The biggest texting mistakes YOU make

bmcapers · 2024-09-17T21:22:52+00:00

I think texting has evolved. It’s okay to text right away as long as one has shown to be an effective and considerate communicator. Cats out of the bag, women know the texting game already (they know all of it), they’re interested in the guy who rises above it and does his own thing.

berzerker5000 · 2024-09-17T23:18:13+00:00

If you have genuine chemistry with a girl and are both into eachother, than the texting will be fluid and effortless. You will add value to each others day with laughter or flirting. You don’t need to pull punches. Yes, you generally don’t want to double text or respond way quicker than she does. If you are boring af with “good morning” or “hi” without anything else or need to think really hard on how to spice up the convo, then she ain’t gonna be into you anyway cuz you are bland as vanilla pie. But you also don’t need to over calculate things with someone that likes you.

Practical_Lie_7203 · 2024-09-17T21:44:44+00:00

I’ve found the best way to hook a woman over the apps is to get her role playing.

I’ve had pretty much 100 percent success with messaging them “so I don’t know how this works I’m new here. Are we dating now?” As an opener. They either love it or just don’t respond.

They usually think it’s hilarious, and it kicks off a whole roleplay scenario that can go in many directions. We joke about the hell that is getting a shared phone plan, or how we’re gonna tell our friends and family about our love affair. One girl and I hit it off over being part of a timeshare cult.

Creating an inside joke that they’re involved in endears you to them, and makes you stick out. I’ve thawed some of the iciest of tinderellas with this.

In the end you should be getting them to meet up, but in my experience getting them to the point where they’re taking part in a bit and having fun doing it, they are going to be a million times more likely to want to meet you

Appropriate-Gate-851 · 2024-09-18T00:11:52+00:00

"Why are you not replying to me and ignoring my messages, I see you are online but you have not replied. Did I do something wrong to get ghosted ?".

epimpstyle · 2024-09-17T21:05:09+00:00

If I try to follow all the rules, I don't know what to say, because "hi" is predictable, "I'm going to sleep and good night" is boring. If she is typing 3-4 times I can't text her because I "kill the mystery", if I respond immediately is again wrong. ... why does it need to be so difficult? See? It makes no sense.

Xero_Darknezz · 2024-09-17T22:39:33+00:00

The best thing you can do when you text is reserve it for setting up dates. Don't have full-on conversations over text with women. It's much easier to save conversation for being in each other's presence. Then, you can build intimacy and create attraction and not worry about this bullshit.

321sleep · 2024-09-17T21:09:15+00:00

Lets talk about this one: (Asking boring questions: Avoid the generic “How’s your day?” or “What’s up?” questions—they’re predictable and uninteresting). What are some alternatives to How's your day? Maybe - "What was something that surprised you today?" "Did you find yourself thinking about me today?"

I'd like to hear some clever things to text to reinitiate a convo.

4wordSOUL · 2024-09-18T02:26:28+00:00

I love how the onus of being interesting is squarely on the shoulder's of the men...

NChSh · 2024-09-17T21:36:14+00:00

Double-texting when she doesn’t reply: This shows insecurity and pushes her away. She saw your text man, she just isn't interested.

I've seen guys think like "oh well every once in awhile it works!" but the other side of that coin is that there is an opportunity cost. You are not going after other women and you are all caught up with one that is not interested, so you are a lot more likely to miss out on someone new than you are for the old person to get back to you. Just keep it moving. Also there's always a random chance you run into them like 5 months from now or something.

micahbevans88 · 2024-09-18T00:05:27+00:00

It's okay to text whenever and whatever you want, as long as you're entertaining yourself, because if you're funny and having fun, they probably are too

freakyoat · 2024-09-18T04:33:17+00:00

You are naming things that only a woman who is already not interested in you wouldn’t like . If my top dating option was doing all the things you named i would be falling for them more and like that attention from someone i really like. (Besides the last one but thats obvious)

Noble_-_6 · 2024-09-18T15:23:34+00:00

If a girl actually likes you, you shouldn’t really have to be worrying about all this stuff. The fact that you have to change your behavior to act like a ‘player’ or whatever I think in of itself shows neediness and insecurity

ProperGloom · 2024-09-18T04:13:56+00:00

This subreddit is so cringe, my lord 🤦‍♂️🤣

New-Temperature-4067 · 2024-09-18T08:20:16+00:00

I mute girl then i forget. Makes her crazy 😅

Juan_Punch_Man8 · 2024-09-18T11:41:33+00:00

I text when I want and it's mostly right away. I read the messages as I get them and text them when I feel like it.

