I can get any girl but i’m to afraid to touch them

epimpstyle · 2024-07-16T22:58:59+00:00

Yes, of course it is creepy to touch them or grab their hand, but if you create a reason to touch them or playfully grab their hand, it is not creepy. All you have to do is to create a reason to touch them, for example:

Touch their elbow with the back of your palm for a second when you say, "Oh, by the way, did I tell you blah blah blah?
Grab her hand as a reason to see her ring/bracelet.
Grab her neck as saying "hey come closer, I want to tell you a secret"... "I'm thirsty, I need a beer/coffee/smoothie" (a "trick" is to gently push her away after you tell her the secret, to show her that it was not an intentional gesture to grab her neck/waist)
If you don't look at her, while you turn your head toward her, you can touch her arm/elbow casually while saying "Hey, I want to tell you something....". you know is that gesture of gently touching her to grab her attention
If you are playful, you can touch them as part of a game like "let's see who has the biggest palm" or who has the longer index finger... things like that.

All of these gestures are quick (1-2 seconds), but they are long enough for her to realize that you have touched her.

cannibalstreudel · 2024-07-16T21:53:23+00:00

Sounds like you have some internal shame about being sexual. I've gone deep into seduction, getting used to women, etc. and have made the mistake of going way too far in my early days. The consequences you hear about are if you are a predator, purposefully hurting women, or forcing women into situations they're not cool with. Generally, if you have good intentions but accidentally go too far, there's no consequences - I speak from experience.

As for the internal stuff, it's not sexy, but therapy helps. Make sure you work with a guy therapist who's legit though, not a run of the mill therapist who doesn't know what they're doing with women. A ton of men's dating coaches are starting to use therapy to help their clients get over internal blocks too, would look for a dating coach who works on mindset/inner game/shame/blocks etc.

razama · 2024-07-16T22:12:22+00:00

You need to escalate properly and take the initiative when doing so just so you can be comfortable with the pace. This is bad for the girl as well, you are giving her mixed signals.

Common tactic is opening with a hug. Just right off the bat you go for a hug so you are both used to touching. When you start the contact, it isn’t so weird to keep it going. Then escalate kino naturally.

Jironasaurus · 2024-07-16T23:45:12+00:00

There is no faster way except to force yourself to break the touch barrier. Do it repeatedly till your mental block goes away. That's what I did after ages of going on multiple dates without escalating. Once I realized mentally it was not a big deal, it no longer became a problem on dates.

jupiter_and_mars · 2024-07-16T22:06:38+00:00

How do you seduce them?

dobbs1997 · 2024-07-16T22:53:21+00:00

….You weren’t seducing them, they were seducing you, don’t say you can seduce any woman when at the same time you’re afraid to break the touch barrier lol that doesn’t make sense

ThotBubble · 2024-07-16T23:04:03+00:00

Lmaoo you are delusional you can’t “get” any girl without touch lmaoo that’s one of the biggest parts of seduction that’s like buying cool workout clothes eating right buying a nice water bottle to not workout hard lmao you need to get over the barrier of touching do it get rejected and realize what you did wrong stop being delusional and telling yourself you can get any girl when you’re terrified to touch her lmao be humble brother practice

matty25 · 2024-07-17T02:09:37+00:00

You sound like my friend who swears he can hit .250 in the big leagues 😂

Cipamanz · 2024-07-17T06:45:07+00:00

Got it. You’re looking to get more comfortable with physical touch and avoid coming off as creepy. Let’s break this down.

Acknowledge the fear: It’s okay to feel nervous about touch. Many guys do.
Gradual Steps: Start with light, casual touches. High-fives, shoulder taps, or playful nudges, asking about accessories while touching them during conversations.
Read Signs: Ensure she’s comfortable. Is she leaning in? Laughing? These are positives.
Escalate Slowly: Increase the intimacy of your touches as you see positive reactions. Hand on the lower back or arm, then progress.

