Just want you all to know that "we're not having sex tonight" means sex with you is on her mind. Which prompted me to continue my current path, as I had learned this was just some LMR. (Granted sometimes this does mean NO, it may be a red day or she may be too uncomfortable, but most of the time it just means "convince me")

"Okay" I said. I totally ignored what she had said and continued making out with her. I actually counted throughout our makeout session that she said we aren't having sex about 5 times, which I interpreted as she had sex with me on her mind 5 times.

Next she kisses my neck and I motion her hand down to my pants, a little after that and she starts giving head. I finger her while she blows me and within about 30 seconds we're having sex.

Just want you guys to remember that "we're not having sex" doesn't mean you aren't having sex, it means you need to get her properly motivated to escalate. (Except in the case where it's a direct and serious "no" then going further is sexual assault, obviously)