What should child support cover?

Positive_Rub_6696 · 2025-02-12T06:15:15+00:00

CS is a set amount and what she spends it on is none of your business. Maybe 50/50 on medical expenses. That’s it

FlapSmear78 · 2025-02-08T07:26:37+00:00

I would only suggest keeping receipts. Ask for them and keep track of everything. If you are ever confronted in court, you will have more than your word to counter the claims.

Ladiesman94952 · 2025-02-07T23:43:38+00:00

Purchase things for the kids and then send her bills for half... she'll figure it out soon enough

mesi130 · 2025-02-07T23:34:56+00:00

Don’t fight the fight. Millions of guys have fought and lost. You pay she does whatever she wants with it. Ahh just stop right there it’s not fair, etc. Just tell yourself it’s for your kids. Yes she’ll have a new car, clothes, maybe even a watch for the new bf. Nothing you can do! Just bend over. It’s frustration I know I’ve been there. Say this over and over in your head. It’s for the kids. Then the extras will come. Try to have a good relationship with your ex. Offer to pay half of extras. You got years of this ahead. Clothes should be covered by cs. I’d simple tell her that.

Reflog1791 · 2025-02-07T23:19:33+00:00

Child support is fuckin retarded there’s no way around it. Eventually it’ll just be a fact of life like taxes that doesn’t consume you.

And if some idiot wants to say it’s for the children be my fuckin guest. They wouldn’t say that if they had to pay then turn around and buy their kids all the stuff they need.

Rant over here’s my advice: auto deduct and just budget for it like your mortgage or rent. Parallel parent so you never deal with ex. Get them on a sports team on the days you have them, pay all the fees and equipment. Give them the game schedule without comment.

When she asks for money for horse camp or some bs, show her your receipts and get some money or get a discount. I did this once and never got a bs extracurricular request again it’s great. I hate keeping receipts but you can just toss anything with more than $50 of “extracurricular” into a folder and you’re gucci.

So my ex said “hey your child wants to go to this such and such. Total cost is $1000. Per our agreement, please send me $600 by the end of next week.”

My response was beautiful: “That sounds awesome. I’m looking at my receipts for cheer, swim, and dance last year. It came out to $1500. Per our agreement, it looks like you owe me $600. Shall we call it a wash?”

fewdo · 2025-02-07T22:59:22+00:00

I wouldn't get into what it should cover. I'd look at what the law requires and pay based on that. Consider the fun of paying $10k to have a judge decide the amount

JD-Anderson · 2025-02-07T22:49:17+00:00

The 8 years I paid CS it was for all the tats my ex got.

stent00 · 2025-02-07T22:14:29+00:00

Just say no warm she gives you receipts and never pay them. She is being very petty... yes child support should pay for pajamas etc. End discussion and don't entertain giving her more money. If she dosent like it she can apply for an Increase through the courts.

ImportantRecipe3087 · 2025-02-07T22:07:14+00:00

I’ve seen this question a lot and in my mind I think what it covers really comes down to how much you pay. The more you pay the more it covers surely? I don’t understand there being a list of items it does and doesn’t cover no matter how much you pay.

Techsanlobo · 2025-02-07T21:52:39+00:00

Unless you agree to it, you should not pay for anything for the kids when they are not with you.

My ex asked me to buy a new controller for the game console I had already bought for my son. I said nah.

RespectInevitable479 · 2025-02-07T21:21:30+00:00

All of the custodial parents bills

leaving4me · 2025-02-07T20:51:38+00:00

Where I'm located CS is a calc based on income, # of kids, and parenting time/custody. CS is to cover the day to day costs associated with raising the child....that includes food and clothes. Extras would be school fees, registration for sports, and the like. Those should be spelled out in the final agreement and if they are not you missed an important thing especially as the get older and those costs increase quite a bit. While custody and child support can always be relitigated a just is not likely to hammer you over a halloween costume especially if yoiu can show you are in complete compliance of your orders. She doesn't get a second crack at spousal no matter how much she may want it although there my be cost of fender her off should she attempt that nonsense.

No_Pace2396 · 2025-02-07T20:36:01+00:00

Anything not called out separately in the agreement. There’s child support, then extra is medical, and agreed upon extra curricular. Ex keeps sending me bills for school lunches, so she can take me to court, make me look like a dick for not paying it, and maybe can get the judge to find something else to dump on me for. But child support is supposed to cover anything not separately specified in the decree.

DifferentCup1605 · 2025-02-07T20:25:21+00:00

Mommy's hair and nail appointments, pilates classes, car lease, etc. Whatever she needs so she can be happy while providing SUPPORT for the child!

Round-Detective4404 · 2025-02-07T20:17:54+00:00

I hope I live long enough to see child support payments put on a card and to be used for certain purchases only. Like an HSA.

0neMinute · 2025-02-07T19:53:54+00:00

Support covers everything, anything extra is discretionary( Halloween costumes etc). Specific things like sports and medical are usually agreed outside of support. How much custody do you have? I buy my own costumes and take them to events etc as needed.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-02-07T19:53:20+00:00

I'd say follow the support agreement and put up some boundaries. If you allow her to nickel and dime you to death she's going to keep on taking.

However if it's only $100 a month, I'd pay that all day long to keep the courts out of your life.

Title	What should child support cover?
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Date	February 7, 2025 7:50 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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