Example: In conversation, lightly touch her arm when making a point. If she reacts well, increase touch frequency and intimacy.

Silly_Randy · 2024-07-17T13:08:49+00:00

You can touch her indirectly.

Tou h her hands because you want to see her pretty nails, or jewellery.

Using the back of your hand to touch her knee/ leg because you want to tell her something "oh btw did I tell you about my crazy time in Egypt".

Touch her face/ hair because there is "something" or a hair on her face.

Then when she gives you that cute look like "mmmh you're a sexy man kiss me"...then kiss her.

Hell if you're nervous, tell her you're going to kiss her. "I'm going to kiss you now..." And just wait a second to see her reaction and just go for a soft kiss. If it's good you can go back in but this time press harder onto her lips.

Now, can you tell us how you are so seductive? I think it would help a lot of Men in this subreddit.

berzerker5000 · 2024-07-17T01:02:08+00:00

You’re probably just gay, don’t worry about it.

SalamanderNo3872 · 2024-07-17T00:27:41+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

elisjohnson · 2024-07-17T01:23:21+00:00

I don’t have any problem approaching women—I have zero approach anxiety. I’ve just come out of a serious three-year relationship and recently graduated high school. I’m 19, and I talk to girls very directly, making it clear that I’m not interested in being their ‘friend’; they know I want to sleep with them.

The issue arises when it’s time to transition from just eye contact to touch. I become very conscious of touching them, which makes it awkward. This is especially true with people I see daily, as I’m subconsciously worried about the aftermath.

The reason I said I can seduce any girl is that they all offer me their contact information without me asking, so I figure that’s a strong indicator. When I do hit them up, unless I completely mess it up, I’m confident I’ll get laid. (done it twice).

Last_Consequence2760 · 2024-07-17T03:03:16+00:00

I have this problem too. Except I've never seduced a women before.

witheredartery · 2024-07-17T08:47:51+00:00

How do you meet women

Majin_Piccolo · 2024-07-17T11:08:44+00:00

For me, it's the exact opposite 😂 no luck with texting, and talking during the first date is usually dry. But the moment I'm touching them in any way, I have a huge success rate. It has gotten to the point where I'm actually asking myself, if there's something wrong, if there's no Physical touch. For example while watching Netflix I like her to lay on my lap or chest. If she's not looking for Physical touch in any form, I kinda feel uneasy.

gothbaddiewtf · 2024-07-16T21:30:48+00:00

Literally just gotta go for it,to prove to your brain that is ok,there is no other thing that will make this fear go away

MrAnonPoster · 2024-07-16T22:10:03+00:00

"Dear Penthouse Letters, my name is Stewie..."

emazio · 2024-07-16T22:13:16+00:00

165 cm and you can seduce any girl? I don't bite it

Wyerie · 2024-07-16T23:24:58+00:00

You say the eye flirting backfired. Do you mean she got angry about the way you were looking at her? If so, then it's because you were eye flirting too long without an approach or physical escalation. That makes you look like a creep. Escalating touch just means casually brushing against her 'accidentally', a brief tap on the arm or knee etc. It needs to start small, because just like you have a barrier about touching someone, so they have a barrier about being touched.

ManInBlack256 · 2024-07-17T06:41:40+00:00

Hi, I am facing exactly the same situation. Its not that much about touch for me, as it is of being sexual or going for a kiss, when the other side isn't that expressive. I've noticed that when I am with a girl which really is expressive and there is sexual tension I don't have that "fear" and I do make the first move. But, when I am with a girl, which I know likes me, but isn't that emotionally expressive and is more reserved I feel very uncomfortable of making the first move and due to that I had fucked up many good dates.