Sammieluvsrose · 2024-09-18T02:35:23+00:00

As a girl I second this, just make sure you don’t take too long to respond without making a good impression first cause then we just lose interest

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-09-17T21:09:49+00:00

nice post!

Katut · 2024-09-18T03:29:51+00:00

Nothing wrong with double texting, especially with the very hot girls. I've had success with them many times which wouldn't have happened if I didn't double text.

But... It needs to come from a place of persistence instead of neediness

Workismainstream · 2024-09-18T00:48:47+00:00

don’t text make a facetime call

JasonBourne1965 · 2024-09-18T06:33:10+00:00

Texting before brain is fully engaged.

Hungry_Ad2210 · 2024-09-18T10:35:23+00:00

So basically we stop texting. How am I going to get know girls if I don't text?

Big_Accountant8489 · 2024-09-18T13:33:21+00:00

Using “lol” and emojis too much
Texting for long periods
Texting too often

Texts should be to relay quick information or very brief convos. (ie: setting up a date, directions, brief flirting or something VERY important you need to know about like an emergency)

Anything that looks like it’s gonna be a long convo, meet with her in person.

If she’s sending you random shit, ignore it.

New-Temperature-4067 · 2024-09-18T13:49:07+00:00

this reminded me to reply to someone who i left on read since this morning... thx

Imd1rtybutn0twr0ng · 2024-09-18T14:54:01+00:00

Continued texting with my now ex about 12 yrs ago..... could've saved so much drama and needless suffering.

xFount · 2024-09-18T16:38:52+00:00

What do you mean by “mystery”? There is 700k people in this sub. And everyone is mysterious? Is there a need to pretend?

Solid-Experience3607 · 2024-09-18T19:02:32+00:00

And these unspoken psychology rules are why men are completely and thoroughly losing interest in women. Cuz all of it is just too much of a hassle and still comes with no guarantees of providing interest/relationship/sex (-/or all three) by women. The scales are so imbalanced one man could be adhering to all these rules and still end up getting ghosted and shit, just the way he would've if he wasn't even giving a damn about these rules. So the outcome lies the same for him i.e. no guarantees ! Another such scenario would be let's say a woman is texting with multiple men where one is in her league and another she considers out of her league in terms of attractiveness, where the avg looking is following all these texting rules, she'd still pick the "out of her league" guy even if he's a clingy texter. And ghost the other one. So, then what's the fucking point wasting your energy in efforts for such fickle-minded human beings ?
Women hold all the power at her free will to show immense interest in you or treat you like a disposable, irrespective of all these shenanigans and texting/pickup rules and rulebooks !

standing_strong_31 · 2024-09-18T21:04:33+00:00

My biggest issue has always been the start of the conversation......I really can't figure it out how to initiate good productive conversation .......I although do well when it comes to continuing a conversation..........feels dumb tbh.....

No-Version5647 · 2024-09-17T21:21:34+00:00

Couldnt agree more with all of these

jozh_wz · 2024-09-17T20:48:17+00:00

Could u give examples of making urself less predictable?

nighthunterrrr · 2024-09-17T20:53:47+00:00

Don't text. Go out with her

MrAnonPoster · 2024-09-17T22:20:33+00:00

So much pointless shit

The biggest mistake you are making in texting is that you are texting.. You texting women is you giving attention. Women's currency is attention. Men's currency is investment i.e. her investing her time in you. you are giving her attention. She is giving you nothing. Congratulations. Hope the texting advice works as she becomes more and more disinterested

stress024 · 2024-09-17T21:46:24+00:00

How do you feel about these rules when in a committed relationship let’s say 9 months to a year out?

Title	The biggest texting mistakes YOU make
Author	BerichtenKoning
Upvotes	291
Comments	99
Date	September 17, 2024 8:43 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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