Is it cheap to stop having premarital sex as a high body count woman?

girlandglove · 2023-05-28T23:57:51+00:00

Asking as someone who is religious, how do you define "thinking of becoming religious"? Where's the scam coming in? Are you thinking of pretending to be religious to try and negate a high body count? Or is religion and faith something that has genuinely come into your life?

youllknowwhenitstime · 2023-05-29T05:40:01+00:00

Most religions have a subculture of ex-secularists where it's understood everyone has a "past", which could include anything from a bodycount to drugs and crime. Whether people in that religion's ex-secular subculture have to marry each other or can bag someone religious from the cradle comes down to their SMV. So all other things being equal, it is easier for a convert guy to get a virgin than for a convert woman to get an always-religious guy, the same as how high bodycount is a notable SMV minus for women in the secular world.

It's not scamming someone if you're not lying. They're an adult who can decide whether or not to date a newly religious woman with a body count.

CauliflowerElegant76 · 2023-05-29T02:47:24+00:00

To be honest, most men would be turned off if they know you’ve had sex with men before but are withholding it from them. Especially if your body count is high… they might not take you seriously.

If you’re doing it for religious reasons and have repented for your sins (genuinely) then it’s a different story. Some religious men would be okay with this and understand your situation but then again, only if you’re genuine about it.

Justwatchinitallgoby · 2023-05-29T09:20:11+00:00

High is a relative term….how high is high?

ddeltadt · 2023-05-29T13:13:01+00:00

If you don’t like who you are, things you do, how you’ve pursued relationships, etc… you can change and become whoever you want to be and you don’t need an excuse or owe anyone an explanation. This is part of personal growth, many grow out of phases they had when we are younger. The thing is, you actually have to change… and that might take some time.

Also don’t be the kind of woman who uses words like “body count” and stay away from others who do.

Frameworkeee · 2023-05-30T00:11:52+00:00

You can do whatever you want, you are an adult.

I do not think you'd be happy with the type of men who are desperate enough to wait for a non virgin.

SnooDogs627 · 2023-05-29T00:11:29+00:00

I was having sex with my husband when we first started dating. For context I had always wanted to save it for marriage but was emotionally manipulated and coerced into losing my virginity in highschool and after that I felt like I wasn't worth anything and continued having sex in relationships into my mid 20s.

Anyways a few months in I told my now husband that I felt I would never be able to have a relationship with God again as long as I was having sex outside of marriage and that I want to wait.

We both ended up going to church together, we both got saved, we got engaged, and then married. He was perfectly ok with waiting until marriage. He supported me even though it was hard for him at first.

kittenegg25 · 2023-05-29T14:02:29+00:00

Not at all, good for you. I would just be really honest that being religious is new to you and that you’ve left behind you a not-very-virtuous life. Honesty is key. He should know the truth about your past. You can also let him know you have repented (if you have genuinely).

TheBunk_TB · 2023-05-29T17:02:09+00:00

Will you be surprised when someone accuses you of "jumping in right before the finish line"?

It might be a big detractor.

Did you find religion because you failed at your old life? Or that religion is your fall back?

Many people that had faith and lived a better life find it off.

QtPieGrahamsCrust · 2023-05-29T00:01:58+00:00

People change, and good girls just don't talk about their past anyway.

AppropriateEbb5556 · 2023-05-29T14:02:56+00:00

Not at all.

Wildflowerwithin · 2023-05-30T07:42:33+00:00

I don't know about the religion part but if you're uncomfortable with the number of partners you've had, first thing is to not keep adding any more so abstinence while you figure this out is important.

Ok_Communication_199 · 2023-05-30T10:30:58+00:00

no, you should stop in fact but the men also have the right to be understandably annoyed by it and take their marriage proposal to another woman

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Alarmed-Rent-5384 · 2023-05-31T10:55:36+00:00

Be open and honest with your partner of you are going to do that, and be open that you have sleept with a loot of men before. Its up to you and how you want to take your faith

LargeResolution3928 · 2023-06-12T23:23:41+00:00

yes.

Title	Is it cheap to stop having premarital sex as a high body count woman?
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Date	May 28, 2023 11:47 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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