Sunday Reflection Thread - What did you learn this weekend?

ashsimmonds · 2012-02-19T21:01:29+00:00

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ClimbTREES · 2012-02-19T21:56:57+00:00

You're always in the field
Kino is VERY important
Open a few practice sets early and often

PLplotsOTS · 2012-02-19T21:05:11+00:00

This is a nice idea. I won't be writing a FR soon, so might as well share some thoughts here.

Going out to bars/parties/clubs presents good opportunities, but being social in everyday life - constantly talking and making new connections - is what makes the real difference.
I get too one-track-minded about seduction when inebriated. On all occasions, must push-pull more.
Girls are hesitant to kiss in front of their friends - especially when no one else is. Plan logistics accordingly.

The_Merkon · 2012-02-19T21:37:29+00:00

Once you get sufficiently into state you're basically unstoppable. I ran into some friends that I hadn't seen in a long time, and k-close this teacher that was a few years older than me. So I am walking down the street after the bar closes, and some girl comes over and stops me, telling me that I look like the happiest person in the world.

2012-02-20T04:00:33+00:00

That Jeremy Lin is a motherfucking beast and will end up being the make or break player for the Knicks.

DrUpvote · 2012-02-19T21:49:16+00:00

I had a great weekend. I'm more confident, outgoing, and seductive than I ever believed. I have great potential all it takes it having fun. I learned how to be direct, bold, and fun.

I got a makeout from a women at the club, saw lots of boobs, and had a great time with friends

revbobdobbs · 2012-02-19T22:50:49+00:00

clubs aren't so bad after all. If it's the right kind of club.
It's not really a state crash in the club. It's that the club and the girls there are boring.
Some guys who are incredibly experienced still have fundamental issues that they need to address.
Sexual aggression from the outset will not neccessarily scare girls away.
I need to increase the amounts of sets I'm doing.
I'm an excellent player

xpictoc114 · 2012-02-19T21:34:39+00:00

Giving value is awesome, even when your approaches aren't going anywhere you can come out gaining something (besides experience).

Long story short, approached a set, HB7 target apparently had a LTR but because I was entertaining everyone the group gave ME their phone numbers and asked me to hang out again. One of them invited me over yesterday to smoke some weed and chill.

2012-02-19T22:36:20+00:00

This weekend has been awesome for me. I have no idea what happened, but I went out on Friday night, and ended up at a girls house, having a little bit of fun you could say. Then yesterday night I went to another girls house (I had planned this time) and had fun again.

The last time I got laid was a few months ago, then all of a sudden its two girls in two days. Either way I regained the confidence I had lost since I last had sex, and I now feel better about myself and that I can play the seduction game again without feeling like I'm going to mess everything up.

Level_75_Zapdos · 2012-02-19T23:21:58+00:00

Note to self: Next time I go to an EDM concert (I went to Gareth Emery last night), wear more white clothing.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2012-02-20T00:05:34+00:00

Touch their hands.
Drinking less works great for me.
Go out on Valentine's day.
Tables of sweet innocent girls and AFC's make great coat-checks.

Kulikant · 2012-02-20T01:00:34+00:00

That no means no.

Jayhawkerr · 2012-02-20T02:03:32+00:00

Just because you can seduce her for a SNL, it doesn't always mean you should :/

sithyiscool · 2012-02-20T02:56:57+00:00

It can be really easy to get into state, however, you can easily fall out of it. If you fall out of state, whatever, just push through and take the opportunity to jump back into it. For me, I fall out of state when I don't follow my "instincts", and get left with a feeling of "ugh, I should have done this/that".

SemanticsLogistics · 2012-02-20T05:49:15+00:00

Rule number one (for me) is have fun. If you have fun and involve others in it, girls will want to be a part of that fun (and dance and make out with you, because its fun).

