What questions do you have about attracting women?

upandup123 · 2018-02-03T04:00:34+00:00

I feel like I find it hard to strike the balance between "too funny/try hard" and just kind of boring

Any advice?

Also, cool guys always seem like they can have something fun and spontaneous they can do with people, any suggestions?

xsmiley · 2018-02-03T06:52:25+00:00

I have a tip from the male side.

Men. Remember, a pretty girl at the end of the day is still a girl.

No matter how you look at it.

Sure, she looks uninterested or has a 'bitch face on'

But do you know how far a simple confident walk and a "what's up?" goes?

Find out, trust me.

carterworld · 2018-02-03T04:15:21+00:00

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carterworld · 2018-02-03T04:30:07+00:00

I don't really feel the incentive to try with girls. Dates or otherwise. It's been this way for a while now. Any short term solutions that could be a temporary pick me up? (Background: 18, in hs, never has a gf or kissed a girl)

Gorbishganoid · 2018-02-03T13:33:27+00:00

How to make a move on a friend who is SUPER shy but shows subtle IOIs (invites you to lay down next to her in bed, always pulls chair up very close, etc?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T06:40:21+00:00

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Messisfoot · 2018-02-03T08:05:20+00:00

Is it possible to be successful with women without a social life?

Recently, my health has deteriorated to the point that I can't keep social appointments and I can't enjoy most activities people my age do.

I still remember all the skills from the days when I used to pick up. But I can't go out anymore.

Or should I just hope that my health improves eventually?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T04:45:59+00:00

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LancelotGFX · 2018-02-03T07:06:26+00:00

I don't have a single idea as to what I should talk about to a girl and so end up not having the confidence to talk to any one of them at all. Any suggestions?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T08:13:34+00:00

My mind goes blank and I legit don’t know what to say

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RedditsAHiveMind · 2018-02-03T15:51:08+00:00

How do I make a conversation more intimate/sexual. I can connect and vibe with women pretty ok at this point but I don’t know how to take the next step.

I was with this girl the other night at a party and it was so painfully obvious that we were in to each other (we kept making excuses to be around one another) but we kept having fun friendly conversation, and I knew if I escalated it would probably be successful, but I just didn’t know how to do it.

So in short, if you meet a girl and click, how do you shift things to a more intimate interaction?

mala_madre · 2018-02-03T06:11:00+00:00

I have problems starting a conversation. And fear.

Like some days ago a really cutie was staring at me in school. I dont know ehat to say to her, sure I could say hi and ask her what she studies and then what... Have a strong feeling (fear) that it would be awkward af.

Visualize_ · 2018-02-03T07:06:32+00:00

For approaching strangers what's a simple or basic thing to follow up after "hi how are you" (or should I not even open with that at all)? In class I could make a comment about the class itself but what about in more general scenarios?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T21:04:00+00:00

I'm literally square 1 brother. I don't know shit, even though i've read like 12 books on seduction.

My social skills are terrible

carterworld · 2018-02-03T09:14:23+00:00

How do I get over the fear of escalating with women. I freeze up and don't know if I should touch them I.e hold their hand and lead them all that

carterworld · 2018-02-03T05:47:35+00:00

How do you build connection/rapport with someone across the room? I know it’s all in the eyes, but once we acknowledge each other, how do I turn it into a friendly/fun game?

Aeon199 · 2018-02-03T05:22:18+00:00

Can socially-deficient men, neither "bright" in any conventional sense, get laid without paying? (Autistic, but not able to impress with STEM or good career, etc.)

Otherwise, average-looking and average height.

Grymninja · 2018-02-03T07:21:51+00:00

Talking to girls on tinder, specifically the really hot ones. I'm starting to match with them somewhat consistently but I feel like I'm not able to hold their attention long enough to get their number/a date set up. I know these girls are probably getting like 50 matches a day so I have to stand out. I try to incorporate shit from their bios when they have them, and ask open ended questions.

But either they suck at having a conversation, or I'm boring them somehow.

carterworld · 2018-02-03T20:11:41+00:00

When I approach a girl, how do I be more sexual and not be thrown into the friendzone? And how do I stop being desperate? I am 20 and I know that college is the easiest time to meet people.

carterworld · 2018-02-03T20:14:22+00:00

As a woman, what advice do you have for me to attract guys? I am 21F, never had a boyfriend and still am a virgin. Every guy online ends up ghosting or talking to other girls and the very few guys in my nursing major have girlfriends or wives. I just joined a sorority this quarter, but still no luck meeting guys.

