A new problem with approaching that happening to often this days, how do you guys manage your way around it

AngeloMacon · 2022-09-09T00:43:31+00:00

You just say Hi? Literally just hi?

yanonotreally · 2022-09-09T01:29:32+00:00

Just based on the way you sound in your post and comments you do not sound like you’re very self aware and probably coming across like—yes, a weirdo. Who approaches someone with just a “Hi”? Unless like the other commenter said, you’re Chris Hemsworth? I’m a girl. I absolutely enjoy being approached in the wild. But not with a “Hi” from a random off the streets who is a self proclaimed 6 or a 7.. stop telling people you insist on getting girls using this specific way of approaching in the wild with nothing but a Hi. If a girl did respond positively, she’s probably someone who never gets attention from high value men who know how to seduce. At the very least say “how are you?” And then think of how you’re gonna let her know you find her attractive next.

manifess · 2022-09-09T00:21:56+00:00

Hunt using eye contact instead

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-09-09T02:48:46+00:00

You approach 3 girls and got rejected. Good job. Now take a deep breath. Inhale all the rejection. It's as natural as the air we breathe. Now keep going.

Woujo · 2022-09-09T04:24:16+00:00

Just saying "hi" is not enough. Give them a compliment.

sinhaanip · 2022-09-09T05:08:53+00:00

Expert PUAs diffuse this anticipated hostility by following up that intrusive ‘hi’ with something like… I’m sorry to barge in like this but I saw you from across the street and couldn’t stop myself from coming up and saying a hello. So What are you upto…

Then follow it up with… Ah Which Perfume is that. She’ll say ABC. Take a pause and say - it’s good. She’ll be smiling. Now the ice is beginning to break. Keep chiseling and build up on this.

Keep your confidence at peak level. Else this would fail too.

Frosty_Connection867 · 2022-09-09T06:14:41+00:00

Don't just say hi, you need to say why you're talking to them, women always have their guard up, doesn't matter how good looking you are if they don't know why you're approaching them you will be seen as a potential threat

Particular_Day_6888 · 2022-09-09T04:26:44+00:00

Yes, I agree, there is a problem with approaching girls nowadays. It is actually due to the modern society we live in today. It is 2022 and most people are glued to their phone wherever they go, whether they’re taking pictures, scouring social media, making or watching tiktoks. In today’s world it’s normal for girls to say, “yes?” Or “excuse me” when you come up to say hi to them, because unknowingly, you had bothered them from doing what they were doing. It’s not your fault, you just have to hurry up and relay the message you were trying to send by saying hi. Instead of being discouraged when they give you that cold attitude, just get to the point and ask, “do you have a boyfriend?” If they say yes, say, “That’s too bad, can I get your socials?” then hand them your phone. If they say no, say “Ah cool, can I get your socials then?” Then hand them your phone, lol… After you get their socials, walk away and say something along the line of, “Great, I’ll slid in your DM later. Have a good night.” It’s hard nowadays to approach girls with the expectations to converse with them right then and there.

3boodqt · 2022-09-09T00:28:18+00:00

I do believe I’m good looking and I’ve always believed that cuz there are girls who have told me that before so I know that’s not the issue

How are you so certain about this though? Perhaps those girls mislead you.

So I approach a girl with a Hi and immediately she responds with: Yes?! or Excuse me?! with a look of (go away!)

Do you believe these girls would react the same way of hostility if a guy that looks like Chris Hemsworth, Chris Pine or Henry Cavill approached them?

Seems like you'll simply get more of these hostile responses compared to other guys, not really much you can do about it other than adapt and get used to it so it doesn't bother you as much over time.

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Kobe_curry24 · 2022-09-09T05:56:28+00:00

He ain’t got it Lmfaoooo women will smile at you when they believe your handsome I get this shit all the time it will be very obvious or your get a stare in your eyes usually if they look at they phone or look quickly at you and away it’s a no but you gotta approach more than 3 women it’s a small sample size just go to the club early pick a college night

ParticularAmazing112 · 2022-09-09T01:26:52+00:00

You don’t want to make it seem like you’re going to bother them. That might be the 10th or 20th person approaching them that day and they might have had earlier experiences that put them in a terrible mood.

