Is escortmaxxing a good way to deal with emotional pain, have fun, and be adventurous in life whenever I’m feeling lonely, will it ruin my chances of finding a long term relationship, and will bragging about it on social media make the women who know me jealous?

hapylittlepupppy · 2024-01-08T12:32:37+00:00

If you bragged about participating in such an exploitive industry I would never speak to you again. Women are not a rehab for your emotional issues, that's what therapy is for.

featherblackjack · 2024-01-08T04:16:31+00:00

It will not make them jealous. They'll probably have a wide range of other negative responses. But not jealousy.

WWhiMM · 2024-01-08T04:35:56+00:00

I can understand sex being fun. I don't understand this as a way to deal with emotional pain. Maybe it relieves a little stress, but I imagine it won't resolve anything, very soon you'll be right back where you were.
And I really don't understand "bragging" about it. No one likes a show-off anyway, but also no one is going to be impressed that you paid someone to be nice to you. Like, when people post about their therapy sessions, they aren't bragging, you know?

operation-spot · 2024-01-08T04:49:39+00:00

I doubt it’ll help you. If you’re in emotional pain go to therapy and get off social media. No one cares what you do with your lifer but I don’t think they’ll view you favorably if you think going to a prostitute is something to brag about.

I wonder if the habit you’re referring to is porn. If so, I think you may have some negative views about sex that need to be unpacked and a prostitute is only pulling you in the wrong direction.

Spend your money traveling and doing new things because that is something worth doing.

CraftyCooler · 2024-01-08T09:46:03+00:00

Having a proof of using escorts in your social media most likely will be a game over for you in terms of relationships. For most women you will be considered as degenerate.

gmindset · 2024-01-08T13:07:30+00:00

The fact that you used the term "maxxing" says that you've been lurking in incel spaces of internet. First of all, for the sake of you mental health stop consuming manosphere content

EntertainmentNeat592 · 2024-01-08T04:33:48+00:00

lol! No women feel jealous of men who use escorts. Not even the “alpha bros” online posting pic of their bikini clad escorts.

It’s like the most desperate and sexually degenerate thing men can do in a woman’s eyes. Yes, women will see you as a trashy men and it will ruin your chances of finding long term relationships with a good stable woman.

Your emotional instability isn’t your fault but what you do with is definitely your responsibility. If you want go down the path of escrotmaxxing then it will have long term negative consequences in your life that is entirely on YOU. Go to therapy instead, and try to have good values in life and good women will be attracted to you.

bluemagex2517 · 2024-01-08T15:23:17+00:00

Here are my very earnest and serious answers to your questions:

Is escortmaxxing a good way to deal with emotional pain,

No. absolutely not.

have fun,

Sure, if you are just trying to have fun.

and be adventurous in life

Same as fun, yeah but only if that's all you're looking for in it.

whenever I’m feeling lonely,

It will not cure loneliness. If you try to use it to feel less lonely, you will end up feeling more lonely.

will it ruin my chances of finding a long term relationship,

Maybe. Depends on who you are looking for a long term relationship with. Very religious women might look down on it for religious reasons and reject you. Women who view all sex workers as abuse victims will see you as a sexual abuser and will reject you. Some other women will just find it icky. Others, a fair number but certainly a minority, won't care. So, it really depends which women you're interested in.

and will bragging about it on social media make the women who know me jealous?

No. It will 100% make you look like a POS. Anyone who brags about sex is already pretty dumb looking, unless it's to a close friend in a particular context. Like, bragging to a friend one on one that you finally got laid might be appropriate in a "yay, I did a thing" way, but bragging on social media about it is just wildly inappropriate. Add in that it's sex you paid for, and it's going to look insanely cringey and like you are a total asshole.

IrishShee · 2024-01-08T10:42:54+00:00

I had to google what escortmaxxing is and it’s honestly one of the saddest things I’ve ever seen.

Any emotional comfort you get from it is faked on her part, you know that right? She’s literally pretending to care about you so she gets paid. How do you think fake care is going to make you feel loved and cared for?

Go to therapy to explore the cause of your feelings, and focus on yourself for a while. Self love. Self care. Eat well. Exercise. Stay offline as much as possible and spend time outside. Get lots of sleep. Then try dating real people and you’ll actually get the real care that you crave.