ReasonableWealth · 2018-02-03T20:25:27+00:00

Hey yo I got a couple general questions and one specific one.

I'm in first year in university rn, and I have a pretty good physique and get looks quite often. How do I use this to get laid? Cause I'm just looking for experience rn.

What would be your first date options if you're tryna smash?

Also, any advice on making more platonic girl friends in general just to chill with.

Specific question: Aight a couple months ago this tall slim girl would always stare me down every fucking class (like if she sat in front she'd crane her fucking neck to find me out of the other 200 people to stare cause I always sat at the back), randomly appear in places I frequented, and be chilling with mutual friends. So I was like aight w/e and hit her up to chill. We talked for like 2-3 hours and it was pretty chill. We both laughed a lot, and she was always staring at my arms, however, we barely made eye contact cause she was always looking down. I guess she was nervous maybe? Then I ask her and she says she's got a bf, so I was like aight w/e I dont wanna slide in between and we go our separate ways. However, whenever we pass by each other now she freezes up and has that deer in the headlights look and she's always one of the first ones to pop up on my story.

Personally, I'm like w/e and just ignore her looking cause she's on some fufu shit, but bro this shit's confusing me lol.

Wat do?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T21:43:59+00:00

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asdleves · 2018-02-03T21:49:24+00:00

It's a little different question, but can you give advice to someone who accepted dying alone because of fear of rejection and fear of women in general ? (I'm only 22, but I'm anti-social, online dating made zero dates or even matches and anxious about talking to anyone pretty much)

carterworld · 2018-02-04T00:04:59+00:00

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carterworld · 2018-02-04T00:29:23+00:00

How do I reconnect with girls I went to high school or college with?

In high school and the first few years of college (I’m a junior), I liked some girls but they were in relationships or I was too awkward to ask them out.

I am not as shy as I used to be and a lot of these girls broke up with their partners. However, I lost contact with them and I don’t know how could I reconnect with them. I left them alone so I wouldn’t disturb their relationship.

How can I do this?

actin_and_myosin · 2018-02-04T03:10:33+00:00

This is more relationship oriented.

I developed strong feelings for a classmate of mine and got blown off pretty badly after the third date. I went no contact for a month (winter break) to recover. I'm in a better place now, but I run into her all the time and broke no contact a few times because I'm weak and still have feelings for her. I know through mutual friends that she misses me and thinks I'm hot. I'm torn between moving on with my life, and asking her to hang out again. I know the solution is to find someone else, but the idea of me pursuing other options is alien to me due to my infatuation with this chick. I'm in a small town so an abundance mentally is difficult to establish here. WTF do I do?

carterworld · 2018-02-04T03:21:48+00:00

I am 18 and am an Indian international student in the US. I hit the gym, making new friends, and becoming more assimilated to American/Western culture and society.

My English is fluent and I hit the gym often.

I also don't know how to flirt and escalate with these girls. I don't know what to say. I have made efforts to assimilate into American culture by watching American movies, making American friends, and trying new things.

How should I ask out American girls of any race? Whether they be White, Black, US born/raised East Asians and Indians? What should I say and how do I flirt or escalate without being creepy or too nice?

carterworld · 2018-02-04T05:10:01+00:00

Dumb question, but I see plenty of cute sorority girls in class. How do I seduce and ask out sorority girls if I am not in a fraternity? I know a good amount of girls date non frat guys but they usually have met earlier on in college (or back in high school) or have graduated and met after college.

Chaddeus_Rex · 2018-02-04T05:29:07+00:00

I have three questions:

Why do girls ghost me/why is it so difficult to get a decent date for me? I need to do an absurd number of approaches just to get a date? Not short (6'2) or obese and upgraded my style. Usually girls just ghost.
I have problems with escalation - I don't normally get any of the 'tells' that a woman is okay with me escalating (she doesn't touch me back after I touch her on the shoulder, etc) and so when i escalate I either lose the girl because I "escalate too fast" (exhibit A). If I don't make any moves during the date, I still lose the girl - don't go past first date. Maybe its because I don't have an easily available room nearby? And yet I hear about how dudes get hotel rooms to meet with girls. So naturally I'm confused as fuck lol. What do you suggest?
People preach "improve yourself" to get girls. I am improving myself - but I don't want to be an incel while I become the best version of myself. So how do I improve my success? I have only had 4 lays and I am 25. I have had a dry spell since October and that hasn't been because I am not approaching.

