We shouldn't mock nor invalidate sexually abused men and boys - don't forget about them.

4 points3 commentssubmitted by Sean_Sltr to r/antisex

Disclaimer: This post is not meant to fuel any hatred nor sexism. I do not intend to engage in any "derailing". I am gender egalitarian and generally pro-feminist.

We shouldn't demean male sexual assault victims, as they deserve same support as female sexual assault victims. There is a double standard regarding sexual violence: when a woman is abused, she is usually supported and the people sympathise with her. When a man is a victim, he is usually laughed at. Regarding perpetrators, sometimes they are men, but we should remember, that women are also capable for being perpetrators of sexual abuse. Although official statistics show that men are a majority of offenders, and women are a majority of victims, we should take into consideration that female perpetrators and male victims are severely underreported due to high social stigma - as I said earlier, abused men and boys are mocked. Some allege that they're "lucky", especially if harmed by a woman.

I don't hold any misogynistic resentments (you can even perform a background check of my account, you'll see that I opposed anti-women stances and patriarchy in my discussions), I only want to remind you about the importance of equal support for victimised men. To men and boys here: if you were sexually abused, don't hesitate to see. Even if you were assaulted by women, you shouldn't feel guilty and don't let anyone tell you that you were "lucky" and "it wasn't real".

Cheers for everyone here!

P.S. I've recently learnt about a short film "Made to Penetrate" by Hila Perry. I watched it and I cried, feeling very sorry for a victim. I know it was, luckily, a work of fiction, but I couldn't help, and as a sensitive man, cried for a victim.