A quick tip is before you say anything you want to say, start with “I have to leave in a minute but …” ,I have to go meet my friends soon but…”

That takes the pressure off since they know you won’t be sticking around too long.

BensonInFL · 2022-09-09T04:20:17+00:00

I approached three different women in the street today,

Try approaching 100 girls not 3

I approach a girl with a Hi

Try different approaches, situational observation, need opinion, have question, direct, comment on something about her, etc... see what works for you

how do you guys manage your way around it

Some girls won't like you, some have boyfriends, some are busy..etc..

Once you approach enough girls with proper technique, and get some positive responses, you'll realize it's just a numbers game and it gets better

-B

bloodyblob · 2022-09-09T08:45:54+00:00

Dude… “excuse me for bothering you, I had to say hello.” Something fun, something cheeky, something interesting, “I would love to get a coffee/drink with you some time. Here, take my number. Have a great day, it was a pleasure to meet you.”

mabden · 2022-09-09T01:51:14+00:00

I have had success disarming bitch shields on cold approaches with I am looking for some friends and can't find street/place.

Assumes you know the area so the street/place is real, nearby, and out of sight. Works really well if you are from out of town.

Alternative is if they can recommend a good place to eat/drink.

2022-09-09T01:24:43+00:00

No girls wants to be cold approached bro

honeybeabxby · 2022-09-09T03:48:22+00:00

Honestly, 99% of girls aren’t out looking to be approached and are just showing you their genuine feelings about it. If they look at you like “go away” then go away.

It’s rarely based on how attractive you are. I personally think it’s annoying when somebody wants to stop me to have a full conversation only in an attempt to court me because they think I’m attractive. What are you saying to them when you approach them other than hi? I feel like to have a chance you need a reason to talk to them.

CocoBabeinNYC · 2022-09-09T00:25:49+00:00

So you go out on the street and bother women in the most invasive way possible and you wonder why you get the reactions you do?

Hermit41 · 2022-09-09T04:16:35+00:00

It’s always gonna be those bro sometimes one or sometimes few in a row

incognito3107 · 2022-09-09T07:24:07+00:00

You can get some practice in reading emotions and mood first. Walk around and make some eye contact and smile at girls. You should have some draft plan how you would open a girl when you approach, but many times you are just doomed to fail from the start as girl is not interested in interaction at all. Pay more attention to your intuition and pick wisely.

Expensive_Law_1193 · 2022-09-09T14:52:46+00:00

People have probably said it, but in the Case nobody have. You are putting a lot of pressure on her to carry the conversation. You arent giving her anything to answer, she doesnt understand why you are talking to her. With a Hi and how are you on daytime from an unknown, she probably expect you to try sell her some shit or want something from her.

She is not gonna talk to you if it comes of as a possibly awkward situation. She'll give you a chance to give her a question so she can help you or dismiss you.

magnateur · 2022-09-09T14:59:42+00:00

Cold approaches are generally shit.

FranciscotheBull · 2022-09-09T16:31:12+00:00

Not all women do this, but their are some women woth an attitude right away. Just take it with a grain of salt. Some women don't want to be bothered and will do that right away. Some women want a guy to keep hitting on them and like that and then it gives the impression that all/a lot of women want that so it makes it hard for guys who don't know who wants it and it makes it difficult to know who.

Just keep it moving. Work on yourself (school, work, trade, etc.), find the right place and find the right people. Never know if anyone is available. Put yourself out their and someone will come.

epimpstyle · 2022-09-09T18:58:27+00:00

It looks like indeed you approached girls in real life :-)

It is a normal reaction when you are going with a direct approach... I heard this many times until I did an indirect approach and this reaction disappeared. I won't say I wasn't rejected but the rejection was not that harsh (the girl didn't know if I was asking her something because I'm lost or it is another reason)... but after a few days, you will feel if you can continue talking to the girl or continue walking.

Mistermistery101 · 2022-09-09T20:19:46+00:00

Be direct. When you're indirect, the girl doesn't really know why you're talking to her.

One good example. Imagine this: let's say you're walking out in public and some random dude stops you and starts talking to you. You guys don't talk about anything in particular. It's just seems like he's asking you questions.