PotLimitOmaha · 2018-02-04T05:44:49+00:00

I see you're getting a lot of questions so I'll keep it concise Without going into my background and experience with game. I will say I'm a newbie but have little approach anxiety when it comes to night game. After a couple drinks I feel comfortable and relaxed approaching.

I'm starting to develope a charismatic cocky funny game because that's what feels the most natural to me. My problems are

Sometimes I feel like i'm too funny to the point where I come off as a little goofy, the girl/girls are having fun and enjoying my company but I'm not necessarily building attraction. How should I correct this? By being a little more cocky?

I also rely a bit on breaking social conditioning. It's a double edged sword. I stand out from other guys and come off as very confident. Plus everyone I'm with has a fun time with me. One girl told me I was the best experience she's ever had with a random guy approaching her at a bar. On the other hand it's hard to keep up. Especially if I where to take a girl out a on a date that doesn't involve grabbing drinks at a bar. How do I meet a girls expectations if she's expecting me to act how I met her that night at the bar or club? Do I start the date out casual and fun and then act less socially conditioned as the night goes on? I haven't been on many dates but I like to keep things very light and casual for first dates, no expensive dinners, no out of the box ideas, and no coffee.

If you have any questions for me that could lead to a better answer, shoot.

Thanks in advance for the reply!

carterworld · 2018-02-04T06:29:16+00:00

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Lck_revenge · 2018-02-04T10:33:53+00:00

What if a girl never really responds to any questions you ask them and doesn't ask you any questions?

I had a lady like that once I asked so many questions, but she never asked me any, she took us to a concert 4 and a half hours away, even got a hotel room. We made out and such I just never knew when to go farther, like if they're putting movement in hips while lying down?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T06:46:49+00:00

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aldjfh · 2018-02-03T07:19:28+00:00

Where can I meet women outside of online dating and how do I initiate a conversation and keep her interested in the moment?

I see that my biggest problem is figuring out where to go to meet them. I literally can't think of a single place. Also I've noticed any interest in me a girl might have dies out very fast cause of me not keeping the conversation going well enough and having a speech impediment. I can't figure out what to do about this.

JUST_WANTTOBEHAPPY · 2018-02-03T08:11:48+00:00

Could be unrelated how do I deal w/dating/pickup burnout？

I realize over the months I get burnout fairly easily often once twice a week. This past week I had been doing some daygame while out buying groceries, went on dates from Tinder, pulling girls from nightclub(decent success). But all said and done I havnt got laid. So the frustration kinda gets to me.

As I'm typing this couple of hot girls pass by and I had flat zero motivation to approach. What's your take on this?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T08:40:40+00:00

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resoredo · 2018-02-03T10:46:21+00:00

I am at times very girly, shy, cute, and lovey-dovey and at times very confident, outgoing and the center of attention.

I seem to attract girls only when I'm in the second mode, but it's gets problematic when the girl I attracted gets to know my first node or of I just fall into this first mode. It's just a natural cycle for me. There are other things which change and its really hard.

I try to get more of the girls side into my second mode and more if the confidence into the first.

Any tips on how to not kill the attraction or to attract girls while in the first node?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T20:12:34+00:00

I met a girl in my class, and we hit it off by talking about our hometowns, majors (we are both computer science), and she always smiles and makes eye contact with me if we see each other. How should I ask her out and how to be more sexual? i know that she is sick with a cold now. Should I wait until she is better?

