How can you tell when a girl is ready to go back to your place?

sqowz · 2025-02-05T02:09:00+00:00

Ask her, but be discreet and subtle.

Many women prefer not to feel judged/slutty and want things to unfold naturally, as if it "just happened."

That's why phrases like "Netflix and chill" exist.

cashincheeeqs · 2025-02-05T02:59:34+00:00

Does she let you grab her inner thigh? Then she’s probably ready, or she’s close, so close to the point where you asking her back isn’t going to affect anything. At least that’s always been my indicator.

And so what if she says no? She’s just going to say no. And you guys are going to continue having a good time. Unless she’s weird and gets offended, then that’s on her not you.

Back off from touching her until you start making her laugh again and then you can start touching her again. Get her aroused (horny) first and then try asking again.

If she says no, back off from touching and go again. She just didn’t like the way you did it last time, but she might like it this time.

One time I had to do this process 4 different times before she was finally ready.

shittybillz · 2025-02-05T02:03:52+00:00

For me it comes down to how physical we are. If we are cuddling in a booth and kissing, I’ll ask her back. If we’ve barely made contact, probably not.

epimpstyle · 2025-02-05T09:40:19+00:00

Just the basics: "kino escalation" and "compliance ladder" - if you can do it any other way, it will be a miracle.

Mr_Dixon1991 · 2025-02-05T03:37:39+00:00

If it's the second date, then just suggest a legit reason to go back to your place. In the back of her mind, she knows what might happen... she just don't want to feel dirty about it. If she's interested, then she'll accept your invitation. The worst she will say is, "No, not right now."

7asas · 2025-02-05T09:30:59+00:00

I asked my girlfriend to come over after a date for three times. Two times she said she wasn't ready, I told her that is alright. After refusing she used to get kind of awkward so I would just tell her to not worry about it. And for a third time I asked, she said that she was ready to stay over night, because it is a big move for her. Then we had sex and everything went well.

Joecool317 · 2025-02-05T02:09:40+00:00

She a act like she hot

PM_Teeny_Titties · 2025-02-05T12:57:05+00:00

By asking.

Dwerg1 · 2025-02-05T06:16:19+00:00

Can't always tell, I'm not a mind reader, so I just ask her.

SweetNapTime · 2025-02-05T07:27:03+00:00

As someone who is very expressive, I always ask them, simple to the point

originalgainster · 2025-02-05T15:00:12+00:00

If you wanna ask just ask. Or invite her to a bar close to your place and escalate from there.

RadiantTry9442 · 2025-02-07T04:02:35+00:00

dawg. end of date, ask the question. She says yes or no. thats it.

tip: ask casually. as if it was just any other question.

JackSquirts · 2025-02-09T15:44:44+00:00

Someone told me a while back that the best way is to create a scenario which allows her to be comfortable making the decision to fuck you. Basically, it needs to be her idea. That's by far the best way, but understand she's not likely to just ask, you still have to make the proposition 99/100x.

If you're escalating things and getting her hot, pulling back at appropriate times then pushing the envelope further, she'll start dropping hints. Some like, "it's getting late" can either be an invitation to ask or just a simple acknowledgement that she's ready to go home solo. Some aren't so subtle, "I have a rule about sex on the [date number} date", is god damn alarm bells - she's literally trying to convince herself not to fuck you. Opposite that, if she starts making excuses for leaving "I have a million things to do in the morning", you're basically dead in the water. And then things like, "I wish this night didn't have to end" are somewhere in the middle. Of course, it's all about the context of how things are otherwise going.

Guys tend to push too hard, too early. Just relax and let it flow. Escalate physically, turn her on, and look for any hint that she's wanting more. Then just casually offer something like, "let's grab a drink at my place." Just like anything with women, it's generally better to go a little too slow than to go to fast and make her feel uncomfortable.

terminator461 · 2025-02-07T22:27:04+00:00

I like asking them if they are good at cuddling towards the end of the date. See how they react and read their body language. If she’s not down yet, she will usually give a non excited response or something closed off. So I don’t pursue it further. If she seems excited by the idea, well then put a movie and off you go.

belljarthoughts · 2025-02-08T20:44:21+00:00

My general rule now is not ask someone home on a first date, I don’t even think it’s a good idea

If the first date went well and we kissed, I’d suggest one of the following for second date

1) invite her over for dinner at your apartment 2) bring them out again and mention on the second date at the end of the night

I feel not pushing for sex on the first date establishes respect, reassurance of safety and that you’re not using them for ONS

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-02-09T18:10:17+00:00

There are levels of escalation, physical and verbal to check first before trying to take her home . But I would say in general if you're on a date and she is making out with you, she is ready. What is your main challenge when it comes to taking girls home do far? Also feel free to DM me , I get confused with all the threads and I love talking about this stuff.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-02-14T08:46:24+00:00

Its very simple if you escalated properly

ishlabandz · 2025-02-06T00:31:35+00:00

Just invite her over. You'll know she's ready if she says yes or no.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-02-05T09:54:47+00:00

You tell by looking at her face and guageing for consent. See my post on "how to pull a girl home in one day - fundementals of escalation" That can solve the problem you're having right now.

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-02-05T11:36:18+00:00

You don’t. Stop trying to escalate and trying so hard to get girls naked. Just keep pulling away from her until she propositions you. Frame the entire interaction as HER trying to get YOU in bed. Until she does.

Title	How can you tell when a girl is ready to go back to your place?
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Date	February 5, 2025 1:59 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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