2012-02-20T00:10:18+00:00

Don't be afraid to take a number and give up on the same-night lay occassionally. I hooked up with a girl Thursday night and am seeing my FWB tomorrow for this very reason. Didn't even k-close any girl I met at the bars this weekend, but there were still other options for that reason.
Go out earlier. I kept getting to the bars with only maybe 2.5 hours till bar time this weekend. Not good. I find I'm only really "in state" for like an hour at that point. And so many places empty of girls an hour or more before bar time.
Bring your fucking phone with you. Forgot mine at home, and this HB9+ is trying to give me her number when I didn't even ask for it (last night). But, she has to write it down cuz I'm phoneless. Her handwriting is fucking awful (and booze doesn't help), and my texts get returned instantly cuz it's not a valid #. Lame.
Approach early and often, even if only for practice. Once you've been at the bars for an hour or so, if you haven't approached yet, you probably won't really get in the mood much at all. I had this problem some this weekend.
Talk to hotter girls. Find the best. You'll be more motivated. It's often hard for me to defeat my own apathy these days unless the girl is very pretty.

PyouA · 2012-02-20T02:44:00+00:00

Posting up can be more effective than moving all over the place and opening, especially with a smaller bar/club. I just opened to every hot girl in my area and got to talk to just as many people as I normally would opening, but in each case the frame inherent in the set was that the girl came to me.

This really strengthened the amount I was able to let the girl qualify to me. When you walk over to a girl from across the room the starting frame is that you are the one who approached her, so you have to invert the entire frame. When you talk to people in your area this isn't there, the interaction feels more organic and you are able to start qualifying the girl right out of the gate.

totalradass · 2012-02-20T02:59:36+00:00

Tone down the jitteryness. I've been really antsy/high energy lately, and it is being misunderstood as nervousness. Less caffeine, more meditation.

Teh_Nigerian · 2012-02-20T04:16:33+00:00

Attitude fucking matters. When you go out with the purpose of interacting with women and getting laid, chances are you will fail and will be frustrated and upset because of it. However, if you go out with the purpose of having fun and being social, you will be much more relaxed and attractive to women.

I have learned and relearned this multiple times.

2012-02-20T04:22:10+00:00

I direct opened a gorgeous HB9.5 blonde that went fairly fantastically terrible:

Mileshigh: ''excuse me, you are ridiculously cute. I had to come over here to meet you.'' HB: ''you tried this exact same thing two days ago.'' Mileshigh: ''serious?! Well did I get your number?'' HB: practically rolling her eyes ''I have a boyfriend.'' She turn around and walks off.

The takeaway: this was a pretty painful and slightly embarrassing aoproach, but this is about the worst rejection yet. And really, aside from a few chuckles and some slight embarrassment, it wasn't that bad!

MonkeySteriods · 2012-02-20T04:26:40+00:00

I like this idea.

Learned:

If you put a skin on your phone, you can use it as a peacocking accessory

Reminded of:

Always lead psychically, and isolate [It helps to get rid of people who drag you down]
Walk away at the peak of a conversation [so it never gets dull when you're around]
Don't acknowledge those who try to bring you down

our_glass · 2012-02-20T10:27:16+00:00

You're your on worst enemy. "It's only in your head that you feel left out or looked down on."
Practice makes perfect. You'll never expand your comfort zone unless you do the uncomfortable.
Confidence is key.
To always charge my damn phone.

9 numbers in one night! I was in my zone. :)

dave-gonzo · 2012-02-20T22:13:13+00:00

Even a 31M can get a 19F, if you just have fun and genuinely dont give a fuck.

yenners · 2012-02-19T22:59:49+00:00

When I'm the guy that is fun, people want to be around me. Example, bartender is buying me drinks, trying to set me up with her sister. Walk into places without getting my ID checked b/c I chat the bouncers up so they remember me. Ask a waitress how her night's been going. Ask her name, she asks me mine. She says she'll remember me. Met a pretty cool dude new to the area, gonna show him around. PEople start coming up to me, because they see I'm fun and want to hang around me. When I approach a girl with the objective of trying to get her number, f close, k close, it's nerve racking and disastrous. I need to be that guy that everyone is having fun around. My only thought before I go approach a girl is, that girl is cute, I bet I'd make her night if I went up and talked to her. Not many people are going to be like, omg this guy is so fun and cool, please get away from us.

Title	Sunday Reflection Thread - What did you learn this weekend?
Author	sithyiscool
Upvotes	15
Comments	33
Date	February 19, 2012 8:47 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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