Lck_revenge · 2018-02-03T07:33:30+00:00

best way to get to know a woman? like what questions to ask in a random environment

ImBadWithGrils · 2018-02-03T13:16:53+00:00

How do you effectively talk to girl at the gym? This is one of those "grey areas" but I want to make it work

Ptolemy222 · 2018-02-03T15:11:18+00:00

I’m at a new job and I think a girl has a fancy towards me. We talked a lot at first because were both new but she works in a different department. How can I talk to this girl? How do I ask a girl out at work without making it awkward?

the_elite_ninja · 2018-02-03T17:20:39+00:00

I am attracted to a girl, i saw her only 3-4 times ( she is a senior and our class timings do not match and i am rarely able to see her) when first time i saw her i tried to make eye contact with her; she was passing by and then she came back the same route was acting a little nervous and was talking to her friend but but it would seem she was looking at me instead of her friend while talking to her.

second time: she was walking towards me and she noticed me and made a clear eye contact with me and hold it until i looked away nervously.

third time: she was with her friends and suddenly i pass by, she does'nt know that and when i came near her she looked at me like you look at a surprise and quickly looked other way smiling, and started talikng to her friends. After that i didn't see her its been almost 5 days. what should i do? Do you think she is intrested??

carterworld · 2018-02-03T18:32:02+00:00

How can you be indirect but also shown intent? This is something I struggle with. I find these women attractive but I never tell them I find them that way. Is that something I should change as other than just inviting them out one on one I don't tell them I like them etc.

cyrilan · 2018-02-03T19:32:25+00:00

Any tips or ideas on how to talk and interact to more girls at university?

Anonymous_account_47 · 2018-02-04T21:15:59+00:00

So there's this girl in my class who i like for over a year now, and i still don't really know her. She doesn't seem to not like me, but she is definately not (yet) into me. Which i understand, because i'm always either too scared to talk to her, or i don't know what to say. What are some ways so that i can get to know her better (and she me), so that i can eventually ask her out?

carterworld · 2018-02-04T21:34:06+00:00

What is a good way to meet smart women like female doctors and lawyers or even engineers? How would I ask them out and balance their strict time schedules?

carterworld · 2018-02-04T21:35:10+00:00

Where do you meet nerdy girls? Like female gamers or Star Wars fans?

carterworld · 2018-02-04T21:37:16+00:00

I am in a coed fraternity. We rarely host mixers with sororities, but have women in our fraternity.

How would I attract these girls? A few members date. I also don't want to start unnecessary drama.

The brothers talk, so I can NOT make any sexual moves, when I hang out with them one on one (mandatory requirement).

Us brothers are always pressed to act professional and friendly, and keep everything else aside. Most brothers already see me as a friend or are in relationships.

How do I proceed or run social circle game here?

carterworld · 2018-02-04T23:49:36+00:00

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carterworld · 2018-02-05T04:46:02+00:00

It’s my final semester of college. For the first 3 years, I was too shy and awkward. I started going out, but a majority of the women I approached were taken.

I will graduate soon and I never had a girlfriend and am still a virgin. I missed out on dorm sex and college dating. Should I bother now? Graduation may split us. Is it worth going to clubs and all that if I will graduate soon? I

I meet girls there often, so how do I flirt with them? What can I say that will get her interested in me? How do I ask her on a date? or get her to be my girlfriend or FWB?

I also haven't got any job offers so I am uncertain where I will live.

dosidoc · 2018-02-08T23:31:41+00:00

Not sure if you still answer questions, but worth a shot :).

I like this girl from evening school. Last semester we had a group we always hanged out with but since the other 2 changed class we don't see them that much anymore. Last month I got to know her better, We talk a lot and the conversations are very fun, we connect good. See seems always interested to talk to me. No very obvious IOI but no signs of disinterest aswell. I asked her 2 times to go for a drink after our class and both times she refused. She said she wanted to an other time but was to tired now. now I'm not sure if she is really interested. Is it still worth it or is she rejecting me in a polite way?

What is a good strategy to take her out? I was thinking of asking her to go to a concert next month.

carterworld · 2018-02-03T06:24:55+00:00

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fantastic_damage · 2018-02-03T11:44:40+00:00

what is minimum annual income necessary to attract not-fat woman ?

carterworld · 2018-02-03T05:17:01+00:00

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Elfclan30 · 2018-02-03T09:53:17+00:00

I have a problem with the "emotional talk " everybody advises. I can create emotions and all but I sound like a I am reading poetry, I feel like poeple like it a lot at the beginning, but then its like here he comes with the sensible bullshit kind of look....

So how you apply the "make them feel something " without being corny.

Read in the art of seduction that a dull voice its actually attractive, so i am cutting down on the emotional talk,.

Help?

Title	What questions do you have about attracting women?
Author	carterworld
Upvotes	116
Comments	215
Date	February 3, 2018 3:37 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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