DCXL · 2024-01-08T11:43:12+00:00

There’s about 0 chance I’d date a man who has paid for escorts and prostitutes like that in the past, and I don’t know any woman who wouldn’t find it a huge turnoff or a full dealbreaker. No woman on social media is going to be jealous because you paid people to pretend to be attracted to you. For most women, this is desperate and trashy behavior. You’re much better off using that money for therapy.

TSquaredRecovers · 2024-01-08T19:04:39+00:00

Why on Earth would you post about seeing an escort on social media? Maybe, just don’t do that? It's almost certainly not going to make any other women jealous, but instead turn the women off. There are just some things you don’t need to broadcast to the world, and visiting an escort is one of those things.

MistyMaisel · 2024-01-08T17:46:43+00:00

I wouldn't be jealous. I'd never be interested in dating a man who had used sex workers.

99power · 2024-01-09T02:42:30+00:00

It will make most women write you off and not look at you as relationship material. Also, a prostitute is a world’s away from a real relationship. Her interactions with you will stunt you as much as pornography does. Because her paycheck is dependent on telling you entirely what you want to hear, you won’t get anything out of the interaction besides an orgasm and $1000 less in your pocket. Plus most FSSW were trafficked as children so have fun with that on your conscience. :))

shesarevolution · 2024-01-09T05:07:41+00:00

You need a therapist not an escort. It’s not the escort’s job to help you deal with your emotional issues.

I don’t think sleeping with an escort =being adventurous in life, either. That’s such a weird sex focused way of looking at the world.

Bragging about paying for sex is not, I repeat, not, going to make anyone who knows you jealous. This is a weird ass cope.

What you need to do is get help for your trauma, put effort into getting that sorted out.

If you want to sleep with an escort, do it. It’s not going to keep someone from having a relationship with you, if they actually like you as a person.

I dated a few guys who slept with an escort, but it was a one time thing, they wanted to try the experience to know and ultimately they said they just really felt bad about the whole thing. They were single when they did these things too.

dongtouch · 2024-01-08T18:15:20+00:00

I’ve had a few friends who did sex work and a significant number of male clients were really lonely and wound up emotionally dumping on them. It was awkward and weird.

You need therapy, not an escort. Or at the very least start working on building up your social skills with women. Healthy, adult romantic relationships are the way to heal loneliness and find fulfillment. That takes a lot of time, work, and often times rejection and difficult experiences along the way. Those are a necessary part of the process of maturing and learning. It’s tempting to hire an escort because that seems to circumvent the hard work and deliver an instant satisfaction. But after she leaves, you will feel even worse than before, because the intimacy is transactional and temporary.

I wouldn’t necessarily reject someone for having used a sex worker in the past. I would absolutely reject someone who bragged about it on social or who did it as a way to avoid the real work of growing.

eatfleshdrinkblood · 2024-01-08T04:08:06+00:00

It’s up to you, I keep flirting with the idea but always decide no on it. But if you post it on your social media,I can tell you it won’t make any women you know feel jealous, also it definitely will decrease the chance of a woman wanting to go into a long term relationship with you, that’s one of the main reasons I haven’t pulled the trigger and done it. Take it easy,I have been having kind of a bad mental health day too.

MechanicHopeful4096 · 2024-01-08T19:53:01+00:00

I’m not exactly sure of what this term is but from I read it’s paying for an escort to help you emotionally? Correct me if I’m wrong.

I’ll give you my experience with dating men who paid for similar services.

I once dated a guy who told me he used an escort at a party before, and I couldn’t have cared less. He also slept with lots of random women, which I was disgusted by but that was because he didn’t care really about protection.
I also dated somebody else who eventually told me they used to often go to escort services and that did disgust me because he seemed to always want sex 24/7 with whoever he can get with and didn’t seem to care about protection also. I didn’t have that high of a drive and it wasn’t compatible with me. Now he was a total narcissist so our break up had nothing to do with that, nor would I break up with somebody because of their past. I also suspect he cheated behind my back with an escort at one point so that was part of the (many) reasons I left.

Honestly if you pay an escort it’s your choice, assuming it’s legal where you are and she’s doing it out of her own free will. I don’t care what you do with your life. When I was dating, I didn’t give a shit about people’s past just like I expected them to not care about mine.

