We had always decided to keep our marrital issues private from friends and family. However, for the past year, we ve been sleeping in different beds. She’s decided to speak more to her newly divorced friend, new therapist, and all her friends about our “problems”.

It’s seems that in times of crises when one should follow “our” boundaries and rules, she’s breaking all of them to further lead us to the point of no return.

It hurts me because I’ve been telling her for years that she needed to a better job at communicating things with me. For better or for worse, I begged for honest communication. I would always try to dig deep so we can problem solve root issues, but she was always dismissive of my attempts and chose silence.

Fast forward this past year we’ve been separated and live in different beds. During this time, she speaks to her friends more than me. Literally, 10 words for me vs hours on the phone with them. I dislike that she is distorting my reputation with them. I don’t even know how I could ever see them again knowing that they believe any BS that was gossiped about me.

I don’t think I can ever overcome this betrayal.