I feel like getting laid is 10x easier if you have your own place...

ericjlima · 2016-01-29T16:04:05+00:00

I've been dealing with the same issue for years and I've been getting laid more than my friends have recently who all have their own place.

The trick is that not having your own place is just another excuse. My friends who have a place make the excuse that they are not good looking or too good looking so girls think they're a douche.

Throw out the excuses and approach! Get better at game all around. Even if all you can do is make out with them that's fine you're making progress. You will be surprised at the opportunities that arise after you delve into game. Bathroom fucks, their place, car lays, where ever, whenever.

If you really want to get laid leverage dating apps till you find what you're looking for.

TRPboys · 2016-01-29T17:23:53+00:00

What is your living situation?

You have to work with what you got, its other similar things that can be a crutch like living to far away from the nightclubs/bars etc. At the end of the day there will always be factors you cannot control or change, you just have to learn how to work around them.

If you want actual help you gotta put some more effort into your post.

DaygameCoach · 2016-01-29T16:08:55+00:00

Instead of developing your self limiting beliefs, try developing your problem solving, confidence, and tenacity...and find a solution to your pulling problem.

Daredevlinx · 2016-01-29T18:36:35+00:00

A car, a bathroom, the park, in an alley, at a friends house, at her friends house, in a shed, in a junkyard, in a storeroom, on top of a car, in a friends car, in her friends car, cars in general, on the back of a horse, in a tractor, on a plane, on a train, on a bus ...

All of these places people have fucked. And more.

kielfear · 2016-01-29T17:27:45+00:00

You having your own cave? ....you don't say?

Every day you spend at home spayed who you are, the first day and everyday after is a day that molds your mind in a different direction, so feeling incapable at your parents home, the longer you experience that the more harmful it is to the person you are becoming.

letsgetrandy · 2016-01-29T16:28:05+00:00

Yes. Getting laid is 10x easier if you have your own place.

Just like driving to the store is 10x easier if you have your own car, and getting drunk is 10x easier if you have your own bar.

This is really obvious.

lax123123 · 2016-01-29T19:57:47+00:00

Exactly, I live with my parents... Trying to bring a girl home around my work schedule and my parents is impossible. And trust me, If I could afford it, moving out would be the first thing I would do. Unfortunately I cant afford to move out even at $15/h.

gocougs11 · 2016-01-29T18:29:31+00:00

What do you mean? You mean like living alone vs. having roommates? I also live in NYC and I'm pretty sure no girl is going to judge you and be weird about you having roommates... Most people I know here have roommates. Or do you mean like living with your parents? Because yeah that probably won't work.

This thread makes me feel incredibly lucky that I live by myself in Manhattan.

Sir_Gainz · 2016-01-29T16:27:11+00:00

I live with a relative and bring girls home all the time. It isn't uncommon for me to have 4-5 different girls over in a week. My relative barrages me with questions and there are often moments of awkwardness, but I'm able to have a healthy sex life. Suck it up and pull anyways.

Also, check out local parks and what not that you could take a girl for a date once the weather warms up. Scout the area for private spots with some kind of view. Girls are really into public sex from my experience. Just don't get caught.

hamfraigaar · 2016-01-30T00:29:55+00:00

Bullshit. I just moved home this Christmas because it's just temporarily the best option for what I'm doing at the moment. I'm literally a grown man taking women to my parents basement.

Do what you have to do, but don't give me your bullshit excuses ;)

goranstoja · 2016-01-29T22:38:30+00:00

Yep, rent a apartment much cheaper then to go to hotel all the time. Tell to a girl to come watch a movie, but first let her promise she will be nice and nothing will happen you will just watch a movie :D

Ragnrok · 2016-01-29T22:38:32+00:00

Hey, try AirBNB. Looking in the NYC area now I can see a number of one night rooms for 50 bucks or under.

peacemakerzzz · 2016-01-29T18:15:35+00:00

Totally agree. In my country, the norm here is to still live with the parents even at a working age, so I find it difficult to suck it all up by saying I have a healthy sex life. It just feels awkward talking about it.