You'd feel pretty weirded out, right? You'd probably wonder if this guy is selling you something. Or that he's a beggar. Point is, you have no idea what his intentions are.

Being direct is very good because it does 2 things:

1) it let's the girl know exactly why you're there (because you find her attractive and want to get to know her)

2) It puts her in a position where she has to give you a response to your directness. Meaning she'll say something or behave in a way that will let you know if she's interested or not.

Best opening line is this: "Hey I know this is random but you're hot and i had to say hi."

Once you say that she'll say something like "aww thanks", or she'll laugh and looked flattered, or she'll look irritated or like you're bothering her. Or she'll say she has a boyfriend. Point is, you'll get an answer pretty quick whether or not she's interested.

If after you say that opening you're still not sure if she's interested, ask her this:

"Are You single?"

You preferably want to ask her this after a couple of seconds on conversation.

Once you ask that, YOU WILL get an answer of whether or not she's interested. If she says "No I'm not single" then you move on. Regardless on whether or not she's lying, you know for sure that she's not interested in you.

If she is interested, you take it from there.

You say that you're good looking, and I believe you, but you also have to recognize that No one is EVERYONE'S type. Also that cold approach is a numbers game. You might have just gotten unlucky with the girls you approached. Or it could have been how you behaved. My point is this: looking good doesn't make every single girl attracted to you. On top of that, learning game and seduction also does not make you attractive to other girls. All it does is increases your odds with the girls who are already somewhat interested in you.

betterme2610 · 2022-09-09T21:11:50+00:00

Women (most) don’t want to take a lead on anything. At least initially with dating / dating interactions. You take the lead on starting the conversation. You take the lead on picking the date spot, you take the lead on making any moves guiding towards intimacy. Eventually she’ll warm up and contribute in those areas, but mostly they don’t want to or honestly don’t know how to half the time. YOU have to lead the conversation. Saying hi literally drops a big ball in her court with nowhere to throw it. Next time say “HI, where’s such and such bar/cafe or do you have any recommendations? Cool thanks! Would you like to join me some time?” (Yes or no happens and you walk away with a contact or you don’t)

Senior-Dot387 · 2022-09-10T02:39:20+00:00

There could be multiple reasons you’re not getting attention back.

When you’re walking around, how’s your posture? Are your shoulders back and chest slightly puffed to exert confidence?

How’s your fashion? Do you look like you take care of yourself?

Once those two steps are completed, you can start working on the approach.

When you approach women, do you change your ‘opener’ to match the environment/situation? If all you have in your arsenal is “hi” then I can confidently say (with my shoulders back and chest puffed) you won’t get anywhere.

If you’re willing, send me full body photo of yourself, make sure to imitate the posture you use when normally approaching.

Kennymacdougall · 2022-09-10T07:01:31+00:00

"I do believe I’m good looking and I’ve always believed that cuz there are girls who have told me that"

Because there are girls? Let me stop you right there. Never believe what girls say, but watch and pay attention to what they do. Oldest rule in the book. Hit the gym, go to a barber (preferably gay because their taste is 1000 times better than women).

"and actually get the girls"

There is no "getting girls". They always get "you". Game is all about "them" getting "you". They are the selectors, never you. Always remember that. Though there is one way to become the selector but Game really isn't. It's all "their" game.

A tip on what to do? Try different venues and places instead of just the street. Hit events, bars, stores, malls, etc.

Keithlct · 2022-09-11T14:33:23+00:00

You can use a prop like a map.. And then go and approach the girl like this.. Excuse me, I am a bit lost.. (Then point something a bit far away And say..). I am looking for my gf.. She suppose to meet me here.. Have you seen her? She looks like this.. ( Open your selfie camera and show it to her). She will be looking at herself and laugh.. AND Then you say... I know you're busy.. But you look kindda cute. Wanna do coffee or beer sometime... Get her digit... And follow thru. I have use this opener... And if the girl is interested.. Them you're in the game..

Title	A new problem with approaching that happening to often this days, how do you guys manage your way around it
Author	3boodqt
Upvotes	17
Comments	78
Date	September 8, 2022 11:47 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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