I also don’t ask my current husband about his past and he doesn’t ask about mine. We’re in the present together and I don’t base a relationship solely off of previous partners.

As long as you don’t have any STDs, it’s not anybody’s business unless you voluntarily want to share that info.

But if you’re experiencing so much emotional turmoil, I’d suggest therapy. Random women aren’t going to heal you.

Edit: I also wanted to add: don’t brag about that on social media. It doesn’t look good.

undercovertrad · 2024-01-08T09:51:02+00:00

As a woman, I can say I would never want to be with a man who used escorts to cope with his emotional baggage. That’s called sex addiction and is extremely low tier human behavior. Take that money and go to therapy like a person who actually has some self respect.

Chili440 · 2024-01-08T12:22:30+00:00

Do you want women to be jealous?

getyourpopcornreddy · 2024-01-08T22:47:56+00:00

If you continue to do this and go to another country and you are a U.S. citizen, please note that U.S. Customs and Borders has the right to check your phone and computer with regards to sex tourism. There are at least one to two episodes each season on To Catch a Smuggler where CBP is checking computers and phones of people who went to other countries for sex tourism.

Skippy1221 · 2024-01-09T15:06:17+00:00

It will absolutely 100% not make them jealous. They will just think you’re disgusting and not be interested in you.

toasty99 · 2024-01-08T05:37:57+00:00

Definitely don’t post about it - it’s illegal in lots of places, for one.

Comingtoyoulive16 · 2024-01-09T05:20:54+00:00

my advice is to use that money your saving for something healthy like therapy

Sugar_Cane_Avenger · 2024-01-09T06:20:16+00:00

I'm conflicted. On one hand, it can take the pressure off. So long as you're also focusing on boosting your career and I mean hard-core ambition. If I were you, I'd take a trip to the Netherlands or some place where prostitution is not super seedy and illegal. I lived in Holland 8 yrs and the sex workers in the various red light districts get tested. Because it's essentially a vacation experience, it will dissuade you from becoming addicted, and you have to promise yourself you will only do that there. And perhaps a vacation can have therapeutic purposes. Sex workers won't have the therapeutic solution to your problems. It just quickly becomes another problem (addiction).

Straight-Sock4353 · 2024-01-09T18:19:34+00:00

I wouldn’t do it very frequently, maybe just once. It’s a lot of money and not worth the money to do it frequently. Definitely don’t brag about it - there’s nothing to brag about. It won’t ruin your chances of finding a long term relationship.

ElleinadSpam · 2024-01-10T17:49:43+00:00

I miss the times before I knew what that meant. I’m gonna give a strong no it’s not a good idea and you definitely shouldn’t brag about it on social media. I seriously doubt it’ll make anybody jealous. They’re likely gonna react with disgust or pity so do with that what you will.

WonkyBoot · 2024-01-10T20:37:45+00:00

I've seen interviews of some escorts talking about how men use them as therapists, so some escorts do end up taking counseling courses and go to therapy themselves...

It's not fair that they have to do this (if ut is something they are interested in, then thats different). Its definitely not in their job description, and they shouldn't be used in this way.

Go to therapy to heal yourself...and if you enjoy escort services, be sure to pick ones that are self employed and take care of themselves. Don't expect others to heal you, other people can only provide support, but you gotta do the work.

oldcousingreg · 2024-01-11T21:06:44+00:00

What the fuck does that even mean? Using escorts? You do realize they’re people too, right?

Maleficent_Sector619 · 2024-01-13T01:55:49+00:00

I mean, I wouldn’t brag about it. That’s probably not a good idea. I’m not going to judge as long as she’s not being trafficked but you have to make sure. But I don’t think it’s a good tactic to get through emotional pain.

ferikam278 · 2024-01-08T05:05:05+00:00

I have a same thougths too

memoryerror012 · 2024-01-09T01:32:46+00:00

A lot of Escorts are Healers. If you can find one that has this healer type energy /Personality It can help you a ton with your female issues. It's hard to describe, but you will see it.

I get a little annoyed when people always suggest therapy, and that lack of intimacy will not create depression. It obviously can.

Send me a PM if you want to talk.

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