LilSwaggio · 2024-07-18T00:12:39+00:00

Bro give me some advice, how do you get any girl you want?? Teach me pls hhahaha

SithLordJediMaster · 2024-07-17T03:00:00+00:00

If you leave, don't leave now

Please don't take my heart away

Promise me just one more night

Then we'll go our separate ways

We've always had time on our sides

Now it's fading fast

Every second, every moment

We've got to, we've gotta make it last

I touch you once, I touch you twice

I won't let go at any price

I need you now like I need you then

You always said we'd still be friends someday

IndependentMousse963 · 2024-07-16T22:16:05+00:00

Same as mine a majority of this thread

lesqddr · 2024-07-17T11:14:03+00:00

Lmaoooooooooo 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

BarryBold8 · 2024-07-17T12:52:06+00:00

You clearly can’t get any girl.

WHATTHEDECKK · 2024-07-17T15:50:29+00:00

Just get out of your head and embrace your masculinity when it comes to touching. Understand that you a man and a women who let’s you get active with them is being totally okay with you doing it. If she didn’t want to she’d remove herself from the situation asap.

MajesticFerret36 · 2024-07-17T18:13:04+00:00

If you can't escalate, you can't get "any woman" so I would stop with the delusional arrogance as a first step.

If you were truly confident enough to believe you could get any woman, you would have no problems escalating, as you would assume they all want you,and of they all want you, nine of them will say no to any of your advances.

The fact that you can't do this shows an obvious inconguence between what you say and what you subconsiously actually believe.

Creepy_Battle_4103 · 2024-07-17T23:21:49+00:00

Nah I had the same issue, but once u start doing it more and start to see receptive they r it starts to get easier. Dont start with anything crazy probably just touch their arm our put ur arm around their should to start

Mindless-Lab-2639 · 2024-07-18T20:13:07+00:00

I used to deal with the same issue afraid of escalation, what helped me the most was quit looking at porn and stop masterbation.

Quitting those helped me the most also I’ll do things playfully with them I’ll give them a high five if they say something i agree with and if i like something about their outfit I’ll touch what i like the most. Also i treat the whole situation like they are just a friend and it makes me not afraid of escalation.

McPigg · 2024-07-18T22:36:46+00:00

Start with the most innocent touches (inspecting clothes/jewelry, high fives, elbow grab her when you laugh, basically the least gay shit you would do to your male buddys), then if you get more comfy work your way up to more bold moves.

Or do the opposite, try to hug & make out with every girl you meet in the first 5 minutes for a few nights, this will brealk you through faster but also requires more balls.

Also, touching is overrated, you can just get them home without it and if you prolong it long enough while keeping the tension, many will start to escalate or at least very offensivly offer it to you in these private settings.

notmarkcubaniswear · 2024-07-17T03:38:18+00:00

I was in the same boat at one point but I realized ask for consent is sexy. you will not lose any points nor tension by straight up asking “is it okay if I touch you?”

powprodukt · 2024-07-17T04:26:41+00:00

I think you have to get to the root of your what your anxiety/awkward energy is really centered on. If it's coming from shame or guilt then that's something you should talk to someone about. If it's just nerves then it's something that you just need more exposure therapy with.

There's a certain amount of nerves that goes into seduction always. That's normal and healthy. This is even more so if you're more into her. We all have been phased by the goddess at one point or another. For me, those kind of nerves are were always best addressed by just learning to relax in the moments that matter. This means you just need more practice and push yourself to get out of your comfort zone.

If women are making themselves available for you to make a move, there shouldn't be any fear that you're going to be seen as a 'creep.' When it's intimacy time, most women want to feel desired. So much so that your nerves and hangups are outweighed by your confidence and desire.

Shadow__Account · 2024-07-17T06:08:01+00:00

So how did you get to the conclusion you can get any girl when in reality it seems like you can’t get any girl?

Dragon201345 · 2024-07-17T11:24:29+00:00

You probably would benefit from reading no more mister nice guy

Title	I can get any girl but i’m to afraid to touch them
Author	elisjohnson
Upvotes	121
Comments	114
Date	July 16, 2024 9:08 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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