Women aren’t that complicated

EatUhFrank · 2022-09-27T21:27:24+00:00

Talk to women and realize most of dating is out of your control that what I read 🤷🏿‍♂️.

gideon1706 · 2022-09-27T21:04:38+00:00

I've been trying to at least talk to some and instigate something. I'd just say; don't go over the board and try too hard. Just stay calm, let her talk. Ask few interesting questions and sit back and relax. When you feel like it, just escalate. But remember one thing, never ever feel inferior to her for any reason ever. That ruins your confidence and confidence is the key. Also, take the rejection like a KING. I haven't been very successful tbh, but let's see if this works out for me :D

Contango6969 · 2022-09-27T21:29:38+00:00

They are so complicated that they don’t even understand themselves at all lol

But yeah you can waste a lot of time trying to apply logic to the illogical instead of just being like “she’s either felling u or she isn’t”.

mabden · 2022-09-28T00:37:18+00:00

Anything in life can be reduced to; it is or it isn't.

If you want to understand the why, it takes a little more digging.

montanalombardy · 2022-09-28T09:17:47+00:00

Thinking about it, I don't "click" with 95% of guys out there. Meaning we might have a nice chat but we will never be friends, never get some beers together or hang out all day. And it does not bother me a bit.

But when I do not "click" with a woman aka. I get rejected, it feels bad.

Maybe most people just are not compatible enough to be anything more than acquaintances and you shouldn't sweat it if this is the case with a woman you meet.

REHuntJr58 · 2022-09-28T14:20:01+00:00

Women may not be that complicated but, in my most humble opinion, they don’t truly understand the crushing, emotional, gut punch pain of rejection. I know women get their hearts broken. And I know they suffer in anguish when their crushes go unfulfilled.

But even in our current modern culture, men are still expected to do the chasing and asking. And constant rejection just sucks. It kills our incentive and it makes us retreat and grow colder. I’ve had an entire lifetime of rejection and I can’t help if it shows.

HarbringerxLight · 2022-09-28T02:16:01+00:00

This is a stupid post. Attraction can be created. Many women end up in love with men they were initially indifferent toward (at least solely based on looks).

Nullroute127 · 2022-09-27T23:51:25+00:00

I don't think this is quite the right mindset. It's not 'she feels you or she doesn't.'

Seduction involves a certain amount of calibration to a specific audience, and different women respond to different things. I once met a herpetologist (she studied turtles); the way to seduce her was to let her talk for literally 1.5 hours straight about turtles, and asking questions related to what she said.

Another girl just wanted to shoot machine gun fire of shit tests at me.

Point being, being willing to adapt and review what about interactions does and does not work makes you better.

grizzled083 · 2022-09-28T00:25:23+00:00

Can we start banning people for posting these stupid ass posts?

dumpsterfyre996 · 2022-09-28T11:19:21+00:00

Have you read Neil Strauss'work? Attraction is not a choice. It just happens. He and many others learned how to get that attraction to rise out of almost anyone. And you can too.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-09-28T14:50:24+00:00

The most important thing is that you learn to present an attractive version of yourself. Unless you are a natural, this means you will need to improve seductive social skills. If your presenting a nervous, stuck in your head, approval seeking nice guy, then you have almost no chance. Some girls won't be attracted, but would have been if your game was better.

So, yes she either is attracted or she isn't. But the purpose of learning these social skills is to present an attractive version of yourself and learn the ins and outs of social dynamics in the context of seduction. Otherwise, most girls will never be attracted where they otherwise would have been.

I get the impression some guys think the girl is either attracted or not when you first walk up and there is nothing you can do to change this. That's nonsense. Learn social skills.

KinxTheTimeStripper · 2022-09-27T21:46:39+00:00

How do I not get discouraged by rejections genius

SolidPuzzleheaded984 · 2022-09-27T22:47:15+00:00

She’s either attracted or isn’t. It’s really simple.

ThatRollingStone · 2022-09-28T13:01:43+00:00

Cool, now show me the guide about how to not be lied too.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-09-27T21:51:40+00:00

Accurate and to the point.

Grappleheart · 2022-09-27T23:35:09+00:00

The problem os people do not like experiential learning. You can learn everything you need to know about women from talking with women. Very simple.

TheRealMe54321 · 2022-09-28T01:28:14+00:00

We got a genius on our hands

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-09-28T01:56:19+00:00

My best freinds are girls and I'm a straight male. I just bs with them like normal. I'm just like yooo WTF is goin on??? Tyler do girl stuff I do guy stuff, has made for some good friends. Some over 10+ years

Upstairs_Somewhere49 · 2022-09-28T11:34:37+00:00

They aren't complicated they are mostly driven by emotions and impulses

throwaway_68892188 · 2022-09-28T13:47:38+00:00

This is actually true tbh. The most we can do is stretch our statistics for success and get as comfortable as we can. But even then most of it is out of our control (at least the first few interactions are largely out of our control)

tristian_lay · 2022-09-28T14:50:17+00:00

You can look tops and have everything on point but you still have to have some conversation go-tos that don’t have to be pickupy lines

epimpstyle · 2022-09-28T14:57:03+00:00

As I saw IRL, 7/10 guys can not go and talk to a woman although they know what to say. I realized that these guys are thinking too much and it looks like they know that the girl will not talk to them - this must be a super power if they know the future.

Does not exist a perfect line but does exist some strategies that will help you to approach easier a woman and in case of rejection, it will not hurt you that much.

All these strategies are used in the beginning because after a month or so, you don't need strategies because you will find opportunities to talk to a women almost every time.

AndrewPotato34 · 2022-09-28T16:29:16+00:00

If they weren't complicated i should have been able to be myself wihout the self-improvement treadmill bullshit and scored by being myself. But that didn't happen so... Also do you think i should become a scholar, a researcher of women? since i got my 8 to 5 job i don't have time anymore to do anything so idk where you guys find the time if you're employed to figure this shit out.

Women are complicated and always will be due to social media, feminism and the such you know what i'm talking about so lies are told here. I should have been able to be myself regardless of body type, height, skin color,teeth,clothes,hair style, income possibility, social circle skills, hobbies -> but i was rejected when i was myself so yeah that was a lie from the start.

raatdigedi · 2022-09-28T17:01:26+00:00

Then why do they stay in abusive relationships?

Charge36 · 2022-10-24T03:25:28+00:00

I want to believe it but it gets old approaching constantly and only finding intermittent success. I'd trade half of my short-term hookups for a single long-term relationship

Title	Women aren’t that complicated
Author	SnooCheesecakes6900
Upvotes	160
Comments	64
Date	September 27, 2022 7:57 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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