Mi5ery · 2016-01-29T20:12:49+00:00

It is

Where_is_dutchland · 2016-01-29T22:34:19+00:00

I noticed the sex was actually pretty epic though when the moment suddenly arose to have sex. Like when you have the house to yourself or she wants you so badly that you just end up bagging in the car

corndaddyc · 2016-01-29T23:13:43+00:00

Add another 0

puaCurveBall · 2016-01-29T23:24:45+00:00

Just pull them straight past your parents into your bedroom.

Seriously. Plenty of guys do it.

Before you tell me that wouldn't be cool or wouldn't work, go try it twice, then tell me what the reaction was instead of you guessing about it.

theobesegamer · 2016-01-30T01:00:20+00:00

I have my own place and I still never get laid. Because I have no game. If you have game it doesn't matter if you live with your fucking mom.

BBQ_RIBS · 2016-01-30T01:45:24+00:00

Why don't you form an agreement with your roommates. You send a text one hour before. They clear out in exchange for some cash?

You get your place to yourself. Your roommates get some free spending money. Win win. Better than forking over 100+ for an okay hotel at best.

ZippyZebra · 2016-01-30T03:41:17+00:00

If you have an empty room you have an opportunity

2016-01-30T04:53:42+00:00

What if your mom's hot?

Spore2012 · 2016-01-30T05:22:13+00:00

Having yer own car place job etc is all part of raising your status which also builds confidence. Just stop using it as a crutch and work on yourself. That being said, I bedded most of the chick's I dated/ hooked up with at their place or my families. It's not that big a deal.

KWAD2 · 2016-01-30T05:22:25+00:00

I go to a service academy. I can only get laid on the weekends, unless I want to be risky, which is too much considering I could get kicked out for it.

It's awful, I can't wait to graduate and have a place of my own again.

whitewater09 · 2016-01-30T06:16:21+00:00

I always assumed the same thing. Until one night when I was hanging with this super awesome girl and I convinced her to come back to my (parents') place to hang out some more.

...She did.

...She met my parents and they said "hi its nice to meet you see you later."

...Then we went to my room.

It was basically the exact same thing that would normally happen plus saying hello, which is just common courtesy. And that only even happened because my parents happened to be in a place where the girl and I had to walk past them.

If the point is for someone to spend the night with you, and you have a place to spend the night, then there you go! There should only be a problem if that place is someone's couch in a living room for the night or some place like a dorm that doesn't allow overnight visitors. (And even then...)

Booster93 · 2016-01-30T06:34:32+00:00

Money is a big factor in getting girls I don't care, whether your parents pay for all you shit and your education or not. I'm so sick of this life.

2016-01-30T06:37:25+00:00

I wonder if it's worth living in a big city where you cant have your own place to have more access to women. Or are their expectations higher and if you don't have you're own place you don't have a chance.

2016-01-30T06:48:05+00:00

I've lived with my parents. I've rented a room in a trailer. I've lived in a studio with no kitchen. I've slept on a naval ship for months. This new place is the best place I've lived and I have done much better in previous years of my life with worse living situations.

Scudsterr · 2016-01-30T07:00:29+00:00

Why can't you go to there place?? Why can't they go home with you? You don't have your own bedroom? Can't you ask your roommate to leave for one night. Please explain more.

AudioRebellion · 2016-01-30T10:13:56+00:00

Clothing store fitting rooms. I've gotten many notches there.

dfawlt · 2016-01-30T10:27:23+00:00

hold on, you don't have your own place as in you live in nyc in a hostel? or you have roommates/parents, because the second one shouldnt be a problem

do people really live out of hostels in nyc?

ben0wn4g3 · 2016-01-30T12:24:26+00:00

Logistics is very important. Make sure you have somewhere to go. Obviously.

StevieBoyB · 2016-01-30T16:05:33+00:00

I think generally it's easier as it takes care of logistics, but at the end of the day game trumps all. I've managed to take some girls to some pretty dodgy sex locations in the past and have a good time.

Elodrian · 2016-01-29T18:19:18+00:00

Be mindful of the feminization of your language. Here are some feelings: mad, sad, glad, horny, hungry, disgusted, afraid. "Getting laid is 10x easier..." is not a feeling, it is a judgement. You don't feel it, you think it. So say that. Or better still: don't. Just state what you think without hedging.

Title	I feel like getting laid is 10x easier if you have your own place...
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Date	January 29, 2016 3:39 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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