Success with women is influenced by the “observer effect”

MrBrittle · 2023-12-06T13:54:24+00:00

Confidence is useful when the outcome depends on your actions, success with women depends less on your actions and more on factors outside your control.

When the outcome depends on the judgment of others, the Halo effect and other things beyond your control will overwhelm trust and even distort it in a negative way, for example:

A confident incel when approaching a woman will tend to be seen as a scary pervert, because he is ugly. On the other hand, a Chad will be seen as a man of attitude or as a romantic man.

For shyness this is also true, a shy incel will be seen as a creepy antisocial weirdo and society hater, while a shy Chad will be seen as mysterious and interesting.

Confidence is capable of making you fight to win a race or pass a public exam, but it is not capable of changing other people's view of you, as they are responsible for this and not you. You can influence this a little, but there is a short limit to the influence. Therefore, it is not even a determining factor, but a small influencing factor.

lolthankstinder · 2023-12-06T03:38:41+00:00

Confident guys are successful because successful guys are confident. Attraction to confident men is just a euphemism for being attracted to attractive men.

boredom4321 · 2023-12-06T18:11:29+00:00

Correct because if you expect things to go well your body language immediately changes, and that plays a massive part

szclimber · 2023-12-06T04:49:13+00:00

I'm confident what I read is nonsense.

Wing_Puzzleheaded · 2023-12-06T23:31:47+00:00

How do you have confidence when you've never have success?

captainhowdy82 · 2023-12-06T03:43:02+00:00

I would say that confidence is probably the single most attractive quality in a man. And I’m not talking like pick-up artists, asshole kind of confidence. I mean actual confidence where you don’t appear like you’re trying too hard or desperate. The confidence to just be relaxed and have a natural conversation. It’s like you need to pass that initial threshold of being normal.

Intellect7000 · 2023-12-06T02:56:57+00:00

My theory is that testosterone improves confidence and both testosterone and estradiol are markers of sperm health and fertility. When men signal testosterone through their behavior they are signalling fertility and sperm health. This is why confidence is so attractive to women.

Commercial_Tea_8185 · 2023-12-06T03:08:15+00:00

As a woman i think being yourself will always win over trying to emulate confidencee or something! Im also majoring in physics, and when an particle is observed it goes into its superposition, rather than what it thinks superposition is for a givenn situation!

AceOfSpadesGymBro3 · 2023-12-06T03:55:09+00:00

Every guy is confident with his friends or when talking to a sweet grandma at the grocery store. But put that man in front of an attractive woman and he becomes a shrinking violet. Why?

Because he needs something from the attractive woman. Her validation, approval, love, sex. As long as a man tells himself he lacks those things and that they are essential to a happy life, he will be needy and the opposite of confident.

OutsideSound3247 · 2023-12-06T02:52:22+00:00

Tldr ?

Spyro7x3 · 2023-12-07T01:20:22+00:00

The only physics that matters is that the big thing crushes the little thing.

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FutureBannedAccount2 · 2023-12-06T03:17:24+00:00

What you're talking about doesn't deal with the observer effect. If you're talking about what I think you're talking about the most common example of that is Schrodinger's cat. In this example, the only thing the observer is capable of is well...observing. They don't have any other input on the situation and doesn't connect to what you're talking about.

What you're talking about is optimism bias or a positive feedback loop. This is really why the whole red pill thing always starts with 'go to the gym'

topplingtyranny · 2023-12-06T17:34:23+00:00

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HBC3 · 2023-12-09T01:07:26+00:00

I don’t see how this relates to “the observer effect.”

Title	Success with women is influenced by the “observer effect”
Author	topplingtyranny
Upvotes	7
Comments	101
Date	December 6, 2023 2:46 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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