What kind of sexual history do you consider top percentile for a man? What do you consider average?

RocinanteCoffee · 2023-01-17T03:02:41+00:00

7 is average number of sexual partners for men in the US throughout a lifetime.

For me personally, I don't care about their number. I get all sexual partners tested and reciprocate before we start doing anything risky sexually, whether they are a virgin or have been ridden more times than Seattle Slew. (As a reminder, a virgin can give another virgin HPV, HIV, Hep and more, always use protection and/or get your partners and self tested when appropriate).

Top tier would be someone who is sexually responsible (gets tested, prevents unwanted pregnancy) and who is considerate to their partners, regardless of number of sexual partners.

ta06012022 · 2023-01-17T03:29:08+00:00

Why not just look up actual data on percentiles instead of asking random people on reddit for their opinion?

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm

Note: That's the average for people 25-49. That means the average at 25 is probably quite a bit lower and the average at 49 is quite a bit higher. Also note that those numbers consider oral to be sex as well.

dogsmoking · 2023-01-17T03:29:18+00:00

For me personally? Bisexuality lmao

But in all seriousness, a guy with a healthy mindset regarding sex is more valuable than all the dudes with triple notch counts combined. A high quantity of sex partners means nothing. Apart from low standards lel. But someone who is comfortable and passionate and mindful of all their partners (no matter the outcome of the relationship) is nice

Ohyarlysmiles · 2023-01-17T20:03:04+00:00

top men who always do well with women and sleep with scores of them

Doesn't exist.

Does number count determine this?

Partially.

I'd say top 20% is in your neighborhood of 30.

However I deal with the same BS they do on dating apps, the same hardships finding a good long term partner, and don't always pull attention from the women I really want.

Yes, more or less all or most men will deal with similar BS.

So I'm curious what a lot of folks here would consider average and consider top tier with regards to the men who are dating.

Consistent casual sex with non-obese women I think is the threshold.

chancetolive · 2023-01-17T09:21:51+00:00

Maybe a good looking gf at every stage in his life? So one in high school. One at university. And then one when he enters the work force.

So by his 30s he's possibly had 1-4 deep long term relationships with quality women.

Where neither do one night stands, fwb

Head-Language-2977 · 2023-01-17T03:24:50+00:00

In my opinion, body count can be very misleading because men can choose play the game in easy mode or hard mode. A 5/10 man can be willing to drill land whales and hit triple digits while another 5/10 who insists on dating his looks-match can make it to 30 and have a body count under 5. I think the only reasonable way to judge a man’s past is to judge the attractiveness of his conquests.

_revelationary · 2023-01-17T02:41:16+00:00

First of all - I will say this on repeat forever - the 80:20 thing is bullshit. But I digress.

I would say 30 is top 90% at least. 30 is a very high number, both from my personal experience and based on averages in larger samples. You could look at specific papers for means and standard deviations to see exactly where you stand in terms of percentiles for men overall, or for men in your country.

If we’re only talking n count, I’d say average is between 5-12. In my life (people around me) it’s on the lower end, probably because I have a religious family and many people in my social sphere married very young.

Karmanger · 2023-01-17T03:04:57+00:00

If you’re a man who’s had sex with 1-5 partners over the course of 40 years, that’s probably average.

6+ and you’re in the top percentage.

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princessdanielle22 · 2023-01-17T03:51:35+00:00

I think what often gets overlooked in these discussions is that the most attractive men and most attractive women don't necessarily get the specific person they want-- just the specific kind of relationship they want.

A successful man will have more opportunities for casual sex if wanted, a hot woman can get a guy to commit more easily.

The 80/20 rule is bull. Most average men and women settle for what they can get. For men that's an average looking woman or a hot woman who has to be the center of attention, for women that's a broke guy with bad manners.

ta06012022 · 2023-01-17T04:29:26+00:00

I've been curious what kind of sexual activity places a man in the 20% of men who are said to sleep with 80% of women.

There's no stat that says 20% of men sleep with 80% of women. I'm not sure how guys draw these weird conclusions that are loosely based on the 80/20 rule.

There was a okcupid study showing that women rated ~80% of men below average. That's real.

There was a Hinge study showing that the top 15% of men got 50% of likes. That's real too.

There's literally nothing showing that 20% of men sleep with 80% of women.

ta06012022 · 2023-01-17T04:58:38+00:00

So I'm curious what a lot of folks here would consider average and consider top tier with regards to the men who are dating.

As I think about it more, this is kind of a weird question. My definition of "top tier" would probably be more focused on quality than quantity. Like there were guys in my frat who had maybe slept with a couple girls then started dating a super hot girl. Some of them are still with those same girls 4+ years after graduating.

I was in a couple of relationships during college, so there were years when I only slept with 1-2 girls and there were years when I slept with 10+ girls. Obviously a similar guy who was never in a relationship would have higher counts, but I'm not sure that makes him a "higher tier".

It seems like you consider a guy who is anti-monogamy to be higher tier than a guy who is willing to be in relationships.

ManzBearzPigzIzRealz · 2023-01-17T05:28:07+00:00

It all depends on quality. If the guy has been with 10 dimes, that’s more impressive than a guy that’s been with 40 fours to sevens.

KissCutMe · 2023-01-17T06:46:26+00:00

I do not care. I don’t want to know.

West-Ad-9697 · 2023-01-17T13:36:55+00:00

I think it varies a lot by age, let's take a yearly average instead. And understand based on lifestyle and age their yearly batting rate will change.

I think the average for men would be 3 per year, but that's very skewed, I think at any one point only 10% of men actually are banging something - this includes every incel from 13 to widowers above 60.

If we remove work and age outliers and we go with just a blue pill definition of dating range - so 16 to 54 - I think it doubles at 6/year - but the skew is similar. Maybe it gets better to a 20% if you count just the men that are swipable on Tinder or leave the house and do something else apart work/school - the range of men women actually see.

If we would remove outliers again and narrow it down to a red pill definition of men 28-45, job, car, is not obese and goes out at least once every week - I think the skew almost disappears, and most men, like 60% would get at least one girl / year to have sex with - most likely.

feanoric · 2023-01-17T14:33:16+00:00

High number does not mean high value because some men are part of the swinger community and they get sex with other uggos. Disgusting people having sex with other disgusting people with Hep b.

I think quality of women and relationships is more important to determinate what a high value man is, but they are almost all taken.

prizefighterstudent · 2023-01-17T18:58:13+00:00

Body count for a dude usually means very little. What matters is the overall quality, and how quickly a guy can develop momentum.

Any dude with a car, a head of hair, and an IQ over 80 can rack up a 20-count if he makes it his life’s pursuit. But that dude will never bag 8s on the regular if his life depended on it.

One of the biggest “Chads” I knew was a close friend who bagged them all over the board with some level of ease and consistency. Attractive chicks would approach him at the club, grab his face, many had boyfriends. Many were hot, but many were also average, if not below-average. But it’s the hotties that would make his streaks conventionally impressive.

SoldierExcelsior · 2023-01-17T22:56:52+00:00

30 is pretty high I'm around 7or 8 for women that just wanted to sleep with me or have a relationship ...and really it's only been maybe two that just wanted to have sex the rest where mostly women I was dating.

But my buddy is 6'5" and he has so many women it's crazy atleast two a week.hes constantly juggling them hell take one home so another one can come over..

I tell him I just pay for them and he doesn't understand...I get 0 interest using OLD and the ones I do manage to get a datevwith ate crazy and it's creepy to cold approach I women. No one has shown me interest in years not that I really go out or anything bars clubs etc but my friend gets most of his attention online but when we do go out girls drool over him he's oblivious to it he doesn't even have game at all,he could slay way more but he won't even approach women when they are giving clear choosing signals.

I've even had girls I was dating tell me he is hot..He's a Chad and they live in a completely diffrent world than average guys..I'm not even average but I think if your not Idris Elba you might as well be forest whitaker.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-01-18T05:49:55+00:00

HVM for me would not have a count of 30. That’s a red flag. 5 or less would be ideal.

The “chads” are not hvm. They may be hvd - high value dildo.

Year	% w/ 5+ Partners in 5 Yr	% w/ 11+ Partners in 5 Yr
1991	21.8%	10.0%
1993	23.7%	5.9%
1994	25.0%	8.7%
1996	23.3%	8.6%
1998	20.7%	7.5%
2000	24.2%	8.5%
2002	26.1%	9.1%
2004	22.9%	8.8%
2006	23.9%	9.7%
2008	24.7%	11.9%
2010	26.0%	7.9%
2012	22.4%	8.4%
2014	25.7%	10.1%
2016	24.2%	10.9%
2018	21.6%	8.4%
2021	19.1%	10.3%
Average	23.4%	9.0%

Title	What kind of sexual history do you consider top percentile for a man? What do you consider average?
Author	Kay_Dubz
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Date	January 17, 2023 2:27 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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