I highly recommend going on a date very early after divorce.

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2023-02-23T03:48:10+00:00

Horrible advice. Men who get divorced are usually traumatized and are lost. A woman can easily take advantage of that vulnerable state and before you know it, the men have new problems before even finishing off their old problems.

RideATX · 2023-02-23T15:54:31+00:00

I know a lot of guys on here follow the wait a year before dating strategy, and it's good advice. Personally, I was on the apps and going on dates a week after she filed. I had a lot of fun and it was a nice distraction, I met a lot of girls I'm still friends with to this day, I wasn't looking for anything serious, just to meet new people, have fun and maybe get my dick wet. Overall, if I had to do it again I would do the exact same thing. I get what this guy is saying, sometimes you need some external calibration to know where you're at. I had a very attractive girl poke my my stomach after we had hooked up and make the Pillsbury dough boy noise, I was mortified. It motivated me to get into the gym and drop 20 lbs. YMMV, but OP isn't wrong.

david10277 · 2023-02-23T02:06:21+00:00

Your not ready bro..I did this and self sabotaged..you need time to heal.

Dating is not required to feel healthy and wanted

whatamoniker1 · 2023-02-23T04:40:18+00:00

Very insightful, great work. Keep up the momentum and come back with more knowledge to share with us all

JuneCleaversMudFlaps · 2023-02-23T01:54:15+00:00

Absolutely. Went on two dates with two women and found out really quickly that I was not ready. Aside from my dick not working, guessing it was trauma related, I realized that had nothing to offer at the time. Put my ass into therapy immediately, and got as healthy as possible and came back stronger. First woman I went on a date with after that has been my GF for a year. Great advice

Global_warning_ · 2023-02-23T02:24:47+00:00

Yeah I was dating just for something to do. At first I thought I was ready. I unfortunately got hooked on one and found out I am not ready. I’m now battling my old issues and new. Worst part is I’m messing up someone else with all my own issues.

Don’t do it.

DetectiveGreedy9747 · 2023-02-23T04:53:02+00:00

Yeah, this is bad advice. You're basically going to a woman for validation.

laserman_joe · 2023-02-23T06:27:05+00:00

I understand your feelings but I highly recommend you to read post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/10ah3h5/reminder_wait_at_least_one_year_after_divorce/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

mowakil · 2023-02-23T10:51:45+00:00

I disagree I highly recommend to wait after divorce until you heal completely .

Divorce can be a traumatic and emotionally challenging experience that may take some time to process and heal from. Jumping into a new relationship too soon can be a way of avoiding the pain and discomfort of the divorce process, but it can also prevent you from fully healing and moving on.
If you start dating immediately after a divorce, you may be vulnerable to entering into a rebound relationship. These relationships often lack depth and are based more on the need for emotional support rather than a genuine connection with another person. Rebound relationships may feel good in the moment but can lead to emotional distress when they inevitably end.
Divorce can leave you with unresolved emotional issues that need to be addressed before starting a new relationship. If you don't take the time to work through these issues, they may resurface in your new relationship, causing further emotional pain and distress.
If you have children, dating immediately after divorce may be particularly challenging for them. They may still be struggling to adjust to the new family dynamic, and introducing a new person into their lives too soon can be confusing and distressing for them.
it's important to take the time to heal and process your emotions after a divorce before jumping into a new relationship. This can help ensure that you're emotionally ready to start a new relationship and can help you avoid potential emotional pitfalls that can arise when dating too soon after divorce.

TheSquanchfather · 2023-02-23T19:33:10+00:00

Great insight, great idea.

Also, dog fart taco 😂

AcrobaticStick2432 · 2023-02-24T03:14:22+00:00

You have a point, sir! I tried tinder for about 3 weeks with relative success, and, wow, some valuable lessons extracted. It demonstrated irrefutably that I wasn't ready - and I think I still am not - for anything with a woman, much less a LTR

an00j · 2023-02-23T00:54:54+00:00

This is really useful. I’m soon to be divorced and gave everything to my family. Starting over, working on myself, my energy and building a world for myself built on top of lessons from the past is daunting.

This post reminds me that it’s possible to build yourself up with other people.

BosPatriot71 · 2023-02-23T00:30:35+00:00

Great post. Thx for sharing.

MNCPA · 2023-02-23T03:34:16+00:00

Congrats. Everyone moves at different speeds. Learning is growing. good job.

CaliDude75 · 2023-02-23T04:54:53+00:00

It was good "practice" for me, but shouldn't go in with the intention of finding a future life-mate right away.

Alatornio · 2023-02-23T04:33:07+00:00

Expatriated_American · 2023-02-23T15:45:21+00:00

It can work if you’re explicit about only wanting to date casually, and you find women who want the same. But keep LTR off the table.

Title	I highly recommend going on a date very early after divorce.
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Upvotes	58
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Date	February 22, 2023 11:33 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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