daddy, not necessarily a husband. They want someone to provision to make their life (and their kids lives) easier. They'll chameleon as a "good" woman for a while until the ink is dry on the marriage license, and then the behavior they exhibited to get you to marry them will quickly withdraw. The sex dries up, the emotional coldness increases.

We tend to think as men that women are these loving, innocent creatures that want nothing more than to support their husband once he commits. In reality, there is a very cold and calculating side to them to get a man to commit so they can secure the bag. She sold you the sob story about her grandma abusing her kids, and it looks like you felt sorry for her and took her in. Women love to tell a sob story to get a potential partner to feel bad for them. I've learned to be highly skeptical any time a woman says her previous relationship was "abusive" or "toxic". They are almost always leaving something out of the story on purpose. She didn't even take your last name, for crying out loud. That just screams as someone already planning to leave.

Once again im very sorry you learned this tough lesson. Women are not a vending machine where you put work, effort, provisioning, and "niceness" into and out comes a loving and dedicated wife. Often the more you put into the vending machine, the shittier a product comes out.

Nominal_Success · 2023-01-15T07:14:55+00:00

It should also be noted, the longer your have her in your house with her kids, married to you, the more family courts will savage your income and savings and give it to her. Get her out NOW!

Small_Quarter_3673 · 2023-01-15T09:37:51+00:00

I would walk away even if she had a magical pussy. She is not even fucking you just drop the divorce news on her lap and let her scramble and find another man to take care of her bullshit and deal with her kids. Get out now before she ruins you worse financially

ZookeepergameFlaky83 · 2023-01-15T02:47:43+00:00

I could see if they were your kids and you allowing yourself to be walked all over by them and her. but they're not. I feel like you have been duped and should cut your losses and move onto better things. I would imagine you will find someone who would be a lot more appreciative of what you bring to the table. I'm literally disgusted you're being treated like that, it's disturbing. gtfoh

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Title	Contemplating walking away
Author	Plenty-Entertainer71
Upvotes	8
Comments	32
Date	January 14, 2